Christmas … Not Just for Family and Friends … But Strangers Too

So much pressure put onto people to be with family and friends and when they are not, the feelings of sadness and loneliness weigh so heavy on some people’s souls, they never make it through the night or the holidays.

Some people have no families or homes to go back to for a number of reasons. Parents have died, they have no living relatives, abusive homes were left long ago and wounds never healed, foster homes that were not really homes, not enough money for travel or gifts, illness, shame and a number of many more. Judgment of and disrespect for each other also fills many empty rooms and houses instead of people.

Joseph and Mary experienced much of the same … misunderstood, judged, and ostracized too they ran for their lives and the life of the son Mary was to bear on Christmas Eve.

Who were Joseph, Mary, and Jesus surrounded by on the night we celebrate as Christmas Eve and Christmas day? Strangers, of course … kind strangers.

Family and friends all together for the holidays is all such a lovely idea, but one that leaves out so many other people in the world … including those who do not know where the idea of Christmas and the spirit of Christmas … love … came from.

This Christmas take the pressure off family and friends and share some love with a stranger or two or three … especially with those who have so much less than you. Jesus would … and he would want you to do so … in his name … for that is the reason he came Christmas Eve over two thousand years ago.

Merry Christmas all! May the spirit of Christmas fill your year with loving thoughts, words, and actions!

And if the spirit of Christmas … love … is not what you believe in, then please consider at least valuing … respecting … each and every life … who is just as valuable as you … not more … but also not less … it’s a big step to making the world, including your own, a much better place for us all to live and thrive.

December 24, 2014

KAITLIN A. TREPANIER
The RESPECT SPECIALIST … Freeing “Potential” with Education, Entertainment, and Inspiration!

CONNECT … with RESPECT! ORDER the powerful little book Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE and PURCHASE the Performance Rights of CHARLES’ CHOICE … because every child … every person … should know, by their own experience, they are valued … RESPECTED. © All rights reserved 2014.

The Inspiration … Phrases, Quotes, Statistics

Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE … because every child … every person … should know by their own experience … they are valued … RESPECTED.

“Violence causes more than 1.6 million deaths worldwide every year and is one of the leading causes of death in all parts of the world for persons 15 – 44.” www://cdc.gov 12/18/14

RESPECT transforms the quality of life.

“More than 1 billion children (1/7 of the world’s population) and half of all the children in the world are victims of violence every year.” www.//cdc.gov 12/18/14

CONNECT … with RESPECT! because RESPECT simply means “to value”

“In every country surveyed, more than 1 in 4 girls experienced sexual violence.” www.//cdc.gov 12/18/14

RESPECT is not something a child … teen … adult … senior … should have to earn.

“More than 3 million referrals received by state and local agencies each year. 6 referrals every minute for maltreatment of children … physically … sexually … emotionally … plus because of neglect. Total lifetime cost of child maltreatments is $124 billion per year.” www.//cdc.gov 12/18/14

Want a better world? … be a more “respect-full” person.

“Depression is the leading cause of disability worldwide and a major contributor to global burden of disease. 350 million affected. Can lead to suicide … suicides estimated to be 1 million per year.”
www://who.intl 12/18/14

December 18, 2014

KAITLIN A. TREPANIER
The RESPECT SPECIALIST … Freeing “Potential” with Education, Entertainment, and Inspiration!

CONNECT … with RESPECT! ORDER Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE … because every child … every person … should know, by their own experience, they are valued … RESPECTED. © All rights reserved 2014.

5000 Views and Climbing … as is the Need to Raise the “RESPECT LEVELS” of all People

Hello!

The past week took its toll on my time to work on the re-construction of this site, including the presentation of many exciting new elements; however, there has been a break in the urgent immediacy regarding my Dad and his care needs … where higher Respect Levels are also needed … the lessons learned from my experience the past few years in this role for my Dad inspired me to write and post, Putting Your Life into the Hands of Others …

Though in a different way, children in school, also put their lives into others hands, trusting them to keep them safe … but today’s events in Pakistan where over 140 were killed in a very low Respect Level act compels me to get back on track regardless of what else is going on … because we need more valuing … respecting … of all life in our world to stop such very low Respect Level thoughts and actions.

