Why Respect for All is the Most Logical, Practical, and Compassionate Tool for Peace

Love, of course, the unconditional kind, is the ultimate tool for peace, but based on the state of our world with all of its conflict, strife, and division, humanity has a long way to go before unconditional love becomes the new normal.

Personal experiences and the stories of others who had or were also suffering needlessly at the whims of others wracked me constantly with sadness and outrage for those harmed by ignorance, prejudice, and their own woundedness, acknowledged or not.

I inherently knew we needed one simple tool that the majority could buy into by choice. One simple tool that would entice the majority because of its social, economic, safety, security, and environmental impact. One simple tool with the power to slip beyond the boundaries of race, religion, politics, sex, class, etc. One simple tool with common sense and compassion merged together.

The answer that rose up from my core was the idea of transforming respect from a “value” to a “principle” that eventually became my thesis, Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle. The thesis resulted in several essays, books, a play, and will grow into a worldwide social business venture as funds allow … or should I say as people help make it happen.

Maybe these desperate times of the pandemic will motivate people to do things differently … to work together for the common good as well as for the good of themselves.

Here’s hoping … and while I am waiting for help, well, I will keep doing my part to help make the world a better place for all people.

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER
Specialist, Writer, Speaker, Social Entrepreneur, Founder and President
http://www.connectingthedotswiththerespectprinciple.com
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January 1, 2021

Maybe these recent events will wake up the people still concerned solely about their liberty …

Maybe these recent events will wake up the people still concerned solely about their liberty versus people and animal health and well-being … as well as how their refusal is delaying an economic rebound, increasing taxes for health care, and burning out the very people who normally take care of all of us, but now can’t … because, well, some people still believe their right to choose to not wear a mask, to not social distance, to not gather, and to not self-isolate is more important than the rest of the people and animals … well, even the whole world.

“Breeders in Denmark euthanized 15 million minks over concerns about a mutated version of the virus that has spread among the animals. Mink farmers in Spain have culled almost 100,000. In the U.S., nearly 10,000 minks across Utah died of COVID-19 as the virus spread rapidly across farms in the state.” Quoted from The Globe and Mail

https://www.theglobeandmail.com/canada/british-columbia/article-eight-people-test-positive-for-covid-19-at-bc-mink-farm-outbreak/

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER
Specialist, Writer, Speaker, Social Entrepreneur, Founder and President
http://www.connectingthedotswiththerespectprinciple.com
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December 7, 2020

“First Born Children Really Are Treated Differently by Mom”

Linked article by Emma Betuel for Inverse on Pocket Worthy

https://getpocket.com/explore/item/first-born-children-really-are-treated-differently-by-mom?utm_source=pocket-newtab

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KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER
Specialist, Writer, Speaker, Social Entrepreneur, Founder and President
http://www.connectingthedotswiththerespectprinciple.com
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November 21, 202
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Healthy Relationships …

Reciprocal, respectful, non-competitive, loyal, confidential, boundaries, supportive, and wholehearted.

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER
Specialist, Writer, Speaker, Social Entrepreneur, Founder and President
http://www.connectingthedotswiththerespectprinciple.com
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November 20, 2020

Why Making Mistakes Fosters Growth

Not making mistakes translates into not taking any risks, not growing, and not becoming wiser … and unfortunately, a lot less compassionate, unable to walk, even mentally, in someone else’s shoes. Some of my mistakes were the result of conscious choice, but many were the result of a low “Respect Level” for myself and as a result, for others, especially those who exploited, bullied, or abused me or other vulnerable souls.

The good news is that my failures put me in the position many times of the oppressed, the rejected, and those in need so when I write what I write, I may use statistics and even other people’s stories, but most importantly I write from actual, personal, heart and spirit-breaking experience. … in order to help both the heart and spirit broken and those who, consciously or not, contribute to the breaking.

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER
Specialist, Writer, Speaker, Social Entrepreneur, Founder and President
http://www.connectingthedotswiththerespectprinciple.com
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November 17, 2020

“The Likability Dilemma for Women Leaders”

A linked post is not loading, so please visit TED for Robin Hauser’s talk at TEDsMarin or goto my Facebook, Twitter, or LinkedIn page to click on the link of the above title to enjoy, plus either be surprised or validated.

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER
Specialist, Writer, Speaker, Social Entrepreneur, Founder and President
http://www.connectingthedotswiththerespectprinciple.com
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November 14, 2020

Be Aware. Be Respectful. Be Safe … and Make a Positive Difference

Numbers based on CNN Health’s website today …

COVID-19 World Wide … Cases 52.4 million … Deaths 1.3 million

COVID-19 United States … Cases 19,441,937 … Deaths 242,073

COVID-19 Canada … Cases 280,000 … Deaths 10,754

And even if you don’t believe all the deaths were directly a result of COVID-19, that is still a lot of people who died and a lot of health care costs incurred, so please don’t add to either sets of numbers. Be aware. Be respectful. Be Safe. And make a positive difference … Please … for your own sake as well as everybody’s sake.

