Confident Secure People Are Not Egoistic and Are Not Motivated by Self Interest

Confidence can be a good thing, but as with most things taken to an extreme manifests an imbalance.

The same goes for insecurity, especially because the most insecure people falsely believe that they must try to elevate themselves to positions of accomplishment/power … in order for them to feel powerful and secure … when in reality, I have personally discovered from my own transformation from insecure to secure, secure people do not have to because they are not only secure, they are confident in their worth, regardless of their circumstances, their status, or their position.

Another challenges an insecure person faces is becoming prideful to the point of egoistic … otherwise described as conceited, self-serving, motivated by self-interest, in order to compensate for their insecurity. And a self-absorbed person will use whatever and whomever they can to achieve their goals, but when something or someone no longer suits his or her purpose, they are quick to dismiss, discard, blame, incite, and in some cases, even kill bodies as well as spirits. We certainly see this in all those books we read and movies/shows we watch, plus prisons are packed with many such individuals. And right now, we see this playing out our political stages in North America.

Control and manipulation are the tools employed by insecure people to mask their fear of being seen for what they truly are … a human being with weaknesses and strengths … and in their case, as one who feels so insecure and non-confident they must create a persona, not unlike “The Wizard of Oz” to support their false bravado.

And though humans throw the word “supremacy” around, such as with supreme court, supreme justices, and even white supremacy, the reality of the matter is there is no supreme being on earth. Every human is fallible and the most secure, confident people know this, and if they are leaders, they add team members who complement their strengths and add strength to their weaknesses.

In contrast, the other thing that identifies a secure person is their altruistic thinking and behaviour … he or she cares about and helps others … rather than seeks to control and harm … in part, because they are mature enough to know we are all in this world together and working together, drawing on each other’s strengths, rather than manipulating their weaknesses, is the best source of success for humanity, rather than extinction.

So, you decide … what kind of parent, husband, teacher, or leader do you want in your life … leading your community … your country?

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER

Specialist Writer Speaker Social Entrepreneur Founder and President

of/for Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

Smashwords interview @  www.smashwords.com

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Revised January 19, 2021

What We May Not Know … What Narcissists, Abusers, Bullies, Tyrants, and Dictators Have in Common

The challenge for people right now is to ask the questions that need to be answered rather than digging in and holding fast to beliefs that could be harmful to themselves as well as to others. This knowledge is one of the first things taught to children, teens, and adults who have experienced abuse in order, not only for them to heal, but to be able to recognize abuse for what it is … because it is often cloaked or wrapped in charismatic, charming words and actions … until the person gets what he or she wants from the person or group he or she is victimizing. It’s kind of like a 101 class … the basics needed to learn in order to prevent the recurrence of being victimized again.

However, abuse is not restricted to sexual abuse, but as history and the present show, abuse can be used in any arena, including the political, currently being demonstrated in a country, the United States, that for many people has come to represent democracy and freedom from tyranny.

My hope is that with more knowledge about what is actually going on, more people will be encouraged to stand up to those who seek to stand on other people to seek a sense of superiority that is not attainable by might born of abusing and bullying those who don’t agree or follow them.

NARCISSISM … The term comes from the Greek myth of a young man’s unfortunate emotional investment in his own reflection. In its most general sense it stands for an exaggerated self-love.

ABUSE … To use improperly or injuriously, misuse. To hurt by treating wrongly. To speak in coarse or bad terms. To revile, malign. To deceive. Abuse of power. Vicious conduct, practice, or action. Abusive language. To slander. Insulting.

BULLYnoun … A swaggering, quarrelsome, usually cowardly person who terrorizes weaker people. A hired ruffian … verb … To intimidate or coerce by threats. To act the bully.

TYRANTnoun … One who rules oppressively or cruelly, a despot. One who exercises absolute power without legal warrant, whether ruling well or badly.

DICTATORnoun … A person having absolute powers of a government in a state, especially, such a person considered as a tyrant or oppressor. A person who rules, prescribes, or suggests authoritatively.

Source … The Reader’s Digest Great Encyclopedic Dictionary, including Funk & WagnallS Standard College Dictionary 1966, 1968, 1971, 1975

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER

Specialist Writer Speaker Social Entrepreneur Founder and President

of/for Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

Smashwords interview @  www.smashwords.com

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Last Updated January 14, 2021

Charisma, a Compelling Charm, Can Be Used for Good … Or Evil

“GOOD EXAMPLES” include Jesus, his disciples, John F. Kennedy, Martin Luther King, Jr., televangelists, celebrities, and anyone who uses their charm … their charisma to do good and to help others, rather than cause harm and incite chaos.

“EVIL EXAMPLES” include Hitler and other leaders, including cult, religious, political, and leaders of any group, plus serial killers, such as Ted Bundy, who use their “charm … their charisma” for selfish, controlling, self-serving reasons by choice or because of their impaired ability to be compassionate, empathetic, unbiased, non-prejudicial, respectful, and loving.

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER

Specialist Writer Speaker Social Entrepreneur Founder and President

of/for Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

Smashwords interview @  www.smashwords.com

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Last Updated January 11, 2021

Applying What We Learn from History to Prevent Master Deceivers from Inciting Chaos and Hate Today

As history has repeatedly shown us, master deceivers excel at pulling the wool over people’s eyes so followers do not see the truth of the matter. We only need to look at serial killers and anyone with their own agenda to control and harm … Hitler is still one of the best examples of blinding people and controlling them by fear.

