WHAT EVERY “ONE” WANTS … IS TO BE SEEN … ESPECIALLY

People want to be seen, but people with Alzheimer’s, dementia or any disease, want to be seen too … but not for their disease … for the person they are beneath the symptoms of their affliction.

Because of my direct involvement as my Dad’s primary representative, contact, liaison, and advocate, I am discovering the labels “Combative and aggressive” are attached especially attached to people with Alzheimer’s and dementia … but isn’t this wrong thinking … especially in the minds who are supposed to be the healthcare professionals? Isn’t it the diseases themselves that rob people not only of their ability to remember, but also of being able to manage their emotional responses to what they perceive as a threat … or even their frustration and anger in their cognitively-clear moments?

An early morning call yesterday revealed the consequences Dad has had to pay for the medication used to “incapacitate” him … that is preventing him from the simple act of getting out of bed on his own … the call informing us he had broken his hip or leg … which led to an all day ordeal that finally resulted in surgery last night and the words “combative” being applied to his state this morning.

Shocked, stunned, and astounded are words that continue to reverberate throughout my being as I journey this tortuous path with my Dad … but then, when I pull back with time to reflect, the state of being shocked, stunned, and astounded are replaced with the knowledge I already know … in a world and healthcare system still driven by dollars first rather than respect for life, I should not be surprised by any of what I see and hear plus observe what Dad is experiencing.

His warrior spirit fights with all its might and though I do not know how long his war with his humanity will last, I pray for the means to continue to serve as his support and for the “Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE” work that will not just create an income source for me, but will help positively change the views we have about each other … so we can be more compassionate … and innovative in finding the best ways to help each other as we each face our own unique challenges in this life … respectfully.

February 27, 2015

KAITLIN A. TREPANIER
The RESPECT SPECIALIST & PEACEMAKER … Freeing “Potential” with Education, Entertainment, and Inspiration!

Click on the link below starting Tuesday, January 27, 2015 to DISCOVER … and SUPPORT … the INDIEGOGO crowd funding campaign for the global initiative, Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLEbecause every child … every person … should know, by their own experience, they are valued … RESPECTED.

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TWO DAYS … and ONE MORE REASON

Two days of crisis and care management for Dad, moving him back to Southampton Care Centre, washing all his belongings, some at a laundromat en route to SCC and some later that night at home because of the Outbreak both places had just come out of Monday and Tuesday. Took his wife up yesterday when I returned with more of his belongings, plus new ones we had to buy because of the amount of belongings, clothes and linens, that keep disappearing in these community places … especially the hospital.

Put a call into CCAC for “crisis” transfer to Trillium Court in Kincardine because SCC see Dad … the man who was in great physical pain it was finally discovered and acknowledged while he was in Owen Sound Hospital … the way he was before they sent him there … someone who had become aggressive … but if they had listened … if he had had specialists look at him before this … during the past three years … if they had acknowledged his physical pain from his life as an athlete, his over 75 falls in the past few years, two abcessed teeth and two more on their way due to poor dental hygiene the past three years … and got him on the right pain med which he is now on … if they had listened regarding the dentist I took him to the day before they shipped him off to Owen Sound, they would have known so much more was physical pain not being dealt with … his living environment and conditions and more.

I forgive them, but that doesn’t mean I won’t take the healthcare system to task for the much needed changes … because people with Alzheimer’s or dementia are “not criminals” and should not be treated as such. It is time to treat people with such diseases, physical or mental, the same way we treat people with cancer, heart conditions, etc.

Instead, this round of healthcare professionals are doing what others have done over the past three years … just medicating to the point of incapacitation till death do the person departs … and quality of life be damned … at least for those with these illnesses. They have repeatedly done this to him … because they are not working … communicating … I know, because over and over and over I have to keep telling the same story, but now it is time to tell it to someone who will truly listen and will help with the needed changes … for Dad and everyone else struggling in their last years with the ignorance and fear of their caretakers.

So here is yet one more reason to raise people’s “Respect Levels” by helping them “Connect the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE” because it should not matter what age someone is before they are treated respectfully … with value for just being a life.

February 19, 2015

KAITLIN A. TREPANIER
The RESPECT SPECIALIST & PEACEMAKER … Freeing “Potential” with Education, Entertainment, and Inspiration!

Click on the link below starting Tuesday, January 27, 2015 to DISCOVER … and SUPPORT … the INDIEGOGO crowd funding campaign for the global initiative, Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLEbecause every child … every person … should know, by their own experience, they are valued … RESPECTED.

http://igg.me/p/connecting-the-dots-with-the-respect-principle/x/9700923

© All rights reserved 2014.