From generation to generation to generation, the battles go on, but here’s some great tips for parents from the author on how to teach the children to resolve not just their conflicts, but also to empower siblings to resolve conflicts with other people throughout their lives … something we can learn at any time when we parent ourselves later in life to become more mature adults.
Of course, as the eldest child and eldest granddaughter who left home the day I turned sixteen, I’m still working on conflict resolutions skills I did not develop because my care-taking skills were being developed by a lot of babysitting 😊
However, what has helped is learning to value … respect other people, regardless of any other factors, creating peace in one’s heart at the very least. Another benefit of increasing one’s “Respect Level” is developing the skills to establish good boundaries, resolve differences, agree to disagree, and if need be to walk away gracefully, inside and out. … to “live and let live.”
Most importantly, with the new understanding that sibling rivalry is normal, to be expected, has a valid purpose, and with wisdom, and can be managed well, my heart is lightened by forgiveness, hope, and best wishes for all. Hope yours is too.
Thanks New York Times and Ms. Dell’Antonia. Ms. Dell’Antonia writes frequently about parenthood.