KNOWLEDGE FREES US FROM Irrational Fears AND EMPOWERS US WITH Rational Fears To Be Prepared For The Risks

Let’s keep learning, growing, and becoming the best us we can be!

Kaitlin Ann Trepanier

CONNECTING THE DOTS WITH THE RESPECT PRINCIPLE

Founder Entrepreneur Author Artist and Speaker  

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August 16, 2018                                  

NOTE: Kaitlin’s Smashwords interview and Ebooks available at www.smashwords.com

 

 

 

 

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How To Lose A Good Credit Rating, Even Go Bankrupt … Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, Divorce, Unrequited Love, Parental Care, Poverty Wages … A PERSONAL STORY and SHARED NYT ARTICLE

The attached New York Times articles packs a punch of information for us to comprehend  why many older Americans (and Canadians) are filing for bankruptcy and what we can do to prevent it for ourselves.

But there are a few other precursor reasons not mentioned in the article.

For me, they include other key influencing factors. such as the post traumatic stress I experienced in my thirties. Until then, I had mostly been able to suppress the memories and their related emotions, but they finally pushed their way to the surface in my life with such force I had to seek help.

With the means, an employee benefit, to work with a psychologist to help me process and with the consequences of the sexual abuse, abuse, bullying, and violence I experienced earlier in my life, great change resulted.

Not only did I begin the healing process from my experiences, with the bad memories came the good. I began rediscovering me … my unique talents, gifts, and dreams. Unfortunately, they did not fit in with my established relationships, including a marriage of over fifteen years. My then husband just wanted things … and me to stay the same. After all, between us we were pulling in over one hundred thousand dollars a year, co-owned with the bank a suburb home, drove two vehicles, ate out often, camped in Algonquin every summer, and did some international traveling.

I wanted to get out of debt by selling the house and moving into an apartment so I could explore different career paths as a writer.

It was not his fault. He thought what he was getting as a wife was the person I had become in order to be safe and accepted.

It really was not my fault either because I really did not know what else to do, until many years later. And to tell you the truth, it’s been a long, arduous journey of healing.

But back to the story …

I tried to go back to being what he wanted. Took a considerably less paying job that left me more free time to write. However, it’s funny/sad how things turn out. I met a co-worker who liked me as the poet, the writer, etc. For the first time I was being me and someone else thought I was cool.

Still teetering on the edge of healing, without planning, I bolted out of my marriage and secure home into an apartment. Within a few years, I had made a mess of things and was in an even worse state emotionally than I had ever been. Confidence and hope was gone. People were disappointed and angry with me. I was broke, had to sell my car, and eventually decided my only way out was bankruptcy.

Wrong.

But in the state I was in, I could not handle the hounding calls of people wanting the money I had used to make up for the low wages I was working for and I could not see myself going back to what I had been doing before.

I wanted to take a different path. I also needed to get away from the need of people’s approval. Of course, as wounded as I was, along the way, I made other bad choices in jobs I took and people I let into my life, but I was determined to make it on my own.

The good news I stayed out of debt, living on what I earned and/or bartered.

That is, until in 2011 I discovered my Dad needed me for the last few years of his life.

With both of us unprepared financially to deal with health and care challenges, I had to go into debt, around fifteen thousand dollars, to live in his town, be his driver, 24-hour on-call support that also resulted in my not being able to work, and having to move into my brother’s basement.

During the last few extremely stressful and painful years of his life, the hounding calls pummeled my stretched nerves as well as used up my cell phone time I needed to receive calls from Dad’s residences.

In March 2015, Dad finally stopped fighting and chose peace.

The toll on my health was extreme. Two years were needed to catch up on the rest I needed for my body and mind to be restored. The last year has been about resuming the work, Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle, I had started in 2014 before Dad’s life took a major turn for the worse.

Now, it’s time for me to move back into the mainstream of things. Move out of the friend’s place I have stayed the past two years by working for her to pay my keep. It is time to return to Toronto to live and work so I can pay my debts, rather than file for bankruptcy, plus to write and build my company when I am not working for others.

I can and will do this. I have always been able to do well at whatever I take on, but what I have had to learn most is to respect myself enough to look at all the options and make the best choices for me and those I impact.

No, I will not file for bankruptcy. Yes, my credit rating will be restored. And no, just because I was impoverished does not mean I did criminal acts. On the contrary, as my Respect Level has risen, I am proud of how strong, innovative, adaptable, and resilient I have become in getting my needs met … without any criminal or disrespectful acts. Yes, I am moving back to Toronto to earn above-poverty wages. Yes, I will work for someone else until my debts are paid, I am a successful writer and/or my own company is profitable enough to support me and my company’s goals.

The next step is up to the employer who sees me for all I am … one of the best employees you will ever have because I won’t accept a job just to work, but because I believe the job is the best fit for both of us … because I look forward to helping you too.

Respectfully,

Kaitlin

Kaitlin Ann Trepanier

CONNECTING THE DOTS WITH THE RESPECT PRINCIPLE

Founder Entrepreneur Author Artist and Speaker  

© All Rights Reserved 2018                           

NOTE: Kaitlin’s Smashwords interview and Ebooks available at www.smashwords.com

 August 15, 2018

 Link to article …

 

 

 

Working My Way to Being the Next Canadian Company to WIN the CARTIER WOMEN’S INITIATIVE AWARD

It is just a matter of time.

