Perspective on “Respect and Love” From World-Renowned Psychologist Alice Miller and …

“I love my children if I can respect them with all their feelings and their needs and try to fulfill those needs as best as I can. If I see them not as persons whose rights are just as sacrosanct as my own, but as objects that I have to correct, then that is not love.”

Free From Lies Discovering Your True Needs, Alice Miller, p 223

“Most parents don’t want to hurt their children; they do it automatically, by repeating that they themselves learned when they were small. We can help them to refrain from this destructive behavior by explaining to them why it is so destructive. Then they can wake up and make a choice.”

Free From Lies Discovering Your True Needs, Alice Miller, p 240

The introduction and study of Alice Miller’s body of work changed and played a big role in healing my life. Fueled by my deep compassion for all people, what I learned about respect and love from Alice Miller inspired my development of the Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle concept, company, books, products, services, and global initiative. My compassion and respect for everyone, plus my understanding of what needs to change in our world drives me every day to keep moving forward with this body of work that will hopefully help many others as Alice helped so many too.

April 14, 2018


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Role Models And The Reasons Why

This role model list was written at the time of the publication of the first “Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle” version printed limited edition book in June 2015.

There are many people who influenced and inspired me over the years; however, these people listed below are the ones who have inspired me to be all I really am and to do the work I am called to do, the Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle global initiative, though if I wanted to take the more normal route, I would just be a writer and an artist, but God did not let that happen because I had other work to do first. Maybe writing and art making will become my last work once Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle is doing its job without me.

Anyway, here are the reasons why each person was originally added to this list …

Jesus … for how he treated others, especially those rejected by society, and since I am follower of Christ for his sacrifice on the cross to make God accessible to everyone without having to sacrifice as they did in the Old Testament

Albert Einstein … not just for his brilliance and contributions to humanity, but also for his compassion, respect, and humor

Alfred Nobel … for turning the negative consequences of the dynamite his family created and sold into the positive by publicly recognizing and rewarding excellence in fields of study and peace-making

Alice Miller … for her forerunner work in psychology to help us understand that how people are treated when they are young has a powerful impact on what they will become later in life and the valuable lessons I learned so I could heal from my experiences. Because of Alice’s own origins, Hitler was one of her key subjects in her research and study of the impact of neglect, abuse, and violence

Socrates, Plato, and Aristotle … introduced to these three key philosophers in my first year of university at York as a mature student, they too played a role in developing the “Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle” concept, company, and global initiative

Henry David Thoreau … as someone who did not go to high school, (but has returned to school many times since) his seminal book, Walden, that I also discovered in university opened the door to writing and the idea of stepping off of the beaten path and creating one’s own, which I have been doing ever since

Ralph Waldo Emerson … another individual, whose writing to this day, still moves my soul with its content and eloquence, challenging and inspiring us to be more than we think we are

Gandhi for his choice to act against oppression and taught us much about freedom

Mother Teresa … the woman who became a nun to fulfill her desire to ease the pain and suffering of those rejected by society

Joan of Arc … a young woman of great courage who acted on her beliefs regardless of the consequences

The Dalai Lama … a modern man with peaceful views, ways, and shared wisdom by acts in a world torn by conflict

Abraham Lincoln … a man with tenacity, perseverance, and drive to become the American president who would begin the process of freedom for all Americans

William Wilberforce … a man whose heroic long-term efforts to banish the English slave trade succeeded, even though his family’s financial legacy could have provided him with an easy, affluent lifestyle

Martin Luther King, Jr. … a man demonstrating exceptional peaceful leadership to push the freedom door further open in America

John F. Kennedy … a bold voice speaking up against oppression and tyranny

Nelson Mandella … quiet patience strengthened this believer in freedom and walked with respect, inspiring others not to give up or give in to those who try to keep people down

Oprah Winfrey … a woman of curiosity, boldness, and seeker of truth lit the way for many of us to see ourselves as we truly are … much more than what we believed for so long

Alan Cohen … the author of Dare to Be Yourself was a key influence on my path to discovering and reclaiming who I had become underneath all the masks I wore to feel safe and accepted. His words also cracked open my jaded, hardened heart about God and Jesus

Robert Schuller … Why Bad Things Happen to Good People cracked opened the door to believing in God wider

Joel Osteen … inspired and still does hope and belief about God the good versus God the punisher

Joyce Meyer … shared down-to-earth experiences helped me to heal from my own abuse and violent background, while also teaching me God forgives and forgets

Warren Buffet … admired for his perspective on not just handing his family the wealth he has accumulated, but chose instead to leave enough for their education and perhaps a bit more, but not to set them up for life

Bill Gates … initially admired for the foundation to help people, but there is so much more that could be done and then there are some business practices that are in conflict with “Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle”

Richard Branson … admired for adventurous, entrepreneurial spirit and desire to help people

Updated March 16, 2018


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