Replacing LinkedIn’s segregated profile, a connected-the-dots profile is in process to demonstrate why, how, etc. Kaitlin Ann Trepanier became the person to develop and lead the social business venture and global initiative, Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle.



Understanding and respecting one’s self is a key to happiness, health, and success, as an individual and as a community member … yet my school, work, volunteer, and relationship history reveal that for the longest time I did not understand or respect myself.

What confused me were the many successes, then the subsequent failures, now understood as the indicators of not good fits, boredom, and not knowing where I truly belonged and with whom. As Laird Hamilton stated in his Oprah’s Soul Sunday session, he had to find his tribe also … the people who understood where he was coming from and mutually shared his passion, in his case, surfing, before he was finally accepted for who he was, is, and is becoming.


My mother thought I was difficult and could not wait for to send me off to school, yet even my first day filled her with dread as my five-year old independent self informed her I would be walking to school by myself on my first day. Of course, she followed me the whole way, slipping behind trees and bushes in her attempts to keep the peace; yet protect her eldest child.

My passion for learning resulted in my report cards to be filled with “A’s” but over time, the learning environment, plus my learning and communication preferences, contributed to my grades slipping and comments, such as, could do better, does not apply herself, appeared more frequently on those report cards. Harsh, violent punishment from teachers, mostly nuns, plus other abuse being experienced. played significant roles in my skipping out of most of grade nine and dropping out of high school in grade ten.

Additionally, in retrospect, my misunderstood personality type played a significant role in the negative experiences for me in the factory-education model schools I attended, as did the toxic cocktail mix for me the Catholic school doctrines, the blue collar background, and small town/rural southern Ontario I grew up in.

I say in retrospect, because many years later I was finally able to put all the pieces together to understand and respect myself as a more unusual, yet also just as valuable, unique individual and though I did not always understand others, I grew to at least respect and appreciate them and our differences.

And yes, I have returned to school several times for business, design, communication, and visual arts, plus a first year of university, yet much of my knowledge has come from classrooms and even the university of life, though of course, a lifetime of self-directed studies and research has also been key to my personal and professional development.


Personality tests abound, some much narrower in perspective than others, but the one I discovered to be the most helpful on my journey has been what science recognizes as the Myers Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI) that is based on one of the founders of psychology work, Carl Jung.

The MBTI is a testing device more previously used by higher level institutions to determine whether candidates were a good fit for their organization, as well as used for other purposes, such as academic aptitude tests. But now with the access to more knowledge via the worldwide web, higher level education information is now available to many more people.

However, what has made the MBTI more user friendly is the work of the consultants, Paul D. Tieger, Barbara Barron, and now Kelly Tieger. Their books, Nurture by Nature, The Art of Speedreading People, Just Your Type, and especially for me, Do What You Are – Discover the Perfect Career for You Through the Secrets of Personality Type (More than 1,000,000 copies sold of its five editions), helped me connect all the dots of my seemingly unconnected history and ultimately set me on the course I am now on as developer, author, founder, and president of the social business venture, Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle.



Of the sixteen MBTI types, I most identify with the INTP, which the authors of Do What You Are describe as Ingenious Problem Solvers and the ENTP, which the authors describe as Entrepreneurs. Please keep in mind, as the authors also state, as we age we may not longer fit solely in one category as we develop thinking and behaviors enabling us to adapt and connect to others not like ourselves.

For instance, when I worked at a global company’s Canadian head office, my results for the MBTI test employees were requested to take revealed the result that I was an INFJ. Again, in retrospect, my test results from the early 1990’s revealed not so much my truer type as characteristics influenced by age, culture, current circumstances, and the intense healing experience I was undergoing to deal with repressed memories and emotions, which made me quite emotional. And coming from a dominantly J culture and family, judging rather than perceiving, P, ruled my personal and professional life, which I still have remnants of in my character, but they are secondary versus primary.

