NOT JUST an Idea, a Company, Books, and Products, BUT ALSO Mentoring Centres, Services, and Drop-In Options Too!

My own experience dealing with the challenges I’ve had to face because of my unusual MBTI Personality Type and the resulting consequences in a world that still believes people have to be a certain way or approved of before they are valued … respected inspired me to develop “The Respect Principle” concept, books, products, services, social business venture, and also one day the mentoring centres, certificate programs, and drop-in centres with various options to receive one on one or group sessions to help individuals overcome the obstacles they’ve encountered in a world dominated by the often unrecognized “Disrespect Philosophy.”
This is, because like Patch Adams, I’ve discovered that government funded and church funded organizations are too narrowly focused and rigid to the point some people will never ask, let alone receive the help they need to heal and develop their potential to the best of their abilities … or that they even can!
Thanks Patch Adams, Mother Teresa, and anyone else who has stepped outside the box to meet an unmet need for you have inspired me to do the same!

Looking forward to meeting and building the team to make this all happen!

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER

Advocate Educator Writer Social Entrepreneur & Founder

Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

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April 29, 2019

The Dark Side of Humanity …

“What I define as Residual Anger is the often unexpressed, unresolved anger that is carried on from one experience to another, individually and generationally, building and building until it manifests in a constant seething undercurrent in our lives. It is the lifelong, mostly subconscious force fueling our human race. We are angry because of the Disrespect Philosophy’s powerful influence and effects regardless of its origins.”

Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

For You … Because Everyone Matters version, page 98

 KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER

Founder President Author Speaker Artist

Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

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Bullying … The “Disrespect Philosophy’s” Enforcer

From a secular view, the dominant philosophy that has shaped humans since the beginning of time is Disrespect.

The Disrespect Philosophy is simple. Its premise is that no person or life is valuable until someone says it is … based on what that someone, or a collective of “someones” say what is to be valued … respected.

In other words, the Disrespect Philosophy is about control: control that is misunderstood in contrast to true power. Control simply is a lack of trust in and of the world for life to be fair, for resources to be available to all … which all of our fears are driven by … thereby creating a low RESPECT LEVEL that we have been conditioned to use to fill the void of not feeling valued … respected in the Disrespect Philosophy world humanity has been living in for thousands of years … because not enough of us have connected the dots to see what we keep recreating … which, by the way, the Disrespect Philosophy strives to do in order to keep itself and its enforcers in power.

The guard and enforcer of the Disrespect Philosophy is bullying: the means used to coerce others into accepting the Disrespect Philosophy without question. How? Simply by the conviction we are taught that no one is valuable unless someone(s) says they are and the qualifiers for being considered valuable are based on the whims of those who have put themselves in positions of power to control.

Without high enough RESPECT LEVELS in families, family members are subject to the negative conditioning and the power struggle ensues. Those who take power do so by bullying. Sometimes subtle, often ingenious, sometimes emotional, psychological or physical, bullying comes in all shapes and sizes and affects, because of our lack of awareness of the Disrespect Philosophy, everyone.

The Myers Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI) is a personality profiling system presented by Carl Jung and further developed by the Myers – Briggs team. The fundamental basis of the MBTI is there are two primary personality types: Extroverts (E) and Introverts (I). According to the MBTI, Extroverts’ brains require primarily external stimulus for their brains to work at their best, while Introverts brains, on the contrary, often need a fair amount of time to work and be alone because of the constant internal stimulation in their brains they have to contend with.

There are two significant challenges the contrasting types brings to our world. One, the world is dominated in sheer numbers by the Extroverts and two, as a result the Extroverts, in a Disrespect Philosophy driven world want the rest of the world to be like them … and as a result, the enforcers … the bullies become conditioned at a very young age.

Not that only E’s become bullies, I’s do also, but more from reaction than action.

The reason is the Introverts are more driven by their brains to reflect, plus research, study, and analyze differences and as a result tend to be more understanding and often accepting of other people’s differences. Extraverts, on the other hand, will often respond to Introverts’ quietness, reserve and withdrawal as a rejection of them and in our Disrespect Philosophy world take the I’s actions personally … and the battles begin by employing the different methods of bullying: prejudging, teasing, belittling, tormenting, harassing, rejecting, isolating, neglecting, violating, abusing, and killing … spirits as well bodies.

