HAZING REVEALS Low “Respect Level” Beliefs at St. Michaels College, What Hazing Can Look Like and Prevention

What was once tolerated, accepted, and even encouraged, hazing is being recognized for what it is … abuse … an abuse of power, of control, and of needing to feel superior by making others feel inferior by forcing acts upon them for acceptance.

Here is Toronto Mayor John Tory’s reaction …

https://globalnews.ca/video/4677161/john-tory-reacts-to-alleged-group-sexual-assault-at-st-michaels-collegeits-a-very-sad-story

And here is a link to an organization dedicated to ending hazing …

https://hazingprevention.org/home/hazing/facts-what-hazing-looks-like/

Whatever name is given abuse, it is only about one thing … not valuing another person’s life, which also reveals the lack of respect one has for one’s self because the consequences of our actions remain with us forever.

What kind of consequences do we want for ourselves and the children to come? Let’s help them break the chain of abuse and help make school a better and safer experience for all.

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER

Founder Social Entrepreneur Author Artist Speaker

www.connectingthedotswiththerespectprinciple.com

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Only People With HIGH “RESPECT LEVELS” Are Not Intimated by Educated People

Only people with high enough “Respect Levels” are capable of understanding that everyone realizing their potential is a win for everybody … Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

Below Charles Schulz’s “Charlie Brown” expresses his opinion.

Kaitlin Ann Trepanier

CONNECTING THE DOTS WITH THE RESPECT PRINCIPLE

Founder Entrepreneur Author Artist and Speaker  

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Bravo For PUTTING CHILDREN FIRST In EDUCATION

Bravo! Grateful to see the factory education model is being replaced with a model more logical, practical, and compassionate … respectful. I’m sure it will also do wonders with developing children’s ability to socialize without all the stigmas and prejudices typical of the factory education model. Well done!

 

June 15, 2018

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER

Human/Animal Rights Activist Social Scientist Founder Entrepreneur Author Artist

Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

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Albert Einstein’s Perspective On Our Education Model and A Personal Example

I began as an “A” student because of abilities and passion for learning, but the learning and social environment of our factory school model, plus other mitigating factors, transformed me into a “D” student, mostly by absenteeism by grade nine and a drop out in grade ten.
Fortunately my drive to learn pushed me to acquire my GED, earn Honors in Business Administration at age thirty, compelled me to attend York University in my late thirties … but again the environment was not the best for me. so I just continued my studies on my own.
In my forties, I began Design and Communication Arts studies at Durham College and switched to Visual Art studies when I moved from Oshawa to Etobicoke. I still have two courses to take before receiving my diploma, but then again, I was selling visual art before taking any school courses, plus I had been merchandising product for retailers since my late teens.
And my education continues as I primarily read non-fiction to satisfy both my personal and professional goals, including as an social entrepreneur who founded a company to transform respect from a discretionary value to a global principle, based on the belief everyone matters.
So stupid, I learned, I was/am not … just a person with a different learning style, preference, and perspective.
Thanks to people like Albert Einstein … one of my key role models … for helping me to understand and embrace all of who I am.

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER

Visionary, Human Condition  Innovator, Social Scientist, Author, Artist, Founder, & Entrepreneur

Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

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March 31, 2018

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ASS/U/ME … Why the Word and Action Got Such a Bad Name

Over 7 billion people live on the earth … and each one is a unique blend of gifts, talents, and abilities that are shaped by their experiences and that turn into the beliefs … conscious ones or subconscious ones.

Assumptions are our thoughts about something or someone … they are something taken for granted … something assumed, but not proven. (Oxford Paperback Dictionary).

Even with the definition alone, is to easy to comprehend how assumptions can get us and our relationships into a lot of trouble through misunderstanding and our perspectives.

Now, multiply that scenario by 7 billion people and it becomes even easier to see why the action of “assuming” often results in making an “ass” out of “u” and “me.”