Okay, so here’s what the consultants/authors of Do What You Are have to say about my type …

As an INTP, career satisfaction means doing work that: 

  1.         Lets me develop, analyze, and critique new ideas
  2.         Lets me focus my attention and energy on a creative,  theoretical, and logical process, rather than on an end product
  3.         Is challenging and deals with complex problems, where I am able to try unconventional approaches, and take risks to find the best solution
  4.         Lets me work independently with plenty of quiet, private time to concentrate and complete my thinking process
  5.         Lets me set and maintain my own high standards for my work and determine how my performance will be evaluated and compensated
  6.         Is done in a flexible, non-structured environment, without useless rules, excessive limitations, or unnecessary meetings
  7.         Lets me interact with a small group of highly regarded friends and associates, all of whom I admire (changed from respect because I respect … value all people …         though admire people for their unique successes)
  8.         Gives me opportunities to constantly increase my own personal competence and power and lets me meet and interact with other powerful and successful people
  9.         Lets me develop ingenious ideas and plans and lets me delegate the implementation and follow-through to an   efficient support staff
  10. Does not require me to spend time directly organizing other people or supervising or mediating interpersonal differences

Popular Occupations for INTPs include:

(Note: Bold, italicized roles indicate areas of interest and passion)

COMPUTERS/TECHNOLOGY includes roles from software developer to management consultant

HEALTH CARE/TECHNICAL includes roles from medical scientist to neurologist

The three other areas that are of the most significant and attractive to me include …

PROFESSIONAL/BUSINESS includes the following roles …

  • Lawyer
  • Economist
  • Personal financial advisor
  • Psychologist/psychoanalyst
  • Market research analyst
  • Financial analyst
  • Architect
  • Investment banker
  • Investigator
  • Intellectual property attorney
  • Legal mediator
  • Corporate finance attorney
  • Psychiatrist
  • Entrepreneur
  • Venture capitalist
  • Physicist
  • Biophysicist
  • Anthropologist
  • Intelligence specialist

ACADEMIC includes the following roles …

  • Mathematician
  • Archaelogist
  • Historian
  • Philosopher
  • College professor
  • Online Educator
  • Researcher
  • Logician
  • College faculty administrator
  • Economist
  • Interpreter/Translator
  • Astronomer

CREATIVE includes the following roles …

  • Photographer
  • Creative Writer
  • Artist
  • Graphic Designer
  • Entertainer/Dancer
  • Musician
  • Agent
  • Inventor
  • Informational-graphics designer
  • Columnist, critic, commentator
  • Blogger
  • Music arranger
  • Producer
  • Director: stage motion pictures
  • Film editor
  • Art director

Work-Related strengths may (and do for me) include:

  • Eagerness to “think outside the box” and consider new possibilities
  • Ability to understand very complex and highly abstract ideas
  • Great problem-solving skills
  • Independence, courage to take risks, try new things, and overcome obstacles
  • Ability to synthesize lots of information
  • Intellectual curiosity and skills for getting information you need
  • Ability to analyze things logically even under stress
  • Great confidence and drive to continually increase your knowledge
  • Objectivity: ability to address issues without taking them personally
  • Confidence in your ideas and vision
  • Ability to see the big picture; to see implications of actions and ideas
  • Adaptability; you can shift gears and change directions quickly

The authors sum up by saying, Using your strengths is easy. The success to success for an INTP is learning to: Be better organized (which interestingly enough I naturally am as my history demonstrates), be patient with less intelligent people (which I am working on since I have individuated and recognize people’s differences more readily now), and work at improving my social skills (which I have been working on for some time and have achieved a level of comfort with all people, regardless of personality type, title, status, etc. because of my increased “Respect Level” for myself and all life.)




Performance history demonstrates a natural aptitude for numbers, logistics, analysis, organization, problem solving, best practices development, supported by a deep compassion for all people and life, enriched by an inherent leadership drive, a high energy level and innovative creativity, all of which resulted in my early successes and challenges, even without any formal education beyond grade school until my late twenties that continues still.

