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KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER

Specialist Writer Speaker Social Entrepreneur Founder and President

of Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

Smashwords interview @  www.smashwords.com

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March 8, 2020

 

 

 

An Unusual Business Model and Opportunities For An Unusual Mission

What do you do when something is broken and those responsible do not see it is broken or refuse to fix it? You have to find or create something new. Creating something new is what this article is about.

For years, I voluntarily served on various non-profit boards as a director or on a project team or as a volunteer providing a service, such as assisting disabled horseback riders, or even as a paid secretary-treasurer. For years, I worked professionally in a variety of business environments from corporate, retail, and factory, plus as a contractor, sole proprietor, writer, and artist.

Formal education includes business administration, visual arts, design and communication arts, plus some university studies. Additionally I was in a one-year self-employment program and I took a variety of one-off courses, such as marketing and basic French. Various roles included, but have not been limited to department store assistant manager, head cashier, office manager, storefront manager, desk manager, operations contractor planner, human resources assistant, business planning assistant factory worker, nanny, cook, and odd jobs.

As you can tell, I love to explore the world and learn new things, yet I also love to innovate and transfer my natural talents and skills to a variety of roles and responsible for which I have been very successful. Because my learning environment was not financially supported by a university or business, financial success was moderated by the poverty wages paid for part-time contract work,  the reality that is now common to an increasing number of people. Yet, most of my in-depth education has been acquired through personal experience, plus self-directed research and studies done during the past twenty some years.

A key component of my self-directed studies has been the motivation to learn from others who have presented a new idea or created something new and what they experienced. I needed to learn from people who were not in my more limited social and professional circle, but were risk takers, so I could learn what it takes to become successful, fulfilling both a mission and vision, as well as financial independence.

In a nutshell, I learned that the current business models in Canada and in many other countries do not serve innovative creators, but in fact are the nemesis of such people.

EXAMINING THE OPTIONS

Last fall, I spoke with a community administrator who informed me that project grants were only available to artists if artists were not going to make any money from the creative project, begging the question, why should an artist or anyone be forced to work for free or worse: even create something new that many would benefit from, yet not be able to earn income from their creations? Do farmers not get paid? Do ministers minister for free? Do politicians work for free?  Does an inventor not get paid for his invention?

That is, of course, if an innovative creation is not outright stolen first.

When I professionally worked for others and when I volunteered, my ideas resulted in saving organizations a lot of money, such as reducing a monthly planning cycle by one week. But when I struck out on my own, I discovered many people who were eager to take my ideas, even the ones in print for their own use. Some people even tried, unsuccessfully in the long term, to take credit for my creations and make it their own, either oblivious to copyright laws or just did not care about them.

I also encountered people who told me that usually the creator is not the best person to run the company. Such people may get a token role as a board member or consultant, but the creation and rights are handed over to a board of directors and a manager. Unfortunately, when that happens, time and time again, it has been proven that such takeovers often shift the priority from mission first to profit first, at any cost, which I am determined will not happen in this case.

Someone once asked me, “What if someone steals my idea?” I laughed and replied, “Just the act of attempting to steal the idea would prove they really did not get the concept and therefore could not have been the creator.”

A consultant who lead a business workshop and an angel investor’s contest seminar I attended later contacted me to inform me he had created a business plan for my innovative creation, without asking my permission first.

A friend with more formal arts education took over my role for two performance workshops I sold, leaving me to sit on the sidelines while he took the credit and half the money. Additionally, a professional who should have know better, figured she could just take the concept on the road as if she owned the rights by paying for a workshop.

I could go on, but instead, I was motivated to also be innovative and creative to protect my rights, while using what I have created to help the many people, who are often exploited by people who have little or no respect for what is not theirs.

THE UNUSUAL SOLUTION FOR THE UNUSUAL MISSION
Surprisingly, I was inspired by legal and accounting firms, yet also by film production companies operating as limited liability partnership firms.

Of course, discovering first hand and from research what happens to corporations of any kind, also motivated me to instead transform my sole proprietorship in the future to a limited liability partnership in order to prevent the social business venture from being transformed into a political, profiteering organization.

