Bullying … The “Disrespect Philosophy’s” Enforcer

From a secular view, the dominant philosophy that has shaped humans since the beginning of time is Disrespect.

The Disrespect Philosophy is simple. Its premise is that no person or life is valuable until someone says it is … based on what that someone, or a collective of “someones” say what is to be valued … respected.

In other words, the Disrespect Philosophy is about control: control that is misunderstood in contrast to true power. Control simply is a lack of trust in and of the world for life to be fair, for resources to be available to all … which all of our fears are driven by … thereby creating a low RESPECT LEVEL that we have been conditioned to use to fill the void of not feeling valued … respected in the Disrespect Philosophy world humanity has been living in for thousands of years … because not enough of us have connected the dots to see what we keep recreating … which, by the way, the Disrespect Philosophy strives to do in order to keep itself and its enforcers in power.

The guard and enforcer of the Disrespect Philosophy is bullying: the means used to coerce others into accepting the Disrespect Philosophy without question. How? Simply by the conviction we are taught that no one is valuable unless someone(s) says they are and the qualifiers for being considered valuable are based on the whims of those who have put themselves in positions of power to control.

Without high enough RESPECT LEVELS in families, family members are subject to the negative conditioning and the power struggle ensues. Those who take power do so by bullying. Sometimes subtle, often ingenious, sometimes emotional, psychological or physical, bullying comes in all shapes and sizes and affects, because of our lack of awareness of the Disrespect Philosophy, everyone.

The Myers Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI) is a personality profiling system presented by Carl Jung and further developed by the Myers – Briggs team. The fundamental basis of the MBTI is there are two primary personality types: Extroverts (E) and Introverts (I). According to the MBTI, Extroverts’ brains require primarily external stimulus for their brains to work at their best, while Introverts brains, on the contrary, often need a fair amount of time to work and be alone because of the constant internal stimulation in their brains they have to contend with.

There are two significant challenges the contrasting types brings to our world. One, the world is dominated in sheer numbers by the Extroverts and two, as a result the Extroverts, in a Disrespect Philosophy driven world want the rest of the world to be like them … and as a result, the enforcers … the bullies become conditioned at a very young age.

Not that only E’s become bullies, I’s do also, but more from reaction than action.

The reason is the Introverts are more driven by their brains to reflect, plus research, study, and analyze differences and as a result tend to be more understanding and often accepting of other people’s differences. Extraverts, on the other hand, will often respond to Introverts’ quietness, reserve and withdrawal as a rejection of them and in our Disrespect Philosophy world take the I’s actions personally … and the battles begin by employing the different methods of bullying: prejudging, teasing, belittling, tormenting, harassing, rejecting, isolating, neglecting, violating, abusing, and killing … spirits as well bodies.

Many Introverts, especially those with the dominant function of “Feeling” will often withdraw inward further or may even remove themselves physically to avoid battles with Extroverts which they will seldom win fighting in the Extraverted bullying manner … but, instead will use time and strategies to fight such battles. Without high RESPECT LEVELS, it is a lose lose proposition for both.

Extroverted bullies need audiences; Introverted bullies eventually seek quiet revenge … yet since we are driven to be more Extroverted to be in our Disrespect Philosophy driven world, Extroverts and Introverts can act very contrary to their natural, inherent personality type.

What happens in our childhood years does not stay in our childhood years … including the bullying (conditional love) we have been shaped by … it follows us no matter where we go … school, community, work, and into all of our relationships. The only way we become free from the Disrespect Philosophy enforcer, bullying, is to recognize it for what it is … something that strives to make us feel less valuable than everyone else so we bully others to make ourselves feel more valuable than others and therefore keep the world spinning out of control by the chaos maker, the Disrespect Philosophy.

We are valuable … each and every one of us for the unique gifts, talents and strengths we have to contribute to help make the world, including our personal and private worlds, better places to live … to thrive.

