Pro-Life and Pro-Choice … One is Not Possible Without the Other

I am pro-life and pro-choice … because one is not possible without the other.

Only when girls and women are respected enough by men and by women and girls themselves to not get pregnant … except by conscious choice of the responsibility are pro-choice and pro-life possible …. which is why sex education and raising individual and societal “Respect Levels” are key to preventing unwanted pregnancies, especially those resulting from naivety, incest, and sexual assault.

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER
Specialist, Writer, Speaker, Social Entrepreneur, Founder and President
http://www.connectingthedotswiththerespectprinciple.com
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September 23, 2020

“What Can We Learn From People Who Succeed Later in Life?

Shared TED.ideas video …

https://ideas.ted.com/what-can-we-learn-from-people-who-succeed-later-in-life/?utm_medium=referral&utm_content=2020-7-23&utm_campaign=social&utm_source=linkedin.com

Shared Forbes magazine article …

https://www.forbes.com/sites/nextavenue/2019/03/12/what-we-can-learn-from-people-who-succeed-late-in-life/#697e61411014

Personally, I have learned never to give up on a dream, vision, goal because, like the folks we are introduced to in the video and article, I am just getting started at my age. And frankly I am fortunate because my very diverse experiences have prepared me for what I am working on now. Added to that is the fact I have never been so motivated and excited about work as I am now with the goal to transform respect from a discretionary value to a global principle that will raise the standard and quality of living of all people, while also fostering the development of potential and the peace born of valuing all life.

Whatever is in you to do, step up, take the chance, and do your part to make the world a better place in whatever way works for you.

Wholeheartedly,
Kaitlin

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER

Specialist, Writer, Speaker, Social Entrepreneur, Founder and President

Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

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August 3, 2020

Evaluate Like A Scientist And Act With The Heart To Be Wise

Anybody can say or write anything they want, but that does not make it true.

Research, study, and evaluation can distinguish truths from lies … over time.

There has, and likely will always be people and forces who, for a number of reasons, want to stir up discord, create chaos, and overall use fear as their primary tool to influence, control, and even terrorize people.

Different people call such forces different things. In Christianity, the one who constantly seeks to destroy is called Satan or the Devil. His primary tools are lying, deceit, and deception … all of which are employed directly by him or by people he has gained control over to make people live in fear and hate rather than trust and love. He works constantly to stir up trouble, divide people, and even cause death and destruction.

Before recently embracing God and Christianity, as a social scientist and philosopher, I sought answers to the hypocrisy I observed in the Catholicism I grew up with and in general, Christianity, as well as in different religions and philosophies throughout history and in the present I have studied.

Long before I returned to Christianity, I researched, studied, and evaluated Christianity in depth before choosing to believe in God, Jesus, and the Holy Spirit because I went to the source, The Bible, to discover the whole truth from the source, versus what was extracted by religious sects, such as Catholicism.

Applying the same principle of study and evaluation to the Coronavirus pandemic, plus my new understanding of the negative force in this world that seeks to destroy using any means possible, including conspiracy theories designed to boost fear, manifest panic, and generate inappropriate, even deadly consequences, I am sharing the scientific, the spiritual, and the philosophical processes.

1. Scientifically, check your sources

2. Spiritually, question your heart

3. Philosophically, act according to the scientific evaluation and to your spiritual beliefs of heart heart

Inside us all, when we dig deep inside, we inherently know what is right and what is wrong. And though the digging is not always the easiest thing to do, we know it is the wisest and most beneficial to us … and to everyone else we share the world with.

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER

Specialist, Writer, Speaker, Social Entrepreneur, Founder and President

Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

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June 3, 2020

 

 

Linked article by Timothy Caulfield for CBC Edmonton, Alberta Canada

https://www.cbc.ca/news/canada/edmonton/timothy-caulfield-university-of-alberta-conspiracy-theories-covid-19-1.5590649

 

Is Freedom and Civil Disobedience, For Any Reason, Justifiable?

If every human was conscientious and never acted disrespectfully towards another human, freedom would be very different in our world. We would be able to trust that no person or organization would, consciously or not, seek to take advantage of or harm another person or group of people.

