As Long As Respect is a Value and Not a Principle …

As long as respect is a value and not a principle, people will always be deciding who is valuable … and who is not.

November 28, 2015

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER … The Respect Specialist. Humanitarian. Social Entrepreneur. Speaker. Author. Poet. Playwright. Director. Publisher … Freeing potential and generating peace through education, entertainment and inspiration. © All rights reserved 2015

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There is nothing that cannot be made better with …

There is nothing that cannot be made better with love … or at the very least, with respect.

“Connecting the Dots … with the Respect Principle” explains why and how. Discover for yourself at https://www.smashwords.com where you can read a sample of the book or the whole book, written for the global literacy level for schools, prisons, and anywhere people need to believe they are valuable so they make the best choices.

Co-create the change you want … the change we need for humanity to thrive.

November 27, 2015

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER … The Respect Specialist. Humanitarian. Social Entrepreneur. Speaker. Author. Poet. Playwright. Director. Publisher … Freeing potential and generating peace through education, entertainment and inspiration. © All rights reserved 2015

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An Unexpected Death, Family Funeral, But Back to Much Writing Today

Now back to work after another, this one unexpected, family funeral yesterday.

5 columns to write, 4 books of poetry and short stories to compile and prepare for ebook publication, 4 book covers to create, 2 to revise, etc., etc., etc.

Have a great week!

November 17, 2015

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER … The Respect Specialist. Humanitarian. Social Entrepreneur. Speaker. Author. Poet. Playwright. Director. Publisher … Freeing potential and generating peace through education, entertainment and inspiration. © All rights reserved 2015

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www.therespectprinciple.com.

Bullies … The Broken Souls

Broken in ways evil revels

… seizes to do its bidding

bullies wield words and actions

to tear apart any semblance of good …

Lashing out for being misunderstood

for being harmed, never healed

taking the lives of others

down with them

to the darkest places

where broken souls’ screams

are never heard

… where a sense of value

no longer lives

… where violence

of any kind

is the only way

they know how to feel

The only escape for all …

are prayers for good and salvation

to set us all free.

  

Poem … Bullies … The Broken Souls

Written in the wake of the terrorist attacks in Paris, France November 13, 2015

November 14, 2015

Kaitlin Trepanier

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER … The Respect Specialist. Humanitarian. Social Entrepreneur. Speaker. Author. Poet. Playwright. Director. Publisher … Freeing potential and generating peace through education, entertainment and inspiration. © All rights reserved 2015

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www.therespectprinciple.com

Connecting the Dots Column … High “Respect Level” Dating and Relationships

Preventing and stopping imbalanced, abusive, violent … disrespectful dating and relationships starts with us as individuals.

The single most contributing factor to anything less than high “Respect Level” dates and relationships is our lack of awareness about how our past shapes our lives.

Some of us already know that how our parents treated each other and us lays the foundation for what we will often, subconsciously, look for in relationships. It does not matter what our parenting was like … supportive, encouraging, critical, absent, neglectful, cruel, abusive or violent or like many, a combination … what matters is without recognizing our parenting experience we will often bring the same dynamics to all our other relationships.

Some parents want their children to have more than they had, but quite often the focus becomes too narrow on either the financial or on the unfulfilled dreams of the parents.

Wanting more financially in itself is not a problem, but when finances become the primary factor influencing lives, children either do not learn what is important to them or they disconnect from unique personal paths that may not seem financially sufficient for parental goals, just as when unfulfilled parents burden their children with their unrealized dreams.

A girl with a father who does not know how to treat his daughter with the respect she needs to develop strong, healthy boundaries, along with the confidence she needs to discover and develop her unique beauty, inside and out, later on searches for someone to fill those needs in her. Unfortunately, a girl, and later, the woman will continue the search, yet of course, in her search she will attract men who cannot give what she needs either and often will attract those who will exploit her needs to the point she will often accept behavior that is contrary to what she is searching for … even abusive and violent behavior.

A boy with a mother who does not know how to treat her son with the respect he needs to develop strong, healthy boundaries, along with the confidence he needs to develop healthy, balanced relationships with the opposite sex will often become needy and angry, sometimes in subtle ways such as the need to control women, using putdowns and sarcasm, as well as financial manipulation, yet also insecurities that feed irrational jealousy, neglect, abuse, and violence.

Regardless of the different historical scenarios, circumstances, and experiences, our present reveals what shaped us … that is unless we become aware of the influences and conditioning and consciously develop beyond them for us to be become more than our historical experiences.

