Reflecting History, The Largest Group …

Reflecting history, the largest group paying the price of the COVID-19 Pandemic are the vulnerable … not just the seniors, but the poor who can’t afford to stay home, work in essential services for poverty wages, live on the street, in community homes, in rooming houses, apartment buildings, and/or live in houses where one member or more ignores the safety protocols because of low “Respect Levels”for one’s self and therefore for others … so many of us have much to be grateful for right now.

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER

Specialist, Writer, Speaker, Social Entrepreneur, Founder and President

Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

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April 30, 2020

Meet “Little Jack”

Now the little rabbit here is one of my early drawings of Little Jack. He needs some sprucing up and updating, but he also reminds me of what the first Snoopy and the first Mickey Mouse looked like when initially conceived, so there is hope for LJ too. The Little Jack ebooks are not illustrated, but they don’t have to be to engage readers readers have told me. And I must admit I am looking forward to seeing how the little fellow will evolve once he hits the animation stage for film!

Little-Jack-Drawing

 

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER

Specialist, Writer, Speaker, Social Entrepreneur, Founder and President

Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

© All Rights Reserved 2014-2019

April 22, 2020

“Not An Ordinary Sale,” Smashwords Founder Mark Coker

NOT AN ORDINARY SALE … BUT NEITHER IS “LITTLE JACK” ORDINARY!
SMASHWORDS, the ebook retailer and distributor, created the “Authors Giving Back” sale in order for authors to reach out to people who have more reading time because of the COVID-19 pandemic “Stay Home” order. Mark Coker, Smashwords’ founder, encouraged authors to participate while also encouraging us to consider books that would be uplifting as well entertaining.
As a result, my “Authors Giving Back” offerings include the well-received Little Jack series that has captured the hearts of children … people of all ages … and  More Than Words … a little book of inspiration with the intent to share uplifting reads that bring smiles to hearts and souls.
To access the book(s) of your choice either search for a book title on www.smashwords.com or just click on the link above the book cover and you will be taken directly to, not only the Smashwords website, but also directly to where you can read a sample and purchase the ebook of your choice simply by signing up for a free Smashwords membership where you will find thousands of others ebooks too!
The Little Jack series of six ebooks have been especially uploaded to Smashwords to retail for $1.99 USD each, but have a 30% coupon attached for each book in the series. Clicking on the link below will take you directly to Smashwords where you will be able to select which book of the Little Jack series you want to sample and/or purchase.
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                     Book 1 Cover
More Than Words … a little book of inspiration, the ebook version of poems normally retails for $7.99 USD, but has a 60% off coupon!
More Than Words a little book of inspiration
 
PLEASE NOTE:
The “Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle” family of books is being revised and added to, so please stay tuned for future release dates.
Happy reading!
Thank you for your interest and also for respecting yourself and others by staying home to save lives during the COVID-19 pandemic and social challenge.

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER

Specialist Writer Speaker Social Entrepreneur Founder and President

Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

Smashwords interview @  www.smashwords.com

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April 24, 2020

 

 

 

 

Living By Truth Is Not Easy In This World

Up front I have to admit I certainly have told lies, but more often than not, I have told truths … truths that were not recognized as truth, or could not, or would not, be believed. I even lied after I told the truth just to smooth things over in order to avoid conflict, one of my least favourite things. And over the years, many people have lied about me, with their own unique motives. I used to get hurt, angry, and even confused, but not so much anymore, and at times, not at all.

Fortunately my drive to understand human behaviour recently provided the much-needed answers I sought.

As I have written about previously, my research revealed that my personality type falls within a small range, estimated to be between 5% to 8% of the American population, as well as also being an introvert, in contrast to the dominant personality type, extroverts.

Not having this knowledge, truly understanding the impact, and people being more comfortable with people like themselves, not only compelled me to be untruthful about my true character, unique talents and skills, not that they were bad, just more different than the majority of people. I realize too that my being untruthful about myself and presenting a preferred persona, also resulted in relationship problems and even professional problems when my true character came out, which eventually had to happen in order for me to develop the best mental health for me.