Narrowing down the 7 million to 16 personality types, such as the Myers Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI) that is based on Carl Jung’s work, plus their experiences and beliefs is still a major challenge to contend with in trying to have respectful, peaceful, and supportive relationships.

To further narrow down perspective, Paul and Barbara-Barron Tieger’s research revealed that the majority of the US population is dominated by the “E”xtrovert personality type that thrives on a high level of interaction with others like themselves. The other smaller portion of the population is an “I”ntroverted type whose brain requires regular quiet and solitude to manage their high internally-stimulated brains.

As you can deduce, all these, and many other complications can make for very difficult relationships when we take for granted that people experience the world in the same way we do, that people think about the world in the same way we do, and react in the same way … assuming without proving their assumptions.

For example, in my family, as with many other families, I am the one more different than the majority. Depending on who you talk to in a family, some are called “black sheep” with the connotation that the others are white and therefore good, some are called odd ducks, weird, crazy … and well, you get the picture.

It doesn’t matter what personality type the majority are, what matters to “the pack” is that the one outside “the pack” is seen as different … and differences, in packs with low “Respect Levels” … be they families or any collection of people brought together in some way … are not only seen as different, they are deemed problematic … even dangerous.

Teasing, tormenting, shunning, ostracizing, and casting out the different one is usually the first step, though sometimes physical harm is also used as a way to vent fear and to try and control the one being cast to the outside.

I was a bold little child, albeit quite often alone or leading when with others. An avid learner, I was an “A” student from the getgo until the factory education model of everybody learning and being the same created havoc for me. School became less and less fun, dominated not by learning, but by the ridicule experienced for being bored in class and by not being in the major packs in the school yards. Even teachers back then did not know what to do and resorted to punitive psychological, as well as physical punishments.

With the lack of understanding by the masses of personality types and low “Respect Levels” for those more different from the majority, the teasing, tormenting, shunning, ostracizing, and casting out continue and for some with more drastic consequences … such as the loss of their life … by their own or a “pack’s” hands.

Extroverts are quick to point their fingers at “loners” as threats, but the ignorance and lack of acceptance of differences between Extroverts and Introverts fuels the erroneous assumption that all loners … Introverts … are dangerous … demonstrating the truth they are taking something … someone for granted … without proof … that’s what beliefs on ignorance and untruths do.

The interesting contrary thing is that though there are some loners, often broken by the societal rejection, who then set out to harm others … more loners … Introverts … especially broken ones … often become easy targets and prey for both Introverts … and Extroverts.

To stay safe, Introverts will even transform themselves enough to be accepted into the pack, but unfortunately, with this transformation, they often give up too much of their true selves and a price will have to be paid by them at some point … for me, it was a fierce internal boil of anger at others for not being acceptable, for forcing me to be what they wanted by their mind games, and my own anger at myself for giving in and giving up on myself … all of which I mostly displayed with sarcasm, a cutting tongue and wit … a constant stream of intense negative energy and the need to be better … perfect even … all of which was so far removed from the tender-hearted compassionate soul broken by so much cruelty at a young age.

Extroverts dominate our world, creating a lot of noise and busyness for them to thrive … and Introverts are often just trying to live in the peace and quiet they need to thrive … and sometimes, both even meet in the middle … and we can do so more successfully to create a better world … if we stop assuming one is better than the other … one is more right … one is more … whatever.

Extroverted activity makes things happen, but it is Introverted creation that give the Extroverts much of what they need to keep the world moving forward.

When we learn and accept this knowledge instead of making assumptions based on our own limited experiences and knowledge, much of the pain, frustration, bitterness, resentment, fear, prejudice, ostracization, and violence will diminish … and we will move into a new realm of co-existence not yet experienced in humanity.

