How Our Culture Failed Ghomeshi and the Women … and What We Can Do About It

What is not being talked about following the conclusion of Jian Ghomeshi’s trial by either side is what is most important … men or women with low Respect Levels attract men or women with comparable Respect Levels … both of which take out their pain, frustration, and anger on those they connect with, especially those he or she believes they can control, manipulate, abuse, physically harm, and even kill.

I know this because as a woman who experienced abuse and violence from a young age, without the support needed, I naturally carried much of the results into my adulthood. Because of my lack of deep-seated awareness of how to change the impact on my choices and behavior, even after working with a psychologist for a year and a half to deal with some of the suppressed emotions, it was not until my research and introspection connected all the dots, developed The Respect Principle concept, and kick-started the process of making the healthier choices and changes made possible by increasing my Respect Level.

Once focused on my victimization, a rage consumed much of my emotional energy and even manifested physical symptoms that lead to physical ill health. The rage also spilled out onto my relationships, personal and professional, and in retrospect, I see how I lashed out at people with my anger, often using cynicism and sarcasm as weapons against the people in my present, who were not necessarily the ones that inflicted the original pain or even present pain, at least, not consciously and intentionally, but again, we attract people who will inflect their pain their way, which can even be through non-acceptance and ostracization.

What this has to do with Ghomeshi and the women who accused him of physical harm is they too were operating at the same low Respect Level. Experiences, combined with the cultural philosophy people have to earn respect rather than respect being a principle, applicable to everyone, have impaired their Respect Level, so Ghomeshi may have acted out his rage in bursts of inflicting physical pain and the women accepted the behaviour because of their distorted sense of needing to have a relationship with someone who hurt them … which is why Ghomeshi carried on the behaviour … because the women did not complain or leave, but instead stayed connected … typical in many abusive, controlling, manipulative relationships whether romantic, sexual, work-related, etc.

That is, until they were discarded by Ghomeshi or began to wake up and raise their Respect Levels and subsequently went public with accusations against him, also not in a healthy respectful or even legal way, it may also appear.

Once a victim, repeatedly, I understand the outrage the women, the accusers and their supporters, felt about the unfairness of the results. But for everyone’s safety, we cannot throw out the concept of reasonable doubt when it is convenient for our desired outcome. The judge really had no choice, based on the subsequent behavior of the women after the alleged violence, but to dismiss their claims, even if true, because their behaviour revealed what many would call instability, a result of previous abuse or violence or even a level of insanity. I call it low Respect Levels … a way of thinking and acting that impairs one’s ability to make sound, healthy choices based on positive role modeling.

Ghomeshi’s behaviour also stems from a low Respect Level, in part developed by the global philosophy of disrespect, especially against women, and however his own experiences shaped his thinking. Unfortunately, because the women did not stand up to his initial actions that offended, scared or hurt them, permission was given to him to continue with them or with others.

My heart goes out to both sides for their pain and my hope is that for all involved the personal work that needs to be done gets done, so everyone can move on in a healthy way. Forgiveness is also part of the healing process, and though not easy at first, I know healing and peace can only be attained with forgiveness.

Does that mean we should forget what is said to have transpired? No. It means we work together, not to change the legal system some conjecture failed the women, but to change the mindset, the philosophy … the principle that defines some people as worth of respect and others not … that fails women and any vulnerable person.

Educating and inspiring us all to increase our Respect Levels for each other … for all of us …  is the compassionate answer to the change we seek.

How Our Culture Failed Ghomeshi and the Women … and What We Can Do About It

March 27, 2016

Kaitlin Ann Trepanier … The Respect Specialist, Humanitarian, Social Entrepreneur, Publisher, Author, Creative, Speaker, and Developer of core concept, The Respect Principle, and the global initiative, Respect for All. Stalled for a few years, the restarted company designed as a for-profit to meet the social need develops and delivers books, products, and services that educate, entertain, and inspire the positive changes needed for the vision of Respect for All.

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Made the Second Round of the Competition!

Congratulations to the 20, of which I am 1, that made it to the second round of the Hawk’s Nest angel investors contest!
Will I make it to the third round … if it is God’s will!
Regardless, yesterday’s meeting with Barb and Rose certainly ramped up the possibilities because of their shared experience and wisdom that I can use going forward with the social business venture and global initiative … wherever and with whomever it leads me to in order for the next phase to happen.
Thank you Barb and Rose and the angel investors, the Hawks, for this opportunity!
March  22, 2016

Greetings! My name is Kaitlin Ann Trepanier … The Respect Specialist, Humanitarian, Social Entrepreneur, Publisher, Author, Creative, Speaker, and Developer of the social business venture delivering the Connecting the Dots … with The Respect Principle … the powerful global initiative transforming lives by empowering people with the logical, practical, and compassionate core concept.