Many Introverts, especially those with the dominant function of “Feeling” will often withdraw inward further or may even remove themselves physically to avoid battles with Extroverts which they will seldom win fighting in the Extraverted bullying manner … but, instead will use time and strategies to fight such battles. Without high RESPECT LEVELS, it is a lose lose proposition for both.

Extroverted bullies need audiences; Introverted bullies eventually seek quiet revenge … yet since we are driven to be more Extroverted to be in our Disrespect Philosophy driven world, Extroverts and Introverts can act very contrary to their natural, inherent personality type.

What happens in our childhood years does not stay in our childhood years … including the bullying (conditional love) we have been shaped by … it follows us no matter where we go … school, community, work, and into all of our relationships. The only way we become free from the Disrespect Philosophy enforcer, bullying, is to recognize it for what it is … something that strives to make us feel less valuable than everyone else so we bully others to make ourselves feel more valuable than others and therefore keep the world spinning out of control by the chaos maker, the Disrespect Philosophy.

We are valuable … each and every one of us for the unique gifts, talents and strengths we have to contribute to help make the world, including our personal and private worlds, better places to live … to thrive.

December 16, 2013

Kaitlin A. Trepanier
http://www.kaitlinatrepanier.com

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“You are not defined …”

“You are not defined by your past. You are prepared by your past.”

This passage from #1 New York Bestselling Author Joel Osteen’s book, Break Out, struck a deep chord within me yesterday as I am “breaking free,” like the DARK HORSE I became after my first attempt almost twenty years ago to become who I really am … a very unique individual with an unconventional personality type, perspective, and a drive for a different life from the “normal” I was born into and lived in most of my life … at great cost to myself and to my family and society … because when we do not live true to our heart, our heart will close its doors to living a life that is a lie because it is not a reflection of who we really are … and ultimately we all lose when we treat ourselves so disrespectfully.

Like you, I am not defined by my past, but it has certainly prepared me for my future … the one in my heart I have always known I am meant to be … and the one I am embracing as I move forward into the life my heart tells me I am destined to live.

Thank you “past” for my “future.” And thank you Joel Osteen for being the writer and messenger you are too.

December 11, 2013

Kaitlin A. Trepanier
http://www.kaitlinatrepanier.com

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Faith Was Beaten Out of Me

The moment the yardstick split in half over my head, something split inside of me.

Picture an eight or nine-year old child, a girl, sitting in a Catholic school classroom, being taught by a black and white-robed woman, a nun, and then imagine the girl’s complete shock when the teacher, a nun, strode toward her ferociously, and to the girl’s amazement, did not rap her knuckles with the yardstick, but instead slashed the yard-long, thick ruler over her, my, head … literally snapping the yardstick into two pieces.

Much of my childhood remains locked away somewhere in deep caverns in my mind, but there are moments like this persistence has discovered in my personal work. What was once, and still is at times, called disobedience and now often labelled distraction was neither when viewed with tools such as the psychological profile tool, the Myers Briggs Type Indicator or MBTI. My in-depth study of the MBTI, which is based on Carl Jung’s original work, revealed an important discovery for me: my personality type would have thrived in a Montessori learning environment, as opposed to the factory-learning environments of our public, and even of most private, school systems.

Montessori learning environment is particularly ideal for “I” children who thrive on going off on their own to study what fascinates them though they are also taught the essentials, whereas “E” students thrive in group settings, both because of the way their brains work best.

“I’s” the short form for “Introverts” have brains constantly engaged in multiple trains and streams of internal thoughts so loud, bustling busy environments are distractions to them. Such personality types learn and work best alone, reading, examining, analyzing, and experimenting then taking time away from their learning and work for discussions with others of like minds … other “Introverts.” The slang terms we are familiar with include geeks, nerds, loners, freaks … If such children survive their education environment with their identity still intact, professionally they become researchers, scientist, inventors, technology creators, writers, artists, songwriters, musicians, poets, performers …

“E’s” the short form for “Extroverts” have brains that constantly seek external stimulus to feel engaged in the world, so they are attracted to, or create loud, bustling environments. They seek continuous stimulation from the outside world and the quiet of solitude is one of their least favourite pastimes. Give them a crowd, a team to work with, people to sell to and they are happy. Put them in a classroom where talk, talk, talk is the teaching method and they thrive because verbal communication is tops for them.

