The Value of Sharing Our Beliefs

Sharing our beliefs educates and helps us to understand each other better.
Doesn’t mean we have to judge, like, or approve of other people’s beliefs, but our “Respect Level” for others shapes what we think, say, and do to those who do not mirror our beliefs.
 

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER

Advocate Innovator Entrepreneur Founder Author Artist Speaker

Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

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March 6, 2018

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If Our Beliefs Don’t Provide …

If our beliefs don’t provide us with a joyful, satisfying life, that is often the indicator it is time to reconsider our beliefs.

Worked for me.

A growing “Respect Level” for myself, as well as, others, prompted me to re-examine what I believe, my thoughts, and my actions. Discarding limiting, negative, and even other people’s beliefs made room for me to choose how I want to live, and, as a result, raised my  quality of life to the point that fear, worry, and negativity no longer control my life … I do.

Wishing the same for you … one of the best gifts you will ever receive.

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER

Founder President Author Speaker Artist

Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

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December 23, 2017

 

Want to Stop the Contempt, Hate, and Violence?

Many beliefs divide us … religion, politics race, sex, etc., … but the one thing with the power to unite us, even if we can’t yet love everyone, is the choice to respect … to value … all life and then use our heads and hearts to figure out how to live peacefully.
Remember, we know this now … only bullies, who are those the most frightened and/or broken, result to offensive acts towards themselves and others.
Science has also informed us we are only yet using a very small percentage of our brain’s ability, so instead of ramping up fire power, how about ramping up some brain power?
A simple way to start is “Connecting the Dots … with The Respect Principle” because the idea is logical, practical, and even compassionate and requires only one thing … that we stop treating some people as more valuable and others as less … in our words and actions, which means trashing other people’s beliefs.
If people are not hurting other people with their beliefs, the answer is simple … leave them alone and pour that energy into dealing with the need to trash other people.
People, we are all so much more than this.

Kaitlin Ann Trepanier, The Respect Specialist

Connecting the Dots … with http://www.therespectprinciple.com

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Believe As You Want … Let Others Choose Also

We must, in all good consciousness, stop trying to force people to believe what we believe.
If one’s beliefs are not harming others, then live and let live.
And let us please stop lumping all people who supposedly share the same belief(s) together. I have met many mean, miserable Christians who only believe in Jesus to get into heaven but are onerous and stingy and then I have seen others truly walk the talk in various levels. In fact, I am currently staying with one during my job search.
I have heard Muhammed Ali before and others since talk about Islam and its core element of peace, but then there are the terrorist groups who use, as Christians have, excerpts taken out of context to justify the opposite of peace and love.
If you don’t agree with someone, just respect the fact he or she is a life and has the right, as do you, to believe as they choose.
And, it will serve us all well, if all of us were more compassionate with each other for the trials and tribulations we go through and especially for those who have been targets for no good reason other than ignorance, fear, and low “Respect Levels” for life … theirs or others … because as I have learned those who harm, in the end, are actually causing more harm for themselves in the end because they have to live with the consequences of their actions.
June 23, 2016

Kaitlin Ann Trepanier … Administrative Assistant, Social Entrepreneur, Writer, and Respect Specialist. http://www.therespectprinciple.com ©All Rights Reserved

“THAT’S JUST WHO I AM.”

How many times have you heard or even said yourself, “That’s just who I am.”

Does this not suggest that we are finite beings, but if that is so, then when do we become finite … limited at some particular point in our life?

Expressed again just the other day, a seventy year old woman I know uses this phrase repeatedly to justify not making any changes in her life … even ones that would be to her benefit.

But, she is not alone. Many of us, due to our lower rather than higher “Respect Levels,” become unwilling to accept we are responsible for growing, developing, and changing what is not working for us or even things we do not like but do anyway because they have become habitual.

For instance, this particular woman, seldom ever has anything positive to say about her health (she’s still here, has medical care and benefits, and family around her who cater to her daily) or in general. Gently trying to remind her of all that she has and that she could make some changes is quickly rebuffed with “That’s just who I am.”

And I understand, because I used to think and talk like that before when I did not feel so good about myself. Now, as I work to stay positive and optimistic in order to stay motivated to keep growing, changing, and developing, I still find sometimes it can be quite wearisome to be around people who are so down, so negative, so bitter, resentful, frustrated, and angry, without their pulling me down with them. But, I remember why I created the “Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE” concept and why I became a publisher to roll out the idea to kids in school, to parents, teachers, and everyone else … because healthy, successful, joy-filled lives result from growing, developing, and changing throughout our whole lives and not just coming to the point where we limit ourselves and our experience by the debilitating mindset, “That’s just who I am.”

If all we are is to become static creatures at some point in our life, what would be the point of being a person? Why not another animal? Doing the same thing over and over and over and over and over?

