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Do you know someone or are you one of those people labelled negatively by family or peers or community? Or have you lost someone due to depression or addictions? Or are you a person struggling to pull yourself out of a state of mind threatening your actual existence? After years of searching for answers and for healing in order to move forward with the life right for her, Kaitlin shares her story.

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Kaitlin Ann Trepanier, Human Rights Activist, Author, Poet, Playwright, and Speaker. Available books, Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle and Broken Compass How To Save A Life

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Valuing Every Life is the Most Cost Effective, Efficient, Economical, and Compassionate Tool to Address, Reduce, and Eliminate Humanity’s Biggest Challenges

Kaitlin Ann Trepanier, Human Rights Activist, Author, Poet, Playwright, and Speaker. Available books, Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle and Broken Compass How To Save A Life

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Kaitlin Ann Trepanier, Human Rights Activist, Author, Poet, Playwright, and Speaker. Available books, Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle and Broken Compass How To Save A Life

PAWN

PAWN

“Someone who is used or manipulated to further another person’s purposes.”

Source … the Urban Dictionary @ https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Pawn

Kaitlin Ann Trepanier, Human Rights Advocate, Author, Playwright, and Motivational Speaker. Available books, Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle and Broken Compass How To Save A Life, plus the school play, The Choice. All rights reserved.

Why I Abandoned Christianity and Why I Returned

WHY I ABANDONED CHRISTIANITY and WHY I RETURNED

Kaitlin Ann Trepanier, January 20, 2022

Even through the eyes of a child Catholicism and Catholics did not make sense to me. I did not understand that for all the talk of love, the kind of love I experienced hurt. A lot. And my highly curious, investigative, and logical mind could not make sense of the contradictions between words and actions.

Early grade school reports revealed I thrived on learning, demonstrated by my excelling in all areas, but the black and white clothed grade three teacher curbed my learning drive. Her constant frustration with my becoming restless and inattentive with her constant chatter compelled her to ship me off to the corner of the classroom, cloaked in embarrassment and shame. Regular rapping of my knuckles with a ruler fuelled more defiance, but the day she stormed towards me with her brandished yardstick and smashed the wood across my head, she surprised and riotously angered me.

Grade four memories evade me still because by this time I was slipping away from school and home to find peace and quiet in the outdoors, encountering strangers and often not remembering still how I got where I was and whom I had been with.

By grade five in Catholic school, hurt and pain had been transformed to constant defiance lashed out on others in outraged anger, well beyond the scope of the hurt he or she may have inflicted on me. My horror to this day is still wondering if I played a part in upending a female student’s desk with her in it as part of a pact the class bullies decided to inflict upon the one person teased and ostracized more than me. As I stood in the lineup of students to be strapped for their involvement, all boys but me, I recall my wonder when my favourite teacher sent me packing to the office instead. Teasing and taunting grew as my height spiked and towered over most of the males in grades six, seven, and eight in Catholic junior high school and family life still pushed me out of doors, but no longer for peace, but the search for love and acceptance … somewhere.

The idea of being loved by God faded with every passing year and by sixteen was non-existent, pushed to the extreme after a violent marriage that made previous physical disciplines look and feel like taps.

Berated by a priest for my audacity to ask to be married for the second time in my life in his Catholic church sealed God out of my life well into my forties, with the exception of yearly attending Christmas Eve midnight mass with my sister.

Philosophy and new age studies took over my mind for awhile, but no matter what, peace evaded my tortured spirit and soul, so I gave up on believing there was any more to life other than life and doing one’s best with whatever presented itself. Even the second marriage of almost twenty years could not survive because of long-buried hurts, trauma, unforgiveness, deep-seated rage, and never ever truly feeling loved and accepted.

Eventually the deep craving for peace and love would not leave me alone and I found myself entering churches of many different denominations, but old wounds and careful scrutiny kept me at arm’s distance from settling in somewhere. And then there were the constant contradictions red flagging all my and other people’s attempts. The only time I felt comfortable thinking about God was singing in a community choir and eventually a church choir.

What pushed me out of a church faster than anything else were the people who pushed their way into my personal space with invasive questions and uninvited touch.

Finally I gave up walking into churches and turned to the Bible to try and understand unfettered by people, but after the violence I experienced in my lifetime, the Bible’s violence, righteous or not, turned my stomach and my eyes from the words.

Partial to studying, books beckoned as did movies and television shows, such as Touched By An Angel, which took the sting out while teaching softly and gently, until I could finally listen to televangelists whose style and words did not smack of the familiar condemnations, but instead fostered hope while teaching actual Bible truths rather than some people’s adaptations of Bible truths.

