“Better Brain Health”

A DW Documentary about the impact of what we eat on our brain’s processing and mental health …

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TLpbfOJ4bJU

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Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

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August 5, 2020

Defining Words

Respect is mostly defined, in many dictionaries, dominantly as valuing … being kind to, esteeming, honoring, regarding, being polite to, showing courtesy to, considering, noting, recognizing, taking into account

Admire is often used equally with respect, yet in most dictionaries and thesauruses, admire is best defined as the quality of looking up to someone for his/her/their accomplishments/achievements, rather than for just being a person

Value is defined by the company as a discretionary value because people choose who or what to value, making the choice at their discretion

Principle, in contrast to a value, is a universal idea adopted by the majority and applicable to everyone, therefore making the decision to decide who or what is valuable or is not as obsolete in order to foster true acts of equality in human and natural interactions

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KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER

Specialist, Writer, Speaker, Social Entrepreneur, Founder and President

Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

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July 31, 2020

We Are Strange Creatures

We are strange creatures indeed! It’s a funny, yet also a sad, thing that I and maybe you have noticed about social media and well, life too …

We share pictures, abstract ideas, personal opinions, emotions, and experiences a variety of information, a lot of negativity, philosophies, politics, and various spiritual beliefs, but nothing else seems to make as many people, even those Joyce calls ‘secret Christians,” uncomfortable and unlikely “to like” a post about believing in God, Jesus, and the Holy Spirit and being excited about it … which is one of those funny, but sad things, because nothing else has brought about so much good into my life, even though right now, tangibly it may not look that way, but inside, oh my, I have never felt so rich, satisfied, peaceful, accepted, loved, and yes, even happy and joyful. But don’t take my word for it … go to the Word itself. … rather than just getting bits of it, often taken out of context or skewed by someone else’s opinion.

And since summer is always a good reading time and more so because of the pandemic, it’s a perfect time to also discover how best to cope with what is happening in our world. What made reading the Bible much easier for me though was reading an amplified Bible, which takes passages and puts them in modern day context. I’ve been using the Joyce Meyer amplified Everyday Bible. Whatever you choose, you will also discover how many people actually reference the Bible, people, and quotes comparable to the way many people people also reference Shakespeare’s writings too.

 

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER

Specialist, Writer, Speaker, Social Entrepreneur, Founder and President

Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

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July 27, 2020

 

 

To Mask or Not to Mask

When “freedom” is used a means to do what we want … regardless of the impact on others, it may be freedom, but it is a selfish, narcissistic, and sociopathic freedom that disregards and devalues the lives of others so we can feel more important than others … which we are not.

Still not sure? Consider these scenarios  …

Sexual predators want to be free to do what they want. Should they?

Criminals want to be free to do what they want. Should they?

Terrorists want to be free to do what they want? Should they?

Businesses want to be free to do what they want? Should they?

Politicians want to be tree to do what they want? Should they?

Etc. Etc. Etc.

Without respect that values all life, humans need guidelines, checks and balances to counter beliefs, thoughts, and action individuals, groups, and humanity that are only self-serving and harmful to others. It is easy to slide into the pit of selfishness with the “freedom” justification, yet in no time at all, our world could end, not because of the apocalypse, but because of our own carelessness and disregard for life … anyone’s life, including our own.

This pandemic is revealing, like others, not just how fragile humanity can be to a medical disease, but more importantly how fragile we are in our thinking … believing that our freedom to do what we want when we want to is not something to be proud of or partake in without consideration and reflections because our actions and in-actions may just be responsible, not only for taking a stranger’s life by passing on the COVID-19, but also for potentially taking the life of a loved one or even several.

However, a higher “Respect Level” and more love for others would not allow us to be so callous and careless with life, but instead can empower us to deal positively with the inconveniences, the discomfort, and whatever else the acts of respecting and loving ourselves and others requires during this challenging time for humanity.

The answer is simple. Be a role model … not a rebel without a cause. Wear a mask. Social distance. Be mature. Act responsibly. And when this pandemic is done, you will feel better about yourself for doing you part … and the world will thank you too as we all breathe a sigh of relief for meeting a global human crisis … together.

 

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER

Specialist, Writer, Speaker, Social Entrepreneur, Founder and President

Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

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July 24, 2020

 

 

 

 

“The Dangerous Downside of Perfection”

The linked article is filled with all the data you need to reconsider how you live or are influencing others to live. There are personal stories too, including mine shared below the link. Happy reading!

Linked article by Amanda Ruggeri for BBC Future on PocketWorthy

https://getpocket.com/explore/item/the-dangerous-downsides-of-perfectionism?utm_source=pocket-newtab

My Personal Experience with Perfectionism

Because of my unusual personality type, I did not “fit in” unless I was doing everything “perfect” or above average, but the cost was high, especially in the long run. When I finally raised my “Respect Level” high enough, valuing myself equally to others, I quit obsessing with perfect and started focusing on discovering who I was under the perfect image that was killing me with its unreasonable, unrealistic, and painful consequences.

Though my physical and mental health has since improved, a cost was also paid for with the loss of many relationships, but then again, the relationships I had were more based on my meeting other people’s needs and wants, so it really is no surprise that many relationships ended. Now, starting over at the bottom of the life and success scale, with hardly any material possessions or worldly success, the relationships I now develop are based on who I am as a person, rather than what I have accomplished or how perfectly I perform or meet someone’s wants and needs, because I have witnessed first hand what relationships based on performance result in … emptiness, sadness, and an unhealthy striving to be something that I am not … perfect.

