Oh my! The time is upon me for the revisions and final edit of the manuscript and book cover before it is prepared for the first print production run of the core book, Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE. I am so grateful for my production planning work experience in Levi Strauss’s Operations Planning department, plus my Design, Visual, and Communication Art studies that developed my skills for this part of my company’s work.

The U.S. based printer selected is located in Michigan. The sourcing choice will make for a timely turn-around for this initial small first digital production run to fill the prepaid Limited Edition (personally signed and numbered) orders and to provide the copies that will be delivered into the hands of those who can introduce the small, yet powerful and user-friendly book into the hands and minds of our youth to help them negotiate and positively change their world for the better as they grow, mature, and create the next generation.

And, of course, a small quantity of Limited Edition copies are still available to buy as prepaid ($15.00 includes taxes and North American mailing/shipping) in preparation for the large production run this summer to meet the September 11th and new school year curriculum needs.

In other words … thanks for your orders and for dropping by, but I need to be working offline the next few days.

Till next time … Connect … with Respect! Be bold and follow your own dreams!

April 27, 2015


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Facts, truth, and transparency are important to me on many levels … personally, as a future partner and employer, whose company is based on respect … valuing all life, plus spiritually, for as I am studying The Bible, because no other spiritual belief, till now, has delivered the peace and unconditional love I hungered for all my life, I am discovering everyday guidance, such as Matthew’s 25:40 “Whatever you did for one of the least (who has the least, not least in being valued by God because He values all the same) of these brothers and sisters of mine, you did for me.”

April 24, 2015


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EI COMPASSIONATE CARE … From 6 Weeks to 6 Months … What a Difference It Would Have Made 2 Years Ago!

Critics are saying Canada’s new federal budget is basically a propaganda budget that makes lots of promises that will be fulfilled … if the conservatives are re-elected in September of 2015.

However, there is one particular item that I am extremely grateful they have recognized needed to changed … Employment Insurance Compassionate Care.

Two winters ago I had to quit a part-time job I had been doing for a year and a half to be physically close to Dad when he was still venturing out on his own. At the time, I was also working on securing book publication. Two publishers, one American and one Canadian, were interested just on the book proposal for Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE. One other American publisher was also interested in my novel, DARK HORSES.

Dad’s transition from living at home to a retirement home and then into a nursing home was not a smooth one because we quickly discovered how few minutes personal support workers were allowed to give to each resident … regardless of their needs. The net result was the residences’ demands someone be available to help with Dad … to engage him throughout the day and into the evening … and to also be on 24-hour alert for such calls and for the number emergency room visits.

Without going into the whole scenario here … though I am writing a paper or book on the past three and a half years … it became clear that focusing on the publication offers would provide me with the flexibility I needed to be on hand for Dad.

However, after discovering the publishing interest meant I would only see about 10% of the book’s price and that the publishers expected me to do most of the marketing and sales promotion that would reduce my profit below the 10% because of the additional costs, plus their limited vision to see how the additional books, products, and services that I already envisioned and in some cases, had created, could enhance the core book’s sales to also serve the my bigger altruistic and entrepreneurial vision, plus the timeline meant months later what money I did have was long gone and credit had to be maxed out just to survive.

But living on credit did not last long, because the high cost of living in a “hydro” town, working part-time, and paying for things such as gas to drive Dad around in his car had already ramped up debt above the five hundred dollar debt I had moved back to town with the year and half prior … all of which did a number on a previously good credit rating the next few years … which I am in the process of rectifying.

Rent became an issue and I was forced to move into my brother’s basement by mid April. I then heard about Compassionate Care and worked with what then was a once-a-week government office to apply for the six week Employment Insurance Compassionate Care benefit … though at the time, the government person did not suggest I apply for what turned out was the regular Employment Insurance I was entitled to … but I am jumping ahead of myself.

With no money to pay rent or buy food, I reluctantly applied for what I thought was a summer job at a local market while I waited for the EICC benefit. They both arrived in the same month, June of 2013. This job, however, paid almost 3 dollars less an hour, just .25 over minimum wage and required the purchase of special shoes and clothing.

