You pick … Putin, Napolean, Hitler, Caesar … from the history of “takers”

Taking what is not yours shows the disrespect you have for life … others and yours.

Taking by violent force what is not yours reveals the violence in your heart.

What was done to you, is what you do … until you know better … until you finally believe that you are valuable all on your own, without what you own defining you.

All the countries, people and possessions you think you own, in fact own you because you need them to feel valued … respected in a world still unconsciously driven by the Disrespect Philosophy where we are taught none of us are valuable unless someone or some group says we are by meeting their standards, qualifications, expectations …

When you finally stand in the truth of who you are as a unique individual with a high RESPECT LEVEL, you will no longer need to possess what is not yours, but instead will take the best care of your own self … and in that way, you will serve … and as a result … receive as a gift what you desire … instead of having to steal what is not yours to have.

March 26, 2014

Kaitlin A. Trepanier
http://www.kaitlinatrepanier.com

All Rights Reserved by DARK HORSES PRODUCTIONS/KAITLIN A. TREPANIER … CREATIVE WRITER, ADVOCATE, and PROJECT SPECIALIST responsible for the creation of the global initiative Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE … because every child … every person … should know, by their own experience, they are valued … RESPECTED.

Bullying … The “Disrespect Philosophy’s” Enforcer

From a secular view, the dominant philosophy that has shaped humans since the beginning of time is Disrespect.

The Disrespect Philosophy is simple. Its premise is that no person or life is valuable until someone says it is … based on what that someone, or a collective of “someones” say what is to be valued … respected.

In other words, the Disrespect Philosophy is about control: control that is misunderstood in contrast to true power. Control simply is a lack of trust in and of the world for life to be fair, for resources to be available to all … which all of our fears are driven by … thereby creating a low RESPECT LEVEL that we have been conditioned to use to fill the void of not feeling valued … respected in the Disrespect Philosophy world humanity has been living in for thousands of years … because not enough of us have connected the dots to see what we keep recreating … which, by the way, the Disrespect Philosophy strives to do in order to keep itself and its enforcers in power.

The guard and enforcer of the Disrespect Philosophy is bullying: the means used to coerce others into accepting the Disrespect Philosophy without question. How? Simply by the conviction we are taught that no one is valuable unless someone(s) says they are and the qualifiers for being considered valuable are based on the whims of those who have put themselves in positions of power to control.

Without high enough RESPECT LEVELS in families, family members are subject to the negative conditioning and the power struggle ensues. Those who take power do so by bullying. Sometimes subtle, often ingenious, sometimes emotional, psychological or physical, bullying comes in all shapes and sizes and affects, because of our lack of awareness of the Disrespect Philosophy, everyone.

The Myers Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI) is a personality profiling system presented by Carl Jung and further developed by the Myers – Briggs team. The fundamental basis of the MBTI is there are two primary personality types: Extroverts (E) and Introverts (I). According to the MBTI, Extroverts’ brains require primarily external stimulus for their brains to work at their best, while Introverts brains, on the contrary, often need a fair amount of time to work and be alone because of the constant internal stimulation in their brains they have to contend with.

There are two significant challenges the contrasting types brings to our world. One, the world is dominated in sheer numbers by the Extroverts and two, as a result the Extroverts, in a Disrespect Philosophy driven world want the rest of the world to be like them … and as a result, the enforcers … the bullies become conditioned at a very young age.

Not that only E’s become bullies, I’s do also, but more from reaction than action.

The reason is the Introverts are more driven by their brains to reflect, plus research, study, and analyze differences and as a result tend to be more understanding and often accepting of other people’s differences. Extraverts, on the other hand, will often respond to Introverts’ quietness, reserve and withdrawal as a rejection of them and in our Disrespect Philosophy world take the I’s actions personally … and the battles begin by employing the different methods of bullying: prejudging, teasing, belittling, tormenting, harassing, rejecting, isolating, neglecting, violating, abusing, and killing … spirits as well bodies.

Many Introverts, especially those with the dominant function of “Feeling” will often withdraw inward further or may even remove themselves physically to avoid battles with Extroverts which they will seldom win fighting in the Extraverted bullying manner … but, instead will use time and strategies to fight such battles. Without high RESPECT LEVELS, it is a lose lose proposition for both.

Extroverted bullies need audiences; Introverted bullies eventually seek quiet revenge … yet since we are driven to be more Extroverted to be in our Disrespect Philosophy driven world, Extroverts and Introverts can act very contrary to their natural, inherent personality type.

