An ease and fascination with numbers has always been with me. Arithmetic was my best grade school subject, though writing was my favorite subject: one I had to work harder at, though the spelling of words came as easily as working with numbers.
As my grades and enthusiasm deteriorated from A’s to B’s, C’s and slipped to a D in grade nine, no one asked what was really wrong. The standard testing of the time revealed a mind contrary to what was happening with my marks and attendance and my ability with numbers motivated them to put me on a course for business and science. University-bound they said I should be, but I could not grasp why I had to learn stuff that was so far removed from what I needed at the time, and in fact, was making life worse for me, though I did not fully understand why till many years later.
When I left high school in the middle of grade ten, it was not simply to marry just after I turned sixteen, but to leave behind problems I did not know how to address in a healthy, positive way and naively thought would be resolved by leaving school and marrying, which, of course, they did not.
A few years after marrying found me on my own, with no husband, no support, and no education, but back then, not having a high school diploma was not crucial to the factory and retail jobs I was hired for easily. Inherent leadership, organizational, and a strong esthetic sense for merchandising quickly landed me into merchandising, administrative and supervisor roles by age nineteen, when I became a department head for a chain store, then assistant manager by age twenty-one.
After organizing a staff walk-out because of an area supervisor’s sexual comments and advances to many of the staff, I quit and accepted a part-time job at a local grocery store. A new owner arrived and within weeks, I became head cashier, and then the owner’s office assistant by age twenty-two.
After what had happened in school, I was surprised by all this because I had become convinced by that experience and others that I was not too bright.
Defiant, yes, but not bright.
That is, until the years rolled by and I began working with the chartered accountant to help prepare for the compilation and preparation of the year end financial statements. Encouraged by the accountant, I prepared and successfully completed the grade twelve equivalency exam and applied to a business school with the intent to become an accountant.
So, at age twenty-nine, I joined a group of mostly high school graduated, and with honors, graduated from Westervelt College with the other distinction of being the Chi-Eta scholarship recipient for Outstanding Student Cooperation. While attending, I was also elected as the school newspaper editor and treasurer.
And yes, my best marks were in my business mathematics, bookkeeping, and accounting courses, while my worst was English.
A move to Toronto resulted in a job in the accounting department at Howard Johnson’s head office, but quickly I discovered that the repetitive structure of accounting bored me and the location was a long commute from the other side of Toronto.
Recruited next by Levi Strauss & Co. (Canada) Inc., seven years not only provided a wealth of opportunity working in business planning, operations, and human resources, but also the opportunity to observe big business in action.
Disenchanted, which as it turns out, not because of the company, but because of still unresolved problems, plus motivated by a corporate culture that encouraged continuing education, I applied for, and still shockingly was accepted into York University’s Bachelor of Science program with the intent to acquire a Ph.D. in psychology.
But what happened totally took me by surprise!
Though the psychology and biology courses were interesting, what captured my heart most were philosophy and humanities. Reading the wonderful books, some of which I had missed by not attending high school, blew my mind wide open. No longer did I want to help people by only becoming a psychologist, listening to people in counselling sessions, I wanted to help them by becoming a great writer.
Having to write the essays for these courses revealed what my earlier English marks had not. As my university marks revealed, I truly did have an inherent ability to write, even well, though admittedly, it was the technical skills I needed to develop.
Stunned by this revelation, I left university with the goal to write for a living, though there was much I needed to learn. Nonetheless, in those few years after leaving almost seven hundred poems, forty short stories and essays, plus my first stream-of-consciousness book literally poured out of a very deep well.
Some works sold, though many were young in voice, unpolished, unsophisticated, and even childlike.
But the little confidence, deflated by a lack of encouragement from families and friends, motivated me to abandon writing and turn to studying design, communication and visual arts, while I worked with numbers again to live.
The desire to write though finally burst forth again. I wrote and recorded the children’s story, Charles’ Choice, that a few years later I sold as a workshop to a school board. A year later, I entered a local writing contest and was awarded Honorable Mention, Literature, selected by a York University professor.
Finally, I knew what I was to do.
Now, several years later, with several books written and more in research and development, the time has come to also return to incorporating my inherent numerical and leadership skills, along with the dream of helping people with my writing … which is why I am refreshing my accounting principles knowledge and am excited again to be working with numbers and formulas in preparation to reach out globally with my company. In fact, one of my goals is to also explore the world of abstract mathematics … for fun!
Anyway, the upcoming local Hawk’s Nest angel investors competition was just the catalyst I needed to embrace the whole me as The Respect Specialist, social entrepreneur, creative, and writer. The experience of feeling put back together … all of me … is one I highly recommend to anyone who, for whatever reason(s), buried parts of who they truly are.
Like me, respect yourself enough to set yourself free of the limitations placed on you … and SOAR!
February 26, 2016
Kaitlin Ann Trepanier … The Respect Specialist, Humanitarian, Social Entrepreneur, Creative, and Writer. The company creates, publishes, and produces books, products, and services to free potential based on the concept and global initiative “Connecting the Dots … with The Respect Principle.” I look forward to discovering how I can help you and others unleash more potential for greater success, enhanced quality of life, more joy and peace!
