The COVID-19 Pandemic Reveals What We Value Most … and Least

The pandemic is raising so many questions that our words and actions are revealing … what we value/respect … the most … and the least.

For example …

https://thehill.com/blogs/blog-briefing-room/news/497617-viral-photo-shows-preschoolers-confined-to-chalk-squares-for?fbclid=IwAR1QR8DtvV7DtPxfW0nRIXvGiwzzRSUUKOTMHgGNqfYOwMYcXpypH-b8kiU

While there are many health, social, and economic challenges pressing in on leaders from all sectors, parents, and all of us, the best solutions will arise from higher “Respect Levels” for all of us. And anything decision based solely on the financial impact reveals what we value … idolize more than life itself.

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER

Specialist, Writer, Speaker, Social Entrepreneur, Founder and President

Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

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May 14, 2020

 

 

 

A Powerful Viable Philosophy

Respect (value) everyone is not just logical, practical, and compassionate … a powerful, viable philosophy to cross all barriers, including religious … it is as I later discovered after my scientific research and thesis development, a Biblical directive: “Respect everyone.” 1 Peter 2:15

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER

Specialist, Writer, Speaker, Social Entrepreneur, Founder and President

Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

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May 9, 2020

“Calling Me a Hero Only Makes You Feel Better”

Because I appreciate his insights and share his frustration, I am sharing this and hope you will also.
Shared linked story by Karleigh Frisbie Brogan for The Atlantic, April 18, 2020
I am grateful he is aware not everyone has a choice to stock up because they don’t have the space/appliances and/or don’t have the money to do so either … so off to the grocery stores such people have to go … often weekly. And then for many, there is the dilemma of how to carry everything home in one trip … so for those of you who have the space, the money, and transportation, please free up the retail space by stocking up so you don’t have to go every week … in order to save the space for those who really need to be there. Thank you.

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER

Specialist Writer Speaker Social Entrepreneur Founder and President

of Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

Smashwords interview @  www.smashwords.com

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April 21, 2020

To Whom It May Concern

My waking up to the realities of my life, including the ones I had buried and other realities people also refused to believe or denied resulted, not just in the end of a nineteen-year marriage, but my slide into a deep, debilitating depression.

The marriage ending was no surprise, in retrospect, because it was built on falseness, including my own. Falseness created by a woman-child who had been severely harmed in her younger years and, subconsciously, was looking for safety in the guise of what was considered normal.

But the truth must come out or we, all of us, pay the consequences for living not just an unauthentic life, but a life that needs to be supported by acceptable untruths to make other people allow us into the pack.

We may appear to fit into the pack we think we need to be a part of to the point we become chameleons, sadly adapting to the point we lose our identity.

In the mid 1990’s, I realized I had lost mine and became undone.

Facing long-buried memories my mind had protected me from resulted in a waking up that was actually exhilarating because finally things and my life were starting to make sense. And even though successful in many people’s eyes, deep down I knew I was living marginally compared to what I, and some other people, believed I was capable of doing.

In the process of reclaiming my true identity, talents, and skills, I did not change my life, but also the lives of people in my life. Many people were hurt or angry, or both, and most walked, even ran away, though appearances made it look as if I was running away. In truth, they had left me, though not physically, long before I had the courage to leave.

Then I met someone who treated me with respect, care, and acceptance beyond what I had ever known, But, broken as I had been before I married, the end of many relationships, including the long-term marriage, resulted from many people’s unwillingness to just let me explore what was revealed as important to me and to let me in my own time and in my own way.

Sadly, but understandably now, even he ran away because well, I was literally falling apart at the seams and no one I knew wanted to be around so I left … dropped out of the life I had known.

Trying to save face and keep myself afloat, I denied the deep depression grabbing at my ankles, trying to pull me into a dark abyss. Money became an issue when I was laid off, but since my head was fogged with bad daydreams and worse nightmares, plus pride, overcoming the shame to seek and ask for help was prevented and I found myself slipping further into the abyss.