I empathize with the woman and the many others like her, even the ghost of who I once was; however, next time she says, “That’s just who I am,” out of respect for her as a person with untapped potential, I’m going to have to say, “Stop limiting yourself and your life with your limited belief. You are so much more than you know … however, you have to be willing to let go of what you know, those old beliefs, even about yourself, in order to reap the benefits of growing, developing, and changing will generate in your life because that is what we are supposed to do throughout our whole life … adapt.

I know this from experience … by connecting the dots to see the bigger, promising picture and from reaping the multiple benefits.

Hope she and you do too … because you are so much more than you know.

June 3, 2015

KAITLIN A. TREPANIER

Freeing “Potential” with Education, Entertainment, and Inspiration with the global initiative and core book Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE … because every child … every person … should know, by their own experience, they are valued … RESPECTED.

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Oppression by physical violence … deadly, but spirit oppression by those who do not know they are oppressed …

We know oppression by physical violence is deadly, but often we are not aware of the more life-threatening oppression of people’s spirits by those who are not even aware they are oppressed and, as a result, cast their oppression onto those they are supposed to be “helping.”

Nowhere is this more prevalent than in those who are supposed to lead others into the future … whether the leader is a parent, teacher, principal, counsellor, minister, politician, or mentor of any kind … anyone in a position of authority.

How we can determine if we are being led by an “oppressed” leader is by their words and actions that seek to keep us small and limited based on their oppression … their own experience of being oppressed … being told by words and actions their dreams and goals were not possible and so took the path their own leaders told them to take … and they too became like their leaders … oppressed, bitter and jaded … passing on the legacy of oppression without even knowing it.

Over my lifespan, what was applauded in my life was my conformity to other people’s expectations, regardless of what I wanted. Just because I could do well what other oppressed people valued, did not mean I valued what I could do … and over time, the denial of what I knew I could do, with time, study and experimentation turned me into an oppressed, bitter and jaded person till I became so sick in the spirit I had no desire to live.

Interestingly enough, as my Respect Level has grown, I repeatedly have to stand up against, not the physical oppression, but the constant onslaught of the oppression of the unconscious … a “traditional” mentor who attempted to slay with sarcasm and dismissal that writing a book was not “real work,” which I gather he has never done because he would know how much work it is … an employment “counsellor” who also attempted to dismiss “creativity” as something wives of Bruce Power husbands do because they can afford to create at their leisure and at their husband’s expense.

As I wrote yesterday in, “If I knew then what I know now …” my few previous attempts to reclaim my own identity, gifts, talents and abilities have been met with an unexpected backlash of negativity and what I now recognize as the spirit oppression by those who too were spirit oppressed but still do not know it.

All of which fuels my passion even more to raise both individual and our global Respect Level because we know what to do with the oppressors who use violence physically … we return the same on them, but as of yet, on a mass level, we have not even recognized how we are passing on the oppression by the denial of its existence and its impact on our lives and the lives of those we lead by example.

To “oppress” means to weigh heavily on the mind, spirit or senses; to keep down by the cruel or unjust use of power; tyrannize over.

Being “oppressive” is distressing, not only physically but also mentally.

When any person takes on any role of leadership, guiding and mentoring others, what would serve everyone is simply the recognition of one’s own oppression, overcoming it and helping others to do the same … so they can rise to their potential … not be limited by oppression’s weight that attempts to keep people small, limited and powerless … because keeping people small, limited and powerless is also what drives our economy … keeping our wealth capped by the those who seek their false security by their control by oppression over other people … so they feel more valued … respected.

The problem is oppressors will never ever find the peace and wealth they crave … because peace and wealth are only born of the freedom to be who we really are as unique individuals discovering, developing and delivering to the world what only we have to offer.

Ironically, in the end, the oppressors are the ones who ultimately suffer the most by the legacy of oppression they pass on … for they will never be happy, satisfied, fulfilled … and wealthy in the way that counts most … in their spirit.

June 24, 2014

KAT (Kaitlin A. Trepanier)

All rights reserved by KAT (Kaitlin Ann Trepanier) and DARK HORSES PRODUCTIONS launching September 2014 … Entrepreneur, Creative Writer, Visual Artist, The RESPECT Specialist and Architect of the global initiative Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE … because every child … every person … should know, by their own experience, they are valued … RESPECTED.

When “Negative” is a Good Thing!

Being positive is a good thing because positive thinking helps us overcome obstacles, keeps us moving forward and empowers us to meet new challenges head on … makes us bold, brave, courageous and wonderfully alive!

Yet a “Negative” is also a good thing when tests come back and the “Negative” means all is well.

The other time “Negative” is a great thing is like today when I received the “Negative” on my Vulnerable Sector Check so I can start volunteering in Kincardine. Anything but a “Negative’ would have been a surprise but just yesterday I was reading in the Owen Sun Times that the Canadian Civil Liberties Association has come out with a report concluding “Police forces across the country are running millions of record checks per year and are disclosing information that goes far beyond convictions and formal findings of guilt. (Alan Shanoff, Owen Sound Sun Times).