Unfortunately, what I did with good intent, becoming chameleon-like in order to be accepted, liked, and loved ultimately backfired personally and professionally and their has been much collateral damage requiring several years and a lot of effort to shed the false skin and grow into my own … and also to let people go gracefully, in ways I could not do before.

Now, the challenge is not to revert to chameleon-like behaviour, but to stay true to myself, even with the knowledge that not being like most people, I have to accept people’s discomfort, dislike, or even worse from my not being like them, my not thinking like them, my not making choices similar to theirs, and as a result, their lack of respect for me.

Learning what I have, I now do my best to be civil and respectful to others because I know what it feels like not be respected. I even make an effort to apologize if I am not as civil as I want to people to treat me. And when I am on the receiving end of what I experienced when I was naive about all of this, sometimes it still hurts, but only initially when I let my feelings dominate my consciousness rather than my principle that everyone benefits from being treated with civility … in other words, respectfully … simply for being another life.

The other thing though that has helped me considerably to live truthfully is studying The Bible and discovering three important facts.

First surprising fact to me was that if someone is dedicated to doing work that is going to make a positive difference in the world, that person must be prepared for the onslaught that will come because, after all, Satan wants to win as many battles, especially against anyone who is going to advance humanity, because he knows the final victory is God’s. Discovering this empowers me to be less surprised when bad things happen, big or small, yet admittedly I still have to make sure to remind myself not to take any onslaught personally, regardless of who delivers it, because I know the real source, whose power is really nothing compared to who is for me and my purpose.

Second, those who believe in God, Jesus, and the Holy Spirit are told they are in this world, but not of it, so it is natural that some, even many people, will not only accept, but will also reject, and even seek to harm someone they do not identify with or who does not believe as they do..

And gladly, third, no matter what is said or by whom against me, I need do little, especially not acting revengefully, but just believe in the power truth and God brings to any situation or relationship.

Undoubtedly, living truthfully may not always be the easy way to live in this world, but after living untruthfully for a number of reasons most of my life and reaping the unsatisfying, unfulfilling, limiting, and harmful results, there is no other choice I would make.

 

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER

Specialist, Writer, Speaker, Social Entrepreneur, Founder and President

Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

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Last update April 22, 2020

 

 

 

 

 

About The Founder … What Makes Me A Specialist?

WHAT MAKES ME A SPECIALIST?

Discerning respect being used as a tool, a discretionary value, consciously or not, to discriminate, exclude, manipulate, coerce, and even physically harm others for the benefit of a person or group is my specialty and the reason I developed and founded the social business venture, Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle.

The prejudice my unusual personality type experienced from being a misunderstood minority, estimated to be only 5% to 8% of the American population, and the long-term negative impact I finally healed from after years of research, study, self-actualization, and compassion transformed me into an advocating specialist and social entrepreneur.

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER

Specialist, Writer, Speaker, Social Entrepreneur, Founder and President

Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

© All Rights Reserved 2014-2019

Last update April 22, 2020

“Calling Me a Hero Only Makes You Feel Better”

Because I appreciate his insights and share his frustration, I am sharing this and hope you will also.
Shared linked story by Karleigh Frisbie Brogan for The Atlantic, April 18, 2020
I am grateful he is aware not everyone has a choice to stock up because they don’t have the space/appliances and/or don’t have the money to do so either … so off to the grocery stores such people have to go … often weekly. And then for many, there is the dilemma of how to carry everything home in one trip … so for those of you who have the space, the money, and transportation, please free up the retail space by stocking up so you don’t have to go every week … in order to save the space for those who really need to be there. Thank you.

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER

Specialist Writer Speaker Social Entrepreneur Founder and President

of Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

Smashwords interview @  www.smashwords.com

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April 21, 2020

As An Introvert, A Quieter Outdoor World Is Nice For A Change, Yet Surreal Too; However …

Understanding extroverts though, their brain’s need for external stimulation, my heart goes out to you because this must be very trying for many of you since there are more extroverts in the world, which makes for a dominantly and naturally noisier world that works for you … but is challenging for us introverts, which is why many of us spend so much time alone in our own spaces or move to the country if we can afford to do so. And some, sadly, choose to live homeless because they cannot afford living space that meets their needs.

