Replacing LinkedIn’s segregated profile, a connected-the-dots profile is in process to demonstrate why, how, etc. Kaitlin Ann Trepanier became the person to develop and lead the social business venture and global initiative, Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle.
Understanding and respecting one’s self is a key to happiness, health, and success, as an individual and as a community member … yet my school, work, volunteer, and relationship history reveal that for the longest time I did not understand or respect myself.
What confused me were the many successes, then the subsequent failures, now understood as the indicators of not good fits, boredom, and not knowing where I truly belonged and with whom. As Laird Hamilton stated in his Oprah’s Soul Sunday session, he had to find his tribe also … the people who understood where he was coming from and mutually shared his passion, in his case, surfing, before he was finally accepted for who he was, is, and is becoming.
My mother thought I was difficult and could not wait for to send me off to school, yet even my first day filled her with dread because my five-year old independent self, informed her I would be walking to school by myself on my first day. Of course, she followed me the whole way, slipping behind trees and bushes in her attempts to keep the peace; yet protect her eldest child.
The love of learning resulted in my report cards dotted with “A’s” but over time, the learning environment, plus my learning and communication preferences contributed to my grades slipping and comments, such as, could do better, does not apply herself, appearing more frequently on those report cards.
Additionally, in retrospect, my misunderstood personality type, which according to statistics is estimated to be 3 to 5 % of the U.S. population, played a significant role in the negative experiences for me in the factory-education model schools I attended as did the Catholic school environment and the blue collar family and community of southern Ontario I grew up in.
I say in retrospect, because many years later I was finally able to put all the pieces together to understand and respect myself … and therefore, if not always understanding others, to at least respect and appreciate them for our differences.
And yes, I have returned to school several times, but much of my knowledge has come not from classrooms or even the University of Life, but a lifetime of self-directed studies and research.
Personality tests abound, some much narrower in perspective than others, but the one I discovered to be the most helpful on my journey has been what science recognizes as the Myers Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI) that is based on one of the founders of psychology, Carl Jung.
The MBTI is a testing device more previously used by higher level institutions to determine whether candidates were a good fit for their organization, as well as used for other purposes. But now with the access to more knowledge via the worldwide web, higher level education information is now available to many more people.
However, what has made the MBTI more user friendly is the work of the consultants, Paul D. Tieger, Barbara Barron, and now Kelly Tieger. Their books, Nurture by Nature, The Art of Speedreading People, Just Your Type, and especially for me, Do What You Are – Discover the Perfect Career for You Through the Secrets of Personality Type (More than 1,000,000 copies sold of its five editions), helped me connect all the dots of my seemingly unconnected history and ultimately set me on the course I am now on as developer, author, founder, and president of the social business venture, Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle.
Of the sixteen MBTI types, I most identify with the INTP type, which the authors of Do What You Are describe as Ingenious Problem Solvers.
As June 4, 2017
Stay tuned … more to come as this, like me and you, is a work-in-progress!