Bullies … The Broken Souls

Broken in ways evil revels

… seizes to do its bidding

bullies wield words and actions

to tear apart any semblance of good …

Lashing out for being misunderstood

for being harmed, never healed

taking the lives of others

down with them

to the darkest places

where broken souls’ screams

are never heard

… where a sense of value

no longer lives

… where violence

of any kind

is the only way

they know how to feel

The only escape for all …

are prayers for good and salvation

to set us all free.

  

Poem … Bullies … The Broken Souls

Written in the wake of the terrorist attacks in Paris, France November 13, 2015

November 14, 2015

Kaitlin Trepanier

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER … The Respect Specialist. Humanitarian. Social Entrepreneur. Speaker. Author. Poet. Playwright. Director. Publisher … Freeing potential and generating peace through education, entertainment and inspiration. © All rights reserved 2015

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Love … Choice #1 Falling In and Failing In … or Choice #2 Best Practices for Success!

After years of observations as a counselor, Gary Chapman’s book, “The 5 Love Languages” not only presents the concept there are primarily 5 love languages and how one or two usually dominate what we believe love should look like in actions, he also presents in Chapter 3 his observations about the whole “falling in love” process and then the choosing “to love” after the obsessive high of falling in love wears off.

Terrific learning tool, not only for the young eager to experience the “love rush”, but perhaps even more importantly now for those who have “fallen in love’ and without this knowledge, have suffered the loss of relationships, even repeatedly, that did not have to be lost.

My work, “Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE” complements Gary’s work because it goes one step further by saying that if we first discover who we truly are, plus learn to value … respect who we are and our unique blend of gifts, talents, and abilities, we will fall in love first with who we are. As a result, we will build in us the capacity to love unconditionally first ourselves, and as a result, other people … whether they are those we “fall in love” with or those in our lives, such as our birth families, whom we have to live and grow with … and who ultimately will shape our way of relating to other people, whether we are in love with them or not.

Both concepts reveal love does not have to end when the high of falling in love dissipates. On the contrary, the choice to love that comes after the obsessive beginning is what we all truly want … to be valued … respected … loved for who we really are. I know it is the truth for me.

If you have ever been confused about love, here are two simple, small books, that will empower you to experience not only the rush of falling in love, but also the joy from loving by choice.

Gary’s book has been around for years and the ebook version of mine will be available 9/11/2015 though soon you will be able to pre-order your copy.

Here’s another chance to choose love instead of loss. Choose the best practices for success with love!

September 3, 2015

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by Kaitlin A. Trepanier Humanitarian. Social Entrepreneur. Creative.

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BEING POSITIVE DOESN’T MEAN …

The decision to have a positive attitude does not mean everything is perfect in one’s life … that things or us, don’t need to grow and change.

On the contrary, being positive simply means that regardless of what is going on in one’s life, we have at our disposal a wealth of knowledge, resources, and opportunities to grow … to become stronger and more resilient in the leaner, harder times … that will also enable us to be more grateful and generous in the abundant, gentler times.

And if you happen to be a believer in The Bible, Jesus Christ, and the New Testament, than you know, as I am learning too, a big part of faith is staying positive because of your faith … because staying positive about whatever is happening demonstrates our level of faith … our trust in God to take bad or difficult times and in the end to use them for good … His and ours. It’s quite cool … and peaceful.

I know both are working for me by the resulting changes in me, my responses to things and people, and for the great things and people turning up in my life.

“All is well,” is not only a great phrase, but also a great feeling.

Wishing you the same.

August 15, 2015

KAITLIN A. TREPANIER
HUMANITARIAN. SOCIAL ENTREPRENEUR. CREATIVE.

Transforming respect, freeing potential, and generating peace with education, entertainment, and inspiration by Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE … because every child … every person … should know, by their own experience, they are valued … respected.

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But What I Believe … is Right! … Right?

See, that is one of the major problems with our world.

