NOT SHY … INTROVERTED … Here’s Why by Susan Cain

Someone once gave me a card titled Wallflower that was filled with verse describing someone who sits on the sidelines of social settings and even life.

What we both did not understand at the time was I was only acting like a wallflower, not because of my introverted personality type, but because of my introverted personality type that had been taken advantage of and greatly harmed by both introverts and extroverts.

The card was given to me by my youngest brother at a time in my life when I was at the breaking out point from living a life other people liked, wanted, and expected. He gave it to me because I was not like him or the rest of my family who are dominantly extroverted.

They could not grasp what my problem was and still is according to many people. Research and studies revealed I do not have a problem, but a difference that really is not that different because a third to half the population have the same difference and they are suffering and not living up to their potential as a result … like I was, though I am working my way out of that people-dominated lifestyle to live my chosen life.

Susan Cain speaks about the subject with insight, sincerity, and humor, so I hope you will watch and listen to her “Idea Worth Spreading … her TED Talk.”

Thank you and thank you Susan for “The Power Of Introverts.”

Kaitlin

May 12, 2018

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER

Human/Animal Rights Activist Social Scientist Founder Entrepreneur Author Artist

Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

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I’m Not One For Tradition For Tradition’s Sake Alone Because …

Stagnation or progression, which are we to choose, as individuals, as collectives, as citizens, and even as global citizens?

If tradition rules us simply because that is how things have always been done are we serving humanity to the best of our abilities or are we serving a tradition that has become more important than those tradition governs?

Yet, not all things old or traditional are bad or limiting, such as, love and not just the romantic kind, but the kind of love that is respectful of people because of the recognition the world does not center around us, as much as we sometimes would like it to do.

In assessing the value tradition adds to our quality of life, the question needs to be asked, “Are we following tradition for the sake of the tradition and perhaps a fear of change or is the tradition still valuable in the present?”

In the wake of Donald Trump being elected as President of the United States and the division he is fostering in his wake, I am reminded of a tradition I believe still has merit in the United States. (Originally written just after D.T.’s election, but just posted today.)

“Fourscore and seven years ago, our fathers brought forth, upon this continent, a new nation, conceived in liberty and dedicated to the proposition that “all men (and women) are created equal.” Abraham Lincoln, The Gettysburg Address, November 19, 1863 Pennsylvania, United States.

And for his second inaugural address in Washington, DC, he said, “With malice toward none … ” March 4, 1865

Lincoln’s recognition that all people are created equal and as a result no malice should be shown to another is a tradition passed down through the years by small groups of people who have fought for that justice for all people, some religious and some just humanitarian.

Now for me, I know this is the tradition that has the power to further humanity’s efforts for a peaceful co-existence enabled by the perspective that everyone matters … a thought for some which is considered progressive … but whatever we label “respect for all” as, since the beginning of time, some people have struggled to make these words a reality for everyone.

As part of the group who believes every child should learn by their own experienced they are valued … to be respected simply for being a life, I created the concept, company, and global initiative, Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle, in order to make the world a better place … for everyone … because everyone matters.

Bravo to all those doing what they can to make respect for someone … maybe for all … a reality.

May 11, 2018

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER

Human/Animal Rights Activist Social Scientist Founder Entrepreneur Author Artist

Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

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Since Knowledge Is Power, Why Would Anyone, Including Ontario Candidate Doug Ford, Want To Take It Away From Children?

While listening to radio chatter the other day about the upcoming provincial election, the one thing that grabbed my attention was Doug Ford’s comment he would eradicate the new sex education curriculum installed by Liberal Kathleen Wynne.

Now, personally I am a Liberal because I believe in progression and taking all people into consideration and ensuring fairness, especially for those less fortunate. I don’t believe in tradition for the the sake of tradition alone because a lot of things traditionally have empowered some people  to harm others and to get away with inflicting that harm … on  vulnerable people with intellectual disabilities, impoverished people, women, some men, teens, children, ethnic people, people with visible differences, people in subordinate positions, people with different beliefs, etc.

