“What the HAPPIEST PLACES Have in Common”

Citizens’ wellbeing is often the result of careful planning—not serendipity.

Online article posted by The Atlantic … Global

https://www.theatlantic.com/international/archive/2018/06/happiest-places-in-the-world/563570/

by Krishnadev Calamur

June 23, 2018

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KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER

Human/Animal Rights Activist Social Scientist Founder Entrepreneur Author Artist

Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

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“The Narrowing of MINDS”

“How do you measure creativity if you never find it in the first place? As mentioned earlier, a concerning gaming glitch I have noticed over the past five to eight years is that youth are progressively less aware of their creative potential. Today, many kids don’t lose the creativity, they never find it.”

“They never become aware of the talent they potentially possess. Instead the “talent” is applied to gaming (and all i-media for that matter). This to me is a great tragedy, not only to the individual but to society as a whole.”

From I-Minds by Mari K. Swingle, page 73. New Society Publishers

On a personal note, my education in the 60’s and 70’s in a farming and industrial community did not make me aware of my talent, but did what it could to suppress any creative talent. The focus was becoming skilled as a worker to get a “real” job. Took me years, many tears, and much pain to correct my perspective about myself and to put myself on the right career track for me.

Whatever might have or is derailing your life, take your life back and do what is yours to do. Say your regrets for not knowing or standing up for yourself … until now … and move on in the most respectful and loving way you can for yourself and others … because being with people for the wrong reasons serves neither of you and in the end, hurts you both more than necessary.

Be bold. Be courageous. Be who you really are! You are worth it!

June 27, 2018

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER

Human/Animal Rights Activist Social Scientist Founder Entrepreneur Author Artist

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“The COURAGE TO BE YOURSELF” by E.E. Cummings

Definitely takes courage and much more when your personality type falls within 3-5% of the American population. That information helped me put the pieces of me back together again, though as with putting any puzzle together, I tried to fit into a few places I didn’t belong, even tried to force myself to fit, but that hurts the piece trying to fit and the others around the incorrect piece. Also takes time, patience, and persistence, but at least now I know I am on the right path. Thing is too, when you are starting over, there is only place to go … up!

Good luck to you. Hope this shared post lightens your heart too.

https://www.brainpickings.org/2017/09/25/e-e-cummings-advice/

Shared post written by “Brainpickings”

June 26, 2018

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER

Human/Animal Rights Activist Social Scientist Founder Entrepreneur Author Artist

Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

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Four Important Questions About PROTECTING CHILDREN We Need To Answer

  1. Do you trust someone who exploits children for his or her own gain?
  2. Do laws prohibiting child exploitation exist?
  3. Are those laws unique to each country?
  4. Do you agree laws preventing child exploitation should be global humanitarian laws?

June 25, 2018

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER

Human/Animal Rights Activist Social Scientist Founder Entrepreneur Author Artist

Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

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HEALTH and WELLNESS … Past, Present, and Future

The last years with Dad, participating in clinical trials/medical studies, getting baseline blood work by an endocrinologist, and my quest to stay strong and healthy are teaching me the changes I need to make to continue living as a healthy person not requiring any medications.
 
Sure, it would be nice if we didn’t have to change our eating habits, but if we don’t the body reacts in ways we won’t like. I think of Dad and how he needed to make changes, but his habits were so ingrained and it seemed cruel also to force the changes on him that he didn’t understand or want.
 
I’ve seen so many other people too not changing and my heart goes out to them and the other challenges they face by not making the required changes for a healthy longevity. I’ve seen the debilitating and sad consequences in retirement and long-term care homes being with Dad during his last three years.
 
I still have work to do, but I did quit smoking and drinking coffee over twenty years ago. And interestingly enough, I have not had to take much medication since then.
 
Of course, there are other factors that helped, mostly my learning about what works best for me and my growing “Respect Level” to keep learning and adapting. I’m successfully decreasing my sugar and gluten addiction, both of which are detrimental to my body, however, I am grateful I have never had the addictions of drugs and alcohol. Not because of a sense of superiority, but because in my teens, I learned by experience what can happen to a girl when she no longer has her wits about her and will be taken advantage of by predators waiting for such opportunities.
 
On a more positive note, now that my energy level is being restored by a better balance of rest and nutrition, I am able to enjoy cycling again rather than just cycling just because I have to because I don’t have my own car again … yet ; – )
 
Dear readers, whatever you are doing this weekend/week, I hope part of your time is spent taking good care of you too. And if you already are, bravo for being a good example!
Best,
Kaitlin Ann Trepanier
June 24, 2018

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER

Human/Animal Rights Activist Social Scientist Founder Entrepreneur Author Artist

Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

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GETTING PUBLISHED … Shared Personal Experience And A Few Great Professional Tips

In 2012, my last two Query Letters containing proposals for the “Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle” books generated interest from a small Canadian press and from a mid-size American press.

However, in 2012, while working at the Harbour Inn in Kincardine, Dad’s care needs took priority rather than writing the books. But then when I had to quit work to be on hand for Dad, in the odd hours in-between I did wrote the first book and even printed one hundred for a signed limited first edition as well as registering my company of the same name.