Now, put an athletic, tomboy “I” girl child in an “E” environment also ruled by specific religious beliefs enforcing the wearing of dresses and skirts and demanded exacting group behaviour obedience on a child also being bullied for being “too different” and you have a recipe for disaster.

Add to all of this, a religion, Catholicism, which made me feel even worse for my blatant disobedience to the expected conformity and additionally saddled me with guilt, embarrassment and shame for not only my disobedience but also just for my differences, you have the formula for creating a rebel … a wild child.

In my mind, then and for a very, long time, I rejected God because I could not fathom why someone would create us, set us up to fail and then punish us. I could not understand why nuns would rap my knuckles with rulers, put me in the corner to humiliate me and with such a hateful look on her face, split a yardstick over my little head.

With the other very unpleasant things happening in my life, some of them due to misunderstood and misapplied religious teachings and the rest from being a very different personality type in my community, the world to this very logical and analytical child made no sense … nor did God.

Then darkness had me where it wanted me; caught me in the web of negativity, and even hate. I even grew to hate God and finally discarded the idea of him at all.

But what I was not able to discard were the deeply rooted religious and societal teachings of unworthiness, which further life experiences reinforced, including being re-wounded by Christians when I much later visited other churches with a tiny flicker of hope they may be different in their approach, but with no success because they always made me feel like a sinner they themselves would “save” instead of just welcoming me, recognizing Jesus had already “saved” me if I chose to believe in him.

We teach others how to treat us by how we treat ourselves, based on what I call the Respect Scale, and since I felt unworthy, I taught others to treat me the same way … always letting them put themselves before and above me … except during those times when a small outburst of rebellion would attempt to thwart their attempts, but they never lasted or I would move on, teaching someone else the same lesson … how to treat me as less worthy than them … and they did.

As a teenager, I became fascinated with séances, ghosts and all things ghoulish. By my twenties and thirties, I considered psychics and other new age ideas, but then I started to run into new age writers who talked about God and I was not ready to consider God as a good thing because my experience still clung tenaciously to me.

But, when my life hit its most darkest point, I demanded, “If you exist God, give me a purpose for living.” And he did, though for me, the journey back to really believing in God has been a long, arduous journey fraught with many setbacks, tests, and trials. In fact, it is only this year that I can honestly say I do believe, not just in a higher power, but in the God I once discarded through naivety and because of great pain and confusion.

Like myself, many other people have had their faith beaten out of them. Others call what they believe in by other names and I certainly can understand and appreciate why they do so. Some do not believe in anything beyond this life and I say “to each their own beliefs” because having a specific belief forced upon you does not yield faith but division, fear, prejudice, hate, violence and as history also shows, war. All I can say to those who do not believe in God as I am now learning to by reading an amplified Bible, is that for the first time in my life I am discovering what it feels like to live in faith … to trust I am not alone … that someone has my best interests at heart .. and to be content, no matter what, because all the pain can and will be turned to good as a reward for believing in, not the God I was taught about incorrectly by teachings or experience, but by what I am learning and experiencing now.

This time, my faith is my choice and no matter how others judge me and my faith, it is between God and me. I expect others to respect my belief as I respect their right to choose their own beliefs and if their beliefs do not seek to harm others … I am happy for them … and for us all … because I believe we are so much more than what we have come to believe and as a result, the opportunity is ours to create a better world than any generation has known.

October 23, 2013

Kaitlin A. Trepanier
http://www.kaitlinatrepanier.com

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The MBTI was created by the mother-daughter team of Myers and Briggs.

The Tieger consultant team has also written extensively about the MBTI in The Art of Speed Reading People

No One is More Valuable Than You

It has been said many, many, many times, that parenting is the most important job in the world. It has also been said that a nation’s leader holds the most important job. Emergency workers who put their lives on the line for us such as firemen, policemen and soldiers also do the most important jobs. Doctors and nurses who save lives are also top of the list.