What I was not expecting was a strong physical allergic reaction to chemicals I had to use for cleaning … even stronger than the cleaners I had to use occasionally at the previous job. What I was hoping was that my shifts would in the mornings when I was least called by Dad’s residence, but unfortunately, on the weekends I was often slated to work afternoons and evenings … alone … which meant when the calls started coming in that Dad had been taken to the Wingham hospital for stitches in his head, I had to leave a department devoid of any staff … which as a very conscientious employee troubled me as did what my Dad was going through.

By late August, with a ring of rash around my ankles and lower legs that did not abate, plus the increasing number of falls my Dad was having, I gave my notice to the company, unaware that when I was hired they were expecting me to stay beyond the summer.

By November with money an issue again, I went back to the government office and discovered I had been since the previous spring entitled over half a year’s Employment Insurance benefits … so I applied. I had been told the government could pay retroactively, but the government denied my request and also the appeal. They would only pay from the time I filed till the end of the period which was a couple of months’ benefits versus over half a year’s benefits.

Another January and February arrived as did the quandary. Applying for most local jobs meant not being available when needed for Dad or having to repeatedly leave employers in the lurch when I had to leave for Dad. The search for other options meant looking at the idea of leaving the area, but that idea did not seem right at all. And the search for jobs I could do remotely on the Internet did not pan out either, so I was back in the position of no income again.

Stuck between a rock and a hard place, leaning too much on my brother for food and shelter, resulted in my dragging my feet and hung head to the social assistance office. The good news was I could start paying my brother some rent and I could buy some real food, but by this time I had been running so low on everything, things were very lean.

The great discovery though was the government-sponsored business start-up program and funding available for those who met the criteria. I attended the information workshops with my goal of launching my company that would not only provide the creative works, but would also manage the publishing and distribution of the books, products, and services … s0 things were looking up … though I was not sure how I would be able to commit to all the workshops I had to attend in Owen Sound … yet still be available … again for Dad.

If, like the Compassionate Care benefits, I had known about this two years before, when I had Dad’s car to drive and did not have the debt I later incurred, I would have been accepted into the program … but I was declined again, a third time by the government, for another option that would have lifted me out of poverty. I was declined because I had the debt and no equity … which was precipitated by not knowing about the Employment Insurance Compassionate Care benefits sooner, by not knowing and the government not telling I was also entitled to over half a year of Employment Insurance and by not knowing till two years later about the Ontario Self Employment Benefits program.

Dad finally gave up the fight March 20, 2015. Two years of living in a dark basement, eating a lot of unhealthy food bank food and sinking further into allergic problems created by the whole scenario has exacted a hefty price, but one I know I will recover from easily in the next few years once I leave the area that has grown inhospitable because of misunderstanding and prejudice regarding my decisions and choices … misunderstanding and prejudice based on not knowing the details and the big picture of my life, which is one of the reasons I am writing this entry today.

Dad and I had been estranged for years after his second “marriage” and I quickly discovered upon my return he did not have much himself. I also knew I was not in his Will and what little there was would go to his second wife, my brother, and my mom … and I was fine with that because I did not move back and spend the past three and a half years with him for the money … I did it to honour my Dad and to heal our relationship before he left this plane … which I did.

Yet, a blessing is arriving in May. I have been offered some money from another source that will allow me to make the move across country I have longed to do for eighteen years plus serve as start-up funding for my company, which is still currently registered as a sole proprietorship under my own name.

Why I have written all this … to share the “facts” of my story for all the speculators and to inform you of what no one told me about … the Employment Insurance Compassionate Care benefits our government has realized is greatly needed … to prevent the financial injury caused by Dad’s health care needs not met by the seniors’ care facilities and funding … plus the denial three times of benefits that would have prevented the deep slide into debt.

Do not wait for someone to tell you or to find out by word-of-mouth … research and learn now what you may need to know in the future for your loved ones and your own quality of life … because you never know what life is going to challenge you with and though we cannot be prepared for everything, we can demonstrate the initiative to let others know we are just as valuable … entitled to the respect some try to reserve for the few.

Best wishes to your loved ones and you.

As for me, I have a life to rebuild, a cross-country journey to make, and a company to grow.

April 23, 2015


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What we need the most to sustain, not only the earth, but those it supports, us, is a high enough “Respect Level” so we quit destroying what supports our life and the generations hoping to also continue living, not just on earth, but on a viable, healthy earth.

Every action and inaction reveals our “Respect Level” and invites us to do better … to develop the best practices we can … individually and collectively.