With no money, bills piling up, credit maxed to the limit, no food, and a roof over my head would soon not be able to afford, my body and my spirit laid down for ten days, barely getting out of bed to go to the washroom and take a sip of water. Only when someone showed up and discovered my state did things start to change, though not for the better.

In a matter of weeks, I found myself living in a suburban home in a room, ashamedly paid for by welfare. In a month, an unexpected call from a retail art and framing gallery. Finally, I was climbing up rather than sliding down. And I was grateful for a job where I was left alone to do a job in a world I wanted to explore. Creditors were the only ones interested in me now and I could not bear the harsh, cruel worlds and threats, so, since I had no idea how or when things were going to turn around I bowed my head further and filed for bankruptcy, handing my much-loved motorcycle back to the bank.

When I had expressed interest in moving to the west coast, a finance professional suggested I make the move so I could get my life back on track, including clearing my debts without the abusive creditors’ pressure. But, still gripped tightly by depression and a profound loss of confidence, I did not see a way to make the move. And frankly, I did not want to move away from those I loved, even if they no longer loved me, because I was clinging to the hope they would come back for me, in order to keep me moving forward.

After all I have been through, credit was not something I wanted to get involved with again and for several years I avoided it. But, when I was compelled by circumstances to move back to the place where I used to and where my dad still lived to help him through his last years, I could not do it without credit because I was forced to quit work to be on call for him twenty four hours a day. There was no other other financial support available to me.

When the collection calls started to come this time, I referred to the letters I had sent all my creditors explaining that I would not file for bankruptcy, but at some point I would pay back all my debts to them personally, and eventually with interest. Collection companies though would not listen and I discovered through the wretched process yet another significant contributor to abuse and its impact on people already struggling … a humanitarian injustice I will work to change.

And as someone who is now dedicated fully now to transforming how people are treated, regardless of their differences, circumstances, etc., I have been applying for grants to reboot the social business venture I initially started in 2014, but was stalled by parental care needs and the fallout of that time period.

I was inspired to share this glimpse of my life with the supporters of my quest to transform respect from a discretionary value to a global principle, with those who just want the money that was not even theirs to begin with and any interested party.

In time, God’s timing I believe, my company will secure the grants needed to get off the ground, running, and thriving. And in time, the creditors who enabled me to be there with my dad during his last, very difficult years will receive the rewards, not just of the money returned with interest, but also with the valuable lesson that not all people are out to screw creditors and treating people respectfully provides the motivation people need to repay debts rather than write them off. Financial institutions, as well as businesses, are also accountable too for exploiting people, especially low income people who earn poverty wages businesses offer, pay high percentages of their income for rent and utilities, and are encouraged strongly by media to want what they cannot afford.

With the COVID-19 pandemic being the going concern and the buzz phrase, “We’re in this together” promoting the impact we have on each other, now is the time to really get it … that we are all connected and what one person, one group, one organization, and one nation do impacts us all, so how and what we choose to do makes us problem makers or problem solvers.

As someone finally wide-awake, I choose to be a problem solver and  fortunately, inherently I excel at problem solving because of the way I see things.

As for whom it may concern, know this … I now know, mistakes and all, I am just as valuable as anyone else and no one gets to treat me as anything less than one worthy of respect … simply for being a life.

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KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER

Specialist Writer Speaker Social Entrepreneur Founder and President

of Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

Smashwords interview @  www.smashwords.com

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April 18, 2020

 

 

 

 

 

Since children/youth do as they see being done versus what they are told, what is the real lesson striking teachers are teaching students?

Perhaps that adults have to resort to a mediator because they cannot work things out for themselves … so perhaps taking adults advice is worth reconsidering?

Most of us know unions came into existence, in large part, due to employers exploiting and abusing employees.

Would we not solve a majority of problems and save a lot of money if employers respected their employees by paying fair wages and treating each and every one as valuable. And wouldn’t most employees treated as such be hesitant to exploit or abuse their employers?

Perhaps that is the lesson children and youth should be learning … not that their education is a bargaining tool for adults rather than their education.

