“A Confident Woman”

“7 SECRETS of a CONFIDENT WOMEN” excerpt from Joyce Meyer’s book, “A Confident Woman”
A confident woman …
… knows that she is loved
… refuses to live in fear
… is positive
… recovers from setbacks
… avoids comparisons
… takes action
… does not live in “If only” and “What if”

Regaining my confidence after all I have been through (stay tuned for the upcoming article and eventually the book) has taken quite some time, a lot of effort to heal, and for me turning to someone, God, who loves unconditionally. My restored confidence is just what I need to move boldly forward to change the culture that makes people lose their confidence and even breaks their spirit.

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER

Specialist, Writer, Speaker, Social Entrepreneur, Founder and President

Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

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May 15, 2020

Is Freedom and Civil Disobedience, For Any Reason, Justifiable?

If every human was conscientious and never acted disrespectfully towards another human, freedom would be very different in our world. We would be able to trust that no person or organization would, consciously or not, seek to take advantage of or harm another person or group of people.

But, since that freedom definition is the ideal versus the reality, laws, courts, and prisons were created to help prevent, but also deal with those who harmed others, intentionally or not.

As someone who desperately sought the freedom to live the life right for me, not defined by other people’s expectations and wants, I felt caged by invisible bars. As a result, for years the desire to be accepted for my differences caused me to do the crazy dance of acing like most people I knew and then in defiance, when the restraint became overwhelming, I acted out, hurting both other people and myself.

Freedom finally came to me along with the wisdom no one gets to define my life, my beliefs, and my actions, so now  I live my life as I need to do for my own well-being. People like Nelson Mandela also helped me to understand what real freedom feels and looks like. Fortunately also, wisdom provided the respect and compassion to not force my beliefs and actions on another person or group, but also to be aware of how my beliefs and actions affect others.

Right now, after many weeks of lockdown due to the COVID-19 pandemic, people are crying “Freedom” and this morning I even heard an American restaurant owner, who had opened his restaurant and served a large number of people not practising social distancing, also cry out his and their civil liberties are being violated, so his civil disobedience is his and his customers’ right.

But civil disobedience, exemplified in Henry David Thoreau’s essay, “Civil Disobedience” that is part of many high school curriculum, is not about doing what one wants for any reason … it is about doing what one can to object to political leadership … that is harmful.

Sadly, though, many people who are citing freedom and resorting to civil disobedience are not acting to protect others as is its intention, in this case other people’s health, but to satisfy their personal wants, risking the lives of others for their own satisfaction and gain, for which there are many words, which I will leave to your imagination.

Yes, most of us are being hit economically for many reasons. Food prices keep climbing, but that does not mean we have the freedom to steal. People who sell us food often work for low wages and need their jobs, so they are forced to work. What about their freedom? Are medical staff free to choose who they help? What about their freedom?  What about other essential workers and their freedom? And all the people being forced back to work by employers to meet company income needs, personal income needs, and citizens needs, what about their freedom?

People are dying. Health care costs are skyrocketing. Life as we have known has been shutdown. This pandemic is not just about one person wants. It is about all of us … men, women, teens, and children around the world. Leaders are struggling, trying to do their best to help the people they govern. In-fighting is happening in governments. Protesting is an option … but putting the lives of others at risk to do so … the innocent … is not. Right now it may be not be a criminal law, however, it is a crime against humanity to act with such disregard for other life because someone thinks he or she is more important …  more valuable than anyone else.

It is time to get a grip on ourselves. It is time to support our nations and fellow citizens. It is time to step up and recognize our global citizenship. We may not like it, but let’s put the present scenario in perspective. We are at war. You have been called to be a soldier and do your part for the greater good of your nation and our global nation.

When enough of us finally grasp this reality, we will all win because we will not have so many people needing to feel more special that they seek to put themselves above all others and in the end, hurt not only themselves, but the people they impact. We will see ourselves truly equally, not slaves to ego and pride, but servants for the greater good, which also enriches our individual worlds too, empowering us with the freedom to be our unique selves that contributes in our unique way … adding versus subtracting to the quality of life of humanity … one person at a time.

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER

Specialist, Writer, Speaker, Social Entrepreneur, Founder and President

Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

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May 12, 2020

 

 

 

 

 

A Powerful Viable Philosophy

Respect (value) everyone is not just logical, practical, and compassionate … a powerful, viable philosophy to cross all barriers, including religious … it is as I later discovered after my scientific research and thesis development, a Biblical directive: “Respect everyone.” 1 Peter 2:15

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER

Specialist, Writer, Speaker, Social Entrepreneur, Founder and President

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May 9, 2020

“The Dark Side of Charisma”

Article by Mike Albo for Ted Ideas published on Pocket

https://getpocket.com/explore/item/the-dark-side-of-charisma?utm_source=pocket-newtab

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KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER

Specialist, Writer, Speaker, Social Entrepreneur, Founder and President

Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

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May 4, 2020

 

Reflecting History, The Largest Group …

Reflecting history, the largest group paying the price of the COVID-19 Pandemic are the vulnerable … not just the seniors, but the poor who can’t afford to stay home, work in essential services for poverty wages, live on the street, in community homes, in rooming houses, apartment buildings, and/or live in houses where one member or more ignores the safety protocols because of low “Respect Levels”for one’s self and therefore for others … so many of us have much to be grateful for right now.