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Ever Heard the Whole “Sodom” Story?

Raised and educated in Catholic churches and schools, my memory recollects the focus of the story of Sodom and Gomorrah as the cities God annihilated because of sexual perversions.

Yet, since reading the Bible myself, I discovered the whole “Sodom” story in Ezekiel 16: 49. To respect copyright law, I’ll paraphrase. Basically because Sodom citizens were prosperous they ate what they wanted, did what they wanted, which included doing nothing or only leisure activities for their own pleasure … plus they did nothing to help the less fortunate either which angered God enough to destroy them all.

As a returning Christian believer, I am grateful for the opportunity to learn God’s teachings uncensored or sullied by interpretations, some with good intentions, but many others to create their own following in order to reap the benefits themselves.

Regardless of my own spiritual beliefs though, from a logical, practical, scientific perspective of cause and effect or a general metaphysical belief of karma or what goes around comes around, the same message is clear … self-centeredness and overindulgence with food and activities for our own satisfaction only, will manifest our own demise, individually and collectively … either through God’s direct hand or through the more subtle methods of social, economic, and environmental disasters and collapses.

This is not the world I want to live in and die in, want for my loved ones, or anybody … and probably not the one you truly want either … for yourself and your next generations.

Self assessment is a good thing, as is growing into wisdom from the knowledge gained directly or from others. It also demonstrates a higher than lower Respect Level.

And it is more rewarding than you may think it would be … Connecting the Dots … with The Respect Principle.

March 16, 2016

Kaitlin Ann Trepanier … The Respect Specialist, Humanitarian, Social Entrepreneur, Creative, and Writer. The social business venture creates, publishes, and produces books, products, and services to free potential based on the concept and global initiative “Connecting the Dots … with The Respect Principle.”

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Helping Our Youth … Helping Us All

A simple thing that has gone the wayside of communities are dances … a safe place where youth can gather, develop their social skills, burn off some of their youthful energy, and have fun.
As someone who loves to dance, I am extremely grateful for all the dances at the beach pavilions in Kincardine Port Elgin, Sauble Beach, and even in Rondeau Park I attended. Yes, there were some problems, but they exist whether there are dances or not.
Scientists tell us children and teens are not expected to live as long as us, yet we have taken a key component that adds great value away from their lives … and our own.
When I was a teen dance “cruiser” for the Whitby Optimists’ Club, yes, watching the senior middle school and high school students so they kept in line with hands, etc., was quite a challenge, but a very rewarding one. Now, I see teenagers with all this energy, many never even walk to school, and have no way, other than sports, and not everyone likes sports, to expend that energy … and either they aren’t because they are channelling that energy into their fingers, phones, and sex, therefore it is no surprise what is happening to our youth.
It is time for parents, grandparents, and communities to step up and provide youth with the benefits they reaped from dancing a night away. It can all start with you …
Connecting the Dots … with The Respect Principle
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March 14, 2016
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Kaitlin Ann Trepanier … The Respect Specialist, Humanitarian, Social Entrepreneur, Creative, and Writer. The social business venture creates, publishes, and produces books, products, and services to free potential based on the concept and global initiative “Connecting the Dots … with The Respect Principle.”

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Today’s Deadline Met!

WAHOO! I’m so thrilled and grateful my 10-page business plan for the local angel investors, Hawk’s Nest, competition made today’s deadline.

What I knew and have talked about in bits and pieces, but hadn’t put on paper with the numbers until today, in the full scope clearly shows my social business venture is not about publishing a book or even more than one … but about the core concept that addresses so many needs, in its many different forms, including the core book published July 2015.

And though the competition is local, there are angel investors all over the world … and then there is the matter of bringing a business partner on board with the complementary skills and the desire to work on an initiative that meets social needs, as well as, making profits to meet the social needs … finally! what an interesting and exciting adventure!

 Connecting the Dots … with The Respect Principle time is coming!

March 11, 2016

Kaitlin Ann Trepanier … The Respect Specialist, Humanitarian, Social Entrepreneur, Creative, and Writer. The social business venture creates, publishes, and produces books, products, and services to free potential based on the concept and global initiative “Connecting the Dots … with The Respect Principle.”

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In Progress …

BUSINESS PLANNING in progress … watch for details in the next few weeks!

March 8, 2016

Kaitlin Ann Trepanier … The Respect Specialist, Humanitarian, Social Entrepreneur, Creative, and Writer. The company creates, publishes, and produces books, products, and services to free potential based on the concept and global initiative “Connecting the Dots … with The Respect Principle.” I look forward to discovering how I can help you and others unleash more potential for greater success, enhanced quality of life, more joy and peace!

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