Do You Feel Valued … Respected as a Person, a Unique Individual?

First, we have to overcome worrying about what others think of us.

Second, we have to stop doing what they want to gain people’s fickle approval.

And third, we can do these things by valuing … respecting ourselves because when we do then we are also empowered to value … respect others without qualifiers … and by doing so we work our way back into love.

Kaitlin Ann Trepanier, Human Rights Activist, Author, Poet, Playwright, and Speaker. Available books, Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle and Broken Compass How To Save A Life

Valuing Every Life is the Most Cost Effective, Efficient, Economical, and Compassionate Tool to Address, Reduce, and Eliminate Humanity’s Biggest Challenges

Kaitlin Ann Trepanier, Human Rights Activist, Author, Poet, Playwright, and Speaker. Available books, Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle and Broken Compass How To Save A Life

“Nobody can be as good helping someone as someone who’s been through it.” Joyce Meyer

As part of an “Invisible Minority” … people whose personality types and other differences are very uncommon to the rest of people, I know what it is like to be misunderstood, misjudged, abandoned, bullied, ignored, maltreated, exploited, abused, and harmed almost to the point of not wanting to live, so I KNOW what many people do not and can help bridge the gap dividing us.

Kaitlin Ann Trepanier, Human Rights Activist, Author, Poet, Playwright, and Speaker. Available books, Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle and Broken Compass How To Save A Life

Do Not Let the Ignorance of Others Inhibit, Prevent, or Stop You from Fulfilling God’s Purpose for Your Life

Kaitlin Ann Trepanier, Human Rights Activist, Author, Poet, Playwright, and Speaker. Available books, Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle and Broken Compass How To Save A Life.

Mission

MISSION

Personal and professionally is to shine the light of truth on things to dis-empower darkness.

THESIS
Realizing disrespect is a historical and present philosophy being used as a discretionary value, consciously or not, to discriminate, exclude, manipulate, coerce, and even physically harm others for the benefit of others, for this reason, I developed the “Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle” thesis plus a variety of related books, products, and services.

Kaitlin Ann Trepanier, Human Rights Activist, Author, Poet, Playwright, and Speaker. Available books, Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle and Broken Compass How To Save A Life.

Earth and Us … A Symbiotic Relationship

The earth’s state reflects our “Respect Level” for the earth, humanity, and ourselves.

Kaitlin Ann Trepanier, Human Rights Activist, Author, Poet, Playwright, and Speaker. Available books, Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle and Broken Compass How To Save A Life. The 3rd book in “THE POWER PACK” available May 2022. The school/community play, The Choice, available September 2022. All rights reserved.

Raising My “Respect Level” Empowered Me to Examine What Shaped My Life and to Change What Was Not Working for Me But Against Me

Examining the beliefs of others I had accepted, even without awareness, freed me to choose the beliefs that are for me rather than against me.

Kaitlin Ann Trepanier, Human Rights Activist, Author, Poet, Playwright, and Speaker. Available books, Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle and Broken Compass How To Save A Life. The 3rd book in “THE POWER PACK” available May 2022. The school/community play, The Choice, available September 2022. All rights reserved.

“Late Bloomer Revolution”

“We need a “Late Bloomer Revolution” as our brains are not fully developed into our thirties.”

Which, by the way, was when I re-discovered what I really wanted to do, write, when I started university in my mid-thirties while employed by Levi Strauss & Co. Canada Inc. However, without overnight success people convinced me writing was a waste of time and I stopped, living minimally to survive, in jobs better suited to an Introvert’s personality’s needs, especially a very wounded one. What I know now? Don’t ever let people decide who you are and what is right for you … because you could not only lose the life you were meant to thrive with, you may actually lose your life in the ways chosen to cope with feeling undervalued, unappreciated, and overall disrespected.

Kaitlin Ann Trepanier, Human Rights Activist, Author, Poet, Playwright, and Speaker. Available books, Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle and Broken Compass How To Save A Life, plus the school/community play, The Choice. All rights reserved.

PAWN

PAWN

“Someone who is used or manipulated to further another person’s purposes.”

Source … the Urban Dictionary @ https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Pawn

Kaitlin Ann Trepanier, Human Rights Advocate, Author, Playwright, and Motivational Speaker. Available books, Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle and Broken Compass How To Save A Life, plus the school play, The Choice. All rights reserved.

