“The Emotional Intelligence Test Was So Accurate It Was Creepy”

Linked article by Rich Bellis for Fast Company on Pocket Worthy

https://getpocket.com/explore/item/this-emotional-intelligence-test-was-so-accurate-it-was-creepy?utm_source=pocket-newtab

In a world dominated by narcissism … in other words, the it’s-all-about-me mindset … and a sociopathic mindset … in other words, I-am-concerned-with-me-not-you-mindset … it is easy to understand why “Emotional Intelligence” is underdeveloped or impaired in many people in our world today.

I say many because if we look at the impact highlighted by the actual statistics based on crimes … child neglect, child sexual abuse, sexual assaults, domestic violence, human trafficking, racial, religion, and because-you-are-different attacks, plus blue and white collar crime (statistics revealing the ones that we know of, not the many we don’t), we find the proven evidence for low Emotional Intelligence that is an indicator of sociopathic narcissism and therefore of low “Respect Levels.”

As someone with an very unusual personality type who suffered greatly at the hands of people with low EI and in turn, sometimes gave back some of which I received, I personally know what having a low EI feels and looks like. Wanting to break negative patterns in me to generate different results, has meant, like it does with all change, looking at myself and then searching for the knowledge I needed to become aware of so I could see, not where I was bad or deficient, but where I was ignorant of what I needed to know to become, by my behaviour as well as my thoughts, the person I knew I initially was … very caring and concerned for others as well as for myself.

With a “Respect Level” finally above the 50% mark, I am grateful for the significant changes that has restored much of my true character before the world did a number on it. And I have to admit, I still have work to do to ramp up my EI to a level I will be satisfied with, which for me as an Intuitspecifically means reigning in my “Impulse Control.” So, the personal works goes on as does the professional work of helping others on their journeys by sharing what others and I have learned from our journeys.

Best wishes,

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER
Specialist, Writer, Speaker, Social Entrepreneur, Founder and President
http://www.connectingthedotswiththerespectprinciple.com
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September 16, 2020

Looking Behind the Narcissist’s Curtain

Much like the OZ wizard character in “The Wizard of Oz” movie, narcissists may appear more confident, capable, and powerful than what they really are.

“Overview. Narcissistic personality disorder — one of several types of personality disorders — is a mental condition in which people have an inflated sense of their own importance, a deep need for excessive attention and admiration, troubled relationships, and a lack of empathy for others.Nov 18, 2017”

“Narcissistic personality disorder – Symptoms and causes …
http://www.mayoclinic.org › symptoms-causes › syc-20366662”

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER
Specialist, Writer, Speaker, Social Entrepreneur, Founder and President
http://www.connectingthedotswiththerespectprinciple.com
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September 1, 2020

To Respect Simply Means To Value

English words often have more than one meaning, which can even include contrary meanings, but when I researched the word “respect”, all definitions included the words “to value.” Since I was searching for a word, a concept that would cross all boundaries and reflect the belief every person is valuable simply for being a life, respect became a philosophy, has been adopted as principle, and now drives the global initiative because …

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KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER
Specialist, Writer, Speaker, Social Entrepreneur, Founder and President
http://www.connectingthedotswiththerespectprinciple.com
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August 27, 2020

Submitting TED Fellowship Application This Week!

Hello my worldly blog followers! I have been away from the Internet and this blog for days as I worked to prepare my TED Fellowship application to submit on behalf of the “Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle” global initiative to “transform respect from a discretionary value to a global principle” thereby raising the standard of living and quality of life of all people … so I am sure you understand and appreciate my absenteeism.

As always, thank you for coming by and I hope your week holds something that excites you and fills you with hope too!

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER
Specialist, Writer, Speaker, Social Entrepreneur, Founder and President
http://www.connectingthedotswiththerespectprinciple.com
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August 16, 2020

“Better Brain Health”

A DW Documentary about the impact of what we eat on our brain’s processing and mental health …

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TLpbfOJ4bJU

Shared by …

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER

Specialist, Writer, Speaker, Social Entrepreneur, Founder and President

Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

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August 5, 2020

“What Can We Learn From People Who Succeed Later in Life?

Shared TED.ideas video …

https://ideas.ted.com/what-can-we-learn-from-people-who-succeed-later-in-life/?utm_medium=referral&utm_content=2020-7-23&utm_campaign=social&utm_source=linkedin.com

Shared Forbes magazine article …

https://www.forbes.com/sites/nextavenue/2019/03/12/what-we-can-learn-from-people-who-succeed-late-in-life/#697e61411014

Personally, I have learned never to give up on a dream, vision, goal because, like the folks we are introduced to in the video and article, I am just getting started at my age. And frankly I am fortunate because my very diverse experiences have prepared me for what I am working on now. Added to that is the fact I have never been so motivated and excited about work as I am now with the goal to transform respect from a discretionary value to a global principle that will raise the standard and quality of living of all people, while also fostering the development of potential and the peace born of valuing all life.

