How Do We PROTECT THE CHILDREN and Their Future?

Not by might or guns or walls … we protect the children and their future by changing how people think about, speak to, and treat each other.

Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle … transforming respect from the global discretionary value to the global principle because we now understand everyone matters … because we are all connected and share the same world.

July 8, 2018

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER

Human/Animal Rights Activist Social Scientist Founder Entrepreneur Author Artist

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Bravo For PUTTING CHILDREN FIRST In EDUCATION

Bravo! Grateful to see the factory education model is being replaced with a model more logical, practical, and compassionate … respectful. I’m sure it will also do wonders with developing children’s ability to socialize without all the stigmas and prejudices typical of the factory education model. Well done!

 

June 15, 2018

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER

Human/Animal Rights Activist Social Scientist Founder Entrepreneur Author Artist

Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

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The PRICE of BREAKING the SOULS and SPIRITS … of CHILDREN

From Jungian Analyst, Clarissa Pinkola Estes, Ph.D, “A culture that requires harm to one’s soul in order to follow the culture’s proscriptions is a very sick culture indeed … While socialization for children is an important thing, to kill the interior criatara is to kill the child. The West Africans recognize that to be harsh with a child is to cause its soul to retreat from his body, sometimes just a few feet away, other times many days’ walk away.”

Not only will a child’s soul be many days’ away, it could be years. You can tell by the empty eyes, sometimes induced by medication such as Ritalin and/or the destructive behavior to one’s self or others. Later on, we see the remnants of soul beatings and deaths not only by drinking, drug, food, and shopping addictions, but also by the collateral damage of a black and white philosophy, financial instability, unhealthy relationships, people pleasing at any cost, the subsequent depression or rage …

Instead, instilling children with a healthy “RESPECT LEVEL” not only will a child’s soul stay intact and alive in the child, the soul, his or her true identity, will help the child to continuously adapt to changes by keeping a healthy balance between being socialized without losing one’s self in the process.

Keeping a child’s soul alive and well will also empower a child to go through the storms of his or her teen years without his or her self being cast overboard in the rush of hormones and the independence drive.

A balanced teen will try many new things, risk many new adventures, yet still stay true to its soul’s course, resulting in better choices for one’s adult life … while always retaining the ability to continue adapting, confident in one’s self and resultant decisions … not that there will not be mistakes … nothing tried translates into nothing gained, though sometimes what is gained is not the expected result, but the lessons from trying.

If we want such balanced adults shaping our world … we need first to decide this is what we want … for all children … for everyone … and begin the adaptation process of recognizing every child … every person should know by their own experience, they are valued … respected … so we do not cause children’s souls to leave … for any period of time … so we heal a culture that reveals its degree of illness by the results of everyday life … including all the public statistics that tell the tale all too clearly … and for all the private statistics we seldom hear about it, but see everyday in empty eyes, mean actions, and defiant acts.

Considering all the strife many African children, youth, and adults experience in their lives because of the poverty and living conditions, many people express wonder at how they can be so happy regardless … I believe it is because they indeed do value … respect their children and their souls in ways our “civilized” world has not yet mastered.

We have something to learn from every life … every person … every culture … that is why valuing … respecting … every person must come first before we will reap the full rewards within our grasp.

May 14, 2015

KAITLIN A. TREPANIER

Freeing “Potential” with Education, Entertainment, and Inspiration with the global initiative and core book Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE because every child … every person … should know, by their own experience, they are valued … RESPECTED.

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Pinkola Estes, Clarissa, PH.D. Women Who Run With the Wolves, Page 177 and Page 195

The Numbers, Lives and “Respect Levels” We Need to Change Fellow Canadians

CANADA ONLY STATISTICS (Excerpts from Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE book)

Canadian Population http://www.thestar.com, 35,000,000 (million), February 15, 2013

VIOLENCE
http://www.cbc.ca, 2 million Criminal Code violations in 2012, February 15, 2013
http://www.cbc.ca, 424,400 violent crime incidents in 2010, February 15, 2013
http://www.cbc.ca, 20% account for violent crimes in 2010, February 15, 2013
http://www.cbc.ca, 7% increase in homicide in 2010, February 15, 2013
http://www.cbc.ca, 1% increase in criminal harassment in 2010, February 15, 2013
wWw.cbc.ca, Adult males still majority of offenders, but women committing violent crimes has risen by 34%, February 15, 2013

CHILDREN
http://www.cbc.ca, 40% increase in child pornography in 2010, February 15, 2013
http://www.cbc.ca, 3% increase in sexual violations against children in 2010, February 15, 2013
http://www.41.statcan.gc.ca, In 2005, 36,895 children and youth under 18 reported to police they had been physically for sexually assaulted, February 15, 2013
http://www.41.statcan.gc.ca, Most violent acts against children and youth are committed mostly by people known to them … friends, acquaintances, family members … least likely are strangers, February 15, 2013

A GLIMPSE of the FINANCIAL IMPACT
http://www.news.nationalpost.ca, Domestic violence … spousal abuse costs country at least 7.4 billion a year because of economic impact … policing, healthcare, funerals, lost wages … February 15, 2013

http://www.news.nationalpost.ca, 80% female victims are susceptible to sustaining costly and long-lasting, physical, emotional and financial consequences, February 15, 2013

