STRONG, HEALTHY, BALANCED BOUNDARIES … WHAT a TREASURE!

Hello!

The focus to overcome poor boundaries created by previous experiences and conditioning, plus my awareness of this fact and my desire to establish strong, healthy, balanced boundaries for a more respect-filled life has directed me to remove some personal posts and to be more selective about posting personal information online … instead I will share with friends through get-togethers, emails, phone calls, Skype calls, and letters even sent through the post! … all because of Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE’s impact on raising my Respect Level to yet a higher degree.

But there will still be much to share … till next time then!

May 10, 2015

KAITLIN A. TREPANIER

Freeing “Potential” with Education, Entertainment, and Inspiration with the global initiative and core book Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLEbecause every child … every person … should know, by their own experience, they are valued … RESPECTED.

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SCARE TACTICS and FEAR MENTALITY … How Low “RESPECT LEVELS” Limit and Even Harm Us … and Are More Dangerous for Children

Scare tactics taught and experienced in our early years will stay with us for our lifetimes, until we become aware that we are driven by a fear-based mentality that can actually be quite dangerous and deadly by impeding our ability to distinguish between rational and irrational fears.

A high fear level will prevent the development of the confidence, boldness, and courage we need to journey through life in a healthy way, aware we cannot control life and others, but that we can control ourselves in response to the life challenges we encounter.

Stories have been told of my boldness and confidence as a child, but after the age of five, much changed and for many years afterwards, I oscillated between fear that morphed from rational to irrational, impairing my ability to distinguish early on in circumstances and relationships what was dangerous for me … till it was often too late and the only perceived way to be safe was to flee … sometimes leaving chaos behind me. Chaos that included broken promises, relationships, personal belongings, debt, or just a physical mess … because it was what my experiences and personality taught me to do … until I had given up so much along the way that I created the circumstance of not having the means to run away again (two cats to care for) … and to discover why I ran so fast for so long … and to change from operating on such an internalized, subconscious, debilitating, irrational fear-based mentality that as a result was causing me more harm than others and the circumstances I just did not know how to deal with rationally … respectfully.

This experience and life-altering change created all the books, products, and services to not just counter this fear-based mentality that dominates our world, but also to prevent the same scare tactic methodology from being passed on to the next generations … which it is when we teach children to become sociopathic by teaching them to fear strangers, to not being compassionate, kind, and respectful, versus teaching them to be able to tell the difference between rational fear that creates good decisions and irrational fear that instead manifests foolish decisions and even dangerous choices.

Each child … each teenager … each adult … needs a high enough “Respect Level” so they know about good boundaries, when to ask say or shout “NO,” when to ask for help … or scream and fight for their life. That’s why the core book, Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE core book, workbook, and poster were created for schools, as was the play, CHARLES’ CHOICE, and its Director’s Guide, plus the children’s story, LITTLE JACK, that shows the difference between rational and irrational fear in a quest story with animals. And then there’s the novel, DARK HORSES, that reveals the horrors inflicted upon someone with a low “Respect Level” and the ones she inflicts in return.

Why? … “Because Every Child … Every Person … Should Know By Their Own Experience … They Are Valued … Respected”

Why?… Because people who feel Valued … Respected … won’t deliberately set out to harm others.

May 5, 2015

KAITLIN A. TREPANIER

Freeing “Potential” with Education, Entertainment, and Inspiration with the global initiative and core book Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE because every child … every person … should know, by their own experience, they are valued … RESPECTED.

© All rights reserved 2014.

READYING MANUSCRIPT and BOOK COVER for 1ST PRODUCTION RUN!

Hello!
Oh my! The time is upon me for the revisions and final edit of the manuscript and book cover before it is prepared for the first print production run of the core book, Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE. I am so grateful for my production planning work experience in Levi Strauss’s Operations Planning department, plus my Design, Visual, and Communication Art studies that developed my skills for this part of my company’s work.