We all want to be right, especially when we may not be feeling so sure about our beliefs, but want to project the confident, assured image to the world whose beliefs are “right” while everyone else’s beliefs are wrong.

But the thing is, even the “Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE” concept, which some people think is my idea, really is only a label I applied to historical and present results generated by people’s actions or non-actions; the belief whose results demonstrate in our world that no one is entitled to being valued … respected … without meeting someone’s “right belief” or what I call a “qualifier,” such as beliefs, status, class, looks, race, religion, politics, etc.

The concept of recognizing every child … every person as valuable is simply a meeting ground for all of our different beliefs to come together while we work out how to build on what can also serve as a foundation.

It does not matter what my spiritual beliefs or yours are or any other belief we each have for that matter … provided it is not a belief that you or anyone has the right to violate another person for any reason.

What does matter is since the human brain’s capacity far outweighs its current estimated use, coming together with a non-political, non-religious, non-etc. agenda, we can start to work out together how best to tackle the numerous different problems our “right” thinking has caused.

The success of a global initiative, such as the “Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE” one means first raising awareness and then motivating the large diverse population … from the think tank folks to middle school students and everyone in between around the world.

Being “right” is not a problem when it comes to knowing what is “right” for us, such as in the relationships, friends, careers, beliefs, etc. we choose; however, being “right” for the sake of being right, for the sake of not growing, not changing is never “right” … because like it or not, not one human being, no matter how high their IQ, has everything figured out and even if they did, it would not matter … because they share the world with us … and the smartest thing he or she could do is to raise our “Respect Level” high enough so everyone develops to the best of their potential … which in turn has everyone being and doing their best in co-creating our world.

Now don’t you think … believe … that is a “Win Win” to infinity and beyond!

August 12, 2015

KAITLIN A. TREPANIER

HUMANITARIAN. SOCIAL ENTREPRENEUR. CREATIVE.

Transforming respect, freeing potential, and generating peace with education, entertainment, and inspiration by Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE … Because every child … every person … should know, by their own experience, they are valued … respected.

http://www.therespectprinciple.com © All rights reserved 2014.

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For the Girls … Want Guys to Treat You Better?

Check out “Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE” and discover how to treat yourself better! (Follow this blog, have your library order the book, order a printed copy, or coming soon, place your e-book order for September delivery.)

Also, learn some other practical ways to do so when it comes to guys, dating, and relationships by studying Greg Behrendt’s and Amiira Ruotola’s book, “It’s Just a F***ing Date” that is filled with great insights and helpful tips, along with eight other principles to apply to your life to ramp up your “Respect Level” so guys and everyone else will treat you better … because everyone is valuable and entitled to being treated “respectfully” … just for being a life!

Go girls! Better to learn who you really are, create a good life for yourself, and be alone till you attract someone who gets you are as amazing as he is. Then you are both not only on your way to the kind of relationship dreamt about, but also the realities high “Respect Level” relationships are made of.

It’s time for a “Happy Dance” girls!

August 8, 2015

KAITLIN A. TREPANIER
HUMANITARIAN. SOCIAL ENTREPRENEUR. CREATIVE.

Freeing “Potential” with Education, Entertainment, and Inspiration with the global initiative and core book Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE … because every child … every person … should know, by their own experience, they are valued … RESPECTED.

SUPPORT getting the core book into schools, prisons, and social support organizations this fall by contributing to the “BECAUSE EVERY CHILD …” fundraising campaign.

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NOT THAT YOU NEED to RAISE YOUR “RESPECT LEVEL” …

BUT, for those who do …

1 … the child being bullied at school
2 … the child being sexually assaulted by someone she or he knows
3 … the child being beaten at home
4 … the child being neglected at home
5 … the teen being bullied or cyber bullied
6 … the teen being snubbed, isolated, and ostracized for differences
7 … the teen who has been sexually or physically assaulted
8 … the college or university student who accepts hazing as a given
9 … the employer who pays poverty wages
10 … the employee who steals out of resentment … time, supplies, and/or money
11 … the co-worker or community member snubbed by co-workers and/or community
12 … the woman or man experiencing domestic violence
… etc., etc., etc.

