OPRAH’S April BIG QUESTION

“What Would You Stand Up For?”

“IT’S YOUR TIME TO RISE – AND BE THE LIGHT YOU WANT TO SEE”

Front cover of The Oprah Magazine April 2018 Edition

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER

Human/Animal Rights Activist Social Scientist Founder Entrepreneur Author Artist

Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

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FATHERS and MOTHERS … Recognize everyone gets hurts as children and teens, so healing our hurts before becoming parents is the best way to prevent our children from becoming mean, abusive, and/or violent

Because of circumstances I did not know how to handle as a young teen, I dropped out of school to marry at sixteen someone who would save me. No children involved.

The violence started verbally, then grew increasingly physical to the point of a brutal, violent rape … all this suffered at the hands of a a handsome, charming, yet jealous and insecure man, who was made sterile by his father’s physical attack on him at fourteen when he stepped in to stop the assault on his mother after his dad pushed her down the stairs.

Years later, after a second non-physically abusive marriage and subsequent divorce, I briefly dated a fellow also very broken by his childhood experiences, but when his circumstances became dire I offered to share an apartment so we could both get on our feet financially. But, as time rolled on, verbal abuse became the norm, until one day he threw something and almost hit my little cat. I realized it was time to get out. He was also dating a married woman and I was also concerned about becoming collateral damage if an angry husband showed up.

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Learning I was attracting such partners because of my own brokenness and my resulting willingness to accept such treatment came from understanding I needed to learn how to respect myself enough to not just walk away when in danger, but to heed the signs before getting involved with other low “Respect Level” people. Not that I won’t help them, but I no longer need to be in a personal or professional relationship with them.

I also know too, we can’t help people who don’t want help … all we can do is model what self-respect and respect for others looks like, and if necessary, contact the people who can help in ways we cannot.

Please share my story because it may just be what someone needs to read for them to be safe.

PLEASE NOTE: If you are in an abusive relationship of any kind, do not act defiant. Be smart. Be respectful of your own life and those in your care by seeking help in your community from people who can be trusted.

Thank you.

Sincerely,

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER

Human/Animal Rights Activist Social Scientist Founder Entrepreneur Author Artist

Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

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OUR INFLUENCE and IMPACT

If we all lived in isolation, the impact of others on us would be non-existent, but we don’t, so we have to factor in the influence and impact we have on other people … and then choose whether we will be positive, nurturing, and encouraging or negative, controlling, and discouraging.
May 24, 2018

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER

Human/Animal Rights Activist Social Scientist Founder Entrepreneur Author Artist

Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

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Why “CONNECTING THE DOTS WITH THE RESPECT PRINCIPLE” Can Change the Mindsets That Break People and Invoke Them to Harm Themselves or Others

My condolences to all 😥

BUT PLEASE NOTE … These school shootings are preventable … not by tighter security or even gun control, but by a mindset shift.

Just blaming those who harm is fruitless because those who harm are severely broken … so what is needed is a new way of thinking about and treating each other … in our homes, communities, and schools.

My anger is generated by my frustration level with people unwilling to listen and change the mindsets that break people to the point they lash out with violence, not just against themselves, but against anyone they can reach. If you really want to curtail this insanity, help me implement the changes in schools and communities with the “Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle” books, products, and services that have the power to change what is so severely broken.

I don’t allow myself to hate anymore, but to forgive and pray for those inflicting harm.

Instead, I use my anger as fuel to engage to create the needed positive changes … because moments of outrage followed by apathy or a sense of helplessness aren’t cutting it … as the violent deaths of more youth and teachers continue.

Do what you can … introduce your school and community to “Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle,” suggest they bring me into present the concept and discuss the benefits, encourage them to add the books to their school curriculum, secure a copy of the play to introduce the concept to their school and community … not just for me and my company, but for what my company can do to help minimize and even eliminate potential threats.

Know this … I do what I do so every child, regardless of what they might have or are experiencing, will learn they are valuable … to be respected … simply for being a life.

WHY? Because everyone who feels valued … respected will not have the desire to harm his or her self nor anyone else.

This is not a theory, but a logical, practical, and compassionate solution I developed because of what I have learned from my own experience, research, and studies and what has worked for me.