Bringing on four management partners will result in partner investments, a vested commitment, the opportunity to belong to an unusual organization designed to do good on a grand scale, and also the acquisition of their bonuses from their partnership’s  percentage based on net profits.

There is a lot of talk about equality these days, but after working directly for management and in human resources, as well as a manager, trainer, and  supervisor, this social business exemplifies what equal pay for equal work is supposed to look like. My salary and the partners’ salaries are all the same and will remain the same even with increases. The only difference is with regard to year end net profit distribution. Each four partners (see the online job descriptions) will receive five percent annually, while I as developer, founder, and president will receive ten percent  initially, leaving seventy percent to be poured back into the business. In time, the percentage will skew as funds will also be redirected to establish the foundation and Spirit Ranch and as otherwise required. (Visit  http://www.connectingthedotswiththerespectprinciple.com for additional information.)

THE CHALLENGES

Transforming respect from a discretionary value to a global principle may seem daunting, but then again, any great work is daunting, often seeming impossible.

Not being a non-profit organization or even a for-profit organization means most grant sources are not available for this global initiative. In contrast to the typical organizations, contributor recognition can only be acknowledged by being listed as one of the supporters rather than being provided with a tax receipt for writing off contributions. This method also serves to separate the philanthropists from the altruists.

Borrowing money, whether through investors or any other means, also puts the social business venture’s integrity at risk, including the potential loss of ownership for something I have spent much of my life developing. From my perspective, I have given and sold enough to others, it is time to fully respect my work and be paid accordingly as everyone else should be also.

The goal this year is to secure the initial financial support for the first project and/or year and after that to become financially independent through sales, rather than dependent on the whims of politics and other influencing factors that are often reflections of the interest of a few  people rather than all people.

THE SOLUTION

We know tradition has its place. It reminds us from where we have come, which can either help or hinder us as we move forward in the present and into the future. And we can learn from the wise ones who have come before us. In this particular case,  Albert Einstein’s wisdom rings loud and clear, “Doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results is insanity.”

Let us not continue to be trapped by thinking that “what was” is still “what needs to be.” Our world has changed and continues to change more rapidly, so we all have to continuously adapt in order not just to survive, but to thrive. And that means all of us, rather than a select minority who are in control and work diligently to keep it that way, proven by the fact that the wealthy could use their means to eradicate the majority of the world’s problems, but historically and presently continue to choose not to do so–which means we must be the change we need to thrive as individuals, families, and collectives that share the world with everyone.

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER

Specialist Writer Speaker Social Entrepreneur Founder and President

of Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

Smashwords interview @  www.smashwords.com

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February 19, 2020

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Surrendering

Once upon a time, a very kind man went out of his way to help me.

He later asked why a woman would refuse his help and my flip response was that she probably needed to learn how to do things for herself. Of course, I was probably talking about myself because by the time we met when I was in my early forties, I had never really lived on my own.

However, my heart was conflicted..

I loved him as I had never loved another, but I was afraid: afraid he would be like others who wanted me to be who and what they wanted me to be rather than who I was just beginning to discover I was, and perhaps could be.

Devastated, but determined, I walked, well, I ran away as I learned to do at an early age.

Living far away from family and friends, I was solely on my own for the first time. Over the next years, I secured a number of different jobs and returned to school several times, plus discovered I had a variety of previously unrecognized natural talents.

What I lacked for years though was the healing I needed to make the much-needed changes in my life, including better money-management skills. For the longest time I did not connect the dots that my low “Respect Level” was supported by a debilitating pride. On a very deep level, I rationalized I had managed other people’s money successfully for years, so I should be able to manage my own, but for the longest time I could not see how I was hurting myself with my limiting, false beliefs.

Not until I recognized my role in the unhealthy relationships I kept developing, including with money, did things finally change, though not overnight.