What happens in our childhood years does not stay in our childhood years … including the bullying (conditional love) we have been shaped by … it follows us no matter where we go … school, community, work, and into all of our relationships. The only way we become free from the Disrespect Philosophy enforcer, bullying, is to recognize it for what it is … something that strives to make us feel less valuable than everyone else so we bully others to make ourselves feel more valuable than others and therefore keep the world spinning out of control by the chaos maker, the Disrespect Philosophy.

We are valuable … each and every one of us for the unique gifts, talents and strengths we have to contribute to help make the world, including our personal and private worlds, better places to live … to thrive.

December 16, 2013

Kaitlin A. Trepanier
http://www.kaitlinatrepanier.com

All Rights Reserved by DARK HORSES PRODUCTIONS/KAITLIN A. TREPANIER, Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE Developer, Author, Speaker, Playwright, Altruistic Entrepreneur, and Human Rights Activist … because every child … every person … should know, by their own experience, they are valued … RESPECTED.

“You are not defined …”

“You are not defined by your past. You are prepared by your past.”

This passage from #1 New York Bestselling Author Joel Osteen’s book, Break Out, struck a deep chord within me yesterday as I am “breaking free,” like the DARK HORSE I became after my first attempt almost twenty years ago to become who I really am … a very unique individual with an unconventional personality type, perspective, and a drive for a different life from the “normal” I was born into and lived in most of my life … at great cost to myself and to my family and society … because when we do not live true to our heart, our heart will close its doors to living a life that is a lie because it is not a reflection of who we really are … and ultimately we all lose when we treat ourselves so disrespectfully.

Like you, I am not defined by my past, but it has certainly prepared me for my future … the one in my heart I have always known I am meant to be … and the one I am embracing as I move forward into the life my heart tells me I am destined to live.

Thank you “past” for my “future.” And thank you Joel Osteen for being the writer and messenger you are too.

December 11, 2013

Kaitlin A. Trepanier
http://www.kaitlinatrepanier.com

All Rights Reserved by DARK HORSES PRODUCTIONS/KAITLIN A. TREPANIER, Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE Developer, Author, Speaker, Playwright, Altruistic Entrepreneur, and Human Rights Activist … because every child … every person … should know, by their own experience, they are valued … RESPECTED.

Transparency Dissolves Assumptions, Speculation … Reveals Truth

Strange filing for Employment Insurance after all these years of working poverty wage jobs … but I’m grateful for the opportunity to receive the benefits now that Dad’s special needs care is finally being met in his new, albeit the third, residence in the past year and a half.

The benefits will enable me the opportunity to secure work/income above the poverty wage level for a change so I can help Dad financially because the costs are beyond his pension and benefits, so I can give back to my brother for helping me out by letting me stay with him since May to be able to help Dad and to have a roof over my head and so I can build a better life for myself too, using all of my education and experience … such as …

My writing and communication skills as demonstrated by the writing of both a fiction and a non-fiction book in less than one year, this past one, my public speaking and performance experience, my visual arts, design and communications arts education and experience, my psychology, humanities, philosophy formal and self-directed research and studies, supported by my Business Administration, Honors education and experience, plus all my years of volunteering including roles such as being a JUMP Math Tutor for a grade five student, a side walker and lead for CARD, a facility that uses horses as therapy for people with disabilities … and much more.

Time to look up and really move forward, respecting and serving myself, as well as others.

ON THAT NOTE …

Just received National Novel Writing Month notification of all the prizes to be collected by authors who completed the November challenge. Most of the prizes are discounts off products such as the software Scrivener for writers, but also I can acquire 2 free paperback copies of my book, DARK HORSES, if I submit my book after its revisions and editing by December 31, 2013. There are also contests my manuscript can be submitted to … one includes a $15,000 book advance and a publishing package deal …

In other words, writing, editing, and job searching now fills my days, plus visits to Dad, such as the one my brother, niece and I had late on Wednesday. Dad really is doing so much better, it is kind of hard to believe what he, and all of us, have had to go through this past year and a half. Still, I am glad and grateful I had over the past two years with him, especially since now I don’t know where I’ll be moving to next … but I can go now, knowing I’ve done a good job, he’s in good hands and I’ll be able to help him now in a new way … financially too.

December 6, 2013

Kaitlin A. Trepanier
http://www.kaitlinatrepanier.com

All Rights Reserved by DARK HORSES PRODUCTIONS/KAITLIN A. TREPANIER, Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE Developer, Author, Speaker, Playwright, Altruistic Entrepreneur, and Human Rights Activist … because every child … every person … should know, by their own experience, they are valued … RESPECTED.