But, since that freedom definition is the ideal versus the reality, laws, courts, and prisons were created to help prevent, but also deal with those who harmed others, intentionally or not.

As someone who desperately sought the freedom to live the life right for me, not defined by other people’s expectations and wants, I felt caged by invisible bars. As a result, for years the desire to be accepted for my differences caused me to do the crazy dance of acing like most people I knew and then in defiance, when the restraint became overwhelming, I acted out, hurting both other people and myself.

Freedom finally came to me along with the wisdom no one gets to define my life, my beliefs, and my actions, so now  I live my life as I need to do for my own well-being. People like Nelson Mandela also helped me to understand what real freedom feels and looks like. Fortunately also, wisdom provided the respect and compassion to not force my beliefs and actions on another person or group, but also to be aware of how my beliefs and actions affect others.

Right now, after many weeks of lockdown due to the COVID-19 pandemic, people are crying “Freedom” and this morning I even heard an American restaurant owner, who had opened his restaurant and served a large number of people not practising social distancing, also cry out his and their civil liberties are being violated, so his civil disobedience is his and his customers’ right.

But civil disobedience, exemplified in Henry David Thoreau’s essay, “Civil Disobedience” that is part of many high school curriculum, is not about doing what one wants for any reason … it is about doing what one can to object to political leadership … that is harmful.

Sadly, though, many people who are citing freedom and resorting to civil disobedience are not acting to protect others as is its intention, in this case other people’s health, but to satisfy their personal wants, risking the lives of others for their own satisfaction and gain, for which there are many words, which I will leave to your imagination.

Yes, most of us are being hit economically for many reasons. Food prices keep climbing, but that does not mean we have the freedom to steal. People who sell us food often work for low wages and need their jobs, so they are forced to work. What about their freedom? Are medical staff free to choose who they help? What about their freedom?  What about other essential workers and their freedom? And all the people being forced back to work by employers to meet company income needs, personal income needs, and citizens needs, what about their freedom?

People are dying. Health care costs are skyrocketing. Life as we have known has been shutdown. This pandemic is not just about one person wants. It is about all of us … men, women, teens, and children around the world. Leaders are struggling, trying to do their best to help the people they govern. In-fighting is happening in governments. Protesting is an option … but putting the lives of others at risk to do so … the innocent … is not. Right now it may be not be a criminal law, however, it is a crime against humanity to act with such disregard for other life because someone thinks he or she is more important …  more valuable than anyone else.

It is time to get a grip on ourselves. It is time to support our nations and fellow citizens. It is time to step up and recognize our global citizenship. We may not like it, but let’s put the present scenario in perspective. We are at war. You have been called to be a soldier and do your part for the greater good of your nation and our global nation.

When enough of us finally grasp this reality, we will all win because we will not have so many people needing to feel more special that they seek to put themselves above all others and in the end, hurt not only themselves, but the people they impact. We will see ourselves truly equally, not slaves to ego and pride, but servants for the greater good, which also enriches our individual worlds too, empowering us with the freedom to be our unique selves that contributes in our unique way … adding versus subtracting to the quality of life of humanity … one person at a time.

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER

Specialist, Writer, Speaker, Social Entrepreneur, Founder and President

Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

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May 12, 2020

 

 

 

 

 

A Powerful Viable Philosophy

Respect (value) everyone is not just logical, practical, and compassionate … a powerful, viable philosophy to cross all barriers, including religious … it is as I later discovered after my scientific research and thesis development, a Biblical directive: “Respect everyone.” 1 Peter 2:15

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER

Specialist, Writer, Speaker, Social Entrepreneur, Founder and President

Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

© All Rights Reserved 2014-2019

May 9, 2020

To Whom It May Concern

My waking up to the realities of my life, including the ones I had buried and other realities people also refused to believe or denied resulted, not just in the end of a nineteen-year marriage, but my slide into a deep, debilitating depression.

The marriage ending was no surprise, in retrospect, because it was built on falseness, including my own. Falseness created by a woman-child who had been severely harmed in her younger years and, subconsciously, was looking for safety in the guise of what was considered normal.