Even the most loving parents with the best intentions may not be able to meet the needs of a child, especially one very different from either one of them, yet parents who have done the personal work of understanding their own history and its impact, will, as a result, consciously adopt new ways of being that create better choices for themselves and for their children, empowering parents and children to navigate and support the development of the unique qualities of the child.

How we develop healthy, respectful relationships … personal and professional … starts with parents and if a healthy relationship with one’s self has not happened, which is more the norm than not, then it is up to us as youths and adults to learn about the dynamics of the relationships that shaped many of our conscious and unconscious beliefs in order to grow beyond our history … not just to be parents, but also to be healthy, contributing global citizens … because we never know how our words or actions are going to impact someone in our daily lives.

I had a lot to learn to develop the “Respect Level” that is generating healthier boundaries in my personal and professional relationships. To help me reinvent my dating expectations and habits, I recently discovered the great little book by Greg Behrendt, author of “He’s Just Not That Into You.” “It’s Just a F***ing Date” with his new personal and professional partner, Amiira Ruotola is a funny, fresh, yet wise book I needed to teach me how to make the better … best choices myself … even though one of the choices I had to make was being alone until the knowledge gained empowered me to make the changes I needed to make in me and what different qualities to look for in the others beyond my historical conditioning.

Whether you fit into the “Been there, done that” and are skittish about delving back into the world of dating and serious relationships or are just starting out, gaining the knowledge first about ourselves will serves us well in attracting the dates, mates, and work environments best suited to who we really are and relationships that are mutually supportive.

800 words

November 13, 2015

Connecting the Dots Column … High “RESPECT LEVEL” Dating and Relationships

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER … The Respect Specialist. Humanitarian. Social Entrepreneur. Speaker. Author. Poet. Playwright. Director. Publisher … Freeing potential and generating peace through education, entertainment and inspiration. © All rights reserved 2015

NEWSFLASH! EBooks now available https://www.smashwords.com and other favorite EBook retailers. Earn 11% as Smashwords Affiliate Marketer! Plus, the search for both a Business Manager and Partner(s) for the Respect-Building Youth Initiative, “Charles’ Choice” are on!

www.therespectprinciple.com.

Accolades, Reviews, and References

Regarding Justin Trudeau and Liberal Party of Canada’s questionnaire card, What do you want? and my response that generated the following call and comments:

We need more Canadians like you. A well-written letter and I will forwarded it to Justin Trudeau. D. Hopkins, Liberal Party of Canada, Ottawa office 10/14/15

Regarding Chi-Eta Scholarship Outstanding Student Cooperation Award

Voted by and awarded by the Westervelt College faculty

Regarding the Frankly Bob Literary Award Competition …

Mayor David Miller and members of Toronto City Council together with Toronto Dollar Project and the Neighbourhood Innovations Fund extend warmest congratulations to Kaitlin Trepanier, recipient of the Honourable Mention (Literature) Prize of the Frankly Bob Literary Award Competition.

Kaitlin, this award recognizes your talent, tenacity of spirit and contribution to your community and reflects the status of true leadership that is a model for those on a similar journey.

As a participant of the Toronto Dollar Project, you are an ambassador of hope that has helped strengthen our economy, local communities, and the greening of our city.

Best wishes for continued success!

Mayor David Miller and Councillor Pam McConnell

Regarding Connecting the Dots … with The Respect Principle, core book, July 2015 print version …

It is a book one must read more than once. L. Thackery 9/30/15

Very well-written. I don’t normally get through those kinds of books, but I read the whole book the day I received it. J. Pumphrey-Vanthuyne. 7/26/15

The Holy Father wishes me to express his gratitude for your kind letter and the gift of an inscribed copy of your book. He appreciates the sentiments which prompted you to share your writings with him. His holiness will remember your intentions in his prayers. Monsignor Peter B. Wells, Assessor for Pope Francis, Vatican City, 8/17/2015

Thank you for the copy of your book. I will be donating it to the Parent Lending Library at Huron Heights Public School when it re-opens in the fall. Please find enclosed a cheque in payment for the book. Dr. L. Kasianik 8/13/15

I am reading your book and liking it! And it’s so true! enthusiastically shared, with a touch of surprise, S. McKinnon. 7/18/15

I really enjoyed reading Connecting the Dots … with”The Respect Principle.” Delighted that it is in print. Congrats. L. Kentish 8/23/15

Regarding the play, Charles’ Choice, based upon her concept and books, It is All About Respect/Connecting the Dots … with The Respect Principle driving the global initiative …

I believe that Kaitlin’s initiative can be extremely beneficial towards addressing the issue of bullying in our schools. Louise Galego, B.A. Program and Policy Development, Catholic Children’s Aid Society of Toronto