Yet, what about the parents who daily go to jobs they are not passionate about, but do, because they are passionate about providing the best for their children? Yet what about the cleaners who keep their work environments safe and clean for them to do their jobs? What about the people who create the businesses that provide jobs? What about the scientists and researchers who spend much of their life in remote areas or isolation to concentrate on solving important problem such as cures for cancer or developing greener technology so we limit the destruction of the environment that enables us to live. What about the people who save other people from horrific conditions such as human trafficking and genocide; who go to countries, even when that means putting their own lives at stake, to fight wars, to report on conditions, to bring food, to dig wells, build schools. What about people without children yet who dedicate their lives to improving the quality of life of children? What about the child of an aging parent who puts their life on hold to help their loved one experience the best transition possible before they leave this life? What about the people who build our homes, teach our children, minister our spiritual lives, create entertainment, write stories, investigate to solve problems, run our governments, manage our money and resources, find missing people and pets …

Examination of life on this world reminds us that it takes all of us, with our unique talents, strengths and abilities to keep the world running every day. Yes, we know there are problems. Yes, we know we don’t have all the answers. Yet, we can all stop to consider the idea everyone is valuable … worthy of RESPECT … for just being a life, so we can stop trying to measure our value over others by competing when such competition takes our energy away from just becoming the best unique individual we can be so we can share who we really are to help make the world a better place for us, our loved ones and everyone else’s loved ones to live in during our brief time on this planet we call earth … and home.

October 17, 2013

Kaitlin A. Trepanier
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The Choice … Control with Laws, Rules, Regulations or Develop Character Strength with Awareness, Education, Inspiration

We know people respond more positively when they are encouraged with awareness, education and inspiration to make the healthiest, life-affirming choices for themselves and their responsibilities. We know this because of how we respond ourselves when people recognize and complement our strengths, talents, abilities and choices.

The question then begged is why do we keep adding laws upon laws upon rules, regulations that result in so many restrictions that people rebel against them, though not really with the intent to break the laws, rules and regulations, but to just break free from the weight of the bonds our Disrespect Philosophy driven world creates.

There is a saying that it is wiser not to just give people fish, but to teach them to fish. Is it not then wiser to not just give people laws, rules and regulations, but instead to help them Connect the dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE so they develop the ability to value all life … and as a result, make better choices of their own free will than by the “threat of punishment” methodology?

The concept is logical, practical and compassionate, though not to those who feel the need to control others. People with the need to control and punish others reflect the impact their own experiences have by their impaired development and growth that has prevented them from recognizing the value of other people and what they have to contribute to our local and global community.

If we desire to consider this choice from a Biblical perspective, there are a few things to consider before making our choice. First, let us not forget God gave people Free Will, so who are we to take that away from people? Two, the Old Testament was filled with reams of laws, rules and regulations because many people were out of control … they got caught up in the natural world and rejected their spiritual selves; however, when Jesus Christ came to earth, He brought a new covenant that overrode all the laws, rules and regulations of man. He simplified the world by the New Testament, requesting that we all, “Love thy neighbor as thy self.”

Whether we prefer the intellectual, scientific premise to “Respect/value all life for just being lives” or the spiritual guidance of “Love thy neighbor as thy self,” the result will be the same … people will become encouraged through their new awareness, education and inspiration to not imprison people with judgment and all of its resulting laws, rules and regulations and will instead reap the benefits of people’s character strengthened by empowering them to make good choices simply because they know it is the right thing to do.

And if you need more justification to change our global culture from Disrespect to Respect, you may want to consider the huge financial impact … the money that will be saved from the much less damage being done to us and our world and the money that will then be available to make our world a better place to live … for everyone.

October 7, 2013

Kaitlin A. Trepanier
http://www.kaitlinatrepanier.com

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The RESPECT PRINCIPLE Transparency Benefit … An Expose Revealing the Damage Caused by Ignorance, Prejudice and Gossip

This is just one example, a very personal story, of what can and does go wrong in a world driven by our global Disrespect Philosophy and as a result, the long journey required to reverse the negative conditioning and experiences that not only disrespects all involved, but often causes irreparable harm that for others may never be resolved. Thankfully for me, overcoming and resolution are happening in my life … though not because I see myself as more fortunate than others, but simply because it is part of my vocation to experience what I have, learn what I can from it and write about it in order to help other people.

