Do you find yourself saying “Yes” to something and then changing your mind? Could be for any number of reasons, such as, like me for years, saying “Yes” was an automatic response for reasons such as wanting to help, to please people, to not make someone uncomfortable, etc., but then you find you can’t do what you agreed to do or maybe don’t even want to do what you said yes to?
What do you do then? Do you pretend the question wasn’t asked and that you said yes? What do you do with the awkwardness that can develop? Or do you just pull away from the person in order to avoid the feelings that arise when you encounter them again? Or do you just ignore the question/request?
A friend of mine recently mentioned I say “No” or “No and Yes” rather then “Yes.” I explained I find it more respectful to the person if I answer one of these ways rather than just “Yes” these days because I take the time to analyze before committing.
However, I am still working on adding “I’ll take it into consideration” or “I’ll think about it” or “I’ll get back to you” rather than just “No” or “No and Yes” but hey, all bad habits can be broken and new ones developed … over time.
May 8, 2018
KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER
Human/Animal Rights Activist Social Scientist Founder Entrepreneur Author Artist
Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle
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