ADDITIONAL STATISTICS from STATISTICS CANADA Website November 2, 2014 “Police Reported”

From The Daily, Violence Against Women 2011 report. Police Reported 173,000 aged 15+. Equals 1207 of 100,000 women experienced violence

From The Daily, Sexual Offences Against Children and Youth in Canada, 2012, 14,000 under 18 experienced sexual offences

From the Canadian Centre for Justice Statistics Profile Series Child and Youth Victims, 2008. Children and youth fall victim to violence including physical, sexual, assault, robbery, homicide

Suicides and Suicide Rate by Sex and Age Group 2014.
10-14 29
15-19 198
20-24 301
25-29 261
30-34 283
35-39 288
40-44 354
45-49 432
50-54 443
55-59 375
60-64 245
65-69 150
70-74 128
75-79 101
80-84 76
85-89 49
90+ 13

Raising our individual and national “Respect Levels” will lower these numbers and the related expenses … as well as demonstrating the compassion we were once known for as Canadians.

Also keep in mind that many who have been harmed, without healing, will harm, not necessarily in the same way, but nonetheless will pass on the legacy of violence … the low ‘Respect Level” they know from experience.

November 2, 2014

Kaitlin Ann Trepanier
The RESPECT SPECIALIST … AUTHOR … PLAYWRIGHT … KEYNOTE SPEAKER … CONSULTANT

Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE … because every child … every person … should know, by their own experience, they are valued … RESPECTED. ©

Teachers’ Strikes … Teaching Disrespect to Youth and Children

Based on the Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE premise, teachers’ strikes demonstrate adults do not have high enough Respect Levels to resolve issues between the adults … the teachers, administration, and government in a timely manner … even though the impact is severest to youth and children.

And then we wonder why youth and children grow up with the mindset that important issues cannot be resolved without conflict and without neglect … the respectful diligence necessary to take care of the children and youth first and foremost … and why they have low Respect Levels for themselves … and their elders.

Kaitlin Ann Trepanier
The RESPECT SPECIALIST

Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE author and altruistic entrepreneur … because every child … every person … should know, by their own experience, they are valued … RESPECTED. ©

Mental Health … or Just Broken Hearts and Spirits?

Science has shown that depression, in time, actually manifests itself in people’s brains and bodies, affecting the chemicals in our brains that motivate or de-motivate us.

The “key” to consider I believe is the “in time” label.

First, let us remember that some people are born with the chemical imbalance that causes depression and its often disastrous side effects, particularly suicide.

But let’s also consider how people not born with the chemical brain imbalance become depressed.

In a world constantly affirming that no one is entitled to respect … to be valued … unless someone in authority says so … people becoming depressed is easy to understand.

When a child is taught by their experience, as the majority of children are based on the results generated from the beginning till now, that their “value’ is determined by others’ thoughts and expectations, such a child loses his or her identity in the process of pleasing others to gain their respect … to feel valued … and therefore safe, protected … but relying on others not only will disappoint children, but also in reality also has the potential to cause great harm and severe danger, including death by violence, suicide or murder.

The training tool employed by the Disrespect Philosophy unconsciously driving our world is the repetitive “breaking” of hearts and spirits. Some people call the effect depression; something wrong that becomes wrong or broken in people’s minds but both my own experience and my research indicate otherwise. Both indicate the precursor to the level of depression that creates havoc with a life has more to do with the repetitive damage done to a person’s heart and spirit … and if not healed, opens the path for depression to sink into the cells of one’s brain and body.

In other words, the real mental health challenge is not depression, but its root cause, disrespect.

For some people depression that has been inside one too long needs to be treated with medication as well as the personal work to discover the damage done to one’s heart and spirit and to heal so one can move forward; however, what I found the most helpful was the discovery of where and when, the personal journey to heal … that increased my RESPECT LEVEL to a high enough level …. so I could reclaim my identity … and then to a higher RESPECT LEVEL that resulted in my reconnecting with my spirituality … all of which finally resulted in my experiencing the peace nothing else generated in my fifty plus years, along with the confidence, courage and direction to finally move upward and forward.

Family and friends thought I lost “it” twenty years ago when I walked away from everything and everyone I knew. What no one seemed to understand or wanted to hear was I had not lost my mind, but instead my heart and spirit had lost the desire to use my mind … that is the difference between depression and a nervous breakdown from a brokenness deep in the core of one’s self.

Science is a great tool and methodology to help us understand ourselves and our world, but like all things and fields of study, science is only a part of the big picture. Labels are created to help us understand our differences and each other, but labelling in itself quickly becomes prejudicial in a world still driven by the unconscious belief we are only as valuable as we are labelled … worthy of respect, worthy of being valued or worthy of being rejected, abandoned, denied, reshaped, conformed … etc.

In light of this train of thought, perhaps we can re-consider the stigma attached to mental health for what it is too … yet another level of prejudice created by the Disrespect Philosophy’s premise … no one is valuable unless someone in authority … decides someone is worthy.

The question begged then is the Disrespect Philosophy and its fallout problems of broken hearts, broken spirits and eventually the mental health problems, including depression what we want to serve as our legacy?

February 21, 2014

Kaitlin A. Trepanier
http://www.kaitlinatrepanier.com

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