My dark night of the soul had happened years ago. My pain was so overwhelming I cried out to God, whom I had rejected years ago because I thought he had abandoned me based on what I had gone through and how he had let bad things happen to me. No big change happened. In fact, I went through many periods of mild success and calm times, before another challenge thrust me out into the world searching for a new job and a new home. I finally settled on sharing a city apartment with a very psychologically-broken man because I was weary of the places I had had to live because my income did not provide enough to have my own apartment.

The cost was higher than I expected as I continue to explore the world and different ways people lived and worked. Sharing a living space with someone just as, or even more broken than I was emotionally, meant I took the brunt of his pain in his outbursts. And even as new girlfriends and left, I was relieved when one showed up and started moving her things into our small apartment. My decision to move out was made simple when in one of his rages he threw something and almost hit my little cat Missy. Living out the last two months in the apartment was to say the least, tense.

What little self worth was all but shattered, yet the move back to Kincardine to be there for my dad kept me busy and preoccupied. However, after his death, I took many more emotional and psychological hits and some days it took all I had to get up.

Once I had been excited about the work I knew I was to do. I registered the company, wrote books, and attracted people who wanted to be a part, well, actually wanted to exploit what I had created. Forced by circumstances to live in other people’s homes, I was learning not to lean on people, but on God to keep my cats and I provided for and safe.

But when the day came that I had to leave the last person’s home, plus did not have the means to go somewhere or a somewhere I could pay for, you could say my prayers were a little more urgent. And what happened next finally made me realize and accept that God had me covered.

Not that I could acknowledge the idea totally right away after having to move into a women’s shelter that  just happened to have a pilot project allowing woman in need to bring their animals with them and just happened to have an available room, which I soon discovered is not common either.

Still not having the means to rent a market value apartment, even a studio one, I posted my need on Facebook and weeks later found myself living in a room above a relative’s garage. Still not having the means to pay the agreed upon rent, I was provided the opportunity to cook for the relative’s family until I could pay the little rent they decided to charge me, which thankfully has arrived.

None of this has been easy, but it has been life-changing. I am no longer the stressed-out, non-confident, fearful woman I had become. Neither too, am I a woman defined by other people, but finally by myself … and God.

Surrendering to God has not been easy, mostly because I did not know enough about Him or trust Him, though I do know a lot more about Him and do trust Him now. So much so, that I am no longer even fearful of people, even of the one I love like I have not loved another.

In fact, surrendering to God is the best thing I have done because I know the purpose I am to fulfill comes from Him and that purpose is deeply rooted in my whole being and all that I do.

Surrendering to a man, allowing him to lead our marriage and home life is no longer terrifying either because first and foremost I trust God with my life and the life, and husband, He has chosen for me.

What a difference surrendering means when you discover that surrendering to the most powerful, loving being means placing your life, your trust, in someone who loves you unconditionally and only has your best interests at heart.

 

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER

Specialist Writer Speaker Social Entrepreneur Founder and President

of Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

Smashwords interview @  www.smashwords.com

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February 12, 2020

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Reclaiming Confidence

All I have been through shattered the confidence I had built up, but thankfully my confidence, as with many aspects of myself that were badly broken, is being restored, even beyond what I knew before, empowering me to move forward with my purpose, including living the life I have known in my heart was mine to live.

Particularly helpful now is Joyce Meyer’s book, The Confident Woman, with the reminder that a “A person without confidence is like an airplane sitting on a runway with empty fuel tanks,” and I know that feeling all too well, especially this past year.

Thankfully, Joyce fills up our tanks with the wisdom gained from her own experience, “Confidence allows us to face life with boldness, openness, and honesty. It enables us to live without worry and to feel safe. It enables us to live authentically … we are secure in who we are … even if we are different from those around us.”

Yet she also reminds us, “So, if I say I am confident, which I frequently do, I don’t mean that I am confident in myself or my abilities, I mean that I am confident in my leader, God, and the gifts talents, and knowledge He has placed in me. (Check out John 15.5)

So personally I tell myself now that regardless of what I have gone through as a result of other people’s and my choices, I am not the result. I am malleable; an ongoing work-in-process with a passion for helping others, a deep-seated curiosity compelling me to learn continuously, and a highly intelligent, innovative, and creative mind that served organizations well before and can now serve my life’s purpose of helping other people to feel valued and realize more of their unique potential too.