If you have seen Robert Redford’s latest film, The Company You Keep, you will understand why the “Negative” is important to me. For five years, I shared an apartment in Toronto with a man I had met while living in Oshawa. We were both struggling to get back on our feet after being beaten down by a number of personal tragedies. He had just lost his girlfriend to cancer and the husband the had been separated from her returned during her illness and kept my friend from his girlfriend and even from her funeral.

We dated for a few months, but I knew quickly he was not someone for me to have a relationship with. Several months later, we met again briefly and I discovered that the rooming house he had been sharing with an old friend had become derelict. The “respected” owner had drug problems and a variety of legal problems. The house had become a shambles. What was once an old estate home had quickly turned into a pit with no hydro and no running water plus other problems. Dishes and garbage hid the small kitchen from view. The upstairs shared bathroom between three men reeked from the urine puddles on the floor. Tucked in his room, amongst all his theatre paraphernalia, the shell of a man I had met several months ago sat as immobile as the huge puppet heads surrounding him.

Recently moved from a small room in a “rooming house” to a basement apartment I spent hours cleaning and painting, I could not wait to find a decent apartment to share. I thought we could help each other get back on our feet. I already knew I wanted nothing more from him than friendship, someone to come home to, someone to talk to … who understood how it felt to fall so far and how difficult it felt trying to regain footing.

Within months he regained some of his composure and became driven to move back to Toronto; the place he had called home since his teenage years before his move to Pickering to live with his girlfriend and work near her. For five years, we shared a place on the far west end of Toronto and though a few times we tried to be more than friends, it never lasted, especially as I was discovering some of his dark secrets … secrets that made me pull further and further away though we were sharing the same living space simply because I wanted to move forward with my life and he was stuck in his past; angry and bitter and not caring much how his words and actions affected other people.

Like Redford in the film The Company You Keep who was judged guilty of an event because of his known association with people, I later realized I had been too, but not during the time I shared the space with him. I did not think I was being judged for the company I had kept till I finally moved away and then heard people’s comments about him and me. What astounded me more was the realization that people just could not seem to understand those “cast aside” by society gravitate towards each other because they have been cast aside … rejected first usually for differences and then later for things they may do in their pain of rejection.

The problem is without a high enough RESPECT LEVEL developed at a young age, rejection devastates people, causing them to often turn to others rejected and depending on the people they then connect with, their lives can become a vortex filled with things they can’t see or don’t want to see … just because they want someone to see them, hear them …

Stories reveal the countless number of people who later admitted they sensed something was more wrong than they thought, but for whatever reason, they stayed and stayed and stayed till they became the collateral damage of lives gone wild. When the parade of girlfriends started to arrive in the small apartment, I could finally use the excuse that it was too crowded for three to live in when the last girlfriend arrived along with a steady stream of her belongings.

Eager to raise my own RESPECT LEVEL to get out from the darkness my life had become filled with, I finally left amidst a violent stream of dialogue that lasted several months and included a visit to a police station to consider options. But I felt so sorry for the broken man who seemed unable to move past his pain and I just let time handle the problems he poured into my email and cell phone. Fortunately, I knew better when I left to make sure I had moved several hours away and then only five months later returned to Kincardine; the place I had left at age twenty-nine filled with the hope of a new, better and successful life.

A lot happened while I was away from here … business college, some university, arts college, a few awards, seven years with a progressive international company and much more great stuff, but I realized yesterday after reading the Owen Sound Sun Times article that the way police were gathering and providing information, I was also thinking about Redford and the company I had kept and the impact it could have on me and my goals if my friendship and sharing of a home for five years with someone who perhaps had done things I was not even aware of … things that could have marred my own goals of developing a higher RESPECT LEVEL for myself as well as for others.

I am glad I was able to be there for my friend yet I am also glad I finally found the strength to no longer keep company with him. And today, when I picked up the “Negative” Vulnerable Sector Check, I was thrilled and grateful I left when I did to see his company ultimately did not impair my reputation.

Being alone, learning how to treat one’s self more respectfully means I will attract people who will also treat me more respectfully … because I will no longer accept anything less … because I am learning I do not have to. As wonderfully said in the 80’s cult classic film, Some Kind of Wonderful, “I would rather be alone for the right reason than be with someone for the wrong reason.” Ditto.

And though I have had a few years in my own places since then, for now I am glad to be sharing my living space with my brother who helps fill that lonely space I sometimes find myself in … till the next phase of my life leads me elsewhere.

June 6, 2014

Kaitlin A. Trepanier
http://www.kaitlinatrepanier.com

All rights reserved by KAITLIN A. TREPANIER/ DARK HORSES PRODUCTIONS … Creative Writer, Visual Artist and The RESPECT Specialist, architect of the global initiative Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE … because every child … every person … should know, by their own experience, they are valued … RESPECTED.