Confident Secure People Are Not Egoistic and Are Not Motivated by Self Interest

Confidence can be a good thing, but as with most things taken to an extreme manifests an imbalance.

The same goes for insecurity, especially because the most insecure people falsely believe that they must try to elevate themselves to positions of accomplishment/power … in order for them to feel powerful and secure … when in reality, I have personally discovered from my own transformation from insecure to secure, secure people do not have to because they are not only secure, they are confident in their worth, regardless of their circumstances, their status, or their position.

Another challenges an insecure person faces is becoming prideful to the point of egoistic … otherwise described as conceited, self-serving, motivated by self-interest, in order to compensate for their insecurity. And a self-absorbed person will use whatever and whomever they can to achieve their goals, but when something or someone no longer suits his or her purpose, they are quick to dismiss, discard, blame, incite, and in some cases, even kill bodies as well as spirits. We certainly see this in all those books we read and movies/shows we watch, plus prisons are packed with many such individuals. And right now, we see this playing out our political stages in North America.

Control and manipulation are the tools employed by insecure people to mask their fear of being seen for what they truly are … a human being with weaknesses and strengths … and in their case, as one who feels so insecure and non-confident they must create a persona, not unlike “The Wizard of Oz” to support their false bravado.

And though humans throw the word “supremacy” around, such as with supreme court, supreme justices, and even white supremacy, the reality of the matter is there is no supreme being on earth. Every human is fallible and the most secure, confident people know this, and if they are leaders, they add team members who complement their strengths and add strength to their weaknesses.

In contrast, the other thing that identifies a secure person is their altruistic thinking and behaviour … he or she cares about and helps others … rather than seeks to control and harm … in part, because they are mature enough to know we are all in this world together and working together, drawing on each other’s strengths, rather than manipulating their weaknesses, is the best source of success for humanity, rather than extinction.

So, you decide … what kind of parent, husband, teacher, or leader do you want in your life … leading your community … your country?

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER

Specialist Writer Speaker Social Entrepreneur Founder and President

of/for Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

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Revised January 19, 2021

“Cognitive Ability and Vulnerability to Fake News”

From the following linked article by David Z. Hambrick and Madeline Marquardt for Scientific American on Pocket Worthy

“At a more general level, this research underscores the threat that fake news poses to democratic society. The aim of using fake news as propaganda is to make people think and behave in ways they wouldn’t otherwise—for example, hold a view that is contradicted by overwhelming scientific consensus. When this nefarious aim is achieved, citizens no longer have the ability to act in their own self-interest. In the logic of democracy, this isn’t just bad for that citizen—it’s bad for society.”

https://getpocket.com/explore/item/cognitive-ability-and-vulnerability-to-fake-news?utm_source=pocket-newtab

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER
Specialist, Writer, Speaker, Social Entrepreneur, Founder and President
http://www.connectingthedotswiththerespectprinciple.com
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December 12, 2020

Maybe these recent events will wake up the people still concerned solely about their liberty …

Maybe these recent events will wake up the people still concerned solely about their liberty versus people and animal health and well-being … as well as how their refusal is delaying an economic rebound, increasing taxes for health care, and burning out the very people who normally take care of all of us, but now can’t … because, well, some people still believe their right to choose to not wear a mask, to not social distance, to not gather, and to not self-isolate is more important than the rest of the people and animals … well, even the whole world.

“Breeders in Denmark euthanized 15 million minks over concerns about a mutated version of the virus that has spread among the animals. Mink farmers in Spain have culled almost 100,000. In the U.S., nearly 10,000 minks across Utah died of COVID-19 as the virus spread rapidly across farms in the state.” Quoted from The Globe and Mail

https://www.theglobeandmail.com/canada/british-columbia/article-eight-people-test-positive-for-covid-19-at-bc-mink-farm-outbreak/

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER
Specialist, Writer, Speaker, Social Entrepreneur, Founder and President
http://www.connectingthedotswiththerespectprinciple.com
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December 7, 2020

The ability to value … respect other people lives and health demonstrates our compassion, unselfishness, and even our love.