The U.S. based printer selected is located in Michigan. The sourcing choice will make for a timely turn-around for this initial small first digital production run to fill the prepaid Limited Edition (personally signed and numbered) orders and to provide the copies that will be delivered into the hands of those who can introduce the small, yet powerful and user-friendly book into the hands and minds of our youth to help them negotiate and positively change their world for the better as they grow, mature, and create the next generation.

And, of course, a small quantity of Limited Edition copies are still available to buy as prepaid ($15.00 includes taxes and North American mailing/shipping) in preparation for the large production run this summer to meet the September 11th and new school year curriculum needs.

In other words … thanks for your orders and for dropping by, but I need to be working offline the next few days.

Till next time … Connect … with Respect! Be bold and follow your own dreams!

April 27, 2015

KAITLIN A. TREPANIER

Freeing “Potential” with Education, Entertainment, and Inspiration with the global initiative and core book Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE … because every child … every person … should know, by their own experience, they are valued … RESPECTED.

© All rights reserved 2014.

EI COMPASSIONATE CARE … From 6 Weeks to 6 Months … What a Difference It Would Have Made 2 Years Ago!

Critics are saying Canada’s new federal budget is basically a propaganda budget that makes lots of promises that will be fulfilled … if the conservatives are re-elected in September of 2015.

However, there is one particular item that I am extremely grateful they have recognized needed to changed … Employment Insurance Compassionate Care.

Two winters ago I had to quit a part-time job I had been doing for a year and a half to be physically close to Dad when he was still venturing out on his own. At the time, I was also working on securing book publication. Two publishers, one American and one Canadian, were interested just on the book proposal for Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE. One other American publisher was also interested in my novel, DARK HORSES.

Dad’s transition from living at home to a retirement home and then into a nursing home was not a smooth one because we quickly discovered how few minutes personal support workers were allowed to give to each resident … regardless of their needs. The net result was the residences’ demands someone be available to help with Dad … to engage him throughout the day and into the evening … and to also be on 24-hour alert for such calls and for the number emergency room visits.

Without going into the whole scenario here … though I am writing a paper or book on the past three and a half years … it became clear that focusing on the publication offers would provide me with the flexibility I needed to be on hand for Dad.

However, after discovering the publishing interest meant I would only see about 10% of the book’s price and that the publishers expected me to do most of the marketing and sales promotion that would reduce my profit below the 10% because of the additional costs, plus their limited vision to see how the additional books, products, and services that I already envisioned and in some cases, had created, could enhance the core book’s sales to also serve the my bigger altruistic and entrepreneurial vision, plus the timeline meant months later what money I did have was long gone and credit had to be maxed out just to survive.

But living on credit did not last long, because the high cost of living in a “hydro” town, working part-time, and paying for things such as gas to drive Dad around in his car had already ramped up debt above the five hundred dollar debt I had moved back to town with the year and half prior … all of which did a number on a previously good credit rating the next few years … which I am in the process of rectifying.

Rent became an issue and I was forced to move into my brother’s basement by mid April. I then heard about Compassionate Care and worked with what then was a once-a-week government office to apply for the six week Employment Insurance Compassionate Care benefit … though at the time, the government person did not suggest I apply for what turned out was the regular Employment Insurance I was entitled to … but I am jumping ahead of myself.

With no money to pay rent or buy food, I reluctantly applied for what I thought was a summer job at a local market while I waited for the EICC benefit. They both arrived in the same month, June of 2013. This job, however, paid almost 3 dollars less an hour, just .25 over minimum wage and required the purchase of special shoes and clothing.

What I was not expecting was a strong physical allergic reaction to chemicals I had to use for cleaning … even stronger than the cleaners I had to use occasionally at the previous job. What I was hoping was that my shifts would in the mornings when I was least called by Dad’s residence, but unfortunately, on the weekends I was often slated to work afternoons and evenings … alone … which meant when the calls started coming in that Dad had been taken to the Wingham hospital for stitches in his head, I had to leave a department devoid of any staff … which as a very conscientious employee troubled me as did what my Dad was going through.

