WHAT EVERY “ONE” WANTS … IS TO BE SEEN … ESPECIALLY

People want to be seen, but people with Alzheimer’s, dementia or any disease, want to be seen too … but not for their disease … for the person they are beneath the symptoms of their affliction.

Because of my direct involvement as my Dad’s primary representative, contact, liaison, and advocate, I am discovering the labels “Combative and aggressive” are attached especially attached to people with Alzheimer’s and dementia … but isn’t this wrong thinking … especially in the minds who are supposed to be the healthcare professionals? Isn’t it the diseases themselves that rob people not only of their ability to remember, but also of being able to manage their emotional responses to what they perceive as a threat … or even their frustration and anger in their cognitively-clear moments?

An early morning call yesterday revealed the consequences Dad has had to pay for the medication used to “incapacitate” him … that is preventing him from the simple act of getting out of bed on his own … the call informing us he had broken his hip or leg … which led to an all day ordeal that finally resulted in surgery last night and the words “combative” being applied to his state this morning.

Shocked, stunned, and astounded are words that continue to reverberate throughout my being as I journey this tortuous path with my Dad … but then, when I pull back with time to reflect, the state of being shocked, stunned, and astounded are replaced with the knowledge I already know … in a world and healthcare system still driven by dollars first rather than respect for life, I should not be surprised by any of what I see and hear plus observe what Dad is experiencing.

His warrior spirit fights with all its might and though I do not know how long his war with his humanity will last, I pray for the means to continue to serve as his support and for the “Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE” work that will not just create an income source for me, but will help positively change the views we have about each other … so we can be more compassionate … and innovative in finding the best ways to help each other as we each face our own unique challenges in this life … respectfully.

February 27, 2015

KAITLIN A. TREPANIER
The RESPECT SPECIALIST & PEACEMAKER … Freeing “Potential” with Education, Entertainment, and Inspiration!

Click on the link below starting Tuesday, January 27, 2015 to DISCOVER … and SUPPORT … the INDIEGOGO crowd funding campaign for the global initiative, Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLEbecause every child … every person … should know, by their own experience, they are valued … RESPECTED.

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WHAT CHILDREN LEARN …

We cannot control, especially in a rapidly developing technological world, what children or anyone of any age, will learn … this can be a good thing, especially because the knowledge people need to realize more of their potential is increasingly at their fingertips … and no longer exclusively available to the few who could afford higher-level education.

To take advantage of the wealth of knowledge available to develop our potential to our and our children’s upmost capabilities, we must accept that no matter what a school’s curriculum is, what matters most is, as it is for all of us, what we do with what we read, hear, see … and experience.

Children are learning at all times. Their brains are like sponges, soaking up everything they see, hear, feel, and experience. They absorb how you talk to them, touch them, and treat them. They absorb how you interact with others … how you talk to … and about other people. They soak up every little nuance … they develop their personal beliefs based on their observations and experiences … personal beliefs that will direct how they process the information they receive from the outside world … in school, in their community, on television, and on the world wide web.

The most important knowledge children need from parents is the knowledge how to process and manage all the data and information they are bombarded with from all sources … but more importantly, the most important guide and tool children … we all need … is to know … deep in our hearts and souls … that we are valuable … worthy of respect … as is everyone else … and with the personal belief … wisdom … children … all of us … are empowered to sift through all the data, information, and knowledge so we can transform it with our personal beliefs into the gold that will enable every individual to continuously strive to learn … and as a result, to continuously, throughout one’s whole life, to develop into the person one is capable of being because of one’s natural gifts, talents, abilities … one’s personal belief that they are valuable … worthy of respect … for being the unique individual they are.

Which ultimately means parents, as well as their children, need to keep learning … to keep growing … to continuously take in new knowledge … to change … adapt … and grow … teaching their children the most valuable lesson of all … life is a journey … there will be many challenges and hurdles … many joys and victories … yet, no matter what … who they are is not based on what has the power to shape them … but what they choose to shape them.

Though a school curriculum is important, in reality, it is an increasingly smaller piece of the world that can shape a life … because there are also the teachers … how the information is presented … the school’s environment … etc. etc. etc. We cannot control all a child or anyone is going to exposed to … and nor should we … because we would stagnate as individuals … and as a global community … but what we can control is the most important.

We all need to, especially parents, focus on building a high “Respect-Level” in ourselves so children will develop the same or an even higher “Respect Level” … because then, as a result, no matter what they encounter in the outside world, we can be confident they are prepared with the best education they need to be successful in managing what the world throws at them … in a formal classroom or the classroom of life.

February 25, 2015

KAITLIN A. TREPANIER
The RESPECT SPECIALIST & PEACEMAKER … Freeing “Potential” with Education, Entertainment, and Inspiration!