And maybe one day, my siblings will see me differently, as I am learning to see them differently too … and all siblings and only children will too … and forgiveness, acceptance, peace, and respect will strengthen our relationships with each other … as it is strengthening the relationship with myself, healing the scars from years of cruel rejection and the backlash it created in me and my actions … and in so many of us. Till then, the realized benefit is how learning this is transforming me … softening my edges … replacing my pain and anger with respect and even love … the unconditional kind.

Awesome stuff is “Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE” because even if you don’t need to learn it, I certainly did … because the benefits are of the positive, life-altering kind. And then when you add God’s unconditional love that I have been studying particularly this past year … anything is indeed possible!

Thanks for dropping by one of 7 billion!

April 15, 2015

KAITLIN A. TREPANIER

Freeing “Potential” with Education, Entertainment, and Inspiration with the global initiative and core book Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE … because every child … every person … should know, by their own experience, they are valued … RESPECTED.

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Oppression by physical violence … deadly, but spirit oppression by those who do not know they are oppressed …

We know oppression by physical violence is deadly, but often we are not aware of the more life-threatening oppression of people’s spirits by those who are not even aware they are oppressed and, as a result, cast their oppression onto those they are supposed to be “helping.”

Nowhere is this more prevalent than in those who are supposed to lead others into the future … whether the leader is a parent, teacher, principal, counsellor, minister, politician, or mentor of any kind … anyone in a position of authority.

How we can determine if we are being led by an “oppressed” leader is by their words and actions that seek to keep us small and limited based on their oppression … their own experience of being oppressed … being told by words and actions their dreams and goals were not possible and so took the path their own leaders told them to take … and they too became like their leaders … oppressed, bitter and jaded … passing on the legacy of oppression without even knowing it.

Over my lifespan, what was applauded in my life was my conformity to other people’s expectations, regardless of what I wanted. Just because I could do well what other oppressed people valued, did not mean I valued what I could do … and over time, the denial of what I knew I could do, with time, study and experimentation turned me into an oppressed, bitter and jaded person till I became so sick in the spirit I had no desire to live.

Interestingly enough, as my Respect Level has grown, I repeatedly have to stand up against, not the physical oppression, but the constant onslaught of the oppression of the unconscious … a “traditional” mentor who attempted to slay with sarcasm and dismissal that writing a book was not “real work,” which I gather he has never done because he would know how much work it is … an employment “counsellor” who also attempted to dismiss “creativity” as something wives of Bruce Power husbands do because they can afford to create at their leisure and at their husband’s expense.

As I wrote yesterday in, “If I knew then what I know now …” my few previous attempts to reclaim my own identity, gifts, talents and abilities have been met with an unexpected backlash of negativity and what I now recognize as the spirit oppression by those who too were spirit oppressed but still do not know it.

All of which fuels my passion even more to raise both individual and our global Respect Level because we know what to do with the oppressors who use violence physically … we return the same on them, but as of yet, on a mass level, we have not even recognized how we are passing on the oppression by the denial of its existence and its impact on our lives and the lives of those we lead by example.

To “oppress” means to weigh heavily on the mind, spirit or senses; to keep down by the cruel or unjust use of power; tyrannize over.

Being “oppressive” is distressing, not only physically but also mentally.

When any person takes on any role of leadership, guiding and mentoring others, what would serve everyone is simply the recognition of one’s own oppression, overcoming it and helping others to do the same … so they can rise to their potential … not be limited by oppression’s weight that attempts to keep people small, limited and powerless … because keeping people small, limited and powerless is also what drives our economy … keeping our wealth capped by the those who seek their false security by their control by oppression over other people … so they feel more valued … respected.

The problem is oppressors will never ever find the peace and wealth they crave … because peace and wealth are only born of the freedom to be who we really are as unique individuals discovering, developing and delivering to the world what only we have to offer.

Ironically, in the end, the oppressors are the ones who ultimately suffer the most by the legacy of oppression they pass on … for they will never be happy, satisfied, fulfilled … and wealthy in the way that counts most … in their spirit.

June 24, 2014

KAT (Kaitlin A. Trepanier)

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