By late August, with a ring of rash around my ankles and lower legs that did not abate, plus the increasing number of falls my Dad was having, I gave my notice to the company, unaware that when I was hired they were expecting me to stay beyond the summer.

By November with money an issue again, I went back to the government office and discovered I had been since the previous spring entitled over half a year’s Employment Insurance benefits … so I applied. I had been told the government could pay retroactively, but the government denied my request and also the appeal. They would only pay from the time I filed till the end of the period which was a couple of months’ benefits versus over half a year’s benefits.

Another January and February arrived as did the quandary. Applying for most local jobs meant not being available when needed for Dad or having to repeatedly leave employers in the lurch when I had to leave for Dad. The search for other options meant looking at the idea of leaving the area, but that idea did not seem right at all. And the search for jobs I could do remotely on the Internet did not pan out either, so I was back in the position of no income again.

Stuck between a rock and a hard place, leaning too much on my brother for food and shelter, resulted in my dragging my feet and hung head to the social assistance office. The good news was I could start paying my brother some rent and I could buy some real food, but by this time I had been running so low on everything, things were very lean.

The great discovery though was the government-sponsored business start-up program and funding available for those who met the criteria. I attended the information workshops with my goal of launching my company that would not only provide the creative works, but would also manage the publishing and distribution of the books, products, and services … s0 things were looking up … though I was not sure how I would be able to commit to all the workshops I had to attend in Owen Sound … yet still be available … again for Dad.

If, like the Compassionate Care benefits, I had known about this two years before, when I had Dad’s car to drive and did not have the debt I later incurred, I would have been accepted into the program … but I was declined again, a third time by the government, for another option that would have lifted me out of poverty. I was declined because I had the debt and no equity … which was precipitated by not knowing about the Employment Insurance Compassionate Care benefits sooner, by not knowing and the government not telling I was also entitled to over half a year of Employment Insurance and by not knowing till two years later about the Ontario Self Employment Benefits program.

Dad finally gave up the fight March 20, 2015. Two years of living in a dark basement, eating a lot of unhealthy food bank food and sinking further into allergic problems created by the whole scenario has exacted a hefty price, but one I know I will recover from easily in the next few years once I leave the area that has grown inhospitable because of misunderstanding and prejudice regarding my decisions and choices … misunderstanding and prejudice based on not knowing the details and the big picture of my life, which is one of the reasons I am writing this entry today.

Dad and I had been estranged for years after his second “marriage” and I quickly discovered upon my return he did not have much himself. I also knew I was not in his Will and what little there was would go to his second wife, my brother, and my mom … and I was fine with that because I did not move back and spend the past three and a half years with him for the money … I did it to honour my Dad and to heal our relationship before he left this plane … which I did.

Yet, a blessing is arriving in May. I have been offered some money from another source that will allow me to make the move across country I have longed to do for eighteen years plus serve as start-up funding for my company, which is still currently registered as a sole proprietorship under my own name.

Why I have written all this … to share the “facts” of my story for all the speculators and to inform you of what no one told me about … the Employment Insurance Compassionate Care benefits our government has realized is greatly needed … to prevent the financial injury caused by Dad’s health care needs not met by the seniors’ care facilities and funding … plus the denial three times of benefits that would have prevented the deep slide into debt.

Do not wait for someone to tell you or to find out by word-of-mouth … research and learn now what you may need to know in the future for your loved ones and your own quality of life … because you never know what life is going to challenge you with and though we cannot be prepared for everything, we can demonstrate the initiative to let others know we are just as valuable … entitled to the respect some try to reserve for the few.

Best wishes to your loved ones and you.

As for me, I have a life to rebuild, a cross-country journey to make, and a company to grow.

April 23, 2015

KAITLIN A. TREPANIER

Freeing “Potential” with Education, Entertainment, and Inspiration with the global initiative and core book Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE … because every child … every person … should know, by their own experience, they are valued … RESPECTED.

© All rights reserved 2014.

