“Fail Forward”

“History is filled with examples of people who are famous for doing great things — yet if we study their lives, we find they failed miserably before they succeeded. Some of them failed numerous times before they ever succeeded at anything. Their real strength was not their talent as much as it was their tenacity. A person who refuses to give up will always succeed eventually.” Joyce Meyer from “A Confident Woman”

Interestingly, I experienced bouts of success, but never felt successful, because in retrospect, initially I did not know I had choices, trusting others to tell me what was right … what they valued … which was my biggest mistake … failure ever.

Therefore, one of the first priorities to teach youth … discover your natural talents and then discover the options to develop and sell them, as well as don’t be afraid to try and fail because failure teaches what success cannot.

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER

Specialist Writer Speaker Social Entrepreneur Founder and President

of/for Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

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May 5, 2021

INDIVIDUATION … the process of blooming into our unique selves during our lifetime … if we put in the lifetime effort

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KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER

Specialist Writer Speaker Social Entrepreneur Founder and President

of/for Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

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May 4, 2021

BROKEN COMPASS … A Story About the Invisible Minority

A surprising insightful journey into the mind of the invisible minority that lives among us. Often without awareness, other than there is just something very different about them that we cannot pinpoint or do no not understand, we often reject, shun, abandon, or even harm them to their and our own detriment.

Currently a work-in-process with publication details pending.

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER

Specialist Writer Speaker Social Entrepreneur Founder and President

of/for Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

Smashwords interview @  www.smashwords.com

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May 1, 2021

We All Have Power, But …

We all have power, but it is also important to recognize and value our differences so the power in our differences can make the world a better place for everyone.

https://www.ted.com/talks/susan_cain_the_power_of_introverts

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of/for Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

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March 6, 2021

Connecting the Dots … No Person is More Valuable Than Any Other Person

Last week my stomach turned and my eyes flooded when I watched these newly-released videos of the Capitol terrorist attack, labelled an insurgence. This is not about politics, it is about tyranny and tearing down democracy. It is about someone putting themselves, rather than those they serve, on a pedestal. It is about disrespecting … devaluing people who don’t agree with you. It is the opposite of democracy, the opposite of doing what is right and good, and it is definitely opposite to what Christians are supposed to do also. Anyone who needs to hurt others to feel supreme, in fact reveals their insecurity. In schools they call it bullying and in adulthood it is the same thing, but just with many other names. Tolerance only serves to give permission to escalate. As with all bullies, we cannot afford to let them rule because one day they may come after us. And as with all bullies, we cannot let them dominate because it is wrong on so many levels. No person … no person … is more valuable … worthy of being treated respectfully … than any other person. I know, as people, we struggle with this philosophy, but as a Christian, it is a must … no one is better than anyone else.

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER

Specialist Writer Speaker Social Entrepreneur Founder and President

of/for Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

Smashwords interview @  www.smashwords.com

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February 17, 2021

Two Kinds of Teachers Who Shaped Me

Excerpt from the first print edition, June 2015, of Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle “Acknowledgements” by Kaitlin A. (Ann) Trepanier,

“In my life, two kinds of teachers shaped me. The first are the many who rejected me because I did not reflect them, so their fears created the prejudices that caused the rejection. The second are the stories of distant people, from the past or present, I discovered through reading, listening, or watching on my quest to understand our world differently. Stories of people whose lives were shaped by small, limiting, and harmful personal and worldly beliefs, yet who found ways to move past their history to share their experience .. to heal .. to raise hope … offer understanding … inspire change … then serve as catalysts for the much needed changes.”

“Here is the list of people who greatly influenced this work by their own work and lives, though of course there are the many not-famous faces and stories who too shaped this work and me into who I am … and who I am becoming …”

“Jesus, Albert Einstein, Alfred Nobel, Alice Miller, Socrates, Plato, Aristotle, Henry David Thoreau, Ralph Waldo Emerson, Gandhi, Mother Teresa, Joan of Arc, The Dalai Lama, Abraham Lincoln, William Wilberforce, Martin Luther King Jr., John F. Kennedy, Nelson Mandela, Oprah Winfrey, Alan Cohen, Robert Schuller, Joyce Meyer, Joel Osteen, Warren Buffet, Bill Gates, and Richard Branson.”

As my understanding grew and my own “Respect Level” rose, my list of people, like me, has changed, but what has not changed is the measurement of people’s subsequent “Respect Level” increase or decrease based on their subsequent actions that added or deleted their name from this list … which will be revealed with the revised second edition. New release date still to be determined.

Thank you for stopping by and for your efforts to become the best version of yourself too.

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER

Specialist Writer Speaker Social Entrepreneur Founder and President

of/for Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

Smashwords interview @  www.smashwords.com

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February, 9, 2021

What Fearful Following Can Result In

Today, on International Holocaust Remembrance Day, we need to take time to remember the over six million people who were murdered by a leader who convinced, by fear, to follow him versus their own consciousness and the humane right of every person to valued … respected … simply for being a life.

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER

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of/for Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

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Last Updated January 27, 2021

Confident Secure People Are Not Egoistic and Are Not Motivated by Self Interest

Confidence can be a good thing, but as with most things taken to an extreme manifests an imbalance.

