“WE CANNOT Solve Our Problems With the Same Thinking that Created Them”

“We cannot solve our problems with the same thinking that created them” so let us all keep reading, exploring, growing, creating, and innovating!

Albert Einstein quote shared by …

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER

Founder Social Entrepreneur Author Artist Speaker

www.connectingthedotswiththerespectprinciple.com

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November 16, 2018

 

 

Door 1? Door 2? or Door 3?

There is the saying when one door closes another opens, but I’ve discovered doors close because we think we have to settle for what was or what is rather than for what can be.

For me, I knew there was a Door 3, but I couldn’t seem to open it, so I kept drifting in and out of Doors 1 and 2.

Door 1 was the traditional, conventional path everyone wanted me to take. The safe, do-a-normal job people I know do.

Door 2 was another traditional, conventional path, but one of giving  up and settling for whatever as a failure, regarded as a lazy so-and-so and/or an unrealistic dreamer who would never amount to much.

Door 3, however, I did not see until in my forties. At first, I was eager to see what was behind Door 3, but when I opened it, what was required excited me, but scared people in my life, which is a big reason I closed Door 3, drifting in and out of Doors 1 and 2 for many years.

Because of the influence of people I loved and others too, falsely believing they knew what was best for me, I kept making the wrong, same choices until there was no one left to turn to for they are even more jaded than I.

Now, with income Door 1 closed and being shoved out of Door 2’s provisions, I finally put my hand firmly on Door 3 and pushed hard.

And finally, with the full commitment, dedication, and willingness, what I needed … the ideas and their solutions surround and fill me with excitement again.

For me to walk up to, open, and walk through I had to believe in me and my dreams and who made that possible is my renewed faith in God. Not the God I was taught as a Catholic girl, which was filled with much hypocrisy, but the one I have discovered reading the Bible for myself.

Some people regard believing in God as a weakness. I didn’t, but grew to. Plus, I was angry about the God I was erroneously taught about. I couldn’t make sense out of what I saw and experienced, but I do now, mostly. And what I don’t understand, I finally accept I may never understand and that’s okay.

Truth be told, I am strong in many ways. I have been gifted with the unique combination of talents I need to fulfill my life’s purpose, which was behind Door 3. Yet I know now, where I am weak, I draw on superhuman, not human strength.

Believe or not, the choice is yours to make, but I will tell you this … never, ever in my adult life have I felt so loved, peaceful, trusting, hopeful, and joyful. Plus, the answers I have needed to fulfill my purpose of helping people with my creativity are now flooding my life. Just watch. You will see things happen you never thought could and you may even begin to think you want what I have.

The good news is it is yours to receive too … for your unique self and purpose too.

Door 3 awaits.

Kaitlin Ann Trepanier

CONNECTING THE DOTS WITH THE RESPECT PRINCIPLE

Founder Entrepreneur Author Artist and Speaker  

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Original Poem, “TEACH ME”

P-Teach Me

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER

Human/Animal Rights Activist Social Scientist Founder Entrepreneur Author Artist

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August 8, 2018

“The Narrowing of MINDS”

“How do you measure creativity if you never find it in the first place? As mentioned earlier, a concerning gaming glitch I have noticed over the past five to eight years is that youth are progressively less aware of their creative potential. Today, many kids don’t lose the creativity, they never find it.”

“They never become aware of the talent they potentially possess. Instead the “talent” is applied to gaming (and all i-media for that matter). This to me is a great tragedy, not only to the individual but to society as a whole.”

From I-Minds by Mari K. Swingle, page 73. New Society Publishers

On a personal note, my education in the 60’s and 70’s in a farming and industrial community did not make me aware of my talent, but did what it could to suppress any creative talent. The focus was becoming skilled as a worker to get a “real” job. Took me years, many tears, and much pain to correct my perspective about myself and to put myself on the right career track for me.

Whatever might have or is derailing your life, take your life back and do what is yours to do. Say your regrets for not knowing or standing up for yourself … until now … and move on in the most respectful and loving way you can for yourself and others … because being with people for the wrong reasons serves neither of you and in the end, hurts you both more than necessary.

Be bold. Be courageous. Be who you really are! You are worth it!