Click on the link below starting Tuesday, January 27, 2015 to DISCOVER … and SUPPORT … the INDIEGOGO crowd funding campaign for the global initiative, Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE … because every child … every person … should know, by their own experience, they are valued … RESPECTED.

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Sunday Devotional: The beginning of Lent

Fellowship of the Minds

Mark 1:9-13

And it came to pass in those days that
Jesus came from Nazareth of Galilee,
and was baptized by John in the Jordan.
And straightway coming up out of the water,
He saw the heavens opened,
and the Spirit like a dove
descending upon Him.
And there came a voice from Heaven,
saying, “Thou Art My Beloved Son,
In Whom I Am Well Pleased.”
And immediately the Spirit
drove Him into the wilderness.
And He was there in the wilderness forty days,
tempted by Satan,
and was with the wild beasts;
and the angels ministered unto Him.

The Devil actually tempted the Second Person of the Triune Godhead!

Imagine the grandiose narcissism, the utter gall that would prompt a creature — a created being — to tempt the Creator Himself.

That is why it is my belief that Narcissism is the First Sin — of the fallen…

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TWO DAYS … and ONE MORE REASON

Two days of crisis and care management for Dad, moving him back to Southampton Care Centre, washing all his belongings, some at a laundromat en route to SCC and some later that night at home because of the Outbreak both places had just come out of Monday and Tuesday. Took his wife up yesterday when I returned with more of his belongings, plus new ones we had to buy because of the amount of belongings, clothes and linens, that keep disappearing in these community places … especially the hospital.

Put a call into CCAC for “crisis” transfer to Trillium Court in Kincardine because SCC see Dad … the man who was in great physical pain it was finally discovered and acknowledged while he was in Owen Sound Hospital … the way he was before they sent him there … someone who had become aggressive … but if they had listened … if he had had specialists look at him before this … during the past three years … if they had acknowledged his physical pain from his life as an athlete, his over 75 falls in the past few years, two abcessed teeth and two more on their way due to poor dental hygiene the past three years … and got him on the right pain med which he is now on … if they had listened regarding the dentist I took him to the day before they shipped him off to Owen Sound, they would have known so much more was physical pain not being dealt with … his living environment and conditions and more.

I forgive them, but that doesn’t mean I won’t take the healthcare system to task for the much needed changes … because people with Alzheimer’s or dementia are “not criminals” and should not be treated as such. It is time to treat people with such diseases, physical or mental, the same way we treat people with cancer, heart conditions, etc.

Instead, this round of healthcare professionals are doing what others have done over the past three years … just medicating to the point of incapacitation till death do the person departs … and quality of life be damned … at least for those with these illnesses. They have repeatedly done this to him … because they are not working … communicating … I know, because over and over and over I have to keep telling the same story, but now it is time to tell it to someone who will truly listen and will help with the needed changes … for Dad and everyone else struggling in their last years with the ignorance and fear of their caretakers.

So here is yet one more reason to raise people’s “Respect Levels” by helping them “Connect the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE” because it should not matter what age someone is before they are treated respectfully … with value for just being a life.

February 19, 2015

KAITLIN A. TREPANIER
The RESPECT SPECIALIST & PEACEMAKER … Freeing “Potential” with Education, Entertainment, and Inspiration!

Click on the link below starting Tuesday, January 27, 2015 to DISCOVER … and SUPPORT … the INDIEGOGO crowd funding campaign for the global initiative, Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLEbecause every child … every person … should know, by their own experience, they are valued … RESPECTED.

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The BOTTOM LINE … MAXIMIZE YOUR PROFITS with the ONE COST-EFFECTIVE, EFFICIENT “BEST PRACTICE”

Changing an organization’s culture can be costly, lengthy, and extremely challenging, especially for those that have been operating for several years.

Missions, Visions, and Values were designed to establish the present culture and to create targets to aim for in the future. Personality testing, team-building workshops, and reward programs required heavy financial and time investments, but times have changed for many organizations and small businesses. They are leaner and cannot justify the investment needed to transform a culture that is not yielding the desired results. Many employees work on contract with no benefits because they work below full-time hours, and as a result, no loyalty is developed, because employees no longer feel they are being invested in either. Or they work so many hours, fifty, sixty, and more that employers feel justified because of the wages and benefits they are paid. As a result, many employees too are devalued to the point they also are frustrated and resentful, growing increasingly unhealthy and not just physically.

Yet, the pressure is on to maximize profits for the least cost, but how can that change happen without big dollar investment to help change an organizations culture and practices?

The answer is by focusing on one thing … one thing that is cost-effective, very efficient, and yet also very compassionate … by introducing an organization’s culture to one idea that surpasses the boundaries that divide people and instead unite them only by beyond Mission, Vision, and Values that often do not take into consideration what they are experiencing in the organization.

“Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE” is such an idea available in different formats. The core book is designed specifically for the global literacy level, yet is filled with high-level knowledge applicable to everyone, as well as, inspiring statistics and a thought-provoking, user-friendly monologue. The content invites analysis, discussion, and reflection, serving not just as catalyst for organizational change, but also for individual change on a level that surpasses everyone’s personal beliefs of politics, religion, status, race, sex … all prejudices, without the heavy costs of psychological and sociological programs, plus consultant teams.

Raising “RESPECT LEVELS” is the result of a cultural shift. Individually and collectively, as “RESPECT LEVELS” rise, so do an employee’s mentality about his or her employer and employers about their employees. The use of business time for personal business decreases, as do shrinkage, theft of supplies, cash, knowledge, the use of sick time for holidays, and the other ways employees take advantage of or get back on the employers they feel are not treating them fairly. The misuse of employee’s time by forcing them to work beyond the standard forty-hour work week, paying wages below the poverty line, especially those that do not also include benefits, not investing in employees or any such employment practice that does not demonstrate the organization values an individual … are just some of the many reasons to embrace the cultural shift that will first establish a solid foundation for all … and will serve as the foundation needed to create a healthy environment that fosters an environment capable of meeting goals more quickly, yet with lower costs, more sustainability, and a much greater level of adaptability required to adjust to our rapidly changing times.

To shift your organizational culture that will reduce costs, increase morale, productivity, and problem-solving creativity, plus manifest healthier employees and work environments, there are several options to choose from …

1. Buy the small, soft-cover core book, “Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE” for everyone in your organization
2. Consider buying the complementary workbooks to reinforce the message in an active rather than a passive manner
3. Present the, “Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE” concept yourself in a general meeting
4. Bring the concept developer and author to your organization to present “Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE” concept to your team personally
5. Host the community event for employees and their families that also includes the play, CHARLES’ CHOICE, designed to further evoke discussions, reflections, and positive change by introducing the content verbally and visually in the play ,as well as, in the written word in the book
6. Hire the concept developer and author to review your policies and procedures, plus observe your staff in the working environment, before she then provides you with an in-depth analysis and the insightful recommendations on how to best make the required changes to increase individual and organizational “RESPECT LEVELS” that will result in a more profitable, creative, and adaptive work environment … that retains and attracts people … not just because of the wages, but most importantly because of the organization’s culture where people “want” to be because they feel part of something big and rewarding on all levels
7. Lead by example, not just in your organization, but in your industry and your community. You will reap unexpected benefits, along with the expected, including significantly less stress as a leader

February 16, 2015

KAITLIN A. TREPANIER
The RESPECT SPECIALIST & PEACEMAKER … Freeing “Potential” with Education, Entertainment, and Inspiration!

Click on the link below starting Tuesday, January 27, 2015 to DISCOVER … and SUPPORT … the INDIEGOGO crowd funding campaign for the global initiative, Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLEbecause every child … every person … should know, by their own experience, they are valued … RESPECTED.

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A VALENTINE GIFT for YOU …

Like respect, love can have many levels … from love that is not love at all, but is all about control, manipulation, and ownership to the other extreme of rarity … unconditional love.

Someone may care for someone, but not know what “to love” or “to respect” feels and looks like … depending on their experience of love … respect … that is until they discover whether through experience, time, therapy, and/or study what love … respect can be … not just between two people, but in also in families and communities.

I did not know for most of my life what love could really be. Experiences taught me love was conditional … as was being respected … valued … and that receiving love and respect was conditional upon choices, behavior, looks, and a list of other qualifiers other people decided were the qualifiers.

I did my best to love but, in retrospect, I loved and respected with the level of love and respect I observed and experienced until I knew better … from studying love stories, relationship guidance, and from examining my conditioned thoughts and feelings about love and respect.

A new understanding and“Respect Level” developed first in me, because like many of us who like to “reason” the concept was logical, practical, and even compassionate … something my mind could grasp while my heart and mind struggled to separate my previous experience of “love” in order to change my perspective on love, including how to be a better partner in a marriage … to truly love unconditionally till death does one part … such as in my favourite modern love story, The Notebook.

Once in my life I ran smack into love, yet it was so different from what I had experienced before that I didn’t really know it for what it truly was and it scared … no, terrified me. As a result, I screwed it up out of fear, ignorance, and a low “Respect Level” for myself, him, and everyone else involved.

Listening to and observing many people, it is evident many struggle the way I once did trying to love without examining their “models of love” they carry in their hearts and minds … which is why, I gather, I felt compelled to sit down and write this for those who are feeling there is not enough respect or love in their lives … especially on this eve and the day of the “most romantic” day of the year.

