Role Models And The Reasons Why

This role model list was written at the time of the publication of the first “Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle” version printed limited edition book in June 2015.

There are many people who influenced and inspired me over the years; however, these people listed below are the ones who have inspired me to be all I really am and to do the work I am called to do, the Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle global initiative, though if I wanted to take the more normal route, I would just be a writer and an artist, but God did not let that happen because I had other work to do first. Maybe writing and art making will become my last work once Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle is doing its job without me.

Anyway, here are the reasons why each person was originally added to this list …

Jesus … for how he treated others, especially those rejected by society, and since I am follower of Christ for his sacrifice on the cross to make God accessible to everyone without having to sacrifice as they did in the Old Testament

Albert Einstein … not just for his brilliance and contributions to humanity, but also for his compassion, respect, and humor

Alfred Nobel … for turning the negative consequences of the dynamite his family created and sold into the positive by publicly recognizing and rewarding excellence in fields of study and peace-making

Alice Miller … for her forerunner work in psychology to help us understand that how people are treated when they are young has a powerful impact on what they will become later in life and the valuable lessons I learned so I could heal from my experiences. Because of Alice’s own origins, Hitler was one of her key subjects in her research and study of the impact of neglect, abuse, and violence

Socrates, Plato, and Aristotle … introduced to these three key philosophers in my first year of university at York as a mature student, they too played a role in developing the “Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle” concept, company, and global initiative

Henry David Thoreau … as someone who did not go to high school, (but has returned to school many times since) his seminal book, Walden, that I also discovered in university opened the door to writing and the idea of stepping off of the beaten path and creating one’s own, which I have been doing ever since

Ralph Waldo Emerson … another individual, whose writing to this day, still moves my soul with its content and eloquence, challenging and inspiring us to be more than we think we are

Gandhi for his choice to act against oppression and taught us much about freedom

Mother Teresa … the woman who became a nun to fulfill her desire to ease the pain and suffering of those rejected by society

Joan of Arc … a young woman of great courage who acted on her beliefs regardless of the consequences

The Dalai Lama … a modern man with peaceful views, ways, and shared wisdom by acts in a world torn by conflict

Abraham Lincoln … a man with tenacity, perseverance, and drive to become the American president who would begin the process of freedom for all Americans

William Wilberforce … a man whose heroic long-term efforts to banish the English slave trade succeeded, even though his family’s financial legacy could have provided him with an easy, affluent lifestyle

Martin Luther King, Jr. … a man demonstrating exceptional peaceful leadership to push the freedom door further open in America

John F. Kennedy … a bold voice speaking up against oppression and tyranny

Nelson Mandella … quiet patience strengthened this believer in freedom and walked with respect, inspiring others not to give up or give in to those who try to keep people down

Oprah Winfrey … a woman of curiosity, boldness, and seeker of truth lit the way for many of us to see ourselves as we truly are … much more than what we believed for so long

Alan Cohen … the author of Dare to Be Yourself was a key influence on my path to discovering and reclaiming who I had become underneath all the masks I wore to feel safe and accepted. His words also cracked open my jaded, hardened heart about God and Jesus

Robert Schuller … Why Bad Things Happen to Good People cracked opened the door to believing in God wider

Joel Osteen … inspired and still does hope and belief about God the good versus God the punisher

Joyce Meyer … shared down-to-earth experiences helped me to heal from my own abuse and violent background, while also teaching me God forgives and forgets

Warren Buffet … admired for his perspective on not just handing his family the wealth he has accumulated, but chose instead to leave enough for their education and perhaps a bit more, but not to set them up for life

Bill Gates … initially admired for the foundation to help people, but there is so much more that could be done and then there are some business practices that are in conflict with “Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle”

Richard Branson … admired for adventurous, entrepreneurial spirit and desire to help people

Updated March 16, 2018


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What Wonders Faith in God is Manifesting In My Life

If You Don’t Know Already You Will Be Excited Also To Discover How Much More Enjoyable, Peaceful, and Rewarding Life Can Be … No Matter What Is Happening … or Not Happening

Over the years, on my way back to believing in God, I have met many people with many different opinions about God, which is why I decided to read the Bible for myself. I struggled with traditional Bibles, especially starting with the Old Testament.

However, discovering and reading an amplified Bible (I bought Joyce Meyer’s Everyday Bible), I discovered the important change Jesus and the New Testament created for believers, plus accepting Jesus empowered me to see the world differently … for the better.

On the journey back to the consciously-chosen faith in God, I have also greatly appreciated televangelists because they were able to reach me without all the social challenges I encountered in church environments, similar to the challenges faced in the social settings of large schools and classrooms.

Why? Because I am more introverted than extroverted and because of my people-pleasing/approval-seeking addiction I have had to work diligently at to diminish, though not yet totally successfully.

Different televangelists have given what I needed for the development stage I was in … Robert Schuller, Joyce Meyer, and now Joel Osteen.

What I particularly like about Joel Osteen for me now is how he lifts me up with encouragement and positivity that inspires me to dive further into the Bible to create more of the life in my heart and dreams.

As a result, I am choosing to no longer care what people say or how people judge Joel Osteen because his kind, respectful, uplifting ways have brought me closer to understanding how valuable … respected I am by the one who loves unconditionally and how that knowledge has made me a better person … so how can that be a bad thing?