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER
Specialist, Writer, Speaker, Social Entrepreneur, Founder and President
http://www.connectingthedotswiththerespectprinciple.com
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November 12, 2020

“How We Call Races”

Get the details about The Associated Press on how it “Calls A Presidential Race”

Linked article by The Associated Press

https://www.ap.org/en-us/topics/politics/elections/how-we-call-race

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KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER
Specialist, Writer, Speaker, Social Entrepreneur, Founder and President
http://www.connectingthedotswiththerespectprinciple.com
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November 7, 2020

“Your Complete Guide On Why Social Science Is Important”

Your Complete Guide On Why Social Science Is Important

Click on following link to read Artifacts article …

https://artifacts.ai/your-complete-guide-on-why-social-science-is-important/

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER
Specialist, Writer, Speaker, Social Entrepreneur, Founder and President
http://www.connectingthedotswiththerespectprinciple.com
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November 8, 2020

What We Don’t Know About Personality Types Inhibits Our Ability to Make Sound Decisions

The challenge for us all is to let people be different without punishing them for their differences … unless they are hurting, abusing, and violating a person or people for their own gain, which doesn’t even have to be monetary, but could just be about controlling others to express one’s wounded or broken spirit.

Psychology was founded with the goal to understand people in order to help them. Sigmund Freud focused on developing his methodology though one on one analysis, while Carl Jung, the other founder of the psychology movement took a different approach.

Carl Jung’s thesis resulted in further distinguishing the different types of personalities with specific traits. Later on, a mother and daughter team expanded Jung’s concept and developed what has become a standard profiling tool used to determine the best fits for jobs, especially for executive jobs and for ivy league school applicants; however, the success of the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator is now used more liberally to determine if a person may be a good fit for a role. In fact, I have also used the MBTI to write my company’s job descriptions for the team I will one day recruit for my social business venture, Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle.

Basically the MBTI is divided into 16 characteristic groups and each person’s personality type, after answering a series of questions, is categorized as a certain type, such as, an ESTJ.

The first letter, an E or an I, represents the dominant way a person’s mind processes the world. E represents Extroverts whose minds require constant external stimulation for their brains to function optimally. They are the talkers who dominate not only conversations, but also the majority of people and environments. I represents the minority, the Introverts, whose minds are highly engaged internally, thinking all the time, so, to not become overstimulated/stressed, Introverts require a lot of quiet and/or solitude.

Fortunately, the world needs both because the Introverts are the scientists, the writers, the artists, and the creators, including entrepreneurs. Their work requires they work on their own though they often collaborate by bringing their unique talents together. Extroverts are the people who love to communicate with others to get jobs done. They work to make what’s been discovered or created a reality for the many. They sell and build houses, they manage companies, and enjoy work that engages their mind constantly externally plus taps into their other unique skills.

However, because a lot of people are unaware of the MBTI Personality Type tool and other comparable tools available to help us accept and even understand people different from us, people judge people based on their own stereotypes they have been taught, even if they are not aware of the biases they may have learned.

For instance, the other day I heard a woman being interviewed by a news team that she would not vote for Joe Biden because his soft-spoken manner made him weak to her, while Donald Trump, because he is loud and bullish is strong. Yet, as an Introvert myself, I know I am much stronger than most Extroverts I know because I study and pay attention in ways Extroverts mostly do not. As a result, Introverts often have more knowledge that makes them stronger though they may convey their strengths in different ways than dominating conversations and/or even grandstanding, but grandstanding is more likely to occur if an Extrovert is insecure and uses loud aggression to vent and/or mask insecurity.

Of course, the actions of both Extroverts and Introverts are also influenced by the other MBTI characteristics that further define one’s Personality Type, such as N for Intuitive versus S for Sensor, T for Thinker versus F for Feeler, and lastly J for Judger or P for Perceiver.

And, on top of the natural Personality Type is the profile, which basically is the reviewing on one’s childhood, youth, and life experience to date to best understand why one person with the same Personality Type can be very different from someone else with the same MBTI Personality Type.

As we mature, it is also noted that Personality Types become more balanced over time, but there are always exceptions.

One of the greatest influencers for healthy development of both types are how people are treated. When people are treated disrespectfully, made to feel bad about their differences, they will often act out based on their Personality Type. Introverts withdraw from people, whereas Extroverts hunger for attention and approval, though both, if damaged in their younger years may seek to inflict damage on others, men often one way while women often in another.

However, as witnessed again the other night on television, the biggest and consistent misconception I have observed is Extroverts describing Introverts as shy and weak because of their lack of knowledge and their preference for people just like them. But because a person is not loud and does not dominate a conversation, does not mean neither is he/she shy or weak. We Introverts prefer to think before we speak. We prefer to process not only a person’s words, but their mannerisms, and the way a person treats people.

Personally, as an Introvert who did not have this knowledge for years, I was deeply hurt and traumatized by Extroverts who misjudged, misunderstood, and harmed me greatly because of ignorance and because of the fear of someone too different from them. The result was I believed what they said and accepted how they treated me. I erroneously thought I was the problem and for years allowed people to treat me as less valuable if I did not act like them.

And sadly, the experiences broke my spirit and derailed the life I should have been living, until I did what came naturally to me … I dove into the books to understand the mess ignorance, fear, and intolerance manifested, not just to help myself, but also to help both other Introverts and the Extroverts who falsely judge Introverts because of their lack of knowledge that prohibits Extroverts from making sound decisions for their families, relationships, communities, businesses, and yes, also for their country.

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER
Specialist, Writer, Speaker, Social Entrepreneur, Founder and President
http://www.connectingthedotswiththerespectprinciple.com
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November 2, 2020