June 27, 2018

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER

Human/Animal Rights Activist Social Scientist Founder Entrepreneur Author Artist

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DEALING WITH Criticism, Judgment, and Condemnation

Putting down others is a cultural past time. In fact, sometimes it looks as though criticizing, judging, and condemning others is a recreational sport of sorts.

Ashamedly I confess, I played the condemnation game for a long time. I was quick to point out what was wrong with others and still have to check myself from engaging in the game.

Admittedly, I discovered I played the game because I was taught by experience. I was taught by the experience of others criticizing, judging, and condemning me for my differences, so I got in on the game.

I got so good that before most people could even begin an assault, I had already won and walked away.

Makes for a lonely existence, especially if you don’t want to be surrounded by people playing the same game.

In other words, I had to stop playing the cruel game born of insecurity and fear.

The bad habit was like breaking any addiction. First there was denial. Then justification and rationalization. Some temper tantrums fueled by a lot of anger … at others for the deception and cruelty and at myself for going along with what I knew was wrong … because I knew how it felt to be on the receiving end.

But until I got the help I needed, which for me was research and study, I kept going in circles without much success in dealing with people dishing out and also no longer participating.

Along the way, I discovered who I really was and what I wanted to do.

And wow, though I previously thought I had experienced quite a bit of the three with my non-average personality type made much more complicated by some very traumatic experiences, I really was not prepared for the onslaught being an original would attract.

Even more surprised I was when I started sharing how developing a personal relationship with God through studying the Bible (an amplified version has made it more user-friendly) gave me the courage I needed to keep forging ahead on my unique path.

Lots of psychology books helped me, but since my path of becoming the writer I was meant to be also included what I was experiencing spiritually, I had to turn to other people to stay on track rather than get derailed by those, for whatever their personal reasons are, choose not to believe in God and his desire to be actively engaged in our lives.

Joyce Meyer, an American televangelist reminded me in her book, Trusting God Day By Day, to “Quit Picking On Yourself.” She shares how Paul’s faithfulness (page 63) was questioned and his reaction. “I do not care what you think. I do not even judge myself,” because he knew if he got out of line for the purpose given him, God would correct him.

Not anyone else could correct him because he was working directly with God.

As I now am, so whatever others believe, say, or do no longer determines my reactions and destiny.

Of course, this also precludes me from criticizing, judging, and condemning other people too, so I have to self-monitor to keep old habits at bay.

Instead, I am to educate, inspire, and even entertain people to motivate them to stop wasting their valuable life time on things that is not theirs to do anything about and to encourage them to engage when it is theirs to do something about.

Not that does not mean we don’t step in when others are harming others. That we must do in whatever capacity we are called to do also.

One of the greatest rewards from no longer playing the criticizing, judging, and condemning game is the freed gift of time so I can pursue what is mine to pursue.

It’s a “live let live” mentality we all need to thrive … peacefully.

June 18, 2018

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER

Human/Animal Rights Activist Social Scientist Founder Entrepreneur Author Artist

Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

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Retirement … For You or Not?

I never did get the retirement idea, so I have never had plans for it, maybe because I don’t have children and grandchildren, but even then I just can’t imagine not being productive, especially now when I feel like I am just getting started in the life I truly want to create and live!

Discovering my purpose and all the talents, skills, and experience I have now to serve others while I grow my own vision has been the best part of my life so far … therefore I can’t see myself stopping doing what makes me happy and fulfilled … as this movie reveals too.

https://www.facebook.com/TheInternMovie/

Thanks for the film, The Intern, which reveals the retirement dilemma and the opportunities to be explored.

Whoever you are, don’t just follow the most traveled path unless you really want to … otherwise you will regret it as I learned from my earlier years when I did what others approved of and expected … because your life deserves your best attention and efforts!

April 4, 2018

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER

Human/Animal Rights Advocate Author Artist Entrepreneur Administrator

Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

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ALL of US Must Do What We Can To Stop and Prevent What Can Be Stopped and Prevented

Bravo Eva for your determination that got you through the horrors and that empowered you to share your experiences and what you saw … thank you! Your story, along with many others’ stories, has been the catalyst compelling me to find a way to reduce and prevent such atrocities again.

The result was the development of the “Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle” concept, company, books, products, and services for the global initiative … because everyone matters. And I am delighted to know you not only survived, you thrived!