 

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER

Specialist Writer Speaker Social Entrepreneur Founder and President

of Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

Smashwords interview @  www.smashwords.com

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April 20, 2020

The Whole Truth Behind “Wives Obey Your Husbands”

Many religions and people extract Biblical excerpts for their own motives and purposes. One of the ones often quoted, partially, is this one:

“Wives, be subject to your husbands, (subordinate and adapt yourself to them) as is right and fitting and your proper duty to the Lord.” Colossians 3:18

But what many people, men mostly, do is omit or disregard is the following Colossians 3:19-22:

“Husbands, love your wives (be affectionate and sympathetic with them) and do not be harsh or bitter or resentful towards them.”

“Children, obey your parents in everything, for this is pleasing to the Lord.”

“Fathers, do not provoke or irritate or fret your children (do not be hard on them or harass them), lest they become discouraged and sullen and morose and feel inferior and frustrated. (Do not break their spirit.)

Servants, obey in everything, those who are your earthly masters, not only when their eyes are on you as pleasers of men, but in simplicity of purpose (with all your heart) because of your reverence for the Lord and as a sincere expression of your devotion to Him.

I agree with Joyce Meyer’s sentiments, “If everyone would obey these instructions, think of the peace and joy that would fill each of our homes. There would be no divorce.” quoted from The Confident Woman by Joyce Meyer (pages 60:61)

What about you?

And hey, check what follows after Colossians 3:22 … Colossians 3:23, 24 because it is even more important to women so we do not give up our personal lives for a husband … because though a man is to be head of the household, he is not head of a woman’s life  … God is.

“Whatever may be your task, work at it heartily (from the soul) as (something done) for the Lord and not for men.

Knowing (with all certainty) that it is from the Lord (and not from men) that you will receive the inheritance which is your (real) reward. (The One Whom) you are actually serving (is) the Lord Christ (the Messiah).

Isn’t this something to know and use if someone tries to control our life?

Joyce wraps it up beautifully with “Notice too there is no mention at all of one member, only doing what is right if the others do. No, each member is responsible for their part. Each of us will stand before God and give an account of our lives. (Romans 14:12) We will not be asked about another person, but only ourselves. Each of us should strive to do the right thing even if we are the only one willing to do so. This greatly honors God and will be rewarded in due time.”

Just one more reason to go to the source and get the whole truth for yourself.

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER

Specialist Writer Speaker Social Entrepreneur Founder and President

of Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

Smashwords interview @  www.smashwords.com

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April 18, 2020

 

 

 

 

To Whom It May Concern

My waking up to the realities of my life, including the ones I had buried and other realities people also refused to believe or denied resulted, not just in the end of a nineteen-year marriage, but my slide into a deep, debilitating depression.

The marriage ending was no surprise, in retrospect, because it was built on falseness, including my own. Falseness created by a woman-child who had been severely harmed in her younger years and, subconsciously, was looking for safety in the guise of what was considered normal.

But the truth must come out or we, all of us, pay the consequences for living not just an unauthentic life, but a life that needs to be supported by acceptable untruths to make other people allow us into the pack.

We may appear to fit into the pack we think we need to be a part of to the point we become chameleons, sadly adapting to the point we lose our identity.

In the mid 1990’s, I realized I had lost mine and became undone.

Facing long-buried memories my mind had protected me from resulted in a waking up that was actually exhilarating because finally things and my life were starting to make sense. And even though successful in many people’s eyes, deep down I knew I was living marginally compared to what I, and some other people, believed I was capable of doing.

In the process of reclaiming my true identity, talents, and skills, I did not change my life, but also the lives of people in my life. Many people were hurt or angry, or both, and most walked, even ran away, though appearances made it look as if I was running away. In truth, they had left me, though not physically, long before I had the courage to leave.