The long, winding sojourn back to God has been fraught with the consequences of unbelief and the unrighteous acts of defiance and revenge forged by a lifetime of immense pain, trauma, and loneliness.

My later in life journey also angered many people as they wrote me off as lazy or worse, not able to comprehend as people could not when I was younger because of their lack of knowledge too about different personality types, love languages, learning, and communication styles, plus the wounds the different experience born of ignorance and intolerance. Even now,  their frustration with my choices when I say I asked God and He directed me, startle me as many are Christian believers too, though I now understand their level of belief has not grown as much as mine, in part because of my intense study and relationship development with God, through Jesus and the Holy Spirit in order to actually save my life from the heavy burdens of guilt, judgment, condemnation, and resulting depression.

And just last week, the day following my sixty seventh birthday, God directed me to give up on the project I worked on for seven years to transform respect from a discretionary value to a global principle, Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle, to turn instead to helping people with writing what I have learned and starting divinity studies to eventually serve also as a minister.

I share this for anyone who walked away from God or was never even introduced because learning He is for you, especially when no one else is, provides comfort and peace not easily found or experienced in this world.

Kaitlin Ann Trepanier, Human Rights/Peace Advocate, Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle social business Founder/President and Blog Writer, plus Author of Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle and Broken Compass How To Save A Life. NEW FOR 2022! Freelance Writing and Divinity College/University. All rights reserved.

“If You Wish Others to Respect You …”

“If you wish others to respect you, you must show respect for them … Everyone wants to feel that he(she) counts for something and is important to someone.”

Ari Kiev, psychiatrist quoted from John C. Maxwell’s book, “Becoming a Person of Influence,” page 186

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June 9, 2021

“How to Build Solid Relationships”

Linked article from TED Ideas 7 Speakers by Kara Cutruzzula

https://getpocket.com/explore/item/how-to-build-closer-relationships?utm_source=pocket-newtab

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June 3, 2021

“Connected, But Alone?

The darker side of technology and the price we are paying.

https://www.ted.com/talks/sherry_turkle_connected_but_alone

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June 2, 2021

Honouring the Lives of Those Who Suffered (Suffer) at the Hands and Minds of People With Low “Respect Levels” for All Lives

“As early as 1904, the government of Canada knew that its unequal provision of health care funding was contributing to the death rates of children in these schools at a rate of about 25 per cent. It was in the media and everything,” she said.”

“Infectious diseases, such as tuberculosis, neglect, child abuse and malnourishment were some of the main causes of death for Indigenous children in residential schools, she said. Many of those who survived did so with chronic illnesses and disabilities.”

“She remembers feeling dread at the sound of footsteps in the hall, knowing what would come next. “I would hear clunk, clunk…and it is one of the security guards…then the whimpers…the whimpers because here is the guy who molests people,” she said.”

“But there’s more work to be done for Truth and Reconciliation in Canada. One thing that the Truth and Reconciliation Commission has been pushing for has been for an apology from the Pope for the Catholic Church’s role in residential schools. “The Catholic Church has yet to do that, and to really accept full responsibility for reparations to families. So that’s something that we need to look into the Catholic Church to be doing to accept that accountability,” said Blackstock.”

“We need to understand that the federal government, as we’re sitting here, is fighting residential school survivors in St. Anne’s residential school. That was one that had a horrible electric chair if you can believe it, where they would shock children, and yet Canada does not want to provide proper compensation to those children,” she added.”

Quotes from the following linked article by Brooke Taylor and Jackie Dunham for CTV News

https://www.ctvnews.ca/canada/we-do-not-want-this-to-be-hidden-remains-of-215-children-discovered-on-site-of-former-residential-school-1.5446837

Personally, I know from experience, being abused traumatizes. but not being believed, plus being trivialized, discarded, and ignored breaks the spirit.

Plus, forcing people to be like us speaks more about our fear of differences and our insecurity that drives our need to be right in order to feel superior.

But no person is more valuable than any other because every life matters … simply for being a life.

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER

Specialist Writer Speaker Social Entrepreneur Founder and President

of/for Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

Smashwords interview @  www.smashwords.com

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June 1, 2021

Rejection is Never About Your Worth

Rejection is not about our worth … it’s about just not fitting in with some people or bad timing or a number of other reasons … learn more by listening to this linked TED talk by Guy Winch

https://ideas.ted.com/why-rejection-hurts-so-much-and-what-to-do-about-it/

Linked article by Brad Stulberg for Pocket on Pocket Worthy

https://getpocket.com/explore/item/what-separates-champions-from-almost-champions?utm_source=pocket-newtab

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May 25, 2021