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March 11, 2018


Getting to the Source

Criticisms of Joel Osteen and Joyce Meyers prompted me to write this discourse, not in defense of their personal choices, but in defense of the value they add to a world snared by negativity and opposed to that which is not.

I write this too because one of my best strengths is my drive to delve deep into a subject or problem to understand, then to analyze, and if appropriate, to expand or present a different perspective and at times, to simplify complex material to reach a broader audience. The best example to-date has been the development of the “Connecting the Dots … with The Respect Principle” concept that was designed specifically to be logical, practical, and compassionate in order to cross all the prejudicial and potential prejudicial thought barriers, such as religion, politics, social status, race, sex, etc.

However, now as a person studying the Bible for both intellectual and spiritual reasons, I find myself diving deep into waters filled with many sharks, though some are more dangerous than most.

Since I began my study in the past few years, occasionally I have heard of or read disparaging words about televangelist Bible teachers like Joel Osteen and Joyce Meyers, labelled with malcontent as “prosperity” ministers.

At first, I wondered why there was such vehemence and condemnation of Joel and Joyce, but I have discovered as my study of the Bible grows that many of their critics focus on the financial prosperity Joel and Joyce talk about that God promises, instead of the whole prosperity … health, loving relationships, quality of life, they also reveal as God promises.

Many critics, and even more religious leaders, instead focus on the inherent sin in humanity instead of the inherent good of God … His forgiveness, His generosity, His desire to be good to His children, His gift of free will to “choose life, not death” and much more, which is in great contrast to what my previous teachers’ takes on the Bible were about. By going directly to the source, I am finding many teachings I received were often taken out of context and/or used for their own advantages, including financial gain and the oppression of those they lead.

Now, I do not agree with everything Joel and Joyce say, because like the rest of us, they are human and subject to error, interpretation, and yes, temptation; however, I also greatly appreciate their shedding light on many of the misunderstandings or misconstrued teachings of others, particularly those who are the loudest opposition to Joel, Joyce, and others like them.

As Oprah Winfrey used to say, “What I know for sure is” … I know for sure that since listening to them and others who have a more positive approach to developing a working relationship with God, I have been able to begin studying the Bible on my own, which had been difficult for me because I focused too much, as I was taught to do, on the darkness, the fear, the condemnation, etc.

Now, driven by the desire to discover the truth on this subject, as I have been on many other subjects, not only has my intellect been challenged and my intelligence enlightened, I have also finally experienced peace and hope, my heart, hardened by years of extreme harmful, damaging experiences, reinforced by harsh, negative teachings has softened, and I am becoming the best version of me to date … not all I yet want to be as a respectful, loving person, but one who rigorously believes that uplifting people, not holding them down and making them feel insignificant, devalued, disrespected, is the way, as the sciences and the humanities also now know, to help people, communities, nations, and our world to thrive.

I am no theologian, but I have already learned the Old Testament was filled with many laws because they did not have the Holy Spirit that became available, in the New Testament with Jesus’s death and resurrection, which is why in the Old Testament there was much talk of sacrifices for atonement and people so out of control that God took them out. In fact, every time I tried to read the Bible, starting from the beginning, I was stonewalled by violent acts, which until further enlightened, I could not put into a reasonable context of understanding, or even acceptance.

Nor have I read the entire Bible, yet, but the message I have received so far is loud and clear … if we are creating strife by arguing, by belittling and harming other people, we are not walking in the love the New Testament directs us to do. If religions, or religious sects, are in conflict because they believe they are more right than others, they are not walking in love as the New Testament directs above all else … even above the Ten Commandments.

As it turns out, Connecting the Dots is just as easy to do with the Bible’s contents as it was with the development of The Respect Principle when we break it down to the basics.

What is not love, is hate. What is not love, is sin. And we all sin, and like it or not, sins are all recognized equally.

Therefore, if we choose to believe in God, we have to learn about Him and His ways by going to the source material just like we have to do with spelling and arithmetic in order to function in daily living and in any other area of interest we want to develop the knowledge and skills about so we can become qualified to live the life we choose, rather than the lives others choose for us. He wants it that way too … otherwise He would not have given us free will.

So let the critics criticize Joel, Joyce, and any others who are lifting people up, helping them to feel hopeful in a world that focuses on despair, hopelessness, fear, and other negative cohorts. Like you, I don’t have to approve of or be concerned with or critical of Joel’s new luxury home or how Joyce Meyer Ministries travels to all of their events any more or less than I approve of the Vatican’s cache of financial wealth or any person with the luxuries afforded by great financial wealth, but not yet the understanding that the vast wealth was not given to them for themselves only, but to help address the whole world’s needs. Instead, I have learned how important it is to pray for people who come into financial prosperity so they use it well to make the world a better place … for everyone … because not only do such acts help people with their basic human needs, more importantly, being a recipient of such kind generosity opens their heart to believing in the goodness of God and His promises. This I know from experience because it is working for me. And, then there is the fact that there is only one being with the right to judge anyone, because He knows our internal life, and that being is God.

Neighbours, it all comes down to this. Regardless of what anyone else has to say, bad or good, the choice is ours to make. It does not matter the many different paths or the many different people we follow until we get to the source personally. What is important is that we do get to the source to discover, for ourselves, the personal truths awaiting us, including the many kinds of prosperity God, who is love, yields.

Getting to the Source

June 28, 2016

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