The “BEST PRACTICE” for EARTH … DAY … YEAR … MILLENIUM …

What we need the most to sustain, not only the earth, but those it supports, us, is a high enough “Respect Level” so we quit destroying what supports our life and the generations hoping to also continue living, not just on earth, but on a viable, healthy earth.

Every action and inaction reveals our “Respect Level” and invites us to do better … to develop the best practices we can … individually and collectively.

April 22, 2015

KAITLIN A. TREPANIER

Freeing “Potential” with Education, Entertainment, and Inspiration with the global initiative and core book Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE … because every child … every person … should know, by their own experience, they are valued … RESPECTED.

© All rights reserved 2014.

FREEDOM ISN’T FREEDOM … IF WE DON’T GIVE OTHER PEOPLE THE “RIGHT TO CHOOSE”

Any one-sided perspective that does not allow other people to choose based on their free will … is not a symbol of freedom, but a symbol of one person or group’s need to have everyone be like them so they feel okay with their beliefs.

The most powerful leaders do not lead by fear, but by the strength of their character … their beliefs … their heart … and compassion for those they lead … yet also serve by leading.

The “Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE” concept was designed to surpass the barriers of religion, politics, race, etc. because as evidenced by the world, humanity struggles with the concept of valuing … respecting … others who are not in agreement with them, who do not reflect their choices, with believing they have to like or approve of everyone in the world.

Valuing … respecting a person or a group of people simply means to live and let live … to be humane .. to help others less fortunate than ourselves … to protect those who cannot protect themselves … to actively engage in the world we live … connecting the dots that reveals the big picture … what we do to others or do not do will impact our own lives somewhere down the line.

Based on The Bible, the living word Christians believe in, other than Christmas, and even more so, this is the most important two days of the year … when Christ was crucified on Good Friday and was resurrected on Easter Sunday.

If we could grow past our history … if we could at least unite and adopt the one concept, that all life is valuable … worthy of respect … we could obliterate the prejudices that not only separate us and compel some people to harm, imprison, and even kill those who don’t share their beliefs, we could create an economic balance previously unseen and would empower the human race to move past the limitations imposed by prejudices.

Making someone wrong through prejudice does not make someone else right … it makes two wrongs.

When we are willing to see beyond ourselves, we start to connect the dots and see the bigger picture of the world … and when we start to see our place in the world as someone valuable … entitled to respect for just being a life, we gain the ability to see others the same way … and we see our place in the world as valid and important as everyone else … because regardless of what you have, own, take … we all come into this world in the same way and we go out the same way … with nothing but what is in our hearts and minds. If we do not give other people the freedom and right to choose their own beliefs that do not harm others, then what we have is not freedom … instead we are bound by the prison of prejudice till we free others … and ourselves.

Though I was raised a Catholic, for several reasons I rejected the religion at an early ago and studied other religions and philosophies. In fact, so influenced by our culture’s strong reliance, almost religious fanaticism on science and my negative experiences with religion, the “Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE” was developed because of its logic, practicality, and even its dispassionate compassion.

Still, I found the concept, like many other religions and philosophies, did not satisfy a deeper yearning inside of me … the more profound that seeks deeper answers … so in the past few years I returned to Christianity by studying The Bible for myself and surprises abounded … especially surprises that generated freedom from judging and condemning others, peace, hope, and more positive feelings than I have ever experienced in my lifetime. I share this because I know from experience how both concepts, one scientific and philosophical and the other spiritual, not religious, are transforming me from being a hurt, frustrated, depressed, fearful, and angry woman into a healed, whole, more peaceful, and if not always loving, at least a respectful woman … who values other people and their differences and who works to find ways to bring more peace to the world, to encourage the ongoing development of potential, and to help us all connect to co-create a better world for each and every person … because both concepts have taught me everyone comes into this world with unique gifts, talents, and abilities intended to contribute to good of the whole … if we show them how by example and by our support.

This Easter weekend, my question is “What have your beliefs taught and yielded for you?”