September 25, 2013

To My Creditors:

I am sorry that I owe you money, but I will gladly repay what I owe you with interest … when I am generating enough income to restore and keep myself in good health, so I can not only look after myself and my Dad, but also all my responsibilities, including debts incurred over the past year, plus hiring the extra care he needs when I am not available during his remaining months. In the meantime, I respectfully request you save your business money by informing your accounts department to not waste time or money with repetitive calls or mail outs since, with the exception of two companies so far, most calls and attempted conversations have been filled with disrespect and bullying behavior, neither of which will be successful in securing what you want till I have the time and energy to generate above poverty wages to pay the debt and accrued interest. To further encourage you to approve my request to stop the bullish harassment, I am providing you with a synopsis of events that led to the current circumstances.

To start off, as for our Dad, we are surprised he has persevered these past fourteen months considering the changes in his body and mind, but we also recognize that with all the falls on his head he has experienced in the past ten months, his skull will only take so much before it finally yields and he dies.

But backing up, a series of events in my early thirties, catapulted me from being a successful woman, earning $50,000 a year while also attending York University to become a psychologist, but who discovered in her second year she wanted to help people as a writer to a very wounded, jaded, hurt, angry and bitter woman who lost all her confidence and the little self-worth she had and took to drifting from many low-paying and/or temporary jobs in between studying art and staying away from people because of being shell shocked by the responses from people close to her when she decided to make some life-altering choices. The story goes back even further, which though interesting, is not necessary for you to read now, though you may desire to when it is presented in my next non-fiction book, DARK HORSES … which really isn’t just about me, but about many people and their experiences in the world we’ve created.

The knowledge of all this is important and relevant because rather than have assumptions made about me, this synopsis explains my lack of wealth before I moved back to Kincardine to help with my Dad and his life-taking diseases. I accepted a low-paying job and moved into an apartment to be near to him and his wife to pay for my cost of living, but I did not expect to also have to contribute so much financially to my Dad’s care, including paying for gas for his car to take him where he needed to go, plus for things he needed during his life transition from his home to a retirement home and then to the nursing home he resides in now.

To increase my income, I tried to launch a project I had been working on for several years and to help pay for the anticipated and related travel costs, I applied for an American Express card so I could get to the places I expected I would need to get to in order to present my work, the Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE book or talk. This was anticipated because by proposal only, I had garnered the interest of a Canadian and an American publisher for publication of not only the book mentioned above, but also of the complementary non-fiction, DARK HORSES, both of which still needed to be written at the time.

Unfortunately, with the job I was doing, the physical strength needed and that I was working on rebuilding, the time needed to be with my Dad and the increasing costs, I did not have the time to focus and complete the above work, so I was not able to generate the income needed to pay off the charge card, plus I had accepted credit cards that though they helped out financially at the time, have since become debts I have not been able to keep up with by earning just above minimum wage, that is, when I could work.

By the end of January 2013, I had to quit my job so I could be more available for my Dad because the retirement home he was living in wanted to charge extra money to provide the attention he needed so he would be safe, but he, nor we, had the money to pay for such service. We tried to get the benefit from his union, but the “qualifiers” (which I can explain more fully at your request) has made those benefits inaccessible.

By Easter Sunday of 2013, the retirement’s home way of managing father was to get approval to overmedicate him, which they did. As a result, instead of walking his normal route, he wandered off another way and was only found at after 7 pm when the people whose property he had ventured and became incapacitated upon, discovered him and called the ambulance. Right now, we are searching for a lawyer, who works on contingency, to sue the home for neglect because they did not call me, as they did for all other reasons, to inform me our Dad had not shown up for supper. Nor did they call after supper, which is even more unusual because he sat at a table where three of the four required a staff member’s assistance to eat and where Dad was placed because he needed the constant encouragement to sit down and eat instead of getting up to walk. How they “realized” Dad was missing was when my sister showed up from out of town unexpectedly asking for my Dad. After quickly searching the home, my sister and her daughter drove twenty minutes around the village looking for my Dad, but returned to the home without success. While discussing options with the nurse in charge, both saw an ambulance race by and they followed it, discovering my Dad as he was being lifted from the ground, his clothes soaked from a fall in a snow-melt pond, the fabric and flesh ripped off of his knee by the gravel he had been pushing his knee against for hours as he struggled to get up. He was in deep shock, pain and experiencing hypothermia.

I would say needless, but that isn’t true or I would not be writing this letter that the “incident” resulted in a change of plans for Dad’s care; one that has incurred even additional personal costs of money and time that have also been prohibitive in generating more income and debt repayment.

After his stay in the hospital, my brother and I had to quickly choose to relocate him to a second choice nursing home that was further away. Within two weeks, his new home, now a nursing/long-term care home called to inform us they did not have the staff budget to manage his special needs of walking past exhaustion that has resulted in 13 falls in the past 10 months that we are aware of, several of which required emergency care via an ambulance, most of which have resulted in blows to his head, either by falling on his face or smashing the back of his head, often requiring staples or sutures for his injury. As a result, I’ve had to be available at the drop of a hat to fulfill the care the home cannot provide, plus ensure he was what he needs, take his wife to visit him, keep my brother informed, make and take him to appointments, pick him up at the hospital, pay for gas to get to him, etc. etc. etc.

Add to his injuries and combined illnesses, our Dad is also trying to adapt to living in a nursing home without his wife, who, not only because of her own health challenges and fears, refused to move with him in July of 2012 and demanded our family have our Dad removed from their home. Till then, our Dad had lived with her for 27 years. Prior to that, my Dad lived with my mother for almost 25 years; prior to that my Dad lived with his parents, so he is also dealing with the shock of being abandoned by his wife and since we can no longer visit as easily and readily, by his family.

Additionally, due to complications from my childhood and during my Dad and Mom’s separation, my Dad and I were estranged for most of the years he lived with his second wife, so being back here to take care of my Dad has been necessary in many ways for us both.

Almost twenty years ago, after a series of “unfortunate events” I caved under embarrassment, shame, guilt, a huge lack of confidence and a very low Respect Level for myself and as a result, for others, I did not stand up and take good care of myself or my responsibilities … because I didn’t believe I could. Even when the Bankruptcy Trustee told me to move west and get back on my feet and then pay off what I owed, the psychological damage was so deep I did not have the confidence or courage so I filed for bankruptcy and hid away like some criminal. In my naivety, I also made the decision with no real understanding of the consequences to follow me for years.

I am telling you this because you need to know who I am and not who or your employees may have judged me to be by my past poor choices and current circumstances. That is not who I am. I am not that cowering girl/woman any longer trying to run and hide away because I don’t know what to do or don’t believe in myself and my abilities to make things right … instead I am a healed, confident woman who is doing her best with what I have to work with to make her Dad’s remaining months the best I can for him … and for myself.

Several weeks ago, I had to quit yet another part-time, minimum wage job I had for less than three months because I had to leave several times during my shifts to get to my Dad who had fallen again, again and again. I also need to move out of my brother’s basement, which I had to move into last May when I could no longer afford to pay rent, and move close to Dad in Lucknow so getting to him over the winter months will not be impaired by road conditions, which has made securing work in Lucknow difficult, while living in Kincardine, plus not having the money to get a place in Lucknow, has made regular employment not feasible. Plus, there is the cost of running and maintaining Dad’s car to get me and him where we need to go.

The net results are:
1. My body is recovering from the physically-exhaustive work of slugging thirty to forty pound product boxes for several hours at Zehrs because the years of not taking very good care of myself because I didn’t believe I was worth it was taking a rapid toll on my health
2. My work ethic, confirmed by the staff at Zehrs, who saw what a hard-worker I am and reminded me too, means I am putting all my energy into generating enough money for me to not only pay my debts but to afford the lifestyle I am capable of living … with honesty, integrity and a high level of Respect for myself and others
3. That income will come in part from free-lancing writing, which I started to submit yesterday and which will pay $1.00 a word. I won an Honorable Mention award a few years ago, plus I have been published before, so this is not a pie-in-the sky idea
4. The other income will come from my global initiative, Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE. I just launched a website, http://www.kaitlinatrepanier.com that links to my blog http://www.therespectprinciple.com. I am also on Twitter, Linked In and Facebook
5. The book release is targeted for October 15, 2013 which will generate a high ROI since I am going to publish the book under my own sole proprietorship, DARK HORSES PRODUCTIONS and I am in the process of securing sponsorship for the book and for a North American tour
6. The fee for me to speak to schools and organizations about how The RESPECT PRINCIPLE will benefit individuals and collectives is $350.00, plus taxes and if required, travel and accommodation expenses.
7. The fee for a school or group to purchase The SCHOOL PERFORMANCE PACKAGE, IS $650.00, plus taxes and if required, travel and accommodation expenses.
8. I’ve just launched The RESPECT PRINCIPLE LEGACY CONTEST, which schools can enter so their school is the first school to host and present the Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE first SCHOOL PRESENTATION PACKAGE and for them to go down in history … leaving their legacy … of not only being the first school to host and present, but also of wanting to Raise the Respect Level of their school, community and their individual lives … which is a much better tactic for dealing with bullying and bystander behavior.