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We have all met them. People who just rub us the wrong way … who get our back up … who we just want to say or do something to in order to let them know we do not like them, don’t approve of them, their choices, lifestyle … whatever.
In fact, as books, television, movies and the news show us, many of us even have family members we just can’t stand … and for some people their feelings about other family members even motivate them to commit crimes, even murder.
But are people being difficult for the sake of being difficult? Are people you consider difficult really difficult … or just different? And how much different?
In Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE, my goal was to transform and provide a wealth of knowledge from the various fields of academic study and present them to our youth and to those who do not spend their time reading academic or even popular culture books.
As a result, one of the key components of the book presents the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI) … a psychological profiling tool used by organizations and high-level academic institutions to help them secure the people with the personality type, along with other factors, best required for the role they need filled. Initially proposed by Carl Jung, one of the two forerunners of psychology, the other being Sigmund Freud, Jung suggested there were several personality types and then later, the team of Myers-Briggs took his work and made it more accessible as a psychological assessment tool. Later, other teams, such as consultants Paul D. Tieger and Barbara Barron-Tieger made the psychological tool more accessible with their books Do What You Really Are and The Art of Speed Reading People.
The core of the MBTI is there are sixteen personality types, though primarily divided by two main key elements that are supported by other components. The key element defines how a person experiences the world as a result of the way their brain functions and processes information.
Introvert brains are highly stimulated internally and as a result, they require quieter, more removed from the mainstream work and living environments to thrive.
Extrovert brains have a much lower internal stimulus level and as a result, thrive when their environment, is bustling and filled with data their brains covert into knowledge.
You can read more about the MBTI in my book, Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE or in the previous authors works, but for now, let’s just consider the accessible knowledge there are sixteen personality types, plus all the other influences of family, community, culture, financial status … plus what I call the Disrespect Philosophy that drives our unconscious conditioning, motivating us to think that a person should have to “earn or be awarded” respect … to be valued for just being a life.
Add religion, politics and the low RESPECT LEVELS of many people conditioned by the experience of being raised and living in a Disrespectful Philosophy-driven global culture and suddenly, it is easy to see it isn’t so much “difficult people” as it is a “difficult world.”
Difficult only though because one, we have been taught to not value others not like ourselves and two because, until now, we had not connected the dots to see each other differently from ourselves … and to accept not everyone has to be like us. Seeing “difficult” people through this new lens empowers us to positively change our thinking, our words and of course, our actions.
So what if we don’t like someone or approve of them? With our own increased awareness that boosts our own RESPECT LEVEL we learn our feelings or thoughts are not cause to hurt or harm with gossip, judgment, neglect or with physical violence. We learn we are just different and that difference is good, even great! Great because acknowledging our differences empowers us to more fully develop our differences, which is our potential, and as a result, to become more realized individuals … and citizens.
Difficult people? No. Just a difficult world shaped by the negative, limiting and harmful Disrespect Philosophy and supported by a lack of knowledge … till now.
June 4, 2014
Kaitlin A. Trepanier
All rights reserved by KAITLIN A. TREPANIER/ DARK HORSES PRODUCTIONS … Creative Writer, Visual Artist and The RESPECT Specialist, architect of the global initiative Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE … because every child … every person … should know, by their own experience, they are valued … RESPECTED.
Taking what is not yours shows the disrespect you have for life … others and yours.
Taking by violent force what is not yours reveals the violence in your heart.
What was done to you, is what you do … until you know better … until you finally believe that you are valuable all on your own, without what you own defining you.
All the countries, people and possessions you think you own, in fact own you because you need them to feel valued … respected in a world still unconsciously driven by the Disrespect Philosophy where we are taught none of us are valuable unless someone or some group says we are by meeting their standards, qualifications, expectations …
When you finally stand in the truth of who you are as a unique individual with a high RESPECT LEVEL, you will no longer need to possess what is not yours, but instead will take the best care of your own self … and in that way, you will serve … and as a result … receive as a gift what you desire … instead of having to steal what is not yours to have.
March 26, 2014
Kaitlin A. Trepanier
All Rights Reserved by DARK HORSES PRODUCTIONS/KAITLIN A. TREPANIER … CREATIVE WRITER, ADVOCATE, and PROJECT SPECIALIST responsible for the creation of the global initiative Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE … because every child … every person … should know, by their own experience, they are valued … RESPECTED.
Everything we do is driven by the beliefs we have … our philosophy … based on our experience, our feelings, the impact of other people and their choices, plus our conscious choices … so, if we are not getting the results we want, we have to change our beliefs to get the results we want.
Not an easy task, but we are all worth the effort.
The bonus … we reap the benefits from our and everyone’s efforts to change our world by changing our beliefs to generate the results we want … peace, abundance, joy, prosperity … RESPECT for all.
October 14, 2013
Kaitlin A. Trepanier
All Rights Reserved by DARK HORSES PRODUCTIONS/KAITLIN A. TREPANIER, Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE Developer, Author, Speaker, Playwright, Altruistic Entrepreneur, and Human Rights Activist … because every child should know, by their own experience, they are valued … RESPECTED