April 22, 2015


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“Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE” … SCIENTIFIC “and” SPIRITUAL

Created first by logic and practicality, and enriched by an altruistic ideology, Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE, I am also increasingly discovering with my Biblical studies how often respect is mentioned in The BIBLE … and how much respect is often described as a precursor to love, which interestingly enough is also noted with my collection of poems, “Respect … The Way Back into Love.”

Check out the following I copied and shared from my daily email from Joel Osteen because of his words about the Biblical need for “respect” and the benefits we reap … as husbands, wives, and in general.

“Unhindered Prayers”


“…Treat her as you should so your prayers will not be hindered.”
(1 Peter 3:7, NLT)

TODAY’S WORD from Joel and Victoria

Did you know that the way you treat people has an impact on the effectiveness of your prayers? The Bible says that the prayer of the righteous person is powerful. But if we aren’t treating others with honor, kindness and respect, then we aren’t allowing His righteousness to operate in us. When we don’t treat others the way we should, it closes the door to God’s power and hinders our prayers.

This is especially true in a marriage relationship. Marriage isn’t just an agreement between two people to live life together. Marriage is a God-ordained institution that helps us understand love and unity. When two people are married, they become one physically, spiritually and emotionally. This particular passage is directed toward husbands, but it applies to all believers as well. We should all treat others “with understanding,” which means considering the needs of others above our own. We should always aim to treat others with kindness, dignity, and respect and quickly choose forgiveness. The Bible says that the way we treat others is the way we treat God. So choose love and treat others with respect so that your prayers will not be hindered!


Father, teach me to live in Your ways. Help me to always treat others with love and respect, which shows that I honor You. Show me how to be a blessing to others so that my prayers will be effective in Jesus’ name. Amen.

— Joel & Victoria Osteen
April 2015

April 22, 2015


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ASS/U/ME … Why the Word and Action Got Such a Bad Name

Over 7 billion people live on the earth … and each one is a unique blend of gifts, talents, and abilities that are shaped by their experiences and that turn into the beliefs … conscious ones or subconscious ones.

Assumptions are our thoughts about something or someone … they are something taken for granted … something assumed, but not proven. (Oxford Paperback Dictionary).

Even with the definition alone, is to easy to comprehend how assumptions can get us and our relationships into a lot of trouble through misunderstanding and our perspectives.

Now, multiply that scenario by 7 billion people and it becomes even easier to see why the action of “assuming” often results in making an “ass” out of “u” and “me.”

Narrowing down the 7 million to 16 personality types, such as the Myers Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI) that is based on Carl Jung’s work, plus their experiences and beliefs is still a major challenge to contend with in trying to have respectful, peaceful, and supportive relationships.

To further narrow down perspective, Paul and Barbara-Barron Tieger’s research revealed that the majority of the US population is dominated by the “E”xtrovert personality type that thrives on a high level of interaction with others like themselves. The other smaller portion of the population is an “I”ntroverted type whose brain requires regular quiet and solitude to manage their high internally-stimulated brains.

As you can deduce, all these, and many other complications can make for very difficult relationships when we take for granted that people experience the world in the same way we do, that people think about the world in the same way we do, and react in the same way … assuming without proving their assumptions.

For example, in my family, as with many other families, I am the one more different than the majority. Depending on who you talk to in a family, some are called “black sheep” with the connotation that the others are white and therefore good, some are called odd ducks, weird, crazy … and well, you get the picture.

It doesn’t matter what personality type the majority are, what matters to “the pack” is that the one outside “the pack” is seen as different … and differences, in packs with low “Respect Levels” … be they families or any collection of people brought together in some way … are not only seen as different, they are deemed problematic … even dangerous.

Teasing, tormenting, shunning, ostracizing, and casting out the different one is usually the first step, though sometimes physical harm is also used as a way to vent fear and to try and control the one being cast to the outside.

I was a bold little child, albeit quite often alone or leading when with others. An avid learner, I was an “A” student from the getgo until the factory education model of everybody learning and being the same created havoc for me. School became less and less fun, dominated not by learning, but by the ridicule experienced for being bored in class and by not being in the major packs in the school yards. Even teachers back then did not know what to do and resorted to punitive psychological, as well as physical punishments.