 

Source BBC Stories January 2018

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER

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Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

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January 31, 2018

Reclaiming All Talents … Time to Soar!

An ease and fascination with numbers has always been with me. Arithmetic was my best grade school subject, though writing was my favorite subject: one I had to work harder at, though the spelling of words came as easily as working with numbers.

As my grades and enthusiasm deteriorated from A’s to B’s, C’s and slipped to a D in grade nine, no one asked what was really wrong. The standard testing of the time revealed a mind contrary to what was happening with my marks and attendance and my ability with numbers motivated them to put me on a course for business and science. University-bound they said I should be, but I could not grasp why I had to learn stuff that was so far removed from what I needed at the time, and in fact, was making life worse for me, though I did not fully understand why till many years later.

When I left high school in the middle of grade ten, it was not simply to marry just after I turned sixteen, but to leave behind problems I did not know how to address in a healthy, positive way and naively thought would be resolved by leaving school and marrying, which, of course, they did not.

A few years after marrying found me on my own, with no husband, no support, and no education, but back then, not having a high school diploma was not crucial to the factory and retail jobs I was hired for easily. Inherent leadership, organizational, and a strong esthetic sense for merchandising quickly landed me into merchandising, administrative and supervisor roles by age nineteen, when I became a department head for a chain store, then assistant manager by age twenty-one.

After organizing a staff walk-out because of an area supervisor’s sexual comments and advances to many of the staff, I quit and accepted a part-time job at a local grocery store. A new owner arrived and within weeks, I became head cashier, and then the owner’s office assistant by age twenty-two.

After what had happened in school, I was surprised by all this because I had become convinced by that experience and others that I was not too bright.

Defiant, yes, but not bright.

That is, until the years rolled by and I began working with the chartered accountant to help prepare for the compilation and preparation of the year end financial statements. Encouraged by the accountant, I prepared and successfully completed the grade twelve equivalency exam and applied to a business school with the intent to become an accountant.

So, at age twenty-nine, I joined a group of mostly high school graduated, and with honors, graduated from Westervelt College with the other distinction of being the Chi-Eta scholarship recipient for Outstanding Student Cooperation. While attending, I was also elected as the school newspaper editor and treasurer.

And yes, my best marks were in my business mathematics, bookkeeping, and accounting courses, while my worst was English.

A move to Toronto resulted in a job in the accounting department at Howard Johnson’s head office, but quickly I discovered that the repetitive structure of accounting bored me and the location was a long commute from the other side of Toronto.

Recruited next by Levi Strauss & Co. (Canada) Inc., seven years not only provided a wealth of opportunity working in business planning, operations, and human resources, but also the opportunity to observe big business in action.

Disenchanted, which as it turns out, not because of the company, but because of still unresolved problems, plus motivated by a corporate culture that encouraged continuing education, I applied for, and still shockingly was accepted into York University’s Bachelor of Science program with the intent to acquire a Ph.D. in psychology.

But what happened totally took me by surprise!

Though the psychology and biology courses were interesting, what captured my heart most were philosophy and humanities. Reading the wonderful books, some of which I had missed by not attending high school, blew my mind wide open. No longer did I want to help people by only becoming a psychologist, listening to people in counselling sessions, I wanted to help them by becoming a great writer.

Having to write the essays for these courses revealed what my earlier English marks had not. As my university marks revealed, I truly did have an inherent ability to write, even well, though admittedly, it was the technical skills I needed to develop.

Stunned by this revelation, I left university with the goal to write for a living, though there was much I needed to learn. Nonetheless, in those few years after leaving almost seven hundred poems, forty short stories and essays, plus my first stream-of-consciousness book literally poured out of a very deep well.

Some works sold, though many were young in voice, unpolished, unsophisticated, and even childlike.

But the little confidence, deflated by a lack of encouragement from families and friends, motivated me to abandon writing and turn to studying design, communication and visual arts, while I worked with numbers again to live.

The desire to write though finally burst forth again. I wrote and recorded the children’s story, Charles’ Choice, that a few years later I sold as a workshop to a school board. A year later, I entered a local writing contest and was awarded Honorable Mention, Literature, selected by a York University professor.