… so, tomorrow, back to the blog and its reconstruction to further achieve that goal!

And thank you for dropping by with your over 5000 views!

December 16, 2014

Kaitlin Ann Trepanier

The RESPECT SPECIALIST … Advocate Author Playwright Director Speaker Publisher Entrepreneur

CONNECT … with RESPECT! ORDER Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE NOW … because every child … every person … should know, by their own experience, they are valued … RESPECTED. © All rights reserved 2014.

 

 

Putting Your Life in the Hands of Another …

None of us know what challenges life is going to present us with, but unfortunately people with low Respect Levels make choices equal to their Respect Level and the influences that shape their choices.

For example, with a high Respect Level the Power of Attorney choice such a person would make would be based not on a person’s worldly success, but on the Respect Level of the person … so that when the time comes to make difficult choices … when time is needed for your POA to be with you … or to say or do whatever you need from your POA as your voice, you trust they know you well, share your philosophy or at least support your philosophy and your wishes … and will be available to commit to the time needed to help you when you need them most.

Even then, POA choices can be made, but life is ever-changing … people move away, overwhelming challenges arise for them, etc. and what were once considered good choices turn into not-so-very-good-choices. The good news is while you are still able, you can change your POA … and you should not delay because once you are no longer capable of speaking for yourself, your Power of Attorney cannot be changed. It is finite.

The only other option, here in Ontario, Canada anyway, is someone who is there for you in ways the POA is not can appeal to the courts to secure “Guardianship of the Person” but of course the process is timely and costly … so you are better off to pick people, who may not even be family, to be your voice when yours is no longer heard or listened to anymore. Make sure there is flexibility, ability to delegate, and even the funds set aside to appoint a Guardianship of the Person in case something goes wrong or does not work out with the appointed Powers of Attorneys. I would also caution that the finances from property and for care not be transferable to the POAs upon the death of whom they represent, but if they are willed to the POAs, that the money to be held in trust for a period of years to ensure the extreme … protection from physical harm … and neglect so that the primary directive of Power of Attorneys are care … not the acquisition of someone’s assets, but the devoted care of the person. Of course, that is the worst case scenario, but it is also the more common scenario since our global Respect Level is so low.

The resulting dilemma is also the challenge of what it can cost someone to be someone’s POA or Guardianship of the Person if there are time-consuming challenges and a long life after someone becomes dependent.

The past few years managing my Dad’s day-to-day needs and serving as the primary contact and liaison has revealed to me just how vulnerable we are when we sign our lives over to other people. And that even though there may be no intent to harm, there just may not be enough time in a POA’s life to provide the care and respect we all want … and deserve as individual people … especially during the most difficult time of our lives. Unprepared as I was financially to serve in this role, which I gladly and gratefully have done because it has brought me back to a relationship with my dad, also set me back significantly financially, including my inability to commit to a traditional regular steady job; however, the challenge has forced to look to the Internet for non-traditional income generation as well as additional research into yet another way we need to Connect the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE to make the world a better place for us all to live … respectfully and lovingly … all the days of our lives.

Till then, I urge caution please … investigate your local laws … and raise your own Respect Level by writing not only your Will, but also investigating and carefully considering the people you ask to be there for you legally … because your life, and its quality, will depend on the Respect Level of your choices. Otherwise, until we raise our world’s Respect Levels, unnecessary, neglectful, and often even cruel things do happen to those who have placed their lives into the hands of those who may initially had good intentions when they agreed, but whose reality conflicts with needs of their new, vulnerable dependent.

December 16, 2014

Kaitlin Ann Trepanier
The RESPECT SPECIALIST … Advocate Author Playwright Director Speaker Publisher Entrepreneur

CONNECT … with RESPECT! ORDER
Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE NOW … because every child … every person … should know, by their own experience, they are valued … RESPECTED. © All rights reserved 2014.

Parental Care Setback = Site Re-Construction Delay

Hello.