Unconditional love is the grandest gift … to give and receive … however, I suggest ramping up the odds by ramping up your “Respect Level” for yourself and therefore for others … and you will open the door to the kind of love you desire … and you will know it is unconditional love because for the first time you will be accepted completely for who you are … and you will accept someone else in the same way. Worked for me because one day I know I will experience the “Love Level” I have been preparing to give … and receive.

Will I ever experience that love I briefly glimpsed with the same person? My romantic heart hopes so, but I don’t know … it takes two … however I do know this … when unconditional love arrives this time I am prepared.

This is best Valentine’s gift I have to give … I hope it is yours too.

Love and best wishes for an unconditional love-filled day, year, and life!
Kaitlin

February 14, 2015

KAITLIN A. TREPANIER
The RESPECT SPECIALIST & PEACEMAKER … Freeing “Potential” with Education, Entertainment, and Inspiration!

Click on the link below starting Tuesday, January 27, 2015 to DISCOVER … and SUPPORT … the INDIEGOGO crowd funding campaign for the global initiative, Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLEbecause every child … every person … should know, by their own experience, they are valued … RESPECTED.

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WE ARE HARMED by OUR PAST WHEN …

We are harmed by our past when we are not aware of its impact on our present and future … personally and collectively.

The scientific field of psychology continues to prove this theory, especially through the practice of psychotherapy and psychological profiling. History reveals that without change, what happened before will happen again. The Bible also affirms the same premise of repetition though the past influence is referred to as a generational influence.

Parents are not perfect. They are people who bring their own baggage to raising a child … unless they first examine their childhood and youth to discover the patterns established when they were being raised.

However, the purpose is not to lay blame on parents, but to recognize what was helpful, but also what was harmful … and needs to be recognized and healed in order for the same baggage …. negative and limiting patterning not to be passed on to the next generation. This process, used in psychotherapy empowers us to “connect the dots” especially the dots related to thoughts, feelings, and behaviors that are limiting, hurtful, and even destructive to ourselves and others in all of our relationships … family, friends, workmates, acquaintances, and also greatly impacts how we relate, or not, to leadership in schools, community, and even politically.

The same applies to a culture. Repeating the past just for the sake of repeating the past reveals the conditioned limited thinking that only the past is worth repeating … even if it is harmful … because it is familiar.

But we are not our parents and our children are not us. We are not the global nation we were and we do not have to continue to be what we were or are now.

Unfortunately most people do not have the luxury of time and finances to undergo individual psychotherapy to help them discover what their underlying issues are connected to their parents’ influence and the consequences the unconscious or subconscious conditioning is creating in their lives.

However, fortunately there is another more logical, practical, and compassionate way to not only help people discover and heal from their negative conditioning and unfulfilled needs. The way is to establish the universal truth that every life is valuable … worthy of respect … so we can start putting into place guides and tools to help people realize with the way our world has functioned it is inevitable they have issues from their past … that they will need to discover, work with, and transform so they do not inflict their child(ren) with their pain.

We are doomed to keep going round and round in circles without evolving if we refuse to acknowledge our humanness, frailties, imperfections, and the fact we don’t know it all … and don’t have to. First, we need to know who we really are ourselves before we can successfully guide and help others.

Even after I worked with a psychologist for a year and a half, the process of unraveling who I really was has taken most of my life since we live in a culture with specific, narrow expectations that I didn’t fit into in the first place and as a result caused a series of very unfortunate events that kept me from the wholeness finally … and recently achieved.

Life is complicated enough … especially with what can seem like a continuous learning curve … but that is what life is and the idea that has hurt most of us is that we climb to get to a certain point and then want to just coast for the rest of our lives … but coasting will leave us feeling unresolved at the end of life because we did not fully live … we did not realize our potential because we can deluded by the fallacy that life is just about getting by … even if that means doing the same thing over and over again … even when we know it isn’t fulfilling … leaving us frustrated and angry to the point that what drives us more is primarily our concern for ourselves.

Scientists say we use 10% of our brains, so in other words we have the capacity to not continuously repeat history … our personal or collective. We have the ability to stop harming ourselves with our past by creating a different present and future. Having the desire to do so is the first step. Respecting our life and the lives we are responsible is one driving force … the other is love. What it comes done to is our courage to face our past … personal and collective … with compassion and not blame so we can create a better present and future.

What legacy do you … do we want history to reveal about us?

February 1, 2015

KAITLIN A. TREPANIER
The RESPECT SPECIALIST & PEACEMAKER … Freeing “Potential” with Education, Entertainment, and Inspiration!

Click on the link below starting Tuesday, January 27, 2015 to DISCOVER … and SUPPORT … the INDIEGOGO crowd funding campaign for the global initiative, Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE … because every child … every person … should know, by their own experience, they are valued … RESPECTED.

http://igg.me/p/connecting-the-dots-with-the-respect-principle/x/9700923

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