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER
Specialist, Writer, Speaker, Social Entrepreneur, Founder and President
http://www.connectingthedotswiththerespectprinciple.com
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December 6, 2020

Healthy Relationships …

Reciprocal, respectful, non-competitive, loyal, confidential, boundaries, supportive, and wholehearted.

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER
Specialist, Writer, Speaker, Social Entrepreneur, Founder and President
http://www.connectingthedotswiththerespectprinciple.com
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November 20, 2020

Want to Save Taxes and Minimize Government Spending?

People complain about increasing government debt and taxes … yet during this pandemic, because of their choice to not follow protocols to protect everyone, they are adding to the debt and taxes because of the spread of the virus they induce by the preventable medical costs needed to monitor, help, care for, and bury people, unnecessarily burdening the health care system, the preventable business losses and closures, and extending the pandemic due to a lack of respect for everyone’s lives, let alone their own.

Connecting the dots means seeing the big picture and being a part of the solution … by realizing there will be no freedom for anyone if there is little or nothing left of the world we knew before.

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER
Specialist, Writer, Speaker, Social Entrepreneur, Founder and President
http://www.connectingthedotswiththerespectprinciple.com
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November 19, 202
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Why Making Mistakes Fosters Growth

Not making mistakes translates into not taking any risks, not growing, and not becoming wiser … and unfortunately, a lot less compassionate, unable to walk, even mentally, in someone else’s shoes. Some of my mistakes were the result of conscious choice, but many were the result of a low “Respect Level” for myself and as a result, for others, especially those who exploited, bullied, or abused me or other vulnerable souls.

The good news is that my failures put me in the position many times of the oppressed, the rejected, and those in need so when I write what I write, I may use statistics and even other people’s stories, but most importantly I write from actual, personal, heart and spirit-breaking experience. … in order to help both the heart and spirit broken and those who, consciously or not, contribute to the breaking.

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER
Specialist, Writer, Speaker, Social Entrepreneur, Founder and President
http://www.connectingthedotswiththerespectprinciple.com
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November 17, 2020

“The Likability Dilemma for Women Leaders”

A linked post is not loading, so please visit TED for Robin Hauser’s talk at TEDsMarin or goto my Facebook, Twitter, or LinkedIn page to click on the link of the above title to enjoy, plus either be surprised or validated.

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER
Specialist, Writer, Speaker, Social Entrepreneur, Founder and President
http://www.connectingthedotswiththerespectprinciple.com
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November 14, 2020

Be Aware. Be Respectful. Be Safe … and Make a Positive Difference

Numbers based on CNN Health’s website today …

COVID-19 World Wide … Cases 52.4 million … Deaths 1.3 million

COVID-19 United States … Cases 19,441,937 … Deaths 242,073

COVID-19 Canada … Cases 280,000 … Deaths 10,754

And even if you don’t believe all the deaths were directly a result of COVID-19, that is still a lot of people who died and a lot of health care costs incurred, so please don’t add to either sets of numbers. Be aware. Be respectful. Be Safe. And make a positive difference … Please … for your own sake as well as everybody’s sake.

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER
Specialist, Writer, Speaker, Social Entrepreneur, Founder and President
http://www.connectingthedotswiththerespectprinciple.com
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November 12, 2020

“Which of these 6 Time Traps is Eating Up All Your Time?”

Following linked article by Ashley Whillans for Ideas.TED.com

On a personal note …

Recently tackled one time trap stealing my focus and time … being at the beck and call of a cell phone. No more. Now have set a healthy boundary by doing what we used to do when we did not have cell phones … we waited until we got home or at the very least, until we were on break or lunch … which is what I do now, except for evenings and Sundays … and what a relief the quiet is!

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER
Specialist, Writer, Speaker, Social Entrepreneur, Founder and President
http://www.connectingthedotswiththerespectprinciple.com
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November 8, 2020