For Better or Worse, We See People Through The Colored Lenses Of Our Beliefs

For instance, my experiences motivated me to trust no one, to assume the worst, and to leave people behind when those negative expectations were fulfilled.

Of course, with my beliefs coloring my vision of others, and myself, I attracted people with similar beliefs, who of course, did not let me down by treating me with disrespect, disregard, contempt, harm, and even betrayal … all things I carried in my heart and mind, sometimes with awareness, though often not.

I would like to tell you that all changed when I examined and changed my beliefs, but there is more truth to my old beliefs than I would like to acknowledge.

The thing is, like me for so long, many people do not know what their core beliefs are and even if they are their own, versus other people’s beliefs they adopted through conditioning, peer pressure etc. they don’t yet know the lens can be changed.

As a result, they also harbor the notion no one is trustworthy, to expect the worst from people, though they may have their own way of dealing with their fulfilled expectations.

My two new beliefs may seem at odds with each other, but in reality they complement each and even support each other.

First, based on logic, practicality, and compassion, my new personal philosophy recognizes everyone as valuable … to be respected simply for being a life. I don’t have to agree with them, like them, approve of them, or any other such thing. I live and let live, unless of course they are harming someone, which negates the option to live and let live because they are not giving the same option to those they are harming.

Secondly, driven to feel fulfilled beyond my personal philosophy alone, I returned to  believing in God, Jesus, and the Holy Spirit. Raised a Catholic, but not without a long time in between to fill in the gaps left by Catholicism teachings, my return was a slow, cautious, meandering one. Exploring other spiritual beliefs, none satisfied and kept me moving on, searching to have the gap filled.

Yet even when I accepted God, Jesus, and the Holy Spirit, with my new awareness and educational level, peace did not come right away. My head had to get wrapped around the distinctions between what I learned in my youth was not all the truth and the whole truth, came not from a person, but from the Bible itself.

I would like to say other believers drew me back to God, but overall I have discovered the many Christians I have met are struggling to believe and act as the Bible teaches, first and foremost to love unconditionally, and even to respect each other as God’s children.

However, this matters not now because one, I choose to respect all people and their right to choose so I live and let live, and two, because I am learning how to love like God, unconditionally, with grace, forgiveness, mercy, and all the things we all hunger for to fill the holes and gaps in our lives.

Whatever lens you wear, if they are not allowing you to see the world as it really is, maybe you are due for a new prescription too.

Best wishes on your journey.

With respect and love,

Kaitlin

April 25, 2018

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER

Human/Animal Rights Activist Social Scientist Founder Entrepreneur Author Artist

Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

©All Rights Reserved 2015

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

April 25, 2018

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER

Human/Animal Rights Activist Social Scientist Founder Entrepreneur Author Artist

Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

©All Rights Reserved 2015

 

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