Therefore, as someone sexually abused, bullied, beaten physically and psychologically as a child, teen, and adult, plus manipulated by tradition to respect my elders and say nothing, I applauded Wynne’s efforts to provide children and teens the knowledge about what sex is, when it’s appropriate, and how to be able to stand up against anyone … another child, teen, or adult … who tries to do something to them they do not want.

Yes, it’s awkward talking about sex, but it is more awkward talking about the after effects of being sexually engaged without consent when no one wants to talk about sex.

Yes, the subject may seem inappropriate to some religious beliefs, but one must question if one’s religious beliefs allow children to be taken advantage of and harmed, is it not more beneficial to the child to have the sex education knowledge and be safe and later for them to learn about and choose their own beliefs when they are capable of making their own religious/spiritual choices.

Children are enraptured by what they are told is off limits. Yet children’s curiosity is satisfied by the facts of what is happening to their bodies and what sex is, confirmed by the results some cultures are discovering when children are educated. Interestingly enough, once their curiosity is satisfied, they leave the subject of sex alone until they are ready to explore further at a later age.

Imagine the possibilities … less child pornography, less children and teens sexually abused, less children and teens being trafficked, less children psychologically damaged and passing on their damage to others, less children with sexually transmitted diseases, less unwanted pregnancies, etc.

Imagine all the money and resources that can be saved from not having to save, care for, heal, and restore all those broken by the lack of empowerment because of the lack of knowledge about sex.

Yes, I know the Liberal Party has other issues to tackle, such as hydro’s catastrophic rates that are forcing people to choose between rent, food, and heat, etc., but in comparison to all the other issues, always, my first priority is protecting and saving the children.

What is your priority?

May 10, 2018

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER

Human/Animal Rights Activist Social Scientist Founder Entrepreneur Author Artist

Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

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From The Global Discretionary Value To The Global Principle

Steve Jobs, founder, knew his idea was not just about selling “Apple” computers, but about making the world a better place by using his innovative, creative talent and skills.

As do I, the human/animal rights activist, social scientist, founder, entrepreneur, author, and artist that created “Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle,” the company dedicated to transforming respect from the discretionary value it is to the global principle it can be in order to raise the standard of living and quality of life of all people.

Thank you for your interest and support in making the world a better place … for everyone!

May 5, 2018

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER

Human/Animal Rights Activist Social Scientist Founder Entrepreneur Author Artist

Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

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Without A Fundamental Change …

Without a fundamental change in our foundational belief to one that unites versus divides us, not much will change, and some things won’t, such as …

Having to make examples of the few for their disrespectful acts with the hope that fear will curtail such acts. Such acts won’t because …

  1. Some people feel immune, above it all, lord over overs, better than others, special
  2. Others justify their words and actions by the fact that other people doing it so why not them
  3. Then there are people whose “Respect Level” is so low they don’t care about what happens to them. Some hope their acts will result in someone else killing them, such as the police, so they will not act have to take their own lives
  4. And those with no respect for themselves or anyone else do what they want without  fear and that includes taking  the lives of others to cause others pain … the pain and emptiness that blacks out their emotions so they cannot feel empathy, compassion, and respect for anyone, including themselves

Ultimately making people fearful is not a safeguard or even a deterrent. What will make a difference is raising people’s “Respect Levels” high enough so they will value … respect themselves equally as other people … not above, but also not below. It is only then will humanity’s evolution rise to the level where people will learn how to thrive rather than just exist and humanity will rise to a new level of evolution not yet witnessed.

May 4, 2018

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER

Human/Animal Rights Activist Social Scientist Founder Entrepreneur Author Artist

Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

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Whenever We Need A Reminder Of How Good Our Lives Are …

Take a deep breath and watch the movie “The Last Face” with Oscar winners Javier Bardem and Charlize Theron. You will never be the same.

May 1, 2018

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER

Human/Animal Rights Activist Social Scientist Founder Entrepreneur Author Artist

Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

©All Rights Reserved 2015