The same goes for insecurity, especially because the most insecure people falsely believe that they must try to elevate themselves to positions of accomplishment/power … in order for them to feel powerful and secure … when in reality, I have personally discovered from my own transformation from insecure to secure, secure people do not have to because they are not only secure, they are confident in their worth, regardless of their circumstances, their status, or their position.

Another challenges an insecure person faces is becoming prideful to the point of egoistic … otherwise described as conceited, self-serving, motivated by self-interest, in order to compensate for their insecurity. And a self-absorbed person will use whatever and whomever they can to achieve their goals, but when something or someone no longer suits his or her purpose, they are quick to dismiss, discard, blame, incite, and in some cases, even kill bodies as well as spirits. We certainly see this in all those books we read and movies/shows we watch, plus prisons are packed with many such individuals. And right now, we see this playing out our political stages in North America.

Control and manipulation are the tools employed by insecure people to mask their fear of being seen for what they truly are … a human being with weaknesses and strengths … and in their case, as one who feels so insecure and non-confident they must create a persona, not unlike “The Wizard of Oz” to support their false bravado.

And though humans throw the word “supremacy” around, such as with supreme court, supreme justices, and even white supremacy, the reality of the matter is there is no supreme being on earth. Every human is fallible and the most secure, confident people know this, and if they are leaders, they add team members who complement their strengths and add strength to their weaknesses.

In contrast, the other thing that identifies a secure person is their altruistic thinking and behaviour … he or she cares about and helps others … rather than seeks to control and harm … in part, because they are mature enough to know we are all in this world together and working together, drawing on each other’s strengths, rather than manipulating their weaknesses, is the best source of success for humanity, rather than extinction.

So, you decide … what kind of parent, husband, teacher, or leader do you want in your life … leading your community … your country?

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER

Specialist Writer Speaker Social Entrepreneur Founder and President

of/for Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

Smashwords interview @  www.smashwords.com

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Revised January 19, 2021

What We May Not Know … What Narcissists, Abusers, Bullies, Tyrants, and Dictators Have in Common

The challenge for people right now is to ask the questions that need to be answered rather than digging in and holding fast to beliefs that could be harmful to themselves as well as to others. This knowledge is one of the first things taught to children, teens, and adults who have experienced abuse in order, not only for them to heal, but to be able to recognize abuse for what it is … because it is often cloaked or wrapped in charismatic, charming words and actions … until the person gets what he or she wants from the person or group he or she is victimizing. It’s kind of like a 101 class … the basics needed to learn in order to prevent the recurrence of being victimized again.

However, abuse is not restricted to sexual abuse, but as history and the present show, abuse can be used in any arena, including the political, currently being demonstrated in a country, the United States, that for many people has come to represent democracy and freedom from tyranny.

My hope is that with more knowledge about what is actually going on, more people will be encouraged to stand up to those who seek to stand on other people to seek a sense of superiority that is not attainable by might born of abusing and bullying those who don’t agree or follow them.

NARCISSISM … The term comes from the Greek myth of a young man’s unfortunate emotional investment in his own reflection. In its most general sense it stands for an exaggerated self-love.

ABUSE … To use improperly or injuriously, misuse. To hurt by treating wrongly. To speak in coarse or bad terms. To revile, malign. To deceive. Abuse of power. Vicious conduct, practice, or action. Abusive language. To slander. Insulting.

BULLYnoun … A swaggering, quarrelsome, usually cowardly person who terrorizes weaker people. A hired ruffian … verb … To intimidate or coerce by threats. To act the bully.

TYRANTnoun … One who rules oppressively or cruelly, a despot. One who exercises absolute power without legal warrant, whether ruling well or badly.

DICTATORnoun … A person having absolute powers of a government in a state, especially, such a person considered as a tyrant or oppressor. A person who rules, prescribes, or suggests authoritatively.

Source … The Reader’s Digest Great Encyclopedic Dictionary, including Funk & WagnallS Standard College Dictionary 1966, 1968, 1971, 1975

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER

Specialist Writer Speaker Social Entrepreneur Founder and President

of/for Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

Smashwords interview @  www.smashwords.com

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Last Updated January 14, 2021

Applying What We Learn from History to Prevent Master Deceivers from Inciting Chaos and Hate Today

As history has repeatedly shown us, master deceivers excel at pulling the wool over people’s eyes so followers do not see the truth of the matter. We only need to look at serial killers and anyone with their own agenda to control and harm … Hitler is still one of the best examples of blinding people and controlling them by fear.

The President and his gang, not the Republican Party, are responsible for all that is ugly, dark, disrespectful, and hateful towards are all Americans. I am grateful that the mob attack to stage a coup has finally removed the veil from the Republican Party’s eyes … and as a result has UNITED what the President DIVIDED. Hooray and Amen! BRAVO Americans for saying enough is enough to protect DEMOCRACY and ALL AMERICANS!

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER

Specialist Writer Speaker Social Entrepreneur Founder and President

of/for Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

Smashwords interview @  www.smashwords.com

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Last Updated January 7, 2021