Been seeing posts on being humble, so I have shared a link and its definitions, yet I am also going to share my perspective …
There are a lot of contradictory words listed below, but my experience has taught me this … when a person tries to step out and be an individual, especially one different from the pack one comes from, the pack will often attempt to push such a person back down with words like, “Who do you think you are?, “Arrogant, aren’t you?” “Big ego, how do you hold your big head up?” “You should humble yourself because you are no better than anyone else.”
I also know from experience those who have been pushed down a lot often have to develop a large ego just to keep getting back up, that is, until as I discovered later in life, I do not have to justify being myself because I am just as entitled as everyone else to respect … being valued … simply for being a life.
People don’t have to like me, approve of me, etc., and I don’t have to like them, approve of them etc. either, but I will not cut people down, try to make them feel small or insignificant in order to make myself feel better because I don’t have to anymore because I know better now.
I also learned psychologists know recovering from what I went through is unlikely for many.
Yes, I have had to deal with the inflated ego I developed because of how badly broken my heart and spirit had become because otherwise I would not still be alive. It’s been a long process that took a lot of personal work and healing. God helped me though through the hardest parts when no one else could or would and when I could no longer help myself. He helped me to really believe that I am valuable too, just as He helped me to believe in the work He put in my heart to do … to help everyone … believers or not … to realize that every life is valuable … worthy of respect … and that each person needs to discover what their unique purpose is and to fulfill that purpose regardless of what others think, judge, or condemn … because it is not a person’s judgment we face at the end of our lives … it’s ours … and if you are a believer … His.
KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER
Advocate Innovator Entrepreneur Founder Author Artist Speaker
Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle
February 23, 2018
adjective: humble; comparative adjective: humbler; superlative adjective: humblest
having or showing a modest or low estimate of one’s own importance.
“he was humble about his stature as one of rock history’s most influential guitarists”
synonyms: meek, deferential, respectful, submissive, diffident, self-effacing, unassertive; More
unpresuming, modest, unassuming, self-deprecating;
“her bearing was humble”
antonyms: proud, overbearing
(of an action or thought) offered with or affected by a modest estimate of one’s own importance.
“my humble apologies”
of low social, administrative, or political rank.
“she came from a humble, unprivileged background”
synonyms: lowly, working-class, lower-class, poor, undistinguished, mean, modest, ignoble, low-born, plebeian, underprivileged; More
common, ordinary, simple, inferior, unremarkable, insignificant, inconsequential
“a humble background”
(of a thing) of modest pretensions or dimensions.
“he built the business empire from humble beginnings”
synonyms: modest, plain, simple, ordinary, unostentatious, unpretentious
“my humble abode”
verb: humble; 3rd person present: humbles; past tense: humbled; past participle: humbled; gerund or present participle: humbling
lower (someone) in dignity or importance.
“I knew he had humbled himself to ask for my help”
synonyms: humiliate, abase, demean, lower, degrade, debase; mortify, shame, abash;
informal cut down to size, deflate, make eat humble pie, take down a peg or two, settle someone’s hash, make eat crow
“he had to humble himself to ask for my help”