About Spirit Ranch

Once established, Spirit Ranch will complement Covenant House as a home base for youth who need a safe place to launch into adulthood. In contrast to Covenant House and other city-based centres though, Spirit Ranch, will specifically suit introverted youth who thrive better in quiet environments and/or those from rural areas that are not safely prepared for city living where they often become prey to people who target introverts who are often loners.

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER

Specialist Writer Speaker Social Entrepreneur Founder and President

of Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

Smashwords interview @  www.smashwords.com

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January 18, 2020

 

2020 Marks 25th Anniversary

This April marks the most important anniversary of my life.

No, the anniversary is not a wedding anniversary, which for some people can sometimes just be a marker of time, rather than a celebration of love or a work anniversary.

Instead, for me, this 25th anniversary marks something more important than a passage of time to me–it marks the year when unconditional love cracked opened my hardened heart.

A multitude of reasons, since I was a child, shutdown my ability to love unconditionally, which you will be able to read about in my upcoming book, Carpenter’s Daughter, but that is not the point of today’s story.

Instead, the point of today’s story focuses on the time and place of meeting someone who served as the final catalyst that thrust me into the life I was destined to live, rather than the life I was living to get and keep people’s approval, plus to feel safe and protected.

The circumstances; the timing, the place, and the person all came together perfectly. A self-discovery journey had revealed my passion, writing, especially to help, inspire, and motivate people to discover and realize their unique potential, healing them through the process.

A husband and other people in my life who did not approve or like the changes I was making to our lives, revealed a hunger for approval and to be liked for who I really was and was working to reclaim.

Admittedly, I was prone to running away from problems because when I was younger I had not developed the relationship skills I needed for healthy relationships, but that was changing from the personal work I was doing, in part, catalyzed by a year and a half working with a psychologist to deal with trauma resulting from my formative years and my determination to become the best version of myself.

How much work I had yet to do revealed itself when I met him.

An Easter Monday in April was the mark of passage. My first day on a new job, a three-day-a-week  contract merchandising job for a souvenir company resulted in my standing in a line up of warehouse workers awaiting their direction from a small Asian man. Dismissed from the early morning meeting, we broke from our line, and that is when I saw him.

Well, it was not so much as seeing a tall, lean man walk in another direction from where I was stationed for my training, but a tingly sense in my gut, invoking the words in my head, “Oh no, I am in trouble.”

I had no idea what these words would really mean over time, how my life was going to be affected, and altered beyond expectations.

Of course, first came the final destruction of the life I had been living and knew in my heart I had to leave. And sadly the destruction of the good reputation I had established as a hard worker that previously exceeded expectations

In other words, I made an absolute fool of myself.

For a variety of reasons, healthy boundaries were not something I had learned or developed over the years. Plus, the traumas I had experienced made me very skittish, pushing me away from what I knew was an incredible thing because I was afraid I thought meeting might be my total undoing, while also compelling me to act compulsively, though not in good ways.

The net result was a lot of confusion and pain that clouded incredible clarity and joy. Suddenly, several years later, all the players in this drama were living their separate distant lives.

As time went by, the confusion and pain ebbed and faced, but not the clarity and joy. As if yesterday, I remembered, rediscovered and reclaimed the unconditional love I experienced during the times we spent together working or hanging out: the unconditional love I have finally learned to give myself and others, further made possible by the ever-present unconditional love I am experiencing these days as I study the Bible and accept God’s unconditional love.

No, the man, whose soul reached into mine and helped bring me back to life, is not with me physically, yet he always deep within me, which is why I am writing today to say “Thank you” for being the perfect person at the perfect time for my return to love.

So, Happy 25th Anniversary to me and to the man who was a crucial catalyst on my healing journey. I hope your life now is all your heart and soul needs it be for you to thrive too.

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER

Specialist Writer Speaker Social Entrepreneur Founder and President

of Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

Smashwords interview @  www.smashwords.com

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January 18, 2020

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

“Why Should You Be A Guinea Pig?”

Linked article by Wendy Haaf for Good Times

https://goodtimes.ca/why-should-you-be-a-guinea-pig/

And personally, volunteering for medical studies/clinical trials resulted in:

  1. Inspiring the gratefulness that I am healthy and as a result have been able to help save peoples lives and/or to increase their quality of living by serving as a guinea pig for drug companies
  2. Feeling blessed for the tax free income boost awarded to me for my compliance to the research facilities and study/trial rules, for my transportation costs, for the discomfort/related because of blood draws, being woken during the night, fasting, and restricted diets, plus for the inconvenience of being away from home and staying in dorm environments
  3. Being fortunate to meet people from many different backgrounds, origins, etc. that broadened my perspectives as a researcher and writer

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER

Specialist Writer Speaker Social Entrepreneur Founder and President

of Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

Smashwords interview @  www.smashwords.com

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January 5, 2020

Co-Founder Opportunity Details

Welcome!

