KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER
Innovator Author Artist Social Entrepreneur and Founder
Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle
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December 14, 2018
Putting down others is a cultural past time. In fact, sometimes it looks as though criticizing, judging, and condemning others is a recreational sport of sorts.
Ashamedly I confess, I played the condemnation game for a long time. I was quick to point out what was wrong with others and still have to check myself from engaging in the game.
Admittedly, I discovered I played the game because I was taught by experience. I was taught by the experience of others criticizing, judging, and condemning me for my differences, so I got in on the game.
I got so good that before most people could even begin an assault, I had already won and walked away.
Makes for a lonely existence, especially if you don’t want to be surrounded by people playing the same game.
In other words, I had to stop playing the cruel game born of insecurity and fear.
The bad habit was like breaking any addiction. First there was denial. Then justification and rationalization. Some temper tantrums fueled by a lot of anger … at others for the deception and cruelty and at myself for going along with what I knew was wrong … because I knew how it felt to be on the receiving end.
But until I got the help I needed, which for me was research and study, I kept going in circles without much success in dealing with people dishing out and also no longer participating.
Along the way, I discovered who I really was and what I wanted to do.
And wow, though I previously thought I had experienced quite a bit of the three with my non-average personality type made much more complicated by some very traumatic experiences, I really was not prepared for the onslaught being an original would attract.
Even more surprised I was when I started sharing how developing a personal relationship with God through studying the Bible (an amplified version has made it more user-friendly) gave me the courage I needed to keep forging ahead on my unique path.
Lots of psychology books helped me, but since my path of becoming the writer I was meant to be also included what I was experiencing spiritually, I had to turn to other people to stay on track rather than get derailed by those, for whatever their personal reasons are, choose not to believe in God and his desire to be actively engaged in our lives.
Joyce Meyer, an American televangelist reminded me in her book, Trusting God Day By Day, to “Quit Picking On Yourself.” She shares how Paul’s faithfulness (page 63) was questioned and his reaction. “I do not care what you think. I do not even judge myself,” because he knew if he got out of line for the purpose given him, God would correct him.
Not anyone else could correct him because he was working directly with God.
As I now am, so whatever others believe, say, or do no longer determines my reactions and destiny.
Of course, this also precludes me from criticizing, judging, and condemning other people too, so I have to self-monitor to keep old habits at bay.
Instead, I am to educate, inspire, and even entertain people to motivate them to stop wasting their valuable life time on things that is not theirs to do anything about and to encourage them to engage when it is theirs to do something about.
Not that does not mean we don’t step in when others are harming others. That we must do in whatever capacity we are called to do also.
One of the greatest rewards from no longer playing the criticizing, judging, and condemning game is the freed gift of time so I can pursue what is mine to pursue.
It’s a “live let live” mentality we all need to thrive … peacefully.
June 18, 2018
KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER
Human/Animal Rights Activist Social Scientist Founder Entrepreneur Author Artist
Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle
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Finally, in its entirety, today the simple idea born out of years of experience, observations, research, and study is ready for your hands, eyes, minds, and hearts.
Today, the idea … the principle with the power to disempower any prejudice … any judgment about other people that generates dislike, fear, hate, revenge, and acts such as what the United States experienced 9/11/2001 is yours to purchase for yourself, your loved ones, your school, community, nation, and our world.
Your tool and guide for peace is at hand … and what better choice can we make today of all days to demonstrate our commitment … our conviction to think and do differently in order to do our unique part to contribute to peace … peace in our own little worlds and peace in our shared global world.
Last night, President Barrack Obama, declared the United States will actively engage to dismantle the ISIS threat to the United States and to the rest of us.
Today, in commemoration of the hundreds of people killed on 9/11 by other terrorists and for all the people whose lives have been taken because of disrespect for people’s lives … soldiers fighting wars to the children fighting for their lives in their own homes, today, I ask you to do two simple things …
1. Whatever your religion or politics or any other philosophy you believe, step up to the challenge we must take to change the dominant mindset that threatens our very existence … disrespect for life … the darkness we must all illuminate with our own lights of logic, practicality, and compassion.
2. Order today the small book that will show you what you can do differently in small ways and the big impact those small ways will have on the world you travel in every day.
That is it. Buy through cash, cheque, email transfer, or by PayPal and read the 60-page $9.95 book in print or e-book form that will get you the respect you want and empower you to give the respect others need from you to thrive … peacefully … whatever your religious, political or other beliefs are.
Connect the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE for yourself because every child … every person … should know, by their own experience, that they are valued … RESPECTED … and as a result, we will shrink the number of hurting people, who in their pain of not feeling valued, will not lash out at those around them … in their homes, schools, workplaces, communities, countries, and in the world we have to share.
One simple unifying principle really is not only feasible, but possible as you too will discover how we can and why we should take a fresh look at respect in its simplest, truest form. Albert Einstein observed that to keep doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results is insanity, yet he also said that if at first an idea in not absurd there is no hope for it. A simple idea like Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE does seem absurd … so I am trusting Einstein’s hypothesis for its success since he is recognized as one of the world’s most brilliant minds.
I, on behalf of all those who cannot speak for themselves, ask you to do something different today as the global initiative to raise the standard and living and quality of life of all people on the day when terