GETTING PUBLISHED … Shared Personal Experience And A Few Great Professional Tips

In 2012, my last two Query Letters containing proposals for the “Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle” books generated interest from a small Canadian press and from a mid-size American press.

However, in 2012, while working at the Harbour Inn in Kincardine, Dad’s care needs took priority rather than writing the books. But then when I had to quit work to be on hand for Dad, in the odd hours in-between I did wrote the first book and even printed one hundred for a signed limited first edition as well as registering my company of the same name.

Later discovering Smashwords, I learned how to publish ebooks and have since published several.

But the debt I incurred to be with Dad and help him, meant I had no money for marketing and other related costs.

My acceptance into a local angel investors contest fueled my hope for the company, but the contest was restricted to entrepreneurs who committed to stay in Dad’s area, but once he passed I desperately wanted to leave the area I had returned to for his sake.

Encouraged also by the community foundation’s financier interest in financing with a loan, I later applied to the community foundation in my new area, but because of the 15k debt and no working cash capital, my grant request was denied.

Since then, I have tried to raise money on my own, including attracting a partner, but this past week decided that the partners) best suited are an agent and publishers to generate the cash needed for the debt repayment and the company’s growth, expansion, and relocation to the west coast.

To aid the these personal and professional goals, I have also applied to do a TED Talk.

Anyway, I came across these two links for writers yesterday who want to submit their works, so I am sharing with any of you who many also want to take that leap. Good Luck!

https://nybookeditors.com/2015/12/how-to-write-a-darn-good-query-letter/

http://www.writersdigest.com/online-editor/the-10-dos-and-donts-of-writing-a-query-letter#.WyqT_Z1yaCU.facebook

P.S. When I started writing, many of my query letters resulted in my writing being published, including professionally, plus garnered interest from a small press in Arizona to publish my first book, which I declined because I realized it was not the work I wanted to be known for.

June 21, 2018

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER

Human/Animal Rights Activist Social Scientist Founder Entrepreneur Author Artist

Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

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The PITCH Video … On Hold Until Perfected

For a number of reasons, I used to hate getting my picture taken.  Now I don’t hate it, but I’m still not overly fond of it. Plus, I have a natural preference to work behind the scenes, especially as the writer these days.

But since my goal is to present on the TED Talk stage my “Idea Worth Spreading” … the Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle concept because of its importance to many people, including to those who may not read the books, I am grateful to be growing more comfortable putting myself in front of a camera and on stage as well as learning how to present at the TED Talk professional level.

Supported by my previous Toastmasters and other experiences that put me front and centre to a group of people, I am indebted, yet I also must thank Jeremey Donavan for his insightful, thorough, and helpful book, “How To Deliver A TED Talk, Secrets of the World’s Most Inspiring Presentations.”

And since my other video attempts do not yet reflect my ideal, I have chosen to  delete them and wait until I have perfected The Pitch video for you.

Thanks for your interest, dropping by, and your patience.

June 12, 2018

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER

Human/Animal Rights Activist Social Scientist Founder Entrepreneur Author Artist

Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

©All Rights Reserved 2015

 

 

 

FATHERS and MOTHERS … Recognize everyone gets hurts as children and teens, so healing our hurts before becoming parents is the best way to prevent our children from becoming mean, abusive, and/or violent

Because of circumstances I did not know how to handle as a young teen, I dropped out of school to marry at sixteen someone who would save me. No children involved.

The violence started verbally, then grew increasingly physical to the point of a brutal, violent rape … all this suffered at the hands of a a handsome, charming, yet jealous and insecure man, who was made sterile by his father’s physical attack on him at fourteen when he stepped in to stop the assault on his mother after his dad pushed her down the stairs.

Years later, after a second non-physically abusive marriage and subsequent divorce, I briefly dated a fellow also very broken by his childhood experiences, but when his circumstances became dire I offered to share an apartment so we could both get on our feet financially. But, as time rolled on, verbal abuse became the norm, until one day he threw something and almost hit my little cat. I realized it was time to get out. He was also dating a married woman and I was also concerned about becoming collateral damage if an angry husband showed up.

Continued after video …

 

Learning I was attracting such partners because of my own brokenness and my resulting willingness to accept such treatment came from understanding I needed to learn how to respect myself enough to not just walk away when in danger, but to heed the signs before getting involved with other low “Respect Level” people. Not that I won’t help them, but I no longer need to be in a personal or professional relationship with them.

I also know too, we can’t help people who don’t want help … all we can do is model what self-respect and respect for others looks like, and if necessary, contact the people who can help in ways we cannot.

Please share my story because it may just be what someone needs to read for them to be safe.

PLEASE NOTE: If you are in an abusive relationship of any kind, do not act defiant. Be smart. Be respectful of your own life and those in your care by seeking help in your community from people who can be trusted.

Thank you.

Sincerely,

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER

Human/Animal Rights Activist Social Scientist Founder Entrepreneur Author Artist

Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

©All Rights Reserved 2015

 

 

From The Global Discretionary Value To The Global Principle

Steve Jobs, founder, knew his idea was not just about selling “Apple” computers, but about making the world a better place by using his innovative, creative talent and skills.

As do I, the human/animal rights activist, social scientist, founder, entrepreneur, author, and artist that created “Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle,” the company dedicated to transforming respect from the discretionary value it is to the global principle it can be in order to raise the standard of living and quality of life of all people.

Thank you for your interest and support in making the world a better place … for everyone!

May 5, 2018

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER

Human/Animal Rights Activist Social Scientist Founder Entrepreneur Author Artist

Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

©All Rights Reserved 2015

 

Perspective on “RESPECT and LOVE” From World-Renowned Psychologist Alice Miller and …

“I love my children if I can respect them with all their feelings and their needs and try to fulfill those needs as best as I can. If I see them not as persons whose rights are just as sacrosanct as my own, but as objects that I have to correct, then that is not love.”

Free From Lies Discovering Your True Needs, Alice Miller, p 223

“Most parents don’t want to hurt their children; they do it automatically, by repeating that they themselves learned when they were small. We can help them to refrain from this destructive behavior by explaining to them why it is so destructive. Then they can wake up and make a choice.”

Free From Lies Discovering Your True Needs, Alice Miller, p 240

The introduction and study of Alice Miller’s body of work changed and played a big role in healing my life. Fueled by my deep compassion for all people, what I learned about respect and love from Alice Miller inspired my development of the Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle concept, company, books, products, services, and global initiative. My compassion and respect for everyone, plus my understanding of what needs to change in our world drives me every day to keep moving forward with this body of work that will hopefully help many others as Alice helped so many too.

April 14, 2018

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER

Human/Animal Rights Activist Social Scientist Founder Entrepreneur Author Artist

Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

©All Rights Reserved 2015

Humble … The Trick Is Understanding Your Worth

Been seeing posts on being humble, so I have shared a link and its definitions, yet I am also going to share my perspective …
 
There are a lot of contradictory words listed below, but my experience has taught me this … when a person tries to step out and be an individual, especially one different from the pack one comes from, the pack will often attempt to push such a person back down with words like, “Who do you think you are?, “Arrogant, aren’t you?” “Big ego, how do you hold your big head up?” “You should humble yourself because you are no better than anyone else.”
 
I also know from experience those who have been pushed down a lot often have to develop a large ego just to keep getting back up, that is, until as I discovered later in life, I do not have to justify being myself because I am just as entitled as everyone else to respect … being valued … simply for being a life.
 
People don’t have to like me, approve of me, etc., and I don’t have to like them, approve of them etc. either, but I will not cut people down, try to make them feel small or insignificant in order to make myself feel better because I don’t have to anymore because I know better now.
 
I also learned psychologists know recovering from what I went through is unlikely for many.
 
Yes, I have had to deal with the inflated ego I developed because of how badly broken my heart and spirit had become because otherwise I would not still be alive. It’s been a long process that took a lot of personal work and healing. God helped me though through the hardest parts when no one else could or would and when I could no longer help myself. He helped me to really believe that I am valuable too, just as He helped me to believe in the work He put in my heart to do … to help everyone … believers or not … to realize that every life is valuable … worthy of respect … and that each person needs to discover what their unique purpose is and to fulfill that purpose regardless of what others think, judge, or condemn … because it is not a person’s judgment we face at the end of our lives … it’s ours … and if you are a believer … His.
 

 KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER

Advocate Innovator Entrepreneur Founder Author Artist Speaker

Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

February 23, 2018
 
 
humble
ˈhəmbəl/
adjective
adjective: humble; comparative adjective: humbler; superlative adjective: humblest
 
1.
having or showing a modest or low estimate of one’s own importance.
“he was humble about his stature as one of rock history’s most influential guitarists”
synonyms: meek, deferential, respectful, submissive, diffident, self-effacing, unassertive; More
unpresuming, modest, unassuming, self-deprecating;
subdued, chastened
“her bearing was humble”
antonyms: proud, overbearing
(of an action or thought) offered with or affected by a modest estimate of one’s own importance.
“my humble apologies”
2.
of low social, administrative, or political rank.
“she came from a humble, unprivileged background”
synonyms: lowly, working-class, lower-class, poor, undistinguished, mean, modest, ignoble, low-born, plebeian, underprivileged; More
common, ordinary, simple, inferior, unremarkable, insignificant, inconsequential
“a humble background”
antonyms: noble
(of a thing) of modest pretensions or dimensions.
“he built the business empire from humble beginnings”
synonyms: modest, plain, simple, ordinary, unostentatious, unpretentious
“my humble abode”
antonyms: grand
 
verb
verb: humble; 3rd person present: humbles; past tense: humbled; past participle: humbled; gerund or present participle: humbling
 
1.
lower (someone) in dignity or importance.
“I knew he had humbled himself to ask for my help”
synonyms: humiliate, abase, demean, lower, degrade, debase; mortify, shame, abash;
informal cut down to size, deflate, make eat humble pie, take down a peg or two, settle someone’s hash, make eat crow
“he had to humble himself to ask for my help”