Kaitlin Ann Trepanier

CONNECTING THE DOTS WITH THE RESPECT PRINCIPLE

Founder Entrepreneur Author Artist and Speaker  

© All Rights Reserved 2018                                       

NOTE: Kaitlin’s Smashwords interview and Ebooks available at www.smashwords.com

August 15, 2018

 

 

 

New Home Base … Next New Job … THE SEARCH IS ON!

Found an area in mid Toronto I’m interested in calling home.
Next up, finding a job I am interested in doing that’s easily accessible by transit and/or cycling.
No long commutes because I need that time to write. No desk jobs either because of the desk work I do part-time as a writer and entrepreneur growing a business.
Well, these parameters narrow the job search.
See LinkedIn profile for more information, www.linkedin.com/in/kaitlinanntrepanier
As always, thanks for dropping by. Keep on keeping on … whatever is right for you!
Best,

Kaitlin Ann Trepanier

CONNECTING THE DOTS WITH THE RESPECT PRINCIPLE

Founder Entrepreneur Author Artist and Speaker  

© All Rights Reserved 2018 

August 14, 2018                

NOTE: Kaitlin’s Smashwords interview and Ebooks available at www.smashwords.com

 

 

Which UNIVERSITY To Choose?

Considering rolling my college/university credits into an “Individual Studies” or “Multidisciplinary Program” for a BA Degree.

I may even be able to apply the books I’ve written, the Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle concept, company, and global initiative I’ve developed and launched, the play I have written, am producing, directing, and filming for schools and communities, etc. as credits too. Only time will tell. As for the university, there are several to consider.

Options … lots of options … more than we may realize … so have fun and explore!

Kaitlin Ann Trepanier

CONNECTING THE DOTS WITH THE RESPECT PRINCIPLE

Founder Entrepreneur Author Artist and Speaker  

© All Rights Reserved 2018 

August 13, 2018                                     

NOTE: Kaitlin’s Smashwords interview and Ebooks available at www.smashwords.com

 

 

 

 

MOVE BACK TO TORONTO On The Horizon!

Message loud and clear today, back to Toronto, the city of neighborhoods, I go as the time is right and opportunities abound!
Fortunately, my Etobicoke/Toronto roommate of five years loved the city and shared much of its magic with me, introducing me to many of the neighborhoods, sights, and events, so I don’t find it intimidating like this small town girl once did.
Toronto will be also a great place to produce and present my play, Charles’ Choice, pitch at conventions/conferences, connect with other like-minded folks, attend events, cycle the Waterfront Trail again, do my last two George Brown courses, and overall move forward with my work, while working part-time for someone else and perhaps continuing with healthy volunteer medical studies … as I patiently wait for things like a publishing deal, my TED Fellowship, TED Talk, increased book sales, etc.
WAHOO!
As always, wishing you a grand adventure … whatever that means for you!
Kaitlin

Kaitlin Ann Trepanier

CONNECTING THE DOTS WITH THE RESPECT PRINCIPLE

Founder Entrepreneur Author Artist and Speaker  

© All Rights Reserved 2018 

 August 11, 2018                                  

NOTE: Kaitlin’s Smashwords interview and Ebooks available at www.smashwords.com

 

 

12th BOOK Arriving Soon!

Transforming the story, CHARLES’ CHOICE, I recorded in a studio years ago in an Oshawa studio into script format adds a new dimension not just to the story, but to the writing experience.

Award-winning novelist Carol Shields shared how writing the dialogue for her first play versus a novel challenged her, but I am finding the experience the opposite … writing the dialogue comes easier to me than some of the straight writing I do, but I gather that is because the books I have written lately are non-fiction, which don’t include dialogue.

As a result of a school and community problem, Charles, a school principal decides, opposing conventional methods, to tackle the problem with something new hoping to not only address the one current problem, but many others also.

The play, CHARLES’ CHOICE, presents the Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle concept at the beginning of the play, then further drives the message home through a series of scenes involving a diverse cast of characters who heard the talk. The play can be used alone or in conjunction with other Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle books, products, and services in a school curriculum or as an organization’s ethical foundation.

PUBLISHING / PURCHASING STRUCTURE

The ebook, CHARLES’ CHOICE, will be available soon through the ebook retailer and distributor, Smashwords.

But to meet the challenge of people not producing the play without buying production rights, the ebook will not contain the Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle talk.

Instead, people desiring to produce the play for their school and/or community, will be able to purchase the required production script copies directly in paper or downloadable formats.

The Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle talk will be provided separately as part of the contractual agreement.

Stay tuned for further details and the release date!

Best,

Kaitlin Ann Trepanier

CONNECTING THE DOTS WITH THE RESPECT PRINCIPLE

Founder Entrepreneur Author Artist and Speaker  

© All Rights Reserved 2018 

August 11, 2018

NOTE: Kaitlin’s Smashwords interview and Ebooks available at www.smashwords.com