Thank you for your interest in the “Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle” co-founder opportunity.

You are:

1. Searching for an opportunity to satisfy your compassion and realize more of your altruistic potential, plus earn income from work that satisfies on all levels.

2. Committed to making a positive change in the lives of individuals and all people.

3. Willing to demonstrate your commitment by investing in a social business venture whose intellectual capital is original and currently solely owned by the creator, founder, and president.

Your Personality Type, based on the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI), complements the founder’s Personality Type, as do your beliefs, values, and experiences.

If you are interested in this key role driving the global initiative to transform respect from a discretionary value to a global foundational belief, please contact me initially through LinkedIn.

I look forward to hearing from you to discover the value you believe you can add to make 2020 a better year for those who need our help.

On behalf of those who cannot speak for or help themselves, thank you! And best wishes!

Wholeheartedly,

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER

Specialist Writer Speaker Social Entrepreneur Founder and President

of Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

Smashwords interview @  www.smashwords.com

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Updated January 4, 2020

What Is Going On In The World Is Everybody’s Business

The world’s problems may feel overwhelming as can our thoughts about how we may not believe what we can do will make a difference. But just like those who give no thought or care to what they do to cause harm, through indifference or anger or hate, we can counter their harm by doing good.

And in fact we must for many reasons.

One, for survival.

You have probably heard the story about the scorpion and the frog.  Paraphrased here, the scorpion comes to the edge of a body of water and says, “Hey frog, give me a ride to the other side.” The frog laughs and replies, “No way! You will sting me and we will both drown.” Now the scorpion, being the charmer he is, replies, “No I won’t because I don’t want to drown!” Wanting to believe because he’s a good guy, the frog slides close to the scorpion so the scorpion can climb on his back and says, “All right. Hop on.” When the frog finally hits his stride in the water, suddenly he feels the scorpion’s sting and he yells, “Aah! You said you wouldn’t sting me!” Sadly, knowing they are both going to die, the scorpion sighs and replies, “I know. But it’s my nature” as they both slip below the water’s surface forever.

Thankfully we are not scorpions. As human beings, we have the power to change our beliefs, our thoughts, words, and actions.

Not doing our part to steward the earth responsibly contributes to our and the future generations demise. Our contributions to buying less, using less, especially plastic, re-purposing as well as re-cycling, buying from responsible companies and countries are just some of the positive contributions we make to our environmental world that supports our existence.

Not doing our part to change how we treat each other also contributes to most of the societal and economic problems that could be solved individually and collectively. Instead of ostracizing those struggling in our families, communities, nations, and globally, pulling them into the circle, not by force or manipulation, but by acceptance, seeking to understand, and aiding diminishes the need for government intervention and extra taxes because citizens are addressing needs at the grass roots level rather than the need for taxes beyond infrastructure needs.

Not doing our part to keep learning to enlarge our understanding about our differences, inhibits our willingness to accept people’s differences and therefore our compassion, instead forcing people to conform to the point that we foster mental and physical illnesses, plus addictions and even crime that further send people off balance and add more strain to our social structure, including increasing violence.

Not doing our part to live and let live, breeds the prejudice and hate that fuels everything from bullying to sexual abuse/assault, from caregiver abuse to domestic violence, from employee abuse to employer abuse, from leadership tyranny to financial abuse, from local violence and crime to terrorism and wars.

Not doing our part to help each individual discover and develop their unique blend of talents and potential in the end is comparable to the scorpion stinging and killing the frog because we poison, destroy, and even contribute to, or even kill the unique value each person, each life’s potential could add to the quality of our own lives.

For these reasons and more, we do not need to feel overwhelmed by the state of the world nor do we have to write off that what we could do as unimportant because the point is everyone matters as does what we choose to do, personally and together.

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER

Specialist Writer Speaker Social Entrepreneur Founder and President

of Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

Smashwords interview @  www.smashwords.com

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January 2, 2020

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

“Why Do People Mistake Narcissism For High Self Esteem?”

If not right away, time will reveal the truth: a narcissist’s perspective is, “It’s all about me at any cost to anyone else.”

Linked article by Scott Barry Kaufman for Scientific American on Pocket

https://getpocket.com/explore/item/why-do-people-mistake-narcissism-for-high-self-esteem?utm_source=pocket-newtab

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KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER

Specialist Writer Speaker Social Entrepreneur Founder and President

of Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

Smashwords interview @  www.smashwords.com

© All Rights Reserved 2014-2020

December 28, 2019

More Than A Feeling, Love Is A Choice …

More than a feeling, love is a choice, demonstrated by actions as well as words. May your Christmas and New Year reflect your choice to love unconditionally.

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER

Specialist Writer Speaker Social Entrepreneur Founder and President

of Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

Smashwords interview @  www.smashwords.com

© All Rights Reserved 2014-2019 

December 24, 2019