But the truth must come out or we, all of us, pay the consequences for living not just an unauthentic life, but a life that needs to be supported by acceptable untruths to make other people allow us into the pack.

We may appear to fit into the pack we think we need to be a part of to the point we become chameleons, sadly adapting to the point we lose our identity.

In the mid 1990’s, I realized I had lost mine and became undone.

Facing long-buried memories my mind had protected me from resulted in a waking up that was actually exhilarating because finally things and my life were starting to make sense. And even though successful in many people’s eyes, deep down I knew I was living marginally compared to what I, and some other people, believed I was capable of doing.

In the process of reclaiming my true identity, talents, and skills, I did not change my life, but also the lives of people in my life. Many people were hurt or angry, or both, and most walked, even ran away, though appearances made it look as if I was running away. In truth, they had left me, though not physically, long before I had the courage to leave.

Then I met someone who treated me with respect, care, and acceptance beyond what I had ever known, But, broken as I had been before I married, the end of many relationships, including the long-term marriage, resulted from many people’s unwillingness to just let me explore what was revealed as important to me and to let me in my own time and in my own way.

Sadly, but understandably now, even he ran away because well, I was literally falling apart at the seams and no one I knew wanted to be around so I left … dropped out of the life I had known.

Trying to save face and keep myself afloat, I denied the deep depression grabbing at my ankles, trying to pull me into a dark abyss. Money became an issue when I was laid off, but since my head was fogged with bad daydreams and worse nightmares, plus pride, overcoming the shame to seek and ask for help was prevented and I found myself slipping further into the abyss.

With no money, bills piling up, credit maxed to the limit, no food, and a roof over my head would soon not be able to afford, my body and my spirit laid down for ten days, barely getting out of bed to go to the washroom and take a sip of water. Only when someone showed up and discovered my state did things start to change, though not for the better.

In a matter of weeks, I found myself living in a suburban home in a room, ashamedly paid for by welfare. In a month, an unexpected call from a retail art and framing gallery. Finally, I was climbing up rather than sliding down. And I was grateful for a job where I was left alone to do a job in a world I wanted to explore. Creditors were the only ones interested in me now and I could not bear the harsh, cruel worlds and threats, so, since I had no idea how or when things were going to turn around I bowed my head further and filed for bankruptcy, handing my much-loved motorcycle back to the bank.

When I had expressed interest in moving to the west coast, a finance professional suggested I make the move so I could get my life back on track, including clearing my debts without the abusive creditors’ pressure. But, still gripped tightly by depression and a profound loss of confidence, I did not see a way to make the move. And frankly, I did not want to move away from those I loved, even if they no longer loved me, because I was clinging to the hope they would come back for me, in order to keep me moving forward.

After all I have been through, credit was not something I wanted to get involved with again and for several years I avoided it. But, when I was compelled by circumstances to move back to the place where I used to and where my dad still lived to help him through his last years, I could not do it without credit because I was forced to quit work to be on call for him twenty four hours a day. There was no other other financial support available to me.

When the collection calls started to come this time, I referred to the letters I had sent all my creditors explaining that I would not file for bankruptcy, but at some point I would pay back all my debts to them personally, and eventually with interest. Collection companies though would not listen and I discovered through the wretched process yet another significant contributor to abuse and its impact on people already struggling … a humanitarian injustice I will work to change.

And as someone who is now dedicated fully now to transforming how people are treated, regardless of their differences, circumstances, etc., I have been applying for grants to reboot the social business venture I initially started in 2014, but was stalled by parental care needs and the fallout of that time period.

I was inspired to share this glimpse of my life with the supporters of my quest to transform respect from a discretionary value to a global principle, with those who just want the money that was not even theirs to begin with and any interested party.

In time, God’s timing I believe, my company will secure the grants needed to get off the ground, running, and thriving. And in time, the creditors who enabled me to be there with my dad during his last, very difficult years will receive the rewards, not just of the money returned with interest, but also with the valuable lesson that not all people are out to screw creditors and treating people respectfully provides the motivation people need to repay debts rather than write them off. Financial institutions, as well as businesses, are also accountable too for exploiting people, especially low income people who earn poverty wages businesses offer, pay high percentages of their income for rent and utilities, and are encouraged strongly by media to want what they cannot afford.