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER

Specialist Writer Speaker Social Entrepreneur Founder and President

of Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

Smashwords interview @  www.smashwords.com

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February 12, 2020

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Barriers Out-of-the-Box Creative Innovators Face

A few months ago, a conversation with a local economic development administrator regarding community grants for artists summed up my years of experience, or should I say my frustration, about securing funding for an innovative creative project designed to address local and global social, economic, and environmental needs.

“We fund artist’s community projects, but the artist cannot make any money from the project,” was the administrator’s comment. After informing her I certainly do expect to make money from the original work I created, not just for myself, but also for the social business venture driving the global initiative, in part fuelled by creative projects I solely created, she suggested I apply for business funding. But since I do not have what is often labelled “cash equivalent” to match potential funding, plus still have the debt I incurred from the three plus years to be with Dad during his last years where I served as his personal care manager, part-time personal care assistant, and driver her initial enthusiasm wavered, as it has been with the many other people I have contacted over several years, so I do not expect to hear from her again.

Unfortunately, her response is typical and reflects one of the many barriers out-of-the-box creative innovators and their ideas encounter. The following presents a closer look at the barriers and their impact, many of which often prevent concepts from either never getting off the page or to take years to achieve, that is, if the originator does not give up in frustration or because economic desperation.

ART COUNCIL SOURCING BARRIERS

For the artistic project I created, an original school play I wrote, plus but will be directing and filming as part of promotional material for schools, as a film to sell to schools, and as one of the key tools in driving the global initiative, I can only apply for a grant if I am recognized as a professional in that field, but of course, if I was a professional in that field I may not even require the funding because I would be making money as said professional.

Also sad, but true is the reality writers who publish their own works are not considered professionals because their writing or ideas are not yet valued by someone else first in the same way we have been conditioned to believe that respecting–valuing someone is something a human life must earn whether through social status and/or achievement–is a disrespectful, prejudicial, limiting, and even harmful principle that inspired my development of the conflicting principle concept, plus created the books, products, services, and established the for-profit social business venture, Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle to change the consequences of the historical and present prejudicial belief.

GOVERNMENT SOURCING BARRIERS

Community, local, provincial, and federal organizations also have the limited boxes a person and a project must fit into before government sources will look at an application, let alone consider funding.

Other than having to already be established as a professional, such funding applications also  require a person to be affiliated with a university or a think tank.

Entrepreneurs, to be recognized as professionals, also often must have a proven track record of company sales or at least have a minimum of cash capital to qualify for funding. Since intellectual capital does not count in the eyes of many funders, entrepreneurs encounter the same dilemma new jobseekers encounter. How does one move to the next stage, securing funding or employment? And particularly with creative innovators, the other challenge is not being forced to sell or give away their rights for what they have created in order to secure the financial help they need, even if their venture creates jobs and adds to economic development.

NON-PROFIT SOURCING BARRIERS

Most non-profit organizations/foundations I have personally searched will not fund an organization that is not a not-for-profit organization, or if they do, the barriers are similar to the art council and government sourcing barriers exist.

PRIVATE SOURCING BARRIERS

Philanthropists, whether individuals, organizations, or foundations do give to causes and projects, but usually they are also expecting tax receipts from non-profits and often media coverage including, but not limited to advertising, though not necessarily at the same level sponsors expect for a financial contribution to a project or cause.

In contrast, altruists are the rare people, who do not expect a receipt or publicity, because what they give are true gifts, meaning they expect nothing in return, which is also the reason many altruists require their donations to be anonymous.

EMPLOYER and ACADEMIC RIGHTS

When working for someone else, whether a business or an education institution, we may not be aware or forget that the work we do for them legally falls under the auspice of their owning the results we generate during our time working for them. Yet it is also the responsibility of employees to not steal from those whom are being compensated by to work on their behalf. When an employee leaves, it is a common requirement for such people to sign a non-disclosure and non-competitive agreement to inhibit their creating competitive products for a given period of time.

Gratefully, this is not the case for my concept, thesis, and all related creations which were created not under the auspices of an employer or a university.

PROTECTING CREATIVE INNOVATORS RIGHTS

Unfortunately, not only does a creative innovator encounter many barriers to securing funding, especially grants, the other challenge frequently encountered is the compulsion other people have to take someone’s idea, without permission, to make it theirs; thereby stealing the creative innovator’s idea, plus the income from the stolen original work.