December 16, 2013

Kaitlin A. Trepanier

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No One is More Valuable Than You

It has been said many, many, many times, that parenting is the most important job in the world. It has also been said that a nation’s leader holds the most important job. Emergency workers who put their lives on the line for us such as firemen, policemen and soldiers also do the most important jobs. Doctors and nurses who save lives are also top of the list.

Yet, what about the parents who daily go to jobs they are not passionate about, but do, because they are passionate about providing the best for their children? Yet what about the cleaners who keep their work environments safe and clean for them to do their jobs? What about the people who create the businesses that provide jobs? What about the scientists and researchers who spend much of their life in remote areas or isolation to concentrate on solving important problem such as cures for cancer or developing greener technology so we limit the destruction of the environment that enables us to live. What about the people who save other people from horrific conditions such as human trafficking and genocide; who go to countries, even when that means putting their own lives at stake, to fight wars, to report on conditions, to bring food, to dig wells, build schools. What about people without children yet who dedicate their lives to improving the quality of life of children? What about the child of an aging parent who puts their life on hold to help their loved one experience the best transition possible before they leave this life? What about the people who build our homes, teach our children, minister our spiritual lives, create entertainment, write stories, investigate to solve problems, run our governments, manage our money and resources, find missing people and pets …

Examination of life on this world reminds us that it takes all of us, with our unique talents, strengths and abilities to keep the world running every day. Yes, we know there are problems. Yes, we know we don’t have all the answers. Yet, we can all stop to consider the idea everyone is valuable … worthy of RESPECT … for just being a life, so we can stop trying to measure our value over others by competing when such competition takes our energy away from just becoming the best unique individual we can be so we can share who we really are to help make the world a better place for us, our loved ones and everyone else’s loved ones to live in during our brief time on this planet we call earth … and home.

October 17, 2013

Kaitlin A. Trepanier

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The Choice … Control with Laws, Rules, Regulations or Develop Character Strength with Awareness, Education, Inspiration

We know people respond more positively when they are encouraged with awareness, education and inspiration to make the healthiest, life-affirming choices for themselves and their responsibilities. We know this because of how we respond ourselves when people recognize and complement our strengths, talents, abilities and choices.

The question then begged is why do we keep adding laws upon laws upon rules, regulations that result in so many restrictions that people rebel against them, though not really with the intent to break the laws, rules and regulations, but to just break free from the weight of the bonds our Disrespect Philosophy driven world creates.

There is a saying that it is wiser not to just give people fish, but to teach them to fish. Is it not then wiser to not just give people laws, rules and regulations, but instead to help them Connect the dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE so they develop the ability to value all life … and as a result, make better choices of their own free will than by the “threat of punishment” methodology?

The concept is logical, practical and compassionate, though not to those who feel the need to control others. People with the need to control and punish others reflect the impact their own experiences have by their impaired development and growth that has prevented them from recognizing the value of other people and what they have to contribute to our local and global community.

If we desire to consider this choice from a Biblical perspective, there are a few things to consider before making our choice. First, let us not forget God gave people Free Will, so who are we to take that away from people? Two, the Old Testament was filled with reams of laws, rules and regulations because many people were out of control … they got caught up in the natural world and rejected their spiritual selves; however, when Jesus Christ came to earth, He brought a new covenant that overrode all the laws, rules and regulations of man. He simplified the world by the New Testament, requesting that we all, “Love thy neighbor as thy self.”

Whether we prefer the intellectual, scientific premise to “Respect/value all life for just being lives” or the spiritual guidance of “Love thy neighbor as thy self,” the result will be the same … people will become encouraged through their new awareness, education and inspiration to not imprison people with judgment and all of its resulting laws, rules and regulations and will instead reap the benefits of people’s character strengthened by empowering them to make good choices simply because they know it is the right thing to do.