With the COVID-19 pandemic being the going concern and the buzz phrase, “We’re in this together” promoting the impact we have on each other, now is the time to really get it … that we are all connected and what one person, one group, one organization, and one nation do impacts us all, so how and what we choose to do makes us problem makers or problem solvers.

As someone finally wide-awake, I choose to be a problem solver and  fortunately, inherently I excel at problem solving because of the way I see things.

As for whom it may concern, know this … I now know, mistakes and all, I am just as valuable as anyone else and no one gets to treat me as anything less than one worthy of respect … simply for being a life.

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April 18, 2020

 

 

 

 

 

“More Than Funny”

 

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March 14, 2020

Covenant House

“Covenant House is the largest privately funded agency in the Americas providing shelter, food, immediate crisis care, and an array of other services to homeless and runaway youth. Wikipedia

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February 29, 2020

 

An Unusual Business Model and Opportunities For An Unusual Mission

What do you do when something is broken and those responsible do not see it is broken or refuse to fix it? You have to find or create something new. Creating something new is what this article is about.

For years, I voluntarily served on various non-profit boards as a director or on a project team or as a volunteer providing a service, such as assisting disabled horseback riders, or even as a paid secretary-treasurer. For years, I worked professionally in a variety of business environments from corporate, retail, and factory, plus as a contractor, sole proprietor, writer, and artist.

Formal education includes business administration, visual arts, design and communication arts, plus some university studies. Additionally I was in a one-year self-employment program and I took a variety of one-off courses, such as marketing and basic French. Various roles included, but have not been limited to department store assistant manager, head cashier, office manager, storefront manager, desk manager, operations contractor planner, human resources assistant, business planning assistant factory worker, nanny, cook, and odd jobs.

As you can tell, I love to explore the world and learn new things, yet I also love to innovate and transfer my natural talents and skills to a variety of roles and responsible for which I have been very successful. Because my learning environment was not financially supported by a university or business, financial success was moderated by the poverty wages paid for part-time contract work,  the reality that is now common to an increasing number of people. Yet, most of my in-depth education has been acquired through personal experience, plus self-directed research and studies done during the past twenty some years.

A key component of my self-directed studies has been the motivation to learn from others who have presented a new idea or created something new and what they experienced. I needed to learn from people who were not in my more limited social and professional circle, but were risk takers, so I could learn what it takes to become successful, fulfilling both a mission and vision, as well as financial independence.

In a nutshell, I learned that the current business models in Canada and in many other countries do not serve innovative creators, but in fact are the nemesis of such people.

EXAMINING THE OPTIONS

Last fall, I spoke with a community administrator who informed me that project grants were only available to artists if artists were not going to make any money from the creative project, begging the question, why should an artist or anyone be forced to work for free or worse: even create something new that many would benefit from, yet not be able to earn income from their creations? Do farmers not get paid? Do ministers minister for free? Do politicians work for free?  Does an inventor not get paid for his invention?

That is, of course, if an innovative creation is not outright stolen first.

When I professionally worked for others and when I volunteered, my ideas resulted in saving organizations a lot of money, such as reducing a monthly planning cycle by one week. But when I struck out on my own, I discovered many people who were eager to take my ideas, even the ones in print for their own use. Some people even tried, unsuccessfully in the long term, to take credit for my creations and make it their own, either oblivious to copyright laws or just did not care about them.

I also encountered people who told me that usually the creator is not the best person to run the company. Such people may get a token role as a board member or consultant, but the creation and rights are handed over to a board of directors and a manager. Unfortunately, when that happens, time and time again, it has been proven that such takeovers often shift the priority from mission first to profit first, at any cost, which I am determined will not happen in this case.

Someone once asked me, “What if someone steals my idea?” I laughed and replied, “Just the act of attempting to steal the idea would prove they really did not get the concept and therefore could not have been the creator.”

