“3 Psychological Tricks to HELP YOU SAVE Money”

The beauty of understanding ourselves is the power we access to become better versions of ourselves, which makes life so much better for us and those we influence and impact.

Thanks TED and … click link to meet the person who provides you what you need today …

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Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

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January 8, 2019

 

 

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A PEOPLE PLEASER from Way Back, Setting HEALTHY BOUNDARIES Still a Work-in-Process

As a person who is more introverted than extroverted, growing up in a family with more extroverted than introverted people can cause a lot of misunderstandings, confusion, and even pain. Add to the mix, a variety of other beliefs that created further breeches in communications and connecting, becoming a people pleaser to be liked, accepted, and even to be safe, resulted in an impairment to developing healthy boundaries.

Don’t get me wrong, people like people pleasers, because well, people pleasers put their own needs, wants, and lives on the back-burner or even lock them away and instead do what other people want, which of course, is what the opposite unbalanced folks want.

No wonder these types of relationships manifest lose-lose scenarios.

Eventually a stand-off , quiet or not, will happen when the people pleaser reaches his or her tipping point. How the stand-off will happen also depends on the benefit reaper’s personality type, beliefs, conditioning, etc. The stand-off could be a silent parting of ways or with high drama, perhaps under the guise of current problem, but in reality a result of a series of problems created by the people-pleaser’s inability to say no due to his or her lack of healthy boundaries.

Personally and even professionally, to avoid the dramas, I often left because having unhealthy boundaries, I didn’t fully understand the problem and therefore, I couldn’t have the required conversations to turn the personal or professional relationships around or even make the parting ways respectful.

Of course, even if I had been able to have the required conversations, there was always the other person and their contribution, taking advantage, that raised a lot of negative emotions. Being compelled to face his or her own role in an unbalanced, unhealthy personal or professional relationship is not easy for someone used to taking advantage of other people. Embarrassment, guilt, and shame can morph into anger to save face by being caught out.

I know about being the other in such relationships because experience taught me a person had to be one or the other, though mostly I wore the people pleaser (heart) banner on my sleeve for those looking for people like me.

Call it what you will … a low Respect Level, low self-esteem, a belief other people are more valuable … the net result is the same … unbalanced, unhealthy relationships, always with a pending due date.

My personal and professional work to understand, heal, change, and grow  beyond such limiting, unbalanced, and unhealthy relationships resulted in the development of Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle, a philosophy and global initiative to foster the mentality everyone person is valuable … to be respected … simply for being a life, which is why I share articles such as Hailey Magee’s to help us all on our lifelong journey of learning to become the best version of ourselves.

As for my lifelong habit of leaving? Sometimes, leaving is still the respectful thing to do, but the drama I save for the arts.

Check out Hailey’s 9 Tips for ways to create healthier boundaries …

How to Set Better Boundaries: 9 Tips for People Pleasers by Hailey Magee for Tiny Buddha

https://tinybuddha.com/blog/how-to-set-better-boundaries-9-tips-for-people-pleasers/

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January 6, 2019

WANT HAPPY EMPLOYEES? Learn What Those With Happy Employees Know …

Check out Michael C. Bush’s research shared in his TED Talk. Click link!

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January 5, 2019

 

 

“How to Tell If Someone is Truly Smart or Just Average” … or HOW TO BECOME SMARTER THAN AVERAGE

Average is fine if you are happy, but if average is not satisfying, then getting smarter, like learning any skill, takes effort.

Read Michael’s story as a first step beyond average.

By Michael Simmons November 8, 2017 for Pocket

https://getpocket.com/explore/item/how-to-tell-if-someone-is-truly-smart-or-just-average

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Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

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January 5, 2019

“LIFE WITHOUT PLASTIC: Pioneer Families Show How It’s Done”

“Carrier bags are easy to replace and milk can come in glass bottles. But what about deodorant, toothbrushes and clingfilm?”

Nasheen Iqbal December 29, 2018 for The Guardian

Not all of us will go to these extremes, but every bit helps …  click and learn

https://www.theguardian.com/environment/2018/dec/29/how-to-live-without-plastic

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January 3, 2019

 

 

 

The EBOOK WORLD from Smashwords’ CEO

The 2018 Recap …

http://blog.smashwords.com/2018/12/smashwords-2018-year-in-review.html?fbclid=IwAR2Mt5fBUtfiRDj-jmuge6Zn218GrhOn3Bc0TkcSNx75POtG3mmQdVhufDQ

The 2019 Forecast …

My annual publishing predictions post – http://blog.smashwords.com/…/2019-book-industry-predictions…

by Mark Coker, CEO of ebook distributor and retailer, Smashwords

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January 3, 2019