And, of course, as wonderful it is to have relationships with people, what has been the best thing to learn is how to establish a personal relationship with God, who is now my first goto and always my last too as I step back into the world reclaiming what is mine … boldly confident, open, and honest, knowing that whatever comes I am ready and have the best backup available to everyone.

 

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER

Specialist Writer Speaker Social Entrepreneur Founder and President

of Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

Smashwords interview @  www.smashwords.com

© All Rights Reserved 2014-2020

February 10, 2020

 

 

 

 

 

What Is Going On In The World Is Everybody’s Business

The world’s problems may feel overwhelming as can our thoughts about how we may not believe what we can do will make a difference. But just like those who give no thought or care to what they do to cause harm, through indifference or anger or hate, we can counter their harm by doing good.

And in fact we must for many reasons.

One, for survival.

You have probably heard the story about the scorpion and the frog.  Paraphrased here, the scorpion comes to the edge of a body of water and says, “Hey frog, give me a ride to the other side.” The frog laughs and replies, “No way! You will sting me and we will both drown.” Now the scorpion, being the charmer he is, replies, “No I won’t because I don’t want to drown!” Wanting to believe because he’s a good guy, the frog slides close to the scorpion so the scorpion can climb on his back and says, “All right. Hop on.” When the frog finally hits his stride in the water, suddenly he feels the scorpion’s sting and he yells, “Aah! You said you wouldn’t sting me!” Sadly, knowing they are both going to die, the scorpion sighs and replies, “I know. But it’s my nature” as they both slip below the water’s surface forever.

Thankfully we are not scorpions. As human beings, we have the power to change our beliefs, our thoughts, words, and actions.

Not doing our part to steward the earth responsibly contributes to our and the future generations demise. Our contributions to buying less, using less, especially plastic, re-purposing as well as re-cycling, buying from responsible companies and countries are just some of the positive contributions we make to our environmental world that supports our existence.

Not doing our part to change how we treat each other also contributes to most of the societal and economic problems that could be solved individually and collectively. Instead of ostracizing those struggling in our families, communities, nations, and globally, pulling them into the circle, not by force or manipulation, but by acceptance, seeking to understand, and aiding diminishes the need for government intervention and extra taxes because citizens are addressing needs at the grass roots level rather than the need for taxes beyond infrastructure needs.

Not doing our part to keep learning to enlarge our understanding about our differences, inhibits our willingness to accept people’s differences and therefore our compassion, instead forcing people to conform to the point that we foster mental and physical illnesses, plus addictions and even crime that further send people off balance and add more strain to our social structure, including increasing violence.

Not doing our part to live and let live, breeds the prejudice and hate that fuels everything from bullying to sexual abuse/assault, from caregiver abuse to domestic violence, from employee abuse to employer abuse, from leadership tyranny to financial abuse, from local violence and crime to terrorism and wars.

Not doing our part to help each individual discover and develop their unique blend of talents and potential in the end is comparable to the scorpion stinging and killing the frog because we poison, destroy, and even contribute to, or even kill the unique value each person, each life’s potential could add to the quality of our own lives.

For these reasons and more, we do not need to feel overwhelmed by the state of the world nor do we have to write off that what we could do as unimportant because the point is everyone matters as does what we choose to do, personally and together.

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER

Specialist Writer Speaker Social Entrepreneur Founder and President

of Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

Smashwords interview @  www.smashwords.com

© All Rights Reserved 2014-2020

January 2, 2020

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Current Work/Book-In-Process, “Carpenter’s Daughter”

Carpenter's Daughter

Currently the book/work-in-process, the personal story that inspired the concept of transforming respect from a discretionary value to a global principle.

 

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER

Writer, Founder and President of Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

Smashwords interview @  www.smashwords.com

© All Rights Reserved 2014-2019 

November 19, 2019

 

 

 

“The Secret to Great Opportunities? The Person You Haven’t Met Yet”

 

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KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER

Writer, Founder and President of Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

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November 4, 2019