Whatever is in you to do, step up, take the chance, and do your part to make the world a better place in whatever way works for you.

Wholeheartedly,
Kaitlin

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER

Specialist, Writer, Speaker, Social Entrepreneur, Founder and President

Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

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August 3, 2020

Defining Words

Respect is mostly defined, in many dictionaries, dominantly as valuing … being kind to, esteeming, honoring, regarding, being polite to, showing courtesy to, considering, noting, recognizing, taking into account

Admire is often used equally with respect, yet in most dictionaries and thesauruses, admire is best defined as the quality of looking up to someone for his/her/their accomplishments/achievements, rather than for just being a person

Value is defined by the company as a discretionary value because people choose who or what to value, making the choice at their discretion

Principle, in contrast to a value, is a universal idea adopted by the majority and applicable to everyone, therefore making the decision to decide who or what is valuable or is not as obsolete in order to foster true acts of equality in human and natural interactions

Social Business Venture defines a sustainable for-profit business established to address one or more social needs

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER

Specialist, Writer, Speaker, Social Entrepreneur, Founder and President

Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

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July 31, 2020

We Are Strange Creatures

We are strange creatures indeed! It’s a funny, yet also a sad, thing that I and maybe you have noticed about social media and well, life too …

We share pictures, abstract ideas, personal opinions, emotions, and experiences a variety of information, a lot of negativity, philosophies, politics, and various spiritual beliefs, but nothing else seems to make as many people, even those Joyce calls ‘secret Christians,” uncomfortable and unlikely “to like” a post about believing in God, Jesus, and the Holy Spirit and being excited about it … which is one of those funny, but sad things, because nothing else has brought about so much good into my life, even though right now, tangibly it may not look that way, but inside, oh my, I have never felt so rich, satisfied, peaceful, accepted, loved, and yes, even happy and joyful. But don’t take my word for it … go to the Word itself. … rather than just getting bits of it, often taken out of context or skewed by someone else’s opinion.

And since summer is always a good reading time and more so because of the pandemic, it’s a perfect time to also discover how best to cope with what is happening in our world. What made reading the Bible much easier for me though was reading an amplified Bible, which takes passages and puts them in modern day context. I’ve been using the Joyce Meyer amplified Everyday Bible. Whatever you choose, you will also discover how many people actually reference the Bible, people, and quotes comparable to the way many people people also reference Shakespeare’s writings too.

 

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER

Specialist, Writer, Speaker, Social Entrepreneur, Founder and President

Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

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July 27, 2020

 

 

To Mask or Not to Mask

When “freedom” is used a means to do what we want … regardless of the impact on others, it may be freedom, but it is a selfish, narcissistic, and sociopathic freedom that disregards and devalues the lives of others so we can feel more important than others … which we are not.

Still not sure? Consider these scenarios  …

Sexual predators want to be free to do what they want. Should they?

Criminals want to be free to do what they want. Should they?

Terrorists want to be free to do what they want? Should they?

Businesses want to be free to do what they want? Should they?

Politicians want to be tree to do what they want? Should they?

Etc. Etc. Etc.

Without respect that values all life, humans need guidelines, checks and balances to counter beliefs, thoughts, and action individuals, groups, and humanity that are only self-serving and harmful to others. It is easy to slide into the pit of selfishness with the “freedom” justification, yet in no time at all, our world could end, not because of the apocalypse, but because of our own carelessness and disregard for life … anyone’s life, including our own.

This pandemic is revealing, like others, not just how fragile humanity can be to a medical disease, but more importantly how fragile we are in our thinking … believing that our freedom to do what we want when we want to is not something to be proud of or partake in without consideration and reflections because our actions and in-actions may just be responsible, not only for taking a stranger’s life by passing on the COVID-19, but also for potentially taking the life of a loved one or even several.

However, a higher “Respect Level” and more love for others would not allow us to be so callous and careless with life, but instead can empower us to deal positively with the inconveniences, the discomfort, and whatever else the acts of respecting and loving ourselves and others requires during this challenging time for humanity.

The answer is simple. Be a role model … not a rebel without a cause. Wear a mask. Social distance. Be mature. Act responsibly. And when this pandemic is done, you will feel better about yourself for doing you part … and the world will thank you too as we all breathe a sigh of relief for meeting a global human crisis … together.

 

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER

Specialist, Writer, Speaker, Social Entrepreneur, Founder and President

Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

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July 24, 2020