  • At age 17, in southern Ontario, after dropping out in the middle of grade ten to marry at age 16, without being pregnant, who unfortunately was severely physically abusive, and looking for work, I was reinstated by a union in a plastics factory for wrongful dismissal after leaving my post due to a physical injury on the production line. Quit job once reinstated though because I did not want to continue working for someone who fired me erroneously and had to rehire me. Also discovered working in a union environment restrictive to someone like me, who is now aware of my out-of-the-box thinking character and as someone driven to help others. Moved to southwestern Ontario. Briefly worked as waitress on early morning shift, but did not like the inappropriate touching behavior of clientele. Hired by an abbatoir to wrap custom orders and to serve the public with retail service, during 2 ½ year period
  • By age 19, in southwestern Ontario, initially hired as team member to set up new department store. Became women’s department manager, then promoted to assistant store manager, overseeing staff, merchandising seasonal products and specials, while also trained as relief for office clerk, handling sales income, doing payroll, and bank deposits. Opened and closed store. Employed for 2 ½ years, however staged a walkout against the sexual harassment acts of the chain’s area supervisor against a number of female employees because nothing was being done about it. Remarried
  • At age 22, hired as a part-time cashier at a grocery store, but within months of new management takeover, was hired full time, promoted to head cashier, and became office manager where I remained for 7 years. First experience recruiting, training, scheduling, and managing teen and adult cashiers. Wrote policies and procedures manual. Opened store and safe, prepared cash floats, balanced cash, reported sales, delivered bank deposits, processed customer accounts receivables and account payables. Worked with security regarding shoplifters and worked with accountant for year-end reporting. Assisted with set up of new store, plus installation of scanner system. Liaised with wholesale head office. Merchandised seasonal products and co-painted seasonal artwork on store windows.
  • Age 29, encouraged by successes and mentors, wrote the Grade 12 equivalency exam in order to be accepted into a London college. As a student, ran and was voted in as student council treasurer and school newsletter editor. Board game creation lead/team member. Graduated Business Administration, Honours, and was selected by faculty for the “Outstanding Student Cooperation” scholarship award. Relocated to Toronto to join husband who had transferred
  • Age 31, relocated to Toronto. Recruited by the Canadian head office of an international company through an agency for the financial planning department team. Assisted with five-year and annual business plan, developed spreadsheets for product group forecasting employing using database download process, monitored and reported on monthly capital expenditures. Recruited a year later to operations planning as monthly production planner and daily liaison for national contractors. Trained contractor staff in British Columbia on using Levi’s database to update production numbers. Audited contractor inventory counts in Quebec. Trained additional contractor planner. Received “Above and Beyond the Call of Duty” recognition for my initiative in proposing, developing, testing, and co-training staff on new spreadsheet tool that reduced the monthly planning cycle by forty hours per month. Served as a “fit test” model for company products. After 5 years in operations, recruited by human resources to assist the salary and budget manager, Served as secretary of the job grading team, managed the employee recognitions program, processed the executive expense reports, assisted the head office and factory human resources assistants with HRIS, a human resources database system. Additionally, during 7-year employment for 6 years served voluntarily as the treasurer for the company’s community involvement (CIT) that hosted special events and awarded corporate dollars to community organizations where the owned and operated facilities were located in Canada. The company’s employee assistance program, additionally enabled me to work with a psychologist for a year and half to resolve abuse and assault experiences from my childhood and teen years
  • Age 37, inspired by experience with psychologist, enrolled part-time in York University to acquire a Ph.D. in psychology.
  • Age 38, left Levi’s to attend university full time. Re-discovered my passion to write. Left university and wrote forty short stories, almost seven hundred poems, my first book, became published, including professionally, and received offer for publication of my book. Inspired by Julia Cameron’s book The Artist’s Way, hosted and facilitated an “Artist Circle”
  • 4 years as a merchandiser for souvenir company’s Toronto key accounts three days a week. Later hired full time as member of the inventory control team and warehouse’s souvenir assembly team in preparation for the 1996 Olympic merchandise contract
  • A divorce at age 42 altered my circumstances and revised my writing career plans substantially
  • Between 42 and 62. Stopped writing a few years after my divorce and redirected focus to visual arts. Returned to school for design, communication, and visual arts, plus worked in a number of part-time, contract, temporary, and volunteer roles listed below, while doing experiential field research, because of my financial situation, and continued with studies inspired by York University studies, plus self-directed studies and research though I did not return to writing until 2007.
