Caught up in the expectations of others at a young age, I didn’t discover and develop my natural talents until I grew frustrated, disappointed, and jaded with life. Marked by migraines and stomach problems, plus addictions such as busyness, shopping, and needing people’s approval, I finally hit the wall of not being able to continue the life I had become entangled in.
Wanting to change my life because of the discovery of what I really wanted to do with my life meant breaking up other people’s lives. My husband of nineteen years wanted me to stay the same as did everyone else I knew at the time.
But then I met a man at a new job who liked me for the person I was discovering myself to be. When I left my husband and everything else behind, the man’s words, “You’ll love being alone” I didn’t understand because I wanted to be with him.
He was right, though for years I didn’t love being alone, until one day I did. No longer feeling pulled apart by people’s expectations, my journey of self-discovery revealed things about myself I did not know, some of which I liked and some I did not. A lot of exploration, taking chances, and making mistakes revealed I was stronger and more capable than I had come to believe years before. Rebellion was replaced with independence and self-sufficiency. A strong heart replaced a broken one. A lost identity was found.
And the love for that man stayed with me, transforming me from someone who had not known how to love myself or another in a healthy, functional way to someone who can.
So being antisocial for a while was a good thing … one I’d recommend to anyone, though not getting caught up in everyone’s expectations at all may mean you won’t have to traverse the rocky road of rediscovering and reclaiming one’s true identity and best choices for your best life.
The above post was inspired by the following linked article “When It’s Good to be Antisocial” by Silvia Golombeanu for Pocket
KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER
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April 28, 2019