How many times have you heard or even said yourself, “That’s just who I am.”
Does this not suggest that we are finite beings, but if that is so, then when do we become finite … limited at some particular point in our life?
Expressed again just the other day, a seventy year old woman I know uses this phrase repeatedly to justify not making any changes in her life … even ones that would be to her benefit.
But, she is not alone. Many of us, due to our lower rather than higher “Respect Levels,” become unwilling to accept we are responsible for growing, developing, and changing what is not working for us or even things we do not like but do anyway because they have become habitual.
For instance, this particular woman, seldom ever has anything positive to say about her health (she’s still here, has medical care and benefits, and family around her who cater to her daily) or in general. Gently trying to remind her of all that she has and that she could make some changes is quickly rebuffed with “That’s just who I am.”
And I understand, because I used to think and talk like that before when I did not feel so good about myself. Now, as I work to stay positive and optimistic in order to stay motivated to keep growing, changing, and developing, I still find sometimes it can be quite wearisome to be around people who are so down, so negative, so bitter, resentful, frustrated, and angry, without their pulling me down with them. But, I remember why I created the “Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE” concept and why I became a publisher to roll out the idea to kids in school, to parents, teachers, and everyone else … because healthy, successful, joy-filled lives result from growing, developing, and changing throughout our whole lives and not just coming to the point where we limit ourselves and our experience by the debilitating mindset, “That’s just who I am.”
If all we are is to become static creatures at some point in our life, what would be the point of being a person? Why not another animal? Doing the same thing over and over and over and over and over?
I empathize with the woman and the many others like her, even the ghost of who I once was; however, next time she says, “That’s just who I am,” out of respect for her as a person with untapped potential, I’m going to have to say, “Stop limiting yourself and your life with your limited belief. You are so much more than you know … however, you have to be willing to let go of what you know, those old beliefs, even about yourself, in order to reap the benefits of growing, developing, and changing will generate in your life because that is what we are supposed to do throughout our whole life … adapt.
I know this from experience … by connecting the dots to see the bigger, promising picture and from reaping the multiple benefits.
Hope she and you do too … because you are so much more than you know.
June 3, 2015
KAITLIN A. TREPANIER
Freeing “Potential” with Education, Entertainment, and Inspiration with the global initiative and core book Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE … because every child … every person … should know, by their own experience, they are valued … RESPECTED.
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