Later discovering Smashwords, I learned how to publish ebooks and have since published several.

But the debt I incurred to be with Dad and help him, meant I had no money for marketing and other related costs.

My acceptance into a local angel investors contest fueled my hope for the company, but the contest was restricted to entrepreneurs who committed to stay in Dad’s area, but once he passed I desperately wanted to leave the area I had returned to for his sake.

Encouraged also by the community foundation’s financier interest in financing with a loan, I later applied to the community foundation in my new area, but because of the 15k debt and no working cash capital, my grant request was denied.

Since then, I have tried to raise money on my own, including attracting a partner, but this past week decided that the partners) best suited are an agent and publishers to generate the cash needed for the debt repayment and the company’s growth, expansion, and relocation to the west coast.

To aid the these personal and professional goals, I have also applied to do a TED Talk.

Anyway, I came across these two links for writers yesterday who want to submit their works, so I am sharing with any of you who many also want to take that leap. Good Luck!

https://nybookeditors.com/2015/12/how-to-write-a-darn-good-query-letter/

http://www.writersdigest.com/online-editor/the-10-dos-and-donts-of-writing-a-query-letter#.WyqT_Z1yaCU.facebook

P.S. When I started writing, many of my query letters resulted in my writing being published, including professionally, plus garnered interest from a small press in Arizona to publish my first book, which I declined because I realized it was not the work I wanted to be known for.

June 21, 2018

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER

Human/Animal Rights Activist Social Scientist Founder Entrepreneur Author Artist

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CRUELTY TODAY … What Trump Is Doing To Children!

June 18, 2018

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DEALING WITH Criticism, Judgment, and Condemnation

Putting down others is a cultural past time. In fact, sometimes it looks as though criticizing, judging, and condemning others is a recreational sport of sorts.

Ashamedly I confess, I played the condemnation game for a long time. I was quick to point out what was wrong with others and still have to check myself from engaging in the game.

Admittedly, I discovered I played the game because I was taught by experience. I was taught by the experience of others criticizing, judging, and condemning me for my differences, so I got in on the game.

I got so good that before most people could even begin an assault, I had already won and walked away.

Makes for a lonely existence, especially if you don’t want to be surrounded by people playing the same game.

In other words, I had to stop playing the cruel game born of insecurity and fear.

The bad habit was like breaking any addiction. First there was denial. Then justification and rationalization. Some temper tantrums fueled by a lot of anger … at others for the deception and cruelty and at myself for going along with what I knew was wrong … because I knew how it felt to be on the receiving end.

But until I got the help I needed, which for me was research and study, I kept going in circles without much success in dealing with people dishing out and also no longer participating.

Along the way, I discovered who I really was and what I wanted to do.

And wow, though I previously thought I had experienced quite a bit of the three with my non-average personality type made much more complicated by some very traumatic experiences, I really was not prepared for the onslaught being an original would attract.

Even more surprised I was when I started sharing how developing a personal relationship with God through studying the Bible (an amplified version has made it more user-friendly) gave me the courage I needed to keep forging ahead on my unique path.

Lots of psychology books helped me, but since my path of becoming the writer I was meant to be also included what I was experiencing spiritually, I had to turn to other people to stay on track rather than get derailed by those, for whatever their personal reasons are, choose not to believe in God and his desire to be actively engaged in our lives.

Joyce Meyer, an American televangelist reminded me in her book, Trusting God Day By Day, to “Quit Picking On Yourself.” She shares how Paul’s faithfulness (page 63) was questioned and his reaction. “I do not care what you think. I do not even judge myself,” because he knew if he got out of line for the purpose given him, God would correct him.

Not anyone else could correct him because he was working directly with God.

As I now am, so whatever others believe, say, or do no longer determines my reactions and destiny.

Of course, this also precludes me from criticizing, judging, and condemning other people too, so I have to self-monitor to keep old habits at bay.

Instead, I am to educate, inspire, and even entertain people to motivate them to stop wasting their valuable life time on things that is not theirs to do anything about and to encourage them to engage when it is theirs to do something about.

Not that does not mean we don’t step in when others are harming others. That we must do in whatever capacity we are called to do also.

One of the greatest rewards from no longer playing the criticizing, judging, and condemning game is the freed gift of time so I can pursue what is mine to pursue.

It’s a “live let live” mentality we all need to thrive … peacefully.

June 18, 2018

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER

Human/Animal Rights Activist Social Scientist Founder Entrepreneur Author Artist

Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

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DEAR FATHERS …

Fathers …
the oops ones
the reluctant ones
the wannabee ones,
the over-the-moon ones,
the absent ones,
the broken ones,
the be-a-better man ones,
the unreachable ones,
the distant ones,
the kind, supportive ones,
the like-your-dad ones,
the I’ll-never be-like-my dad ones,
… to all the fathers there ever was and will be, please know how much we need you to help us become the best person we can be, guided by your wisdom, sheltered in your strength, and loved beyond measure.
Kaitlin Ann Trepanier
June 17, 2018
Happy Father’s Day … Miss you Dad.