Then I met someone who treated me with respect, care, and acceptance beyond what I had ever known, But, broken as I had been before I married, the end of many relationships, including the long-term marriage, resulted from many people’s unwillingness to just let me explore what was revealed as important to me and to let me in my own time and in my own way.

Sadly, but understandably now, even he ran away because well, I was literally falling apart at the seams and no one I knew wanted to be around so I left … dropped out of the life I had known.

Trying to save face and keep myself afloat, I denied the deep depression grabbing at my ankles, trying to pull me into a dark abyss. Money became an issue when I was laid off, but since my head was fogged with bad daydreams and worse nightmares, plus pride, overcoming the shame to seek and ask for help was prevented and I found myself slipping further into the abyss.

With no money, bills piling up, credit maxed to the limit, no food, and a roof over my head would soon not be able to afford, my body and my spirit laid down for ten days, barely getting out of bed to go to the washroom and take a sip of water. Only when someone showed up and discovered my state did things start to change, though not for the better.

In a matter of weeks, I found myself living in a suburban home in a room, ashamedly paid for by welfare. In a month, an unexpected call from a retail art and framing gallery. Finally, I was climbing up rather than sliding down. And I was grateful for a job where I was left alone to do a job in a world I wanted to explore. Creditors were the only ones interested in me now and I could not bear the harsh, cruel worlds and threats, so, since I had no idea how or when things were going to turn around I bowed my head further and filed for bankruptcy, handing my much-loved motorcycle back to the bank.

When I had expressed interest in moving to the west coast, a finance professional suggested I make the move so I could get my life back on track, including clearing my debts without the abusive creditors’ pressure. But, still gripped tightly by depression and a profound loss of confidence, I did not see a way to make the move. And frankly, I did not want to move away from those I loved, even if they no longer loved me, because I was clinging to the hope they would come back for me, in order to keep me moving forward.

After all I have been through, credit was not something I wanted to get involved with again and for several years I avoided it. But, when I was compelled by circumstances to move back to the place where I used to and where my dad still lived to help him through his last years, I could not do it without credit because I was forced to quit work to be on call for him twenty four hours a day. There was no other other financial support available to me.

When the collection calls started to come this time, I referred to the letters I had sent all my creditors explaining that I would not file for bankruptcy, but at some point I would pay back all my debts to them personally, and eventually with interest. Collection companies though would not listen and I discovered through the wretched process yet another significant contributor to abuse and its impact on people already struggling … a humanitarian injustice I will work to change.

And as someone who is now dedicated fully now to transforming how people are treated, regardless of their differences, circumstances, etc., I have been applying for grants to reboot the social business venture I initially started in 2014, but was stalled by parental care needs and the fallout of that time period.

I was inspired to share this glimpse of my life with the supporters of my quest to transform respect from a discretionary value to a global principle, with those who just want the money that was not even theirs to begin with and any interested party.

In time, God’s timing I believe, my company will secure the grants needed to get off the ground, running, and thriving. And in time, the creditors who enabled me to be there with my dad during his last, very difficult years will receive the rewards, not just of the money returned with interest, but also with the valuable lesson that not all people are out to screw creditors and treating people respectfully provides the motivation people need to repay debts rather than write them off. Financial institutions, as well as businesses, are also accountable too for exploiting people, especially low income people who earn poverty wages businesses offer, pay high percentages of their income for rent and utilities, and are encouraged strongly by media to want what they cannot afford.

With the COVID-19 pandemic being the going concern and the buzz phrase, “We’re in this together” promoting the impact we have on each other, now is the time to really get it … that we are all connected and what one person, one group, one organization, and one nation do impacts us all, so how and what we choose to do makes us problem makers or problem solvers.

As someone finally wide-awake, I choose to be a problem solver and  fortunately, inherently I excel at problem solving because of the way I see things.

As for whom it may concern, know this … I now know, mistakes and all, I am just as valuable as anyone else and no one gets to treat me as anything less than one worthy of respect … simply for being a life.

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KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER

Specialist Writer Speaker Social Entrepreneur Founder and President

of Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

Smashwords interview @  www.smashwords.com

© All Rights Reserved 2014-2020

April 18, 2020