We know this is true because of what continues to happen as we have moved into the digital age. Piracy, the stealing of copyrighted creative work, became prolific as CDS and DVDs were copied and sold without permission. Of course, now the problem is much more wide spread, including the copying of computer games, software and hardware, plus our personal information and assets.

RIGHTS VIOLATIONS

Several years ago when “Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle” was still in its infancy/development stage, a volunteer community leader asked me, “What if someone steals your idea?” At the time, I actually laughed and replied, “Because if they steal the concept of respect as a principle, that is proof that he or she does not understand the concept and therefore did not originate the idea.”

However, since then, people certainly have tried and succeeded, to a point.

Case #1

Several years ago, when I was still naive about copyright law, a proposal for a workshop based on my play, Charles Choice, motivated a few professionals to infringe on my copyright. A middle school and a high school contracted the workshop, which resulted in a friend with theatre experience, but without permission took over the project saying I did not have the qualifications, even though I wrote the play, recorded it in a studio, pitched the concept, and attracted the first interested parties.

The friend’s misdirection and rewriting of my work for the two workshops did not reflect my initial intent and message of the play, but then again, he was a very forceful, abusive, and controlling person who resented my creative talent, his lack of success, and disrespected me immensely, yet had no problem stealing my creative work for his own gain.

Struggling to recognize myself as a creative professional, as well as a person worthy of being treated respectfully, sharing a residence with an psychological, emotional abusive person constantly made me feel small and worthless because my experiences conditioned me to accept that was I all could expect because of my mistakes, even if my previous successes  were noted as above average for going above and beyond the call of duty. Venturing into the new territory of the creative arts and social entrepreneurship dedicated to addressing a social need meant I was in unfamiliar and increasingly unfriendly territory. As a result, I failed to stand up for myself and my rights when the school social worker stated she was excited to be taking my work on the road. I should have said you cannot do that because you did not buy the play, but only the workshop opportunity to help you present the play to your school, not to your school board. As a professional, I thought she would have known that doing what she planned to do would be taking advantage of an artist’s copyright. Nonetheless, her un-professionalism certainly motivated me to learn more about protecting my original work.

Case #2

In preparation for the career changes I was making to become a social business entrepreneur with innovative creative books, products, and services, I was fortunate for the opportunities to participate in self-employment programs, and even an angel investment contest, for which I had been accepted into the presentation preparatory workshop.

Still too naïve and trusting, months later I was shocked when a consultant, who had led one of the workshop series I participated in, until I dropped out of because of a move out of the area, contacted me months later, and without permission, sent me a message informing me he had created a business plan for my initiative. The very fact he did this compelled me without discussing the notion first resulted I my not even being able to consider his proposal because of how his presumptuous and invasion of privacy also demonstrating his low “Respect Level” for my original work and me.

In contrast, not wanting to infringe on another creative person’s rights, when I initially registered my innovative creative idea, first registered as the non-profit organization, It Is All About Respect Inc., I did my research and discovered a male American writer was using respect as a key element of his book. However, my research revealed his use of respect was significantly different in context and therefore was not a copyright infringement. His premise was that respect is something men need in relationships rather than my broader thesis that presents the idea of transforming respect to a principle versus the historical and present discretionary context as a value, unfortunately used to divide people by fostering prejudice and exclusivity.

Considering all these barriers, and even other barriers not mentioned here, it is no wonder many people give up, not only on their dreams, but also on who they really are and the unique value they can add to our world. As for me, at an early age, I was redirected to other paths people regarded as right for them or were socially acceptable, though not for me. Now, with a “Respect Level” high enough to overcome the barriers and challenges encountered, I choose to stand with those who believe, not only in the value of their work for themselves, but for the value their work adds to the lives of others and as a result, I forge on demonstrating to others who need role models to inspire them to believe that who they are matters regardless of their uniqueness, approved or not.

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER

Specialist Writer Speaker Social Entrepreneur Founder and President

of Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

Smashwords interview @  www.smashwords.com

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January 18, 2020