From a secular view, the dominant philosophy that has shaped humans since the beginning of time is Disrespect.
The Disrespect Philosophy is simple. Its premise is that no person or life is valuable until someone says it is … based on what that someone, or a collective of “someones” say what is to be valued … respected.
In other words, the Disrespect Philosophy is about control: control that is misunderstood in contrast to true power. Control simply is a lack of trust in and of the world for life to be fair, for resources to be available to all … which all of our fears are driven by … thereby creating a low RESPECT LEVEL that we have been conditioned to use to fill the void of not feeling valued … respected in the Disrespect Philosophy world humanity has been living in for thousands of years … because not enough of us have connected the dots to see what we keep recreating … which, by the way, the Disrespect Philosophy strives to do in order to keep itself and its enforcers in power.
The guard and enforcer of the Disrespect Philosophy is bullying: the means used to coerce others into accepting the Disrespect Philosophy without question. How? Simply by the conviction we are taught that no one is valuable unless someone(s) says they are and the qualifiers for being considered valuable are based on the whims of those who have put themselves in positions of power to control.
Without high enough RESPECT LEVELS in families, family members are subject to the negative conditioning and the power struggle ensues. Those who take power do so by bullying. Sometimes subtle, often ingenious, sometimes emotional, psychological or physical, bullying comes in all shapes and sizes and affects, because of our lack of awareness of the Disrespect Philosophy, everyone.
The Myers Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI) is a personality profiling system presented by Carl Jung and further developed by the Myers – Briggs team. The fundamental basis of the MBTI is there are two primary personality types: Extroverts (E) and Introverts (I). According to the MBTI, Extroverts’ brains require primarily external stimulus for their brains to work at their best, while Introverts brains, on the contrary, often need a fair amount of time to work and be alone because of the constant internal stimulation in their brains they have to contend with.
There are two significant challenges the contrasting types brings to our world. One, the world is dominated in sheer numbers by the Extroverts and two, as a result the Extroverts, in a Disrespect Philosophy driven world want the rest of the world to be like them … and as a result, the enforcers … the bullies become conditioned at a very young age.
Not that only E’s become bullies, I’s do also, but more from reaction than action.
The reason is the Introverts are more driven by their brains to reflect, plus research, study, and analyze differences and as a result tend to be more understanding and often accepting of other people’s differences. Extraverts, on the other hand, will often respond to Introverts’ quietness, reserve and withdrawal as a rejection of them and in our Disrespect Philosophy world take the I’s actions personally … and the battles begin by employing the different methods of bullying: prejudging, teasing, belittling, tormenting, harassing, rejecting, isolating, neglecting, violating, abusing, and killing … spirits as well bodies.
Many Introverts, especially those with the dominant function of “Feeling” will often withdraw inward further or may even remove themselves physically to avoid battles with Extroverts which they will seldom win fighting in the Extraverted bullying manner … but, instead will use time and strategies to fight such battles. Without high RESPECT LEVELS, it is a lose lose proposition for both.
Extroverted bullies need audiences; Introverted bullies eventually seek quiet revenge … yet since we are driven to be more Extroverted to be in our Disrespect Philosophy driven world, Extroverts and Introverts can act very contrary to their natural, inherent personality type.
What happens in our childhood years does not stay in our childhood years … including the bullying (conditional love) we have been shaped by … it follows us no matter where we go … school, community, work, and into all of our relationships. The only way we become free from the Disrespect Philosophy enforcer, bullying, is to recognize it for what it is … something that strives to make us feel less valuable than everyone else so we bully others to make ourselves feel more valuable than others and therefore keep the world spinning out of control by the chaos maker, the Disrespect Philosophy.
We are valuable … each and every one of us for the unique gifts, talents and strengths we have to contribute to help make the world, including our personal and private worlds, better places to live … to thrive.
December 16, 2013
Kaitlin A. Trepanier
All Rights Reserved by DARK HORSES PRODUCTIONS/KAITLIN A. TREPANIER, Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE Developer, Author, Speaker, Playwright, Altruistic Entrepreneur, and Human Rights Activist … because every child … every person … should know, by their own experience, they are valued … RESPECTED.