…. and also for the persons causing or contributing to any of the above or comparable demeaning and/or harmful actions because of their own low “RESPECT LEVELS.”

SO, DO WHAT YOU CAN! SUPPORT the “Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE” GLOBAL INITIATIVE!

1 … Contribute directly to the fundraising campaign to print books!
2 … Order the core book, “Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE,” for your or your children’s school to share and study!
3 … Order the school and community play, CHARLES’ CHOICE, to present the core book’s concept to your school, community, and social support organizations
4 … Or, bring in the Creator, Humanitarian, and Social Entrepreneur, Kaitlin, to your school, community, or organization to present the core book’s concept as a speaker
5 … Join the team … become a partner!
6 … Sponsor!
7 … Share!

THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR YOUR HIGH “RESPECT LEVEL” THAT’S GENERATING HIGHER “RESPECT LEVELS” for THOSE STILL STRUGGLING TO EXPERIENCE THAT THEY MATTER TOO!

August 1, 2015

KAITLIN A. TREPANIER
HUMANITARIAN. SOCIAL ENTREPRENEUR. CREATIVE.

Freeing “Potential” with Education, Entertainment, and Inspiration with the global initiative and core book Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLEbecause every child … every person … should know, by their own experience, they are valued … RESPECTED.</strong> © All rights reserved 2014.

SUPPORT getting the core book into schools, prisons, and social support organizations this fall by contributing to the “BECAUSE EVERY CHILD … “ fundraising campaign.

HAPPY CANADA DAY! I love my country but …

The AUTHOR BIO from the core book, “Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE” currently in print production.

I love my country, but I love the world without the boundaries that divide us more … because I love people and believe we are so much more than what divides us. These are the reasons for my search and finally the discovery of this one thing we can all do to unite us in order to best meet the challenges of the world we have to learn to share. Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE is not the answer to all problems but it is a new, consciously-aware foundation to anchor solutions to all problems upon because the foundation under Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE is the one answer to everything … unconditional love. I urge all of us to think, reflect, discuss, and even argue the practical, the logical, and the compassionate perspectives of Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE so we will discover for ourselves how RESPECT for all, without the need to qualify for BEING VALUED … RESPECTED … is the step in the right direction. I deserve it. You deserve it. We all do. Like it or not, we are all in this life together and how we choose to live is up to us. Our RESPECT LEVEL will always determine what we choose today … tomorrow … the next day. No worries though, as there is a lot of room to grow … and I, as I hope you do, believe we are all worth the effort.

July 1, 2015

KAITLIN A. TREPANIER
HUMANITARIAN. SOCIAL ENTREPRENEUR. CREATIVE.

Freeing “Potential” with Education, Entertainment, and Inspiration with the global initiative and core book Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLEbecause every child … every person … should know, by their own experience, they are valued … RESPECTED.

http://www.therespectprinciple.com © All rights reserved 2014.

A MOST RESPECTFUL … and LOVING RULING TODAY!

Bravo! Hooray to the government leaders for taking sex off the political/social agenda so they can focus on more important issues than what people do in their own bedrooms.

Based on the logical, practical, and compassionate, “Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE” concept, “Every life, should know by their own experience, they are valued … respected” because when they do, they are better citizens … so treating gays like heterosexual is to heterosexuals’ benefit.

Now, some Christians may be opposed, but as someone studying The Bible now to overcome the negative teachings I received about God, it is clear we all sin and we are not to judge and condemn anyone under the New Covenant of love. Jesus even said, “Those who have not sinned cast the first stone,” and they all walked away leaving the woman unscathed. So, it is time to quit wasting so much energy negating people’s love for each other and work on refining ours … plus minimizing our own sins that include gossip about other people, which is what talking about gay people and what they do or don’t do in their bedrooms is about. Love is the most important thing … and God forgives everyone and everything, for He is merciful.