With the lack of understanding by the masses of personality types and low “Respect Levels” for those more different from the majority, the teasing, tormenting, shunning, ostracizing, and casting out continue and for some with more drastic consequences … such as the loss of their life … by their own or a “pack’s” hands.

Extroverts are quick to point their fingers at “loners” as threats, but the ignorance and lack of acceptance of differences between Extroverts and Introverts fuels the erroneous assumption that all loners … Introverts … are dangerous … demonstrating the truth they are taking something … someone for granted … without proof … that’s what beliefs on ignorance and untruths do.

The interesting contrary thing is that though there are some loners, often broken by the societal rejection, who then set out to harm others … more loners … Introverts … especially broken ones … often become easy targets and prey for both Introverts … and Extroverts.

To stay safe, Introverts will even transform themselves enough to be accepted into the pack, but unfortunately, with this transformation, they often give up too much of their true selves and a price will have to be paid by them at some point … for me, it was a fierce internal boil of anger at others for not being acceptable, for forcing me to be what they wanted by their mind games, and my own anger at myself for giving in and giving up on myself … all of which I mostly displayed with sarcasm, a cutting tongue and wit … a constant stream of intense negative energy and the need to be better … perfect even … all of which was so far removed from the tender-hearted compassionate soul broken by so much cruelty at a young age.

Extroverts dominate our world, creating a lot of noise and busyness for them to thrive … and Introverts are often just trying to live in the peace and quiet they need to thrive … and sometimes, both even meet in the middle … and we can do so more successfully to create a better world … if we stop assuming one is better than the other … one is more right … one is more … whatever.

Extroverted activity makes things happen, but it is Introverted creation that give the Extroverts much of what they need to keep the world moving forward.

When we learn and accept this knowledge instead of making assumptions based on our own limited experiences and knowledge, much of the pain, frustration, bitterness, resentment, fear, prejudice, ostracization, and violence will diminish … and we will move into a new realm of co-existence not yet experienced in humanity.

And maybe one day, my siblings will see me differently, as I am learning to see them differently too … and all siblings and only children will too … and forgiveness, acceptance, peace, and respect will strengthen our relationships with each other … as it is strengthening the relationship with myself, healing the scars from years of cruel rejection and the backlash it created in me and my actions … and in so many of us. Till then, the realized benefit is how learning this is transforming me … softening my edges … replacing my pain and anger with respect and even love … the unconditional kind.

Awesome stuff is “Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE” because even if you don’t need to learn it, I certainly did … because the benefits are of the positive, life-altering kind. And then when you add God’s unconditional love that I have been studying particularly this past year … anything is indeed possible!

Thanks for dropping by one of 7 billion!

April 15, 2015


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When there is no respect … indifference grows.
When there is no love … hate grows.
When there is no light of respect or love … darkness rules
… and we all pay the price with the quality of our lives.

April 13, 2015


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OBITUARY Written by me, tweaked by Davey-Linklater Funeral Home Manager, Dan McFadden

Oscar John “Trip” Trepanier. Loving son of the late John Joseph Trepanier and Marie Helen (Robert) Trepanier. Born February 6, 1931 in Tilbury, Ontario. At rest, March 20, 2015 in Southampton, Ontario. Loving husband of Shirley McKinnon and Lorraine Trepanier. Father of Kaitlin (Debra) Trepanier, Darlene Scarfo and her husband Mike, their daughter, Alysia, and her son, Cole Trepanier-McLelland, Philip Trepanier and his daughter, Maxine, daughter also of Laura Farrell-Trepanier, Paul Trepanier and his wife, Robyn, and their two sons, Luke and Jake. Stepfather to Pam and Dale Armstrong, their sons and their partners, Todd and Justina and daughter Ella, Cody and Laura, Jackie and Ron Wilson, their sons, Brady and Brandon and Brandon’s partner, Ashley, Greg McKinnon and Carole Hanks. Brother to Harold and Margaret Trepanier, the late Lillian “Mae” and Art Ferrar, the late Francis Trepanier, Norm and Harriet Trepanier, Rosanna and the late Laddie Zelina, Ken and Alice Trepanier, Rita and the late Lenard Hahn. Uncle to many nieces and nephews. Kincardine Celebration of Life Ceremony, Davey-Linklater Funeral Home, 757 Princes Street, Kincardine, ON, N2Z 1Z5, (519) 396-2701. Visitation 1:00 p.m., Service 2:00 p.m., Luncheon following, Thursday March 26, 2015. Wallaceburg Celebration of Life Ceremony, Visitation 1:00 p.m., Service 2:00 p.m., Interment, Riverview Cemetery, Tuesday, April 7, 2015. Flowers are lovely and nice; however, the Wallaceburg Minor Lacrosse Association was recently defrauded $70,000 so your contributions on Dad’s behalf would be greatly appreciated, especially since “Trip” Trepanier was a member of the Wallaceburg Red Devils lacrosse team inducted into the Sports Hall of Fame in 1993 for their contribution to the sport and 1959 Ontario Intermediate “B” champs. Donations may be made through the Davey-Linklater Funeral Home.