Watch the following video for why and how …

 

May 20, 2018

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER

Human/Animal Rights Activist Social Scientist Founder Entrepreneur Author Artist

Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

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The DARK SIDE of Philanthropy

The ‘Black Hole’ That Sucks Up Silicon Valley’s Money

A fast-growing type of charitable account gets big tax breaks but little oversight

by Alana Semuels is a staff writer at The Atlantic. She was previously a national correspondent for the Los Angeles Times.

Extracted quotes …

The amount of money going from the Silicon Valley Community Foundation to the nine-county Bay Area actually dropped in 2017 by 46 percent, even as the amount of money under management grew by 64 percent, to $13.5 billion.

Though donors receive a big tax break for donating to donor-advised funds, the funds have no payout requirements, unlike private foundations, which are required to disperse 5 percent of their assets each year.

Cantor, the nonprofit consultant, told me that he had met wealthy individuals who said they were setting up donor-advised funds so that their children could disperse the funds and learn about philanthropy—they had no intent to spend the money in their own lifetimes.

“Right now, too many tax-subsidized contributions are being set aside indefinitely—subject to no obligation for them ever to be put to active charitable use,” Madoff and Roger Colinvaux, a professor at Columbus School of Law, wrote in a letter to the Senate Committee on Finance in July.

Read the full story by clicking on the following link …

https://www.theatlantic.com/technology/archive/2018/05/silicon-valley-community-foundation-philanthropy/560216/

May 19, 2018

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KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER

Human/Animal Rights Activist Social Scientist Founder Entrepreneur Author Artist

Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

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Amanda Litman, “Never forget that activism and politics combined have brought us …”

“Never forget that activism and politics combined have brought us suffrage, the civil rights movement, marriage equality, the Affordable Care Act, and hundreds of thousands of seemingly small ordinances and laws that together make up the fabric of our civil society. Some days it seems like pushing a boulder uphill-victories will feel small and you won’t see immediate progress. But over the course of generations, the little wins will add up, changing your neighborhood, your town, your state, our country, our world. You can be a part of that.”

Amanda Litman, author of “Run for Something: A Real-Talk Guide to Fixing the System Yourself”

Grateful for all the ways people are “Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle” too without knowing about the global initiative to transform respect from the discretionary value it is to the global principle it can be.

Thank you Amanda. And thank you Oprah for the April 2018 Oprah Magazine with its focus, “What Would You Stand Up For?” that shared Amanda’s insights and wisdom.

May 15, 2018

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER

Human/Animal Rights Activist Social Scientist Founder Entrepreneur Author Artist

Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

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NOT SHY … INTROVERTED … Here’s Why by Susan Cain

Someone once gave me a card titled Wallflower that was filled with verse describing someone who sits on the sidelines of social settings and even life.

What we both did not understand at the time was I was only acting like a wallflower, not because of my introverted personality type, but because of my introverted personality type that had been taken advantage of and greatly harmed by both introverts and extroverts.

The card was given to me by my youngest brother at a time in my life when I was at the breaking out point from living a life other people liked, wanted, and expected. He gave it to me because I was not like him or the rest of my family who are dominantly extroverted.

They could not grasp what my problem was and still is according to many people. Research and studies revealed I do not have a problem, but a difference that really is not that different because a third to half the population have the same difference and they are suffering and not living up to their potential as a result … like I was, though I am working my way out of that people-dominated lifestyle to live my chosen life.

Susan Cain speaks about the subject with insight, sincerity, and humor, so I hope you will watch and listen to her “Idea Worth Spreading … her TED Talk.”

Thank you and thank you Susan for “The Power Of Introverts.”

Kaitlin

May 12, 2018

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER

Human/Animal Rights Activist Social Scientist Founder Entrepreneur Author Artist

Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

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I’m Not One For Tradition For Tradition’s Sake Alone Because …

Stagnation or progression, which are we to choose, as individuals, as collectives, as citizens, and even as global citizens?

If tradition rules us simply because that is how things have always been done are we serving humanity to the best of our abilities or are we serving a tradition that has become more important than those tradition governs?

Yet, not all things old or traditional are bad or limiting, such as, love and not just the romantic kind, but the kind of love that is respectful of people because of the recognition the world does not center around us, as much as we sometimes would like it to do.