And if you need more justification to change our global culture from Disrespect to Respect, you may want to consider the huge financial impact … the money that will be saved from the much less damage being done to us and our world and the money that will then be available to make our world a better place to live … for everyone.

October 7, 2013

Kaitlin A. Trepanier

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To Follow or Not … Normal Means the Average, the Majority … Not the Right

Anyone familiar with the story of Esther in the Bible? I so identify with what Joyce Meyer wrote (and Joyce’s own story) about Esther … how she probably had other plans for her life … a “normal” life, like most women of the time, but she was called to live differently for something more than just for her, even though she probably knew the dangers involved, as well as the discomfort and many other things she would have to experience.

For years, I have gone back and forth, trying just to live the “normal” life everyone I know who mostly live “normal” lives keep telling me I should have, but I am just not made that way. At first, when I first tried to “not follow” the backlash was incredible, not only from the outside world, but from my inside world. Even though visions were put in my heart to follow that I dearly wanted to follow, repeatedly, I went back and tried and tried and tried to live “normal” but my personality does not thrive in “normal, mainstream jobs.” I get sick, in many ways and the older I get, the longer it takes me bounce back from such endeavours because I get so out of balance in trying to cope with the effects such things have on me.

All those “failures” of not measuring up to normal are not even failures, they are just indicators of what is not right and not working, which has meant learning a new way to live … to thrive successfully. I know for sure now what I can do, enjoy doing, what I am truly good at, getting better at and that is spending hours studying, analyzing, researching, continuously learning, and communicating … sharing my story and what I have learned to individuals and groups of people, which are not things most people could do or would want to do, revealed by the fact that one of people’s biggest fears is public speaking. Like all jobs, this is hard work, plus it is mostly very lonely work. This work and lifestyle has its own unique challenges, as do all jobs, including establishing a good balance of working time because this work is not like other jobs where you spend a number hours at someone else’s place, doing what somebody else tells you to do and then collect payment every week or two for services rendered (lawyers being the primary exception, because many get paid before they do their jobs).

No, an eight to ten-hour day for me includes all the correspondence, using the social media tools, the blog and other writing, research, learning, and study, speech writing and practice, design work for the website, book cover, poster, card designs, etc., and time away from it all to clear my head so solutions, fresh perspectives and what to do next are made clear. This kind of life is definitely not for most people I know … the discipline must come from within because like any job, you have to get the work done … but in this case, with no one standing over you with a yearly review to tell you how you have done and no one giving you a regular paycheck after a few weeks of work is done, but only after months and even years of hard work, perseverance and the unflinching knowing that it is the best work for me to do considering who I am and my experiences.

I am delighted to discover stories, particularly about women now, whose calling has pulled them out of the mainstream, sometimes even kicking and screaming at first on the inside, to do something outside of the “normal” life many desire and take for granted. Thanks to Esther and to all the women I keep discovering who inspire me to keep moving forward … in faith that as I do the right thing in my heart, my mind will catch up with all I need to keep going, as will my bank account, now that I know “normal” does not mean normal is right and I am wrong, but that normal just means normal … the majority.

The other inspiring point to consider from all the stories of people like Esther, Joyce, etc. is that, when the time is right, the payoff will arrive and because it hasn’t been a weekly paycheck, it comes in large lump sums. It is a very different way of living and working than anyone I have personally known, but that doesn’t mean not following the majority, the normal path, is not right … it is just a different path. And we only make it more difficult for those who are called to break away from “normal” by not understanding this and not supporting them, even if only be encouragement alone … because realizing our potential is not something we do in competition with others … it is ours alone and no path is more “right” or “wrong.”

Yes, often I have longed to be part of the majority, have tried it, felt rejected, then bad, then depressed and apathetic, but not anymore, thanks to all those I read about in books and listen to on television, who, from a distance, have encouraged me to rise up, stand tall and just be who I am. Hallelujah. Please pass this on to anyone you know would feel better about themselves after reading it. Thanks!

October 1, 2013


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