A consultant who lead a business workshop and an angel investor’s contest seminar I attended later contacted me to inform me he had created a business plan for my innovative creation, without asking my permission first.

A friend with more formal arts education took over my role for two performance workshops I sold, leaving me to sit on the sidelines while he took the credit and half the money. Additionally, a professional who should have know better, figured she could just take the concept on the road as if she owned the rights by paying for a workshop.

I could go on, but instead, I was motivated to also be innovative and creative to protect my rights, while using what I have created to help the many people, who are often exploited by people who have little or no respect for what is not theirs.

THE UNUSUAL SOLUTION FOR THE UNUSUAL MISSION
Surprisingly, I was inspired by legal and accounting firms, yet also by film production companies operating as limited liability partnership firms.

Of course, discovering first hand and from research what happens to corporations of any kind, also motivated me to instead transform my sole proprietorship in the future to a limited liability partnership in order to prevent the social business venture from being transformed into a political, profiteering organization.

Bringing on four management partners will result in partner investments, a vested commitment, the opportunity to belong to an unusual organization designed to do good on a grand scale, and also the acquisition of their bonuses from their partnership’s  percentage based on net profits.

There is a lot of talk about equality these days, but after working directly for management and in human resources, as well as a manager, trainer, and  supervisor, this social business exemplifies what equal pay for equal work is supposed to look like. My salary and the partners’ salaries are all the same and will remain the same even with increases. The only difference is with regard to year end net profit distribution. Each four partners (see the online job descriptions) will receive five percent annually, while I as developer, founder, and president will receive ten percent  initially, leaving seventy percent to be poured back into the business. In time, the percentage will skew as funds will also be redirected to establish the foundation and Spirit Ranch and as otherwise required. (Visit  http://www.connectingthedotswiththerespectprinciple.com for additional information.)

THE CHALLENGES

Transforming respect from a discretionary value to a global principle may seem daunting, but then again, any great work is daunting, often seeming impossible.

Not being a non-profit organization or even a for-profit organization means most grant sources are not available for this global initiative. In contrast to the typical organizations, contributor recognition can only be acknowledged by being listed as one of the supporters rather than being provided with a tax receipt for writing off contributions. This method also serves to separate the philanthropists from the altruists.

Borrowing money, whether through investors or any other means, also puts the social business venture’s integrity at risk, including the potential loss of ownership for something I have spent much of my life developing. From my perspective, I have given and sold enough to others, it is time to fully respect my work and be paid accordingly as everyone else should be also.

The goal this year is to secure the initial financial support for the first project and/or year and after that to become financially independent through sales, rather than dependent on the whims of politics and other influencing factors that are often reflections of the interest of a few  people rather than all people.

THE SOLUTION

We know tradition has its place. It reminds us from where we have come, which can either help or hinder us as we move forward in the present and into the future. And we can learn from the wise ones who have come before us. In this particular case,  Albert Einstein’s wisdom rings loud and clear, “Doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results is insanity.”

Let us not continue to be trapped by thinking that “what was” is still “what needs to be.” Our world has changed and continues to change more rapidly, so we all have to continuously adapt in order not just to survive, but to thrive. And that means all of us, rather than a select minority who are in control and work diligently to keep it that way, proven by the fact that the wealthy could use their means to eradicate the majority of the world’s problems, but historically and presently continue to choose not to do so–which means we must be the change we need to thrive as individuals, families, and collectives that share the world with everyone.

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER

Specialist Writer Speaker Social Entrepreneur Founder and President

of Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

Smashwords interview @  www.smashwords.com

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February 19, 2020

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

About Spirit Ranch

Once established, Spirit Ranch will complement Covenant House as a home base for youth who need a safe place to launch into adulthood. In contrast to Covenant House and other city-based centres though, Spirit Ranch, will specifically suit introverted youth who thrive better in quiet environments and/or those from rural areas that are not safely prepared for city living where they often become prey to people who target introverts who are often loners.

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER

Specialist Writer Speaker Social Entrepreneur Founder and President

of Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

Smashwords interview @  www.smashwords.com

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January 18, 2020