“The Emotional Intelligence Test Was So Accurate It Was Creepy”

Linked article by Rich Bellis for Fast Company on Pocket Worthy

https://getpocket.com/explore/item/this-emotional-intelligence-test-was-so-accurate-it-was-creepy?utm_source=pocket-newtab

In a world dominated by narcissism … in other words, the it’s-all-about-me mindset … and a sociopathic mindset … in other words, I-am-concerned-with-me-not-you-mindset … it is easy to understand why “Emotional Intelligence” is underdeveloped or impaired in many people in our world today.

I say many because if we look at the impact highlighted by the actual statistics based on crimes … child neglect, child sexual abuse, sexual assaults, domestic violence, human trafficking, racial, religion, and because-you-are-different attacks, plus blue and white collar crime (statistics revealing the ones that we know of, not the many we don’t), we find the proven evidence for low Emotional Intelligence that is an indicator of sociopathic narcissism and therefore of low “Respect Levels.”

As someone with an very unusual personality type who suffered greatly at the hands of people with low EI and in turn, sometimes gave back some of which I received, I personally know what having a low EI feels and looks like. Wanting to break negative patterns in me to generate different results, has meant, like it does with all change, looking at myself and then searching for the knowledge I needed to become aware of so I could see, not where I was bad or deficient, but where I was ignorant of what I needed to know to become, by my behaviour as well as my thoughts, the person I knew I initially was … very caring and concerned for others as well as for myself.

With a “Respect Level” finally above the 50% mark, I am grateful for the significant changes that has restored much of my true character before the world did a number on it. And I have to admit, I still have work to do to ramp up my EI to a level I will be satisfied with, which for me as an Intuitspecifically means reigning in my “Impulse Control.” So, the personal works goes on as does the professional work of helping others on their journeys by sharing what others and I have learned from our journeys.

Best wishes,

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER
Specialist, Writer, Speaker, Social Entrepreneur, Founder and President
http://www.connectingthedotswiththerespectprinciple.com
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September 16, 2020

Respect … The Way Back Into Love

Upcoming book release.

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER
Specialist, Writer, Speaker, Social Entrepreneur, Founder and President
http://www.connectingthedotswiththerespectprinciple.com
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September 12, 2020

To Respect Simply Means To Value

English words often have more than one meaning, which can even include contrary meanings, but when I researched the word “respect”, all definitions included the words “to value.” Since I was searching for a word, a concept that would cross all boundaries and reflect the belief every person is valuable simply for being a life, respect became a philosophy, has been adopted as principle, and now drives the global initiative because …

ctdwtrp quote block black to respect simply means to value

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER
Specialist, Writer, Speaker, Social Entrepreneur, Founder and President
http://www.connectingthedotswiththerespectprinciple.com
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August 27, 2020

Submitting TED Fellowship Application This Week!

Hello my worldly blog followers! I have been away from the Internet and this blog for days as I worked to prepare my TED Fellowship application to submit on behalf of the “Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle” global initiative to “transform respect from a discretionary value to a global principle” thereby raising the standard of living and quality of life of all people … so I am sure you understand and appreciate my absenteeism.

As always, thank you for coming by and I hope your week holds something that excites you and fills you with hope too!

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER
Specialist, Writer, Speaker, Social Entrepreneur, Founder and President
http://www.connectingthedotswiththerespectprinciple.com
© All Rights Reserved 2014-2020
August 16, 2020

“Better Brain Health”

A DW Documentary about the impact of what we eat on our brain’s processing and mental health …

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TLpbfOJ4bJU

Shared by …

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER

Specialist, Writer, Speaker, Social Entrepreneur, Founder and President

Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

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August 5, 2020

FACE MASKS … When Facts Are Not Enough

The COVID-19 serves not only as a reminder of human frailty, but also of human strength … plus our fears and biases.

Many of us have heard the reasons for wearing a face mask and many of us are being directed to do so, but some people are refusing, for a number of reasons, including those made by people, such as the MD’s video I watched yesterday, who was arguing “facts”for not wearing a mask during the pandemic. He talked about the dangers to mask wearers and encouraged people not to wear a mask.

However, the “facts” he presented, true or not or even partial, did not take into consideration the humane choice.

Plus, his “facts” raised a few red flags for us to consider…

1. If his facts are true, that wearing masks will ultimately kill us, then our medical providers are in deep trouble and so are we, as a result, because we won’t have medical providers after this pandemic is resolved.

2. During the 1918 flu pandemic millions and millions of people died because they did not know what we know … that pandemics and plagues happen … and it is better to take precautions, the best we know how to do, rather than not, in order to protect not just ourselves, but everyone else.

3. Our world can be influenced by those who appear to be acting in our interests, but underneath have self-serving and/or even destructive motives.

For me, the analysis of the facts is not enough to guide my choice to wear a mask or not because most of us don’t have the means or knowledge to test everyone’s hypothesis and their “facts.”

So, logically, at this time, it makes sense to wear a mask in order to not add to the spreading of COVID-19.

And compassionately, it makes sense to me to wear a mask because I would rather take the chance of dying after wearing a mask to protect others rather than worry more about myself and choosing not to wear a mask because that is not a world I want to continue to live in anyway.

What about you?

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER

Specialist, Writer, Speaker, Social Entrepreneur, Founder and President

Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

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August 5, 2020

“What Can We Learn From People Who Succeed Later in Life?