  • 4 years as storefront manager/saleswoman for an art and framing gallery. Evening and weekend storefront manager, merchandised over 400 framed artworks, sold artwork and framing, accounts receivable, bank deposits, customer account service, hosted “Meet the Artist” events, one of which was Robert Bateman. Assisted framer with assembly of artwork. Hired and trained support staff. Additionally turned professional as an artist, before taking art courses, as an exhibiting artist and in part as a member of a self-employment initiative that provided business planning training for self-employment. Created and sold artwork, participated and won inclusion in juried exhibitions, including commissioned artworks, displayed artwork in gallery, plus arranged exhibitions in public places and businesses, under my company’s name, Kaitlin Ann Originals until I discovered working with paints, etc. full time was not good for my health. Now do 3-4 pieces a year as facilities allow
  • 1 ½ years as a front desk manager for an inn. Evening and weekends managed front desk, booked accommodations, processed check-ins, supervised weekend cleaners and assisted when necessary. Assisted with inn expansion.
  • 2 years as a driver for family, plus served as barn worker and horse groom for family’s horse business
  • 2 years performed in Ontario schools as an eight-foot puppet for kindergarten to middle school students and served as roadie/crew
  • Worked with director after selling a workshop/play to a Catholic middle and high school
  • Over the course of 2 years, drove a school bus and nannied a girl and then two boys on the drug Ritalin
  • Other additional volunteer roles over the years included tutoring a grade five student through Big Brothers Big Sisters of Toronto and their partnership program with the JUMP Math program that contributed to the student ‘s achievement of “Best Improved” award at graduation, served as barn worker, horse groom,, and horse leader/walker for CARD, a riding facility for all ages with physical and other disabilities, and also did one day events that included face painting, cruising at a youth dance, and generally helping out for special events
  • Resumed writing regularly in 2007 though in response to the increasing news about bullying in schools and communities, I wrote the short story, Charles’ Choice, now a play to be produced and filmed for a DVD release, and recorded the CD in a studio. The first writing I did in 2007 was in response to a Toronto contest adjudicated by a York University professor, for which I was awarded Honorable Mention. From then on, writing took centre stage again in my life and I wrote the first version of what is now called Connecting The Dots With the Respect Principle, though at the time the concept was called, It Is All About Respect. Even registered the concept as a non-profit corporation with the goal to raise funds to do the work, but closed the organization a few years later, though have since decide to continue with the work, but as a for-profit sole proprietorship and eventually a partnership in order to retain all rights of intellectual property and to manage the profits in accordance to the social business ventures goals, not to please a board and shareholders, who are more likely to focus solely on profit and dividends, as people such as Steve Jobs and many others have discovered the hard way
  • Public speaking experience through Toastmasters and Dale Carnegie, plus by facilitating training to groups, creating and delivering talks, seminars, and workshops
  • In 2013, recognized by November National Novel Writing Month challenge for successfully completing the writing a 50,000 word novel in a month or less (did in 3 weeks)
  • Launched and write a Word Press blog. Initially known as www.therespectprinciple.com the blog has been renamed as www.connectingthedotswiththerespectprinciple.com. Have a global following of over 70 countries and have an active social media following
  • Discovered Smashwords ebook publishing platform, studied online manuals, registered ISBN with Library Archives Canada, and uploaded several of writing works as publisher also. www.smashwords.com converts author’s manuscripts into formats readable by other ebook retailers as well as selling the ebooks through their site. Currently books available are listed under BOOKS on this blog site and include books for children as well as adults.. In 2017, secured ITIN from USA’s IRS.
  • Now, it is full steam ahead with the social business venture, Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle, locally and globally. Visit this blog’s page, About The Company, to learn more!
  • And, of course, you are invited to visit www.smashwords.com to read Smashwords‘ interview of this author, plus to discover the world of ebooks available to you, including a few from me.

And of course, I thank God for all He has given me because I realize now how He has turned what was meant for harm into good enabling me to be a blessing to others also so it’s a win win win!

Thanks and best wishes to you and the pursuit of your dreams!

Revised June 14, 2017

Kaitlin Ann Trepanier, Founder/President of Connecting the Dots … with The Respect Principle … the for-profit social business venture raising Respect Levels with original entertaining, educational, and inspirational books, products, and services. ©All Rights Reserved