Why I Abandoned Christianity and Why I Returned

WHY I ABANDONED CHRISTIANITY and WHY I RETURNED

Kaitlin Ann Trepanier, January 20, 2022

Even through the eyes of a child Catholicism and Catholics did not make sense to me. I did not understand that for all the talk of love, the kind of love I experienced hurt. A lot. And my highly curious, investigative, and logical mind could not make sense of the contradictions between words and actions.

Early grade school reports revealed I thrived on learning, demonstrated by my excelling in all areas, but the black and white clothed grade three teacher curbed my learning drive. Her constant frustration with my becoming restless and inattentive with her constant chatter compelled her to ship me off to the corner of the classroom, cloaked in embarrassment and shame. Regular rapping of my knuckles with a ruler fuelled more defiance, but the day she stormed towards me with her brandished yardstick and smashed the wood across my head, she surprised and riotously angered me.

Grade four memories evade me still because by this time I was slipping away from school and home to find peace and quiet in the outdoors, encountering strangers and often not remembering still how I got where I was and whom I had been with.

By grade five in Catholic school, hurt and pain had been transformed to constant defiance lashed out on others in outraged anger, well beyond the scope of the hurt he or she may have inflicted on me. My horror to this day is still wondering if I played a part in upending a female student’s desk with her in it as part of a pact the class bullies decided to inflict upon the one person teased and ostracized more than me. As I stood in the lineup of students to be strapped for their involvement, all boys but me, I recall my wonder when my favourite teacher sent me packing to the office instead. Teasing and taunting grew as my height spiked and towered over most of the males in grades six, seven, and eight in Catholic junior high school and family life still pushed me out of doors, but no longer for peace, but the search for love and acceptance … somewhere.

The idea of being loved by God faded with every passing year and by sixteen was non-existent, pushed to the extreme after a violent marriage that made previous physical disciplines look and feel like taps.

Berated by a priest for my audacity to ask to be married for the second time in my life in his Catholic church sealed God out of my life well into my forties, with the exception of yearly attending Christmas Eve midnight mass with my sister.

Philosophy and new age studies took over my mind for awhile, but no matter what, peace evaded my tortured spirit and soul, so I gave up on believing there was any more to life other than life and doing one’s best with whatever presented itself. Even the second marriage of almost twenty years could not survive because of long-buried hurts, trauma, unforgiveness, deep-seated rage, and never ever truly feeling loved and accepted.

Eventually the deep craving for peace and love would not leave me alone and I found myself entering churches of many different denominations, but old wounds and careful scrutiny kept me at arm’s distance from settling in somewhere. And then there were the constant contradictions red flagging all my and other people’s attempts. The only time I felt comfortable thinking about God was singing in a community choir and eventually a church choir.

What pushed me out of a church faster than anything else were the people who pushed their way into my personal space with invasive questions and uninvited touch.

Finally I gave up walking into churches and turned to the Bible to try and understand unfettered by people, but after the violence I experienced in my lifetime, the Bible’s violence, righteous or not, turned my stomach and my eyes from the words.

Partial to studying, books beckoned as did movies and television shows, such as Touched By An Angel, which took the sting out while teaching softly and gently, until I could finally listen to televangelists whose style and words did not smack of the familiar condemnations, but instead fostered hope while teaching actual Bible truths rather than some people’s adaptations of Bible truths.

The long, winding sojourn back to God has been fraught with the consequences of unbelief and the unrighteous acts of defiance and revenge forged by a lifetime of immense pain, trauma, and loneliness.

My later in life journey also angered many people as they wrote me off as lazy or worse, not able to comprehend as people could not when I was younger because of their lack of knowledge too about different personality types, love languages, learning, and communication styles, plus the wounds the different experience born of ignorance and intolerance. Even now,  their frustration with my choices when I say I asked God and He directed me, startle me as many are Christian believers too, though I now understand their level of belief has not grown as much as mine, in part because of my intense study and relationship development with God, through Jesus and the Holy Spirit in order to actually save my life from the heavy burdens of guilt, judgment, condemnation, and resulting depression.

And just last week, the day following my sixty seventh birthday, God directed me to give up on the project I worked on for seven years to transform respect from a discretionary value to a global principle, Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle, to turn instead to helping people with writing what I have learned and starting divinity studies to eventually serve also as a minister.

I share this for anyone who walked away from God or was never even introduced because learning He is for you, especially when no one else is, provides comfort and peace not easily found or experienced in this world.

Kaitlin Ann Trepanier, Human Rights/Peace Advocate, Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle social business Founder/President and Blog Writer, plus Author of Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle and Broken Compass How To Save A Life. NEW FOR 2022! Freelance Writing and Divinity College/University. All rights reserved.