MEMORIAL CARD VERSE Written by anonymous, tweaked by me

God saw you getting tired
When a cure was not to be,
He closed His arms around you
And whispered, “Come to Me.”
In tears we saw you sinking,
We watched you fade away,
Our hearts were almost broken
You fought so hard to stay.
But when we saw you sleeping
So peacefully, free from pain,
We would not wish you back
To suffer that again …
So rest in peace our loved one
Till we meet again.

April 8, 2015


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Any one-sided perspective that does not allow other people to choose based on their free will … is not a symbol of freedom, but a symbol of one person or group’s need to have everyone be like them so they feel okay with their beliefs.

The most powerful leaders do not lead by fear, but by the strength of their character … their beliefs … their heart … and compassion for those they lead … yet also serve by leading.

The “Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE” concept was designed to surpass the barriers of religion, politics, race, etc. because as evidenced by the world, humanity struggles with the concept of valuing … respecting … others who are not in agreement with them, who do not reflect their choices, with believing they have to like or approve of everyone in the world.

Valuing … respecting a person or a group of people simply means to live and let live … to be humane .. to help others less fortunate than ourselves … to protect those who cannot protect themselves … to actively engage in the world we live … connecting the dots that reveals the big picture … what we do to others or do not do will impact our own lives somewhere down the line.

Based on The Bible, the living word Christians believe in, other than Christmas, and even more so, this is the most important two days of the year … when Christ was crucified on Good Friday and was resurrected on Easter Sunday.

If we could grow past our history … if we could at least unite and adopt the one concept, that all life is valuable … worthy of respect … we could obliterate the prejudices that not only separate us and compel some people to harm, imprison, and even kill those who don’t share their beliefs, we could create an economic balance previously unseen and would empower the human race to move past the limitations imposed by prejudices.

Making someone wrong through prejudice does not make someone else right … it makes two wrongs.

When we are willing to see beyond ourselves, we start to connect the dots and see the bigger picture of the world … and when we start to see our place in the world as someone valuable … entitled to respect for just being a life, we gain the ability to see others the same way … and we see our place in the world as valid and important as everyone else … because regardless of what you have, own, take … we all come into this world in the same way and we go out the same way … with nothing but what is in our hearts and minds. If we do not give other people the freedom and right to choose their own beliefs that do not harm others, then what we have is not freedom … instead we are bound by the prison of prejudice till we free others … and ourselves.

Though I was raised a Catholic, for several reasons I rejected the religion at an early ago and studied other religions and philosophies. In fact, so influenced by our culture’s strong reliance, almost religious fanaticism on science and my negative experiences with religion, the “Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE” was developed because of its logic, practicality, and even its dispassionate compassion.

Still, I found the concept, like many other religions and philosophies, did not satisfy a deeper yearning inside of me … the more profound that seeks deeper answers … so in the past few years I returned to Christianity by studying The Bible for myself and surprises abounded … especially surprises that generated freedom from judging and condemning others, peace, hope, and more positive feelings than I have ever experienced in my lifetime. I share this because I know from experience how both concepts, one scientific and philosophical and the other spiritual, not religious, are transforming me from being a hurt, frustrated, depressed, fearful, and angry woman into a healed, whole, more peaceful, and if not always loving, at least a respectful woman … who values other people and their differences and who works to find ways to bring more peace to the world, to encourage the ongoing development of potential, and to help us all connect to co-create a better world for each and every person … because both concepts have taught me everyone comes into this world with unique gifts, talents, and abilities intended to contribute to good of the whole … if we show them how by example and by our support.

This Easter weekend, my question is “What have your beliefs taught and yielded for you?”

April 4, 2015


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