No matter what our beliefs, if we can accept the simple idea … if we “Connect the Dots” and see the benefits to be reaped by everyone if we simply choose to value … respect all life regardless of our differences, we will be creating a better world than has yet existed … for us and for our future generations … otherwise, there may not be a place for them to live.

June 26, 2015

KAITLIN A. TREPANIER
HUMANITARIAN. SOCIAL ENTREPRENEUR. CREATIVE.

Freeing “Potential” with Education, Entertainment, and Inspiration with the global initiative and core book Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLEbecause every child … every person … should know, by their own experience, they are valued … RESPECTED.

http://www.therespectprinciple.com © All rights reserved 2014

BOOK UPDATE!

Hello!

The “Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE” book cover is at the printer, though the manuscript has been delayed due to software problems, but the end is in sight. Re-formatting and converting for the printer this weekend … book proof from the printer expected to arrive this week … the first 100 Limited Edition in the next few weeks too!

Then .. ah well, the magic will begin!

May 30, 2015

KAITLIN A. TREPANIER

Freeing “Potential” with Education, Entertainment, and Inspiration with the global initiative and core book Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE … because every child … every person … should know, by their own experience, they are valued … RESPECTED.

© All rights reserved 2014.

The PRICE of BREAKING the SOULS and SPIRITS … of CHILDREN

From Jungian Analyst, Clarissa Pinkola Estes, Ph.D, “A culture that requires harm to one’s soul in order to follow the culture’s proscriptions is a very sick culture indeed … While socialization for children is an important thing, to kill the interior criatara is to kill the child. The West Africans recognize that to be harsh with a child is to cause its soul to retreat from his body, sometimes just a few feet away, other times many days’ walk away.”

Not only will a child’s soul be many days’ away, it could be years. You can tell by the empty eyes, sometimes induced by medication such as Ritalin and/or the destructive behavior to one’s self or others. Later on, we see the remnants of soul beatings and deaths not only by drinking, drug, food, and shopping addictions, but also by the collateral damage of a black and white philosophy, financial instability, unhealthy relationships, people pleasing at any cost, the subsequent depression or rage …

Instead, instilling children with a healthy “RESPECT LEVEL” not only will a child’s soul stay intact and alive in the child, the soul, his or her true identity, will help the child to continuously adapt to changes by keeping a healthy balance between being socialized without losing one’s self in the process.

Keeping a child’s soul alive and well will also empower a child to go through the storms of his or her teen years without his or her self being cast overboard in the rush of hormones and the independence drive.

A balanced teen will try many new things, risk many new adventures, yet still stay true to its soul’s course, resulting in better choices for one’s adult life … while always retaining the ability to continue adapting, confident in one’s self and resultant decisions … not that there will not be mistakes … nothing tried translates into nothing gained, though sometimes what is gained is not the expected result, but the lessons from trying.

If we want such balanced adults shaping our world … we need first to decide this is what we want … for all children … for everyone … and begin the adaptation process of recognizing every child … every person should know by their own experience, they are valued … respected … so we do not cause children’s souls to leave … for any period of time … so we heal a culture that reveals its degree of illness by the results of everyday life … including all the public statistics that tell the tale all too clearly … and for all the private statistics we seldom hear about it, but see everyday in empty eyes, mean actions, and defiant acts.

Considering all the strife many African children, youth, and adults experience in their lives because of the poverty and living conditions, many people express wonder at how they can be so happy regardless … I believe it is because they indeed do value … respect their children and their souls in ways our “civilized” world has not yet mastered.

We have something to learn from every life … every person … every culture … that is why valuing … respecting … every person must come first before we will reap the full rewards within our grasp.

May 14, 2015

KAITLIN A. TREPANIER

Freeing “Potential” with Education, Entertainment, and Inspiration with the global initiative and core book Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE because every child … every person … should know, by their own experience, they are valued … RESPECTED.

© All rights reserved 2014.

Pinkola Estes, Clarissa, PH.D. Women Who Run With the Wolves, Page 177 and Page 195