In assessing the value tradition adds to our quality of life, the question needs to be asked, “Are we following tradition for the sake of the tradition and perhaps a fear of change or is the tradition still valuable in the present?”

In the wake of Donald Trump being elected as President of the United States and the division he is fostering in his wake, I am reminded of a tradition I believe still has merit in the United States. (Originally written just after D.T.’s election, but just posted today.)

“Fourscore and seven years ago, our fathers brought forth, upon this continent, a new nation, conceived in liberty and dedicated to the proposition that “all men (and women) are created equal.” Abraham Lincoln, The Gettysburg Address, November 19, 1863 Pennsylvania, United States.

And for his second inaugural address in Washington, DC, he said, “With malice toward none … ” March 4, 1865

Lincoln’s recognition that all people are created equal and as a result no malice should be shown to another is a tradition passed down through the years by small groups of people who have fought for that justice for all people, some religious and some just humanitarian.

Now for me, I know this is the tradition that has the power to further humanity’s efforts for a peaceful co-existence enabled by the perspective that everyone matters … a thought for some which is considered progressive … but whatever we label “respect for all” as, since the beginning of time, some people have struggled to make these words a reality for everyone.

As part of the group who believes every child should learn by their own experienced they are valued … to be respected simply for being a life, I created the concept, company, and global initiative, Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle, in order to make the world a better place … for everyone … because everyone matters.

Bravo to all those doing what they can to make respect for someone … maybe for all … a reality.

May 11, 2018

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER

Human/Animal Rights Activist Social Scientist Founder Entrepreneur Author Artist

Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

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Since Knowledge Is Power, Why Would Anyone, Including Ontario Candidate Doug Ford, Want To Take It Away From Children?

While listening to radio chatter the other day about the upcoming provincial election, the one thing that grabbed my attention was Doug Ford’s comment he would eradicate the new sex education curriculum installed by Liberal Kathleen Wynne.

Now, personally I am a Liberal because I believe in progression and taking all people into consideration and ensuring fairness, especially for those less fortunate. I don’t believe in tradition for the the sake of tradition alone because a lot of things traditionally have empowered some people  to harm others and to get away with inflicting that harm … on  vulnerable people with intellectual disabilities, impoverished people, women, some men, teens, children, ethnic people, people with visible differences, people in subordinate positions, people with different beliefs, etc.

Therefore, as someone sexually abused, bullied, beaten physically and psychologically as a child, teen, and adult, plus manipulated by tradition to respect my elders and say nothing, I applauded Wynne’s efforts to provide children and teens the knowledge about what sex is, when it’s appropriate, and how to be able to stand up against anyone … another child, teen, or adult … who tries to do something to them they do not want.

Yes, it’s awkward talking about sex, but it is more awkward talking about the after effects of being sexually engaged without consent when no one wants to talk about sex.

Yes, the subject may seem inappropriate to some religious beliefs, but one must question if one’s religious beliefs allow children to be taken advantage of and harmed, is it not more beneficial to the child to have the sex education knowledge and be safe and later for them to learn about and choose their own beliefs when they are capable of making their own religious/spiritual choices.

Children are enraptured by what they are told is off limits. Yet children’s curiosity is satisfied by the facts of what is happening to their bodies and what sex is, confirmed by the results some cultures are discovering when children are educated. Interestingly enough, once their curiosity is satisfied, they leave the subject of sex alone until they are ready to explore further at a later age.

Imagine the possibilities … less child pornography, less children and teens sexually abused, less children and teens being trafficked, less children psychologically damaged and passing on their damage to others, less children with sexually transmitted diseases, less unwanted pregnancies, etc.

Imagine all the money and resources that can be saved from not having to save, care for, heal, and restore all those broken by the lack of empowerment because of the lack of knowledge about sex.

Yes, I know the Liberal Party has other issues to tackle, such as hydro’s catastrophic rates that are forcing people to choose between rent, food, and heat, etc., but in comparison to all the other issues, always, my first priority is protecting and saving the children.

What is your priority?

May 10, 2018

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER

Human/Animal Rights Activist Social Scientist Founder Entrepreneur Author Artist

Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

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