I can’t wait to take this on the road. Barb Rivers, school child worker

Overall, it was a great experience. Kathy Fowler, elementary teacher

Regarding the children’s series, Little Jack, published on Smashwords ebook platform October 2015 …

Thank you so much for sending me the “sneak peek” at a sample of Little Jack. I won’t ever forget how enthralled I was by this lovely story when you first read it to me. I didn’t realize there was a whole series – brilliant. So happy for you. I think “Little Jack”, while being such a wonderful story helps the reader to believe in daring to be brave. L. Kentish 8/23/15

Regarding The Original in You seminars/workshops presented to Social Assistance Small Business recipients and others. Created and facilitated by Kaitlin Trepanier …

The event Did a lot for me! I believe many should have this course. The speaker, Kaitlin, was fluent in what she was saying. You taught me something new and I am grateful that you were here and shared your story. Thank you! S. Fliegel

Kaitlin’s words helped me to recognize my low self esteem and encouraged me tow me to work towards building more. J. Brown

The event Motivated me. Great speaker, good listener as well. M. Johnston

The event Encouraged me to value and respect myself and my money. I respect her energy and clear mind and I liked hearing about independence and the skills of negotiation. L. Lodin.

The event Motivated and educated. Good direct speaker, energetic, reasonable, and realistic. I hope I can find the energy and self-respect that you have found in yourself.

I like how Kaitlin presented herself. She gave me more ideas about my business. V. Hylton

I got what I needed from Kaitlin. I. Bennett

Kaitlin reminded me to look inside myself for answers to the big questions as it is easy to lose track of your inner strengths and it is important to be reminded. She motivated me to continue my search. Thank you Kaitlin. Your talks hit home! M. Bofay

Kaitlin helped me to look and see what issues I have to deal with. J. Jones

The event Has reinforced the idea I have some personal issues to resolve NOW or I will repeat my mistakes. I needed to hear this, especially now. Thank you!

The event Encouraged me to value and respect myself and my money. I respect her energy and clear mind and I liked hearing about independence and the skills of negotiation. L. Lodin.

The event Re-affirmed by passion, knowing your niche. Liked the informality.

The event Gave me extra motivation. Actually made me look at my insides. Liked the information and how to get it. Would have liked a bit longer.

The event Re-touched on issues I have been working on. Kaitlin, you have control over your life and it shows!

Other comments regarding Kaitlin personally and professionally …

Recognized globally in Levi Strauss, Inc. newsletter for project development and completion of an initiative that reduced the Operations monthly planning cycle by forty hours per month.

The Original in You (talk) was great! Kaitlin is very task and goal oriented. she executes her projects with enthusiasm in an organized and timely manner. There is no doubt that  anything Kaitlin puts her mind to, she will complete and leave a lasting impression of a job well done.

Thanks for presenting valuable information about how to maintain the unique identity within all of us. The participants at the workshop were enthusiastic about the day and I got excellent feedback. Irene Johnston, Social Services Self-Employment trainer

Kaitlin is extremely organized, talented, and motivated. L. Kentish

I have known Kaitlin for approximately a year and a half. I am her accountant and also act as a business advisor as required. Kaitlin has tremendous talent, not only artistic talent, but organizational skills and business smarts as well. I have no doubt  that Kaitlin can carry out any project she takes on. Susan Mladenovich, CMA, regarding the Trees in Our Community Project and creator, Kaitlin Ann Webber (now Trepanier)

I have known Kaitlin for two years as a volunteer at community arts events. I think that Kaitlin Ann has developed and interesting project that will be quite well accepted. Kaitlin Ann is very enthusiastic and her skills will makes this project quite successful. H. Howard Smith, Smith Runcini, regarding the Trees in Our Community Project and creator, Kaitlin Ann Webber (now Trepanier)

Also see Awards, Memorabilia, and Name Changes

November 4, 2015

Kaitlin A. Trepanier … The Respect Specialist. Humanitarian. Social Entrepreneur. Speaker. Author. Poet. Playwright. Director. Publisher.

Raising the standard of living, quality of life, freeing potential, and generating peace with education, entertainment, and inspiration … because  every child, every person, should know, by their own experience, they are valued … respected. Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE. www.therespectprinciple.com

NEWSFLASH! EBooks now available at https://www.smashwords.com and other favorite EBook retailers. New release DARK HORSES …The Short Story. Coming soon RESPECT … The Way Back into Love. Plus, Business Manager search is on! Also, presenting “Information to Smashwords” Seminars … November 5th is the next date!

Kaitlin’s Smashwords interview https://www.smashwords.com/interview/KaitlinTR

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