Is confidence arrogance?
Arrogance, I’ve learned, is the erroneous belief in rugged individualism … that one person is an island, separate from one’s community one grows up in, lives in, works in, shops in, etc.
Arrogance, I’ve also learned, is derived from a low “Respect Level” driving a person to believe they are worth more than anyone else.
Arrogance is a false belief system employed to make an insecure person feel secure in what they have, do, and/or control, yet the problem for an arrogant person is when everything is taken away from them, they are destroyed in spirit. Their hearts break. And in their pain, depending on their personality type, they lash out … at themselves or at others.
Therefore, I have come to understand and appreciate that arrogance is a fix for the broken.
In contrast, confidence is discovering and developing one’s unique natural gifts and talents.
Confidence is believing that one’s unique qualities and characters contribute to the greater good in many different ways … relationships, work, and community.
Confidence is also knowing who one is whatever one’s circumstances and being okay without accolades, pats on the back, prizes, and awards.
Arrogance demands attention and glory.
Confidence frees us from such demands, empowering us to be true to ourselves, instead of needing a crowd’s accolades.
Humility results from the healing, moving us from arrogance to confidence, teaching us the unique gifts and talents we have come from a greater source beyond ourselves … and though we reap the benefits of our unique gifts and talents when we discover, develop, and nurture them, so does the rest of the world … because we get to be the best we can be, living the lives we are meant to live … as individuals and collectively … and letting others also do the same.
And the peace to be finally be reaped will astound, as it has me.
…Kaitlin Ann Trepanier, Founder/President of Connecting the Dots … with The Respect Principle … the for-profit social business venture raising Respect Levels with original entertaining, educational, and inspirational books, products, and services. ©All Rights Reserved 2016
June 6, 2017