Now you know who I am, or at least, you have a much, truer picture. I am not out to screw anyone out of any money owed. On the contrary, I will take great satisfaction in not only repaying my current debts but those debts written off in bankruptcy years ago … for that has always been my intent. I just didn’t know when, but the time is drawing close … I just have to keep moving forward, being there for my Dad during his last months, while I also do work that provides me the flexibility and income to care for us both on all levels.

In summary, I will not be declaring bankruptcy for I will not do that to myself or to you because my Respect Level is now high enough to make that happen. Now you know all of this I trust you also know that when I have the money to repay you, I will repay you … with even more interest than what you expect.

In the meantime, if you see the benefit to your company and yourself of increasing people’s RESPECT LEVEL, then I invite you to contribute personally or to sponsor the global initiative, Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE.

Thank you for treating me respectfully as a person doing her best to deal with the challenges life has presented me, as I am doing for you. Best wishes for your continued success based on the highest RESPECT LEVEL achievable …

Sincerely,
Kaitlin A. Trepanier

September 25, 2013
http://www.kaitlinatrepanier.com

All Rights Reserved by DARK HORSES PRODUCTIONS/KAITLIN A. TREPANIER, Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE Developer, Author, Speaker, Playwright, Altruistic Entrepreneur, and Human Rights Activist … because every child should know, by their own experience, they are valued … RESPECTED

Not Doing the Right Thing: The Bystanders’ Cost

Most of us have come to think of bullying in school is the only place bystanders are found, but people are bystanders any time we do not do the right thing.

Why? We are afraid … for our safety, for the financial cost, of what others will think, etc., etc., etc.

But being afraid, as I have learned and history shows, only creates more fear and more circumstances to create more fear.

One of the good things we are finally accepting we must do, is to tell our kids to stand up for those being bullied, even if that mostly means reporting bullies and not personally intervening.

But have you wondered where our kids have learned to be bystanders in the first place?

As in the past and right now in the present, our children, tweens, teens and young adults are watching us respond as they hear about or see the pictures of the children, women and men being decimated by leaders in Syria who want the country for themselves and those they approve of … just like school yard bullies do.

What we do, how we respond will teach them the lessons they will carry into the rest of their lives … it will teach them what they should do … to walk away like many did for so long with Germany and other places taken over by dictators … the bullies with big visions that started out as the small bullies in the school yard or to stand tall and say, No. You cannot do such things and get away with them.

Canada may not have the military resources to give, but we certainly have a wealth of resources and an economy that was not hit as hard as the United States and other countries, so we should be giving more than our verbal support … we should be giving our financial support too.

Believe me, years of experience has taught me that doing the right thing is seldom easy and often meets resistance … and it costs us, but not near as much as being a bystander and having to live with the knowledge we could have and should have done more. We deserve the peace of mind that comes from knowing we did the best we could … we gave what we could and even more than what was comfortable, because when we need help, and we all will at some point in our life, we will want others to help us … and for the most part, that will only come after we were the first to give to others who needed us, even if the ones we help are not the ones who end up helping us … for life is sweet that way.

But right now, today, the people in Syria who are being slaughtered by those who want control of Syria and its resources need us to send the message to the bullies that, just like the bullies in the schoolyard, their behavior is not acceptable and will not be tolerated … because we know the right thing to do and we can untie to draw on each other for the support we need to do the right thing. Anything less makes us just another bystander whose real character will be revealed by history.

September 7, 2013
http://www.kaitlinatrepanier.com

All Rights Reserved by DARK HORSES PRODUCTIONS/KAITLIN A. TREPANIER, Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE Developer, Author, Speaker, Playwright, Altruistic Entrepreneur, and Human Rights Activist … because every child should know, by their own experience, they are valued … RESPECTED