Some are called …

Some people are called to be soldiers, others police and emergency crews.
Others are called to be doctors, nurses, caregivers, and spiritual leaders.
Many are called to be parents, teachers, babysitters too.
Many are called to help parents, teachers and babysitters.
Some are called to be scientists, innovators, creators, writers, artists.
Some are called to be loners, adventurers, extremists, but most to run in packs.
Many are called to create and run businesses, some to run governments and countries.
And some are even called to show us what we need to change … the displaced, the homeless, the starving, the diseased, the abused and abusers, the murdered and the murderers, the outcasts and the warlords.
Not one of us is perfect, but we are perfect for what we are called to do.
Let us not judge, but appreciate what we are each called to do.
Let us have compassion for each person’s challenges.
Let us honor each for what they bring to our world.
Let us forgive, and thank them, for not being copies of us.
Let each person live the life they are called to live.
… because we can.

November 5, 2013

Kaitlin A. Trepanier
http://www.kaitlinatrepanier.com

All Rights Reserved by DARK HORSES PRODUCTIONS/KAITLIN A. TREPANIER, Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE Developer, Author, Speaker, Playwright, Altruistic Entrepreneur, and Human Rights Activist … because every child should know, by their own experience, they are valued … RESPECTED

Faith Was Beaten Out of Me

The moment the yardstick split in half over my head, something split inside of me.

Picture an eight or nine-year old child, a girl, sitting in a Catholic school classroom, being taught by a black and white-robed woman, a nun, and then imagine the girl’s complete shock when the teacher, a nun, strode toward her ferociously, and to the girl’s amazement, did not rap her knuckles with the yardstick, but instead slashed the yard-long, thick ruler over her, my, head … literally snapping the yardstick into two pieces.

Much of my childhood remains locked away somewhere in deep caverns in my mind, but there are moments like this persistence has discovered in my personal work. What was once, and still is at times, called disobedience and now often labelled distraction was neither when viewed with tools such as the psychological profile tool, the Myers Briggs Type Indicator or MBTI. My in-depth study of the MBTI, which is based on Carl Jung’s original work, revealed an important discovery for me: my personality type would have thrived in a Montessori learning environment, as opposed to the factory-learning environments of our public, and even of most private, school systems.

Montessori learning environment is particularly ideal for “I” children who thrive on going off on their own to study what fascinates them though they are also taught the essentials, whereas “E” students thrive in group settings, both because of the way their brains work best.

“I’s” the short form for “Introverts” have brains constantly engaged in multiple trains and streams of internal thoughts so loud, bustling busy environments are distractions to them. Such personality types learn and work best alone, reading, examining, analyzing, and experimenting then taking time away from their learning and work for discussions with others of like minds … other “Introverts.” The slang terms we are familiar with include geeks, nerds, loners, freaks … If such children survive their education environment with their identity still intact, professionally they become researchers, scientist, inventors, technology creators, writers, artists, songwriters, musicians, poets, performers …

“E’s” the short form for “Extroverts” have brains that constantly seek external stimulus to feel engaged in the world, so they are attracted to, or create loud, bustling environments. They seek continuous stimulation from the outside world and the quiet of solitude is one of their least favourite pastimes. Give them a crowd, a team to work with, people to sell to and they are happy. Put them in a classroom where talk, talk, talk is the teaching method and they thrive because verbal communication is tops for them.

Now, put an athletic, tomboy “I” girl child in an “E” environment also ruled by specific religious beliefs enforcing the wearing of dresses and skirts and demanded exacting group behaviour obedience on a child also being bullied for being “too different” and you have a recipe for disaster.

Add to all of this, a religion, Catholicism, which made me feel even worse for my blatant disobedience to the expected conformity and additionally saddled me with guilt, embarrassment and shame for not only my disobedience but also just for my differences, you have the formula for creating a rebel … a wild child.

In my mind, then and for a very, long time, I rejected God because I could not fathom why someone would create us, set us up to fail and then punish us. I could not understand why nuns would rap my knuckles with rulers, put me in the corner to humiliate me and with such a hateful look on her face, split a yardstick over my little head.

With the other very unpleasant things happening in my life, some of them due to misunderstood and misapplied religious teachings and the rest from being a very different personality type in my community, the world to this very logical and analytical child made no sense … nor did God.

Then darkness had me where it wanted me; caught me in the web of negativity, and even hate. I even grew to hate God and finally discarded the idea of him at all.

But what I was not able to discard were the deeply rooted religious and societal teachings of unworthiness, which further life experiences reinforced, including being re-wounded by Christians when I much later visited other churches with a tiny flicker of hope they may be different in their approach, but with no success because they always made me feel like a sinner they themselves would “save” instead of just welcoming me, recognizing Jesus had already “saved” me if I chose to believe in him.