April 4, 2015

KAITLIN A. TREPANIER

Freeing “Potential” with Education, Entertainment, and Inspiration with the global initiative and core book Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE … because every child … every person … should know, by their own experience, they are valued … RESPECTED.

© All rights reserved 2014.

WHAT EVERY “ONE” WANTS … IS TO BE SEEN … ESPECIALLY

People want to be seen, but people with Alzheimer’s, dementia or any disease, want to be seen too … but not for their disease … for the person they are beneath the symptoms of their affliction.

Because of my direct involvement as my Dad’s primary representative, contact, liaison, and advocate, I am discovering the labels “Combative and aggressive” are attached especially attached to people with Alzheimer’s and dementia … but isn’t this wrong thinking … especially in the minds who are supposed to be the healthcare professionals? Isn’t it the diseases themselves that rob people not only of their ability to remember, but also of being able to manage their emotional responses to what they perceive as a threat … or even their frustration and anger in their cognitively-clear moments?

An early morning call yesterday revealed the consequences Dad has had to pay for the medication used to “incapacitate” him … that is preventing him from the simple act of getting out of bed on his own … the call informing us he had broken his hip or leg … which led to an all day ordeal that finally resulted in surgery last night and the words “combative” being applied to his state this morning.

Shocked, stunned, and astounded are words that continue to reverberate throughout my being as I journey this tortuous path with my Dad … but then, when I pull back with time to reflect, the state of being shocked, stunned, and astounded are replaced with the knowledge I already know … in a world and healthcare system still driven by dollars first rather than respect for life, I should not be surprised by any of what I see and hear plus observe what Dad is experiencing.

His warrior spirit fights with all its might and though I do not know how long his war with his humanity will last, I pray for the means to continue to serve as his support and for the “Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE” work that will not just create an income source for me, but will help positively change the views we have about each other … so we can be more compassionate … and innovative in finding the best ways to help each other as we each face our own unique challenges in this life … respectfully.

February 27, 2015

KAITLIN A. TREPANIER
The RESPECT SPECIALIST & PEACEMAKER … Freeing “Potential” with Education, Entertainment, and Inspiration!

Click on the link below starting Tuesday, January 27, 2015 to DISCOVER … and SUPPORT … the INDIEGOGO crowd funding campaign for the global initiative, Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLEbecause every child … every person … should know, by their own experience, they are valued … RESPECTED.

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WHAT CHILDREN LEARN …

We cannot control, especially in a rapidly developing technological world, what children or anyone of any age, will learn … this can be a good thing, especially because the knowledge people need to realize more of their potential is increasingly at their fingertips … and no longer exclusively available to the few who could afford higher-level education.

To take advantage of the wealth of knowledge available to develop our potential to our and our children’s upmost capabilities, we must accept that no matter what a school’s curriculum is, what matters most is, as it is for all of us, what we do with what we read, hear, see … and experience.

Children are learning at all times. Their brains are like sponges, soaking up everything they see, hear, feel, and experience. They absorb how you talk to them, touch them, and treat them. They absorb how you interact with others … how you talk to … and about other people. They soak up every little nuance … they develop their personal beliefs based on their observations and experiences … personal beliefs that will direct how they process the information they receive from the outside world … in school, in their community, on television, and on the world wide web.

The most important knowledge children need from parents is the knowledge how to process and manage all the data and information they are bombarded with from all sources … but more importantly, the most important guide and tool children … we all need … is to know … deep in our hearts and souls … that we are valuable … worthy of respect … as is everyone else … and with the personal belief … wisdom … children … all of us … are empowered to sift through all the data, information, and knowledge so we can transform it with our personal beliefs into the gold that will enable every individual to continuously strive to learn … and as a result, to continuously, throughout one’s whole life, to develop into the person one is capable of being because of one’s natural gifts, talents, abilities … one’s personal belief that they are valuable … worthy of respect … for being the unique individual they are.