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER

Specialist, Writer, Speaker, Social Entrepreneur, Founder and President

Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

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April 30, 2020

Living By Truth Is Not Easy In This World

Up front I have to admit I certainly have told lies, but more often than not, I have told truths … truths that were not recognized as truth, or could not, or would not, be believed. I even lied after I told the truth just to smooth things over in order to avoid conflict, one of my least favourite things. And over the years, many people have lied about me, with their own unique motives. I used to get hurt, angry, and even confused, but not so much anymore, and at times, not at all.

Fortunately my drive to understand human behaviour recently provided the much-needed answers I sought.

As I have written about previously, my research revealed that my personality type falls within a small range, estimated to be between 5% to 8% of the American population, as well as also being an introvert, in contrast to the dominant personality type, extroverts.

Not having this knowledge, truly understanding the impact, and people being more comfortable with people like themselves, not only compelled me to be untruthful about my true character, unique talents and skills, not that they were bad, just more different than the majority of people. I realize too that my being untruthful about myself and presenting a preferred persona, also resulted in relationship problems and even professional problems when my true character came out, which eventually had to happen in order for me to develop the best mental health for me.

Unfortunately, what I did with good intent, becoming chameleon-like in order to be accepted, liked, and loved ultimately backfired personally and professionally and their has been much collateral damage requiring several years and a lot of effort to shed the false skin and grow into my own … and also to let people go gracefully, in ways I could not do before.

Now, the challenge is not to revert to chameleon-like behaviour, but to stay true to myself, even with the knowledge that not being like most people, I have to accept people’s discomfort, dislike, or even worse from my not being like them, my not thinking like them, my not making choices similar to theirs, and as a result, their lack of respect for me.

Learning what I have, I now do my best to be civil and respectful to others because I know what it feels like not be respected. I even make an effort to apologize if I am not as civil as I want to people to treat me. And when I am on the receiving end of what I experienced when I was naive about all of this, sometimes it still hurts, but only initially when I let my feelings dominate my consciousness rather than my principle that everyone benefits from being treated with civility … in other words, respectfully … simply for being another life.

The other thing though that has helped me considerably to live truthfully is studying The Bible and discovering three important facts.

First surprising fact to me was that if someone is dedicated to doing work that is going to make a positive difference in the world, that person must be prepared for the onslaught that will come because, after all, Satan wants to win as many battles, especially against anyone who is going to advance humanity, because he knows the final victory is God’s. Discovering this empowers me to be less surprised when bad things happen, big or small, yet admittedly I still have to make sure to remind myself not to take any onslaught personally, regardless of who delivers it, because I know the real source, whose power is really nothing compared to who is for me and my purpose.

Second, those who believe in God, Jesus, and the Holy Spirit are told they are in this world, but not of it, so it is natural that some, even many people, will not only accept, but will also reject, and even seek to harm someone they do not identify with or who does not believe as they do..

And gladly, third, no matter what is said or by whom against me, I need do little, especially not acting revengefully, but just believe in the power truth and God brings to any situation or relationship.

Undoubtedly, living truthfully may not always be the easy way to live in this world, but after living untruthfully for a number of reasons most of my life and reaping the unsatisfying, unfulfilling, limiting, and harmful results, there is no other choice I would make.

 

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER

Specialist, Writer, Speaker, Social Entrepreneur, Founder and President

Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

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Last update April 22, 2020

 

 

 

 

 

“Calling Me a Hero Only Makes You Feel Better”

Because I appreciate his insights and share his frustration, I am sharing this and hope you will also.
Shared linked story by Karleigh Frisbie Brogan for The Atlantic, April 18, 2020
I am grateful he is aware not everyone has a choice to stock up because they don’t have the space/appliances and/or don’t have the money to do so either … so off to the grocery stores such people have to go … often weekly. And then for many, there is the dilemma of how to carry everything home in one trip … so for those of you who have the space, the money, and transportation, please free up the retail space by stocking up so you don’t have to go every week … in order to save the space for those who really need to be there. Thank you.

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER

Specialist Writer Speaker Social Entrepreneur Founder and President

of Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

Smashwords interview @  www.smashwords.com

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April 21, 2020