We teach others how to treat us by how we treat ourselves, based on what I call the Respect Scale, and since I felt unworthy, I taught others to treat me the same way … always letting them put themselves before and above me … except during those times when a small outburst of rebellion would attempt to thwart their attempts, but they never lasted or I would move on, teaching someone else the same lesson … how to treat me as less worthy than them … and they did.

As a teenager, I became fascinated with séances, ghosts and all things ghoulish. By my twenties and thirties, I considered psychics and other new age ideas, but then I started to run into new age writers who talked about God and I was not ready to consider God as a good thing because my experience still clung tenaciously to me.

But, when my life hit its most darkest point, I demanded, “If you exist God, give me a purpose for living.” And he did, though for me, the journey back to really believing in God has been a long, arduous journey fraught with many setbacks, tests, and trials. In fact, it is only this year that I can honestly say I do believe, not just in a higher power, but in the God I once discarded through naivety and because of great pain and confusion.

Like myself, many other people have had their faith beaten out of them. Others call what they believe in by other names and I certainly can understand and appreciate why they do so. Some do not believe in anything beyond this life and I say “to each their own beliefs” because having a specific belief forced upon you does not yield faith but division, fear, prejudice, hate, violence and as history also shows, war. All I can say to those who do not believe in God as I am now learning to by reading an amplified Bible, is that for the first time in my life I am discovering what it feels like to live in faith … to trust I am not alone … that someone has my best interests at heart .. and to be content, no matter what, because all the pain can and will be turned to good as a reward for believing in, not the God I was taught about incorrectly by teachings or experience, but by what I am learning and experiencing now.

This time, my faith is my choice and no matter how others judge me and my faith, it is between God and me. I expect others to respect my belief as I respect their right to choose their own beliefs and if their beliefs do not seek to harm others … I am happy for them … and for us all … because I believe we are so much more than what we have come to believe and as a result, the opportunity is ours to create a better world than any generation has known.

October 23, 2013

Kaitlin A. Trepanier
http://www.kaitlinatrepanier.com

All Rights Reserved by DARK HORSES PRODUCTIONS/KAITLIN A. TREPANIER, Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE Developer, Author, Speaker, Playwright, Altruistic Entrepreneur, and Human Rights Activist … because every child should know, by their own experience, they are valued … RESPECTED.

The MBTI was created by the mother-daughter team of Myers and Briggs.

The Tieger consultant team has also written extensively about the MBTI in The Art of Speed Reading People

No One is More Valuable Than You

It has been said many, many, many times, that parenting is the most important job in the world. It has also been said that a nation’s leader holds the most important job. Emergency workers who put their lives on the line for us such as firemen, policemen and soldiers also do the most important jobs. Doctors and nurses who save lives are also top of the list.

Yet, what about the parents who daily go to jobs they are not passionate about, but do, because they are passionate about providing the best for their children? Yet what about the cleaners who keep their work environments safe and clean for them to do their jobs? What about the people who create the businesses that provide jobs? What about the scientists and researchers who spend much of their life in remote areas or isolation to concentrate on solving important problem such as cures for cancer or developing greener technology so we limit the destruction of the environment that enables us to live. What about the people who save other people from horrific conditions such as human trafficking and genocide; who go to countries, even when that means putting their own lives at stake, to fight wars, to report on conditions, to bring food, to dig wells, build schools. What about people without children yet who dedicate their lives to improving the quality of life of children? What about the child of an aging parent who puts their life on hold to help their loved one experience the best transition possible before they leave this life? What about the people who build our homes, teach our children, minister our spiritual lives, create entertainment, write stories, investigate to solve problems, run our governments, manage our money and resources, find missing people and pets …

Examination of life on this world reminds us that it takes all of us, with our unique talents, strengths and abilities to keep the world running every day. Yes, we know there are problems. Yes, we know we don’t have all the answers. Yet, we can all stop to consider the idea everyone is valuable … worthy of RESPECT … for just being a life, so we can stop trying to measure our value over others by competing when such competition takes our energy away from just becoming the best unique individual we can be so we can share who we really are to help make the world a better place for us, our loved ones and everyone else’s loved ones to live in during our brief time on this planet we call earth … and home.

October 17, 2013

Kaitlin A. Trepanier
http://www.kaitlinatrepanier.com

All Rights Reserved by DARK HORSES PRODUCTIONS/KAITLIN A. TREPANIER, Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE Developer, Author, Speaker, Playwright, Altruistic Entrepreneur, and Human Rights Activist … because every child should know, by their own experience, they are valued … RESPECTED