Shared TED.ideas video …

https://ideas.ted.com/what-can-we-learn-from-people-who-succeed-later-in-life/?utm_medium=referral&utm_content=2020-7-23&utm_campaign=social&utm_source=linkedin.com

Shared Forbes magazine article …

https://www.forbes.com/sites/nextavenue/2019/03/12/what-we-can-learn-from-people-who-succeed-late-in-life/#697e61411014

Personally, I have learned never to give up on a dream, vision, goal because, like the folks we are introduced to in the video and article, I am just getting started at my age. And frankly I am fortunate because my very diverse experiences have prepared me for what I am working on now. Added to that is the fact I have never been so motivated and excited about work as I am now with the goal to transform respect from a discretionary value to a global principle that will raise the standard and quality of living of all people, while also fostering the development of potential and the peace born of valuing all life.

Whatever is in you to do, step up, take the chance, and do your part to make the world a better place in whatever way works for you.

Wholeheartedly,
Kaitlin

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER

Specialist, Writer, Speaker, Social Entrepreneur, Founder and President

Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

© All Rights Reserved 2014-2020

August 3, 2020

To Mask or Not to Mask

When “freedom” is used a means to do what we want … regardless of the impact on others, it may be freedom, but it is a selfish, narcissistic, and sociopathic freedom that disregards and devalues the lives of others so we can feel more important than others … which we are not.

Still not sure? Consider these scenarios  …

Sexual predators want to be free to do what they want. Should they?

Criminals want to be free to do what they want. Should they?

Terrorists want to be free to do what they want? Should they?

Businesses want to be free to do what they want? Should they?

Politicians want to be tree to do what they want? Should they?

Etc. Etc. Etc.

Without respect that values all life, humans need guidelines, checks and balances to counter beliefs, thoughts, and action individuals, groups, and humanity that are only self-serving and harmful to others. It is easy to slide into the pit of selfishness with the “freedom” justification, yet in no time at all, our world could end, not because of the apocalypse, but because of our own carelessness and disregard for life … anyone’s life, including our own.

This pandemic is revealing, like others, not just how fragile humanity can be to a medical disease, but more importantly how fragile we are in our thinking … believing that our freedom to do what we want when we want to is not something to be proud of or partake in without consideration and reflections because our actions and in-actions may just be responsible, not only for taking a stranger’s life by passing on the COVID-19, but also for potentially taking the life of a loved one or even several.

However, a higher “Respect Level” and more love for others would not allow us to be so callous and careless with life, but instead can empower us to deal positively with the inconveniences, the discomfort, and whatever else the acts of respecting and loving ourselves and others requires during this challenging time for humanity.

The answer is simple. Be a role model … not a rebel without a cause. Wear a mask. Social distance. Be mature. Act responsibly. And when this pandemic is done, you will feel better about yourself for doing you part … and the world will thank you too as we all breathe a sigh of relief for meeting a global human crisis … together.

 

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER

Specialist, Writer, Speaker, Social Entrepreneur, Founder and President

Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

© All Rights Reserved 2014-2020

July 24, 2020

 

 

 

 

Authority Abusers

Just because someone has authority over someone or a group of people does not mean they have good character … what sometimes happens is people with a low “Respect Level” for his or her self needs to feel empowered by controlling and manipulating others with the, conscious or unconscious, intent to inflict pain that mirrors or is worse than their own. Such a person a group also seeks to elevate themselves above others … which is yet another way prejudice takes hold, grows, and manifests indifference, apathy, hatred, violence, and war.

 

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER

Specialist, Writer, Speaker, Social Entrepreneur, Founder and President

Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

© All Rights Reserved 2014-2020

July 22, 2020

 

 

“The Dangerous Downside of Perfection”

The linked article is filled with all the data you need to reconsider how you live or are influencing others to live. There are personal stories too, including mine shared below the link. Happy reading!

Linked article by Amanda Ruggeri for BBC Future on PocketWorthy

https://getpocket.com/explore/item/the-dangerous-downsides-of-perfectionism?utm_source=pocket-newtab

My Personal Experience with Perfectionism

Because of my unusual personality type, I did not “fit in” unless I was doing everything “perfect” or above average, but the cost was high, especially in the long run. When I finally raised my “Respect Level” high enough, valuing myself equally to others, I quit obsessing with perfect and started focusing on discovering who I was under the perfect image that was killing me with its unreasonable, unrealistic, and painful consequences.

Though my physical and mental health has since improved, a cost was also paid for with the loss of many relationships, but then again, the relationships I had were more based on my meeting other people’s needs and wants, so it really is no surprise that many relationships ended. Now, starting over at the bottom of the life and success scale, with hardly any material possessions or worldly success, the relationships I now develop are based on who I am as a person, rather than what I have accomplished or how perfectly I perform or meet someone’s wants and needs, because I have witnessed first hand what relationships based on performance result in … emptiness, sadness, and an unhealthy striving to be something that I am not … perfect.

Freed from the need to be perfect, I can now just be a unique human … me … exploring my and our world, changing my mind, trying new things, and encouraging myself when I make a mistake or fail ,so I don’t give up on what’s important to me because I don’t get it right the first, second, or twentieth time. It’s a welcome, long-awaited state of being I highly recommend for the bliss imperfection provides.

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KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER

Specialist, Writer, Speaker, Social Entrepreneur, Founder and President

Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

© All Rights Reserved 2014-2020

July 20, 2020