The President and his gang, not the Republican Party, are responsible for all that is ugly, dark, disrespectful, and hateful towards are all Americans. I am grateful that the mob attack to stage a coup has finally removed the veil from the Republican Party’s eyes … and as a result has UNITED what the President DIVIDED. Hooray and Amen! BRAVO Americans for saying enough is enough to protect DEMOCRACY and ALL AMERICANS!

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER

Specialist Writer Speaker Social Entrepreneur Founder and President

of/for Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

Smashwords interview @  www.smashwords.com

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Last Updated January 7, 2021

Why Respect for All is the Most Logical, Practical, and Compassionate Tool for Peace

Love, of course, the unconditional kind, is the ultimate tool for peace, but based on the state of our world with all of its conflict, strife, and division, humanity has a long way to go before unconditional love becomes the new normal.

Personal experiences and the stories of others who had or were also suffering needlessly at the whims of others wracked me constantly with sadness and outrage for those harmed by ignorance, prejudice, and their own woundedness, acknowledged or not.

I inherently knew we needed one simple tool that the majority could buy into by choice. One simple tool that would entice the majority because of its social, economic, safety, security, and environmental impact. One simple tool with the power to slip beyond the boundaries of race, religion, politics, sex, class, etc. One simple tool with common sense and compassion merged together.

The answer that rose up from my core was the idea of transforming respect from a “value” to a “principle” that eventually became my thesis, Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle. The thesis resulted in several essays, books, a play, and will grow into a worldwide social business venture as funds allow … or should I say as people help make it happen.

Maybe these desperate times of the pandemic will motivate people to do things differently … to work together for the common good as well as for the good of themselves.

Here’s hoping … and while I am waiting for help, well, I will keep doing my part to help make the world a better place for all people.

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER
Specialist, Writer, Speaker, Social Entrepreneur, Founder and President
http://www.connectingthedotswiththerespectprinciple.com
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January 1, 2021

2021 Hope List

  1. We will value … respect each life.
  2. We will foster good will towards all people.
  3. We will not add to a humanity problem, but be part of the solution.
  4. We will use our unique talents and skills to help solve the world’s problems.
  5. We will work together as a community and as a community of nations for peace.
  6. We will not devalue, demean, ignore, abandon, or harm intentionally another life.
  7. We will recognize our differences, desire to learn from them, desire to share our differences … and discover, develop, and evolve individually … and as a species.

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER
Specialist, Writer, Speaker, Social Entrepreneur, Founder and President
http://www.connectingthedotswiththerespectprinciple.com
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December 31, 2020

“Cognitive Ability and Vulnerability to Fake News”

From the following linked article by David Z. Hambrick and Madeline Marquardt for Scientific American on Pocket Worthy

“At a more general level, this research underscores the threat that fake news poses to democratic society. The aim of using fake news as propaganda is to make people think and behave in ways they wouldn’t otherwise—for example, hold a view that is contradicted by overwhelming scientific consensus. When this nefarious aim is achieved, citizens no longer have the ability to act in their own self-interest. In the logic of democracy, this isn’t just bad for that citizen—it’s bad for society.”

https://getpocket.com/explore/item/cognitive-ability-and-vulnerability-to-fake-news?utm_source=pocket-newtab

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER
Specialist, Writer, Speaker, Social Entrepreneur, Founder and President
http://www.connectingthedotswiththerespectprinciple.com
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December 12, 2020

On Zoom, Men Don’t Like Feeling Watched or Judged — But Women Are Used to It

Linked article by Treena Orchard and Shauna Burke for The Conversation on Pocket Worthy

https://getpocket.com/explore/item/on-zoom-men-don-t-like-feeling-watched-and-judged-but-women-are-used-to-it?utm_source=pocket-newtab

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER
Specialist, Writer, Speaker, Social Entrepreneur, Founder and President
http://www.connectingthedotswiththerespectprinciple.com
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December 10, 2020

Maybe these recent events will wake up the people still concerned solely about their liberty …

Maybe these recent events will wake up the people still concerned solely about their liberty versus people and animal health and well-being … as well as how their refusal is delaying an economic rebound, increasing taxes for health care, and burning out the very people who normally take care of all of us, but now can’t … because, well, some people still believe their right to choose to not wear a mask, to not social distance, to not gather, and to not self-isolate is more important than the rest of the people and animals … well, even the whole world.

“Breeders in Denmark euthanized 15 million minks over concerns about a mutated version of the virus that has spread among the animals. Mink farmers in Spain have culled almost 100,000. In the U.S., nearly 10,000 minks across Utah died of COVID-19 as the virus spread rapidly across farms in the state.” Quoted from The Globe and Mail

https://www.theglobeandmail.com/canada/british-columbia/article-eight-people-test-positive-for-covid-19-at-bc-mink-farm-outbreak/

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER
Specialist, Writer, Speaker, Social Entrepreneur, Founder and President
http://www.connectingthedotswiththerespectprinciple.com
© All Rights Reserved 2014-2020
December 7, 2020