Which ultimately means parents, as well as their children, need to keep learning … to keep growing … to continuously take in new knowledge … to change … adapt … and grow … teaching their children the most valuable lesson of all … life is a journey … there will be many challenges and hurdles … many joys and victories … yet, no matter what … who they are is not based on what has the power to shape them … but what they choose to shape them.

Though a school curriculum is important, in reality, it is an increasingly smaller piece of the world that can shape a life … because there are also the teachers … how the information is presented … the school’s environment … etc. etc. etc. We cannot control all a child or anyone is going to exposed to … and nor should we … because we would stagnate as individuals … and as a global community … but what we can control is the most important.

We all need to, especially parents, focus on building a high “Respect-Level” in ourselves so children will develop the same or an even higher “Respect Level” … because then, as a result, no matter what they encounter in the outside world, we can be confident they are prepared with the best education they need to be successful in managing what the world throws at them … in a formal classroom or the classroom of life.

February 25, 2015

KAITLIN A. TREPANIER
The RESPECT SPECIALIST & PEACEMAKER … Freeing “Potential” with Education, Entertainment, and Inspiration!

Click on the link below starting Tuesday, January 27, 2015 to DISCOVER … and SUPPORT … the INDIEGOGO crowd funding campaign for the global initiative, Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE … because every child … every person … should know, by their own experience, they are valued … RESPECTED.

http://igg.me/p/connecting-the-dots-with-the-respect-principle/x/9700923

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The HIGHER OUR “RESPECT LEVEL” the MORE …

The higher our RESPECT LEVEL the more we consider the impact we have on our world.

January 21, 2015

KAITLIN A. TREPANIER
The RESPECT SPECIALIST & PEACEMAKER … Freeing “Potential” with Education, Entertainment, and Inspiration!

CONNECT … with RESPECT!

ORDER the powerful little book Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE
PURCHASE the performance rights for CHARLES’ CHOICE for your school and community
FUND the KICKSTARTER-approved project … the workshop and production of CHARLES’ CHOICE … between January 5th and 25th 2015

… BECAUSE every child … every person … should know, by their own experience, they are valued … RESPECTED.

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Christmas … Not Just for Family and Friends … But Strangers Too

So much pressure put onto people to be with family and friends and when they are not, the feelings of sadness and loneliness weigh so heavy on some people’s souls, they never make it through the night or the holidays.

Some people have no families or homes to go back to for a number of reasons. Parents have died, they have no living relatives, abusive homes were left long ago and wounds never healed, foster homes that were not really homes, not enough money for travel or gifts, illness, shame and a number of many more. Judgment of and disrespect for each other also fills many empty rooms and houses instead of people.

Joseph and Mary experienced much of the same … misunderstood, judged, and ostracized too they ran for their lives and the life of the son Mary was to bear on Christmas Eve.

Who were Joseph, Mary, and Jesus surrounded by on the night we celebrate as Christmas Eve and Christmas day? Strangers, of course … kind strangers.

Family and friends all together for the holidays is all such a lovely idea, but one that leaves out so many other people in the world … including those who do not know where the idea of Christmas and the spirit of Christmas … love … came from.

This Christmas take the pressure off family and friends and share some love with a stranger or two or three … especially with those who have so much less than you. Jesus would … and he would want you to do so … in his name … for that is the reason he came Christmas Eve over two thousand years ago.

Merry Christmas all! May the spirit of Christmas fill your year with loving thoughts, words, and actions!

And if the spirit of Christmas … love … is not what you believe in, then please consider at least valuing … respecting … each and every life … who is just as valuable as you … not more … but also not less … it’s a big step to making the world, including your own, a much better place for us all to live and thrive.

December 24, 2014

KAITLIN A. TREPANIER
The RESPECT SPECIALIST … Freeing “Potential” with Education, Entertainment, and Inspiration!

CONNECT … with RESPECT! ORDER the powerful little book Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE and PURCHASE the Performance Rights of CHARLES’ CHOICE … because every child … every person … should know, by their own experience, they are valued … RESPECTED. © All rights reserved 2014.