Finally, I knew what I was to do.

Now, several years later, with several books written and more in research and development, the time has come to also return to incorporating my inherent numerical and leadership skills, along with the dream of helping people with my writing … which is why I am refreshing my accounting principles knowledge and am excited again to be working with numbers and formulas in preparation to reach out globally with my company. In fact, one of my goals is to also explore the world of abstract mathematics … for fun!

Anyway, the upcoming local Hawk’s Nest angel investors competition was just the catalyst I needed to embrace the whole me as The Respect Specialist, social entrepreneur, creative, and writer. The experience of feeling put back together … all of me … is one I highly recommend to anyone who, for whatever reason(s), buried parts of who they truly are.

Like me, respect yourself enough to set yourself free of the limitations placed on you … and SOAR!

February 26, 2016

Kaitlin Ann Trepanier … The Respect Specialist, Humanitarian, Social Entrepreneur, Creative, and Writer. The company creates, publishes, and produces books, products, and services to free potential based on the concept and global initiative “Connecting the Dots … with The Respect Principle.” I look forward to discovering how I can help you and others unleash more potential for greater success, enhanced quality of life, more joy and peace!

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Difficult People … or Difficult World?

We have all met them. People who just rub us the wrong way … who get our back up … who we just want to say or do something to in order to let them know we do not like them, don’t approve of them, their choices, lifestyle … whatever.

In fact, as books, television, movies and the news show us, many of us even have family members we just can’t stand … and for some people their feelings about other family members even motivate them to commit crimes, even murder.

But are people being difficult for the sake of being difficult? Are people you consider difficult really difficult … or just different? And how much different?

In Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE, my goal was to transform and provide a wealth of knowledge from the various fields of academic study and present them to our youth and to those who do not spend their time reading academic or even popular culture books.

As a result, one of the key components of the book presents the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI) … a psychological profiling tool used by organizations and high-level academic institutions to help them secure the people with the personality type, along with other factors, best required for the role they need filled. Initially proposed by Carl Jung, one of the two forerunners of psychology, the other being Sigmund Freud, Jung suggested there were several personality types and then later, the team of Myers-Briggs took his work and made it more accessible as a psychological assessment tool. Later, other teams, such as consultants Paul D. Tieger and Barbara Barron-Tieger made the psychological tool more accessible with their books Do What You Really Are and The Art of Speed Reading People.

The core of the MBTI is there are sixteen personality types, though primarily divided by two main key elements that are supported by other components. The key element defines how a person experiences the world as a result of the way their brain functions and processes information.

Introvert brains are highly stimulated internally and as a result, they require quieter, more removed from the mainstream work and living environments to thrive.

Extrovert brains have a much lower internal stimulus level and as a result, thrive when their environment, is bustling and filled with data their brains covert into knowledge.

You can read more about the MBTI in my book, Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE or in the previous authors works, but for now, let’s just consider the accessible knowledge there are sixteen personality types, plus all the other influences of family, community, culture, financial status … plus what I call the Disrespect Philosophy that drives our unconscious conditioning, motivating us to think that a person should have to “earn or be awarded” respect … to be valued for just being a life.

Add religion, politics and the low RESPECT LEVELS of many people conditioned by the experience of being raised and living in a Disrespectful Philosophy-driven global culture and suddenly, it is easy to see it isn’t so much “difficult people” as it is a “difficult world.”

Difficult only though because one, we have been taught to not value others not like ourselves and two because, until now, we had not connected the dots to see each other differently from ourselves … and to accept not everyone has to be like us. Seeing “difficult” people through this new lens empowers us to positively change our thinking, our words and of course, our actions.

So what if we don’t like someone or approve of them? With our own increased awareness that boosts our own RESPECT LEVEL we learn our feelings or thoughts are not cause to hurt or harm with gossip, judgment, neglect or with physical violence. We learn we are just different and that difference is good, even great! Great because acknowledging our differences empowers us to more fully develop our differences, which is our potential, and as a result, to become more realized individuals … and citizens.

Difficult people? No. Just a difficult world shaped by the negative, limiting and harmful Disrespect Philosophy and supported by a lack of knowledge … till now.

June 4, 2014

Kaitlin A. Trepanier
http://www.kaitlinatrepanier.com

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