My apologies for the lack of postings and the blog site re-construction, but an emergency and its resulting events regarding my father’s care has taken my focus away from this work, but this week I will be getting back to the site, fuelled even more by the highly disrespectful and maybe even unlawful way my Dad was treated this week. In fact, the research I need to do surrounding what happened to him this week may demonstrate in yet another way just how low our cultural “Respect Level” is for our seniors.

Thank you.

December 13, 2014

Kaitlin Ann Trepanier
The RESPECT SPECIALIST … Advocate Author Playwright Director Speaker Publisher Entrepreneur

CONNECT … with RESPECT! ORDER Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE NOW … because every child … every person … should know, by their own experience, they are valued … RESPECTED. © All rights reserved 2014.

What’s Hot this Christmas? … and Every Day of the Year?

Getting ready to reveal soon!

Till then … wishing the best for all, Christmas believers … and non-believers.

December 5, 2014

Kaitlin Ann Trepanier
The RESPECT SPECIALIST … AUTHOR … PLAYWRIGHT … KEYNOTE SPEAKER … CONSULTANT

Connect … with RESPECT by ordering your copy of Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE NOW … because every child … every person … should know, by their own experience, they are valued … RESPECTED. © All rights reserved 2014.

A Simple Transformational Belief … and a Dare

I have always wanted to help people, but on reflection, I often did not know the best way to help someone … or even myself.

But that is changing as I am changing … indeed, has changed as I have learnt to help myself … along with helping others in the ways they truly need that are quite often not the obvious ways that were fuelled by my judgment and a need to control … help … others in the way I thought they needed … because of my own big ego that was trying to make up for a deeply rooted low self-worth … a very low Respect Level.

Raised Catholic, my youth was filled with conflict fuelled by the talk of love but also by the actions of cruel discipline, including harsh words, intense judgment, low tolerance, much ignorance, and a lot of physical pain … which resulted, as it did for many other Catholics, in my abandoning not only Catholicism but also God … leaving all in the dust created by my fast exit to be free of the pain.

The scientist inside of me rose up to fill the void left by my no longer believing in more than just our natural world. Logic and practicality attempted to dominate, but suppressed emotions often got in the way of even the scientific way of thinking.

Plus, there were the gaps and craters created by the discord between emotions and hard facts … that I discovered many of us are experiencing in a world that is picking up speed as if it were on a downhill track with no safety features in place to break our impending falls

This increasing awareness, combined with the deep desire … the compassion … to help people, plus the logical and practical knowledge gained from scientific study and analysis resulted, not in the return to faith and God or Catholicism, but to the development of one idea … one concept … that has the power to overcome any boundaries erected by any belief system precisely because it is not based on a belief system … but on one principle … one foundation we can add all of our beliefs upon.

A foundation strong enough to support our diversity as we build a stronger world … based on valuing … respecting each other … only stepping in against others who act disrespectful and harm other life.

The global initiative, based on the foundational book, Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE, is designed to build that foundation we need.

Yet interestingly, as my Respect Level has grown, not only have I been given the concept of Respect as a foundation, a return to a spiritual life has revealed that under the foundation of Respect is an even stronger foundation … Love … which I was not aware of when I created the image I created in 2007 and posted a few days ago.

As a social scientist and philosopher, I now easily see the logical and practical benefits of valuing … respecting every life, while at the same time, as a renewed believer in Christ, one with a new understanding of what it means to be not only spiritual, but also a Christian, I now easily see not only the logic and practicality of helping the oppressed, the needy, the broken by being respectful … I now know how easy it is to actually put love into action … simply start by seeing ourselves … and everyone else as valuable … worthy of respect … because I have learned when we build on that foundation, we add to the strength of the underlying foundation we all want to believe supports us … Love.

I invite you to participate in an experiment … start treating everyone you come in contact with as valuable … worthy of your respect … not admiration … just respect … and watch what comes back to you … how the results impact your own quality of life. I dare you.

December 3, 2014

Kaitlin Ann Trepanier
The RESPECT SPECIALIST … AUTHOR … PLAYWRIGHT … KEYNOTE SPEAKER … CONSULTANT

REMEMBER to Connect … with RESPECT by ordering your copy of Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE NOW … because every child … every person … should know, by their own experience, they are valued … RESPECTED. © All rights reserved 2014.