Freed from the need to be perfect, I can now just be a unique human … me … exploring my and our world, changing my mind, trying new things, and encouraging myself when I make a mistake or fail ,so I don’t give up on what’s important to me because I don’t get it right the first, second, or twentieth time. It’s a welcome, long-awaited state of being I highly recommend for the bliss imperfection provides.

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Specialist, Writer, Speaker, Social Entrepreneur, Founder and President

Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

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July 20, 2020

 

Worried About the Economic Impact of the Coronavirus Pandemic?

What every person chooses to do is, as has been said, “A part of the problem or the solution.”

Most of us will never know all the truth about the COVID-19 Pandemic.

Scientists are working to discover how to combat the virus, the spread of the virus, and ultimately the prevention of the virus, yet science takes time, takes trial and error, takes money, takes energy, and a whole lot of patience.

Most of us are not scientists, but patients waiting to be immunized, so our key role is not only being a patient, but a “patient” patient, following the guidance of the health professionals to protect not just ourselves, but also everyone else.

Will some people exploit the pandemic and us? No doubt. But that fact does not mean we should be concerned so much about being exploited as much as we should be concerned about our and everyone’s health … because if we get sick and or die, being exploited will be the least of our concerns … including the financial impact.

And if we want to minimize the pandemic’s financial impact on us, then it comes back to our doing our part to be a part of the solution rather than add to the problem.

It’s our choice. We can be selfish, thinking only of our wants, or we can be selfless, thinking not just of ourselves, but about everyone else … the world we share.

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July 13, 2020

 

“The Nine Types of People You’ll Meet in Retirement”

Linked article by Sean McDonnell and Jacob Schroeder for Kiplinger

https://getpocket.com/explore/item/the-9-types-of-people-you-ll-meet-in-retirement?utm_source=pocket-newtab

Personally, as someone who has moved around Ontario a lot the past twenty plus years I am looking forward to putting down roots, even owning my home again. Settling in to a home lifestyle that includes horses, swimming, and creating visual art to offset the founder, president, creative director, and writer responsibilities for the social business venture, Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle, places me in a few of the “types” which is greatly fulfilling for me. Hopefully, sharing this stage of life with someone special, along with my future business partners/team, will fulfill long-held dreams and goals too and will fulfill his and their dreams and goals too.

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Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

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July 9, 2020

 

 

Break the Tradition … Not the Children

The fact people are still equally divided on whether a child is acceptable or note, plus the slow-shifting idea that maybe getting smacked was not a good experience is an opportunity to clarify the impact of physical punishment.

To strike means to give a blow to, to hit, to cause to come into forceful contact, to attack. To spank means to strike something with an open hand, especially on the buttocks, as punishment. Violence is physical force so as to injure or damage, is intense powerful force, unjust or callous use of force or power, a violent deed or act. Coles Concise English Dictionary, 1979)

Yes, many people have been spanked because it is a tradition, But also, many people have also received strikes that went well beyond spanking, including slaps across the face, smacks with belts, straps, rulers, yardsticks, whatever was handy for beatings that even resulted in death. Remember, people often take out their frustration and anger on those they “love.”

The problem is not the child or a child’s behaviour. The problem is with with parents, caregivers, and society to refuse to move past a tradition because it is a tradition.

On one hand, I do not understand why people, who take on the tremendous responsibility of raising a child and transforming them into an adult, would not want to take the time to learn from the present knowledge instead of repeating the past. If one was an employed caregiver, we certainly expect them to receive the same knowledge through training and to act accordingly.

On the other hand, my years of research, built on the research of other experts, including Alice Miller, the forerunner who studied how Hitler and others were shaped into the adults they became, revealed our dominant, often unconscious belief people have to earn respect to be considerable valuable.

When it comes to our stuff, if we value it, we treat it with care. How much depends on our own “Respect Level,” which was shaped by our own experiences. How we treat others and children reveals the same.

Even horse training advanced beyond tradition. “Breaking” horses is now considered cruel and unnecessary since “gentling” a horse results, not only in a quicker response, but in a response based on bonding fostering willingness versus fear fostering rebellion.

The final piece of the puzzle is recognizing our differences. One psychological tool, the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI), reveals there are sixteen personality types, yet we need to consider all the other influencing factors, such as, culture, religion, social status, etc. affecting a family. Considering these and many other factors, we really do not know how physical punishment is going to affect a child.

The truth is striking a child is no longer the smart, compassionate, or respectful thing to do … raising awareness and choosing alternatives is. Let’s break the tradition no longer serving us. Let’s not take the chance and break … then have to repair the children, teens, and adults … physical punishment creates.

Kaitlin A. Trepanier

By permission, this originally published “Letter to the Editor” in the South Bruce Weekender, January 21, 2016, is being published today by the original author to share the contents with a global versus small community audience.

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Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

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June 30, 2020

 

 

 

 

From Gentle Souls to Monsters

History and science teach us that unacknowledged, unprocessed pain can transform even the gentlest of souls into monsters of all kinds, so we need a more enlightened and aware approach to how we treat each other … especially those closest to us … because love should not hurt, makes us feel bad about ourselves, etc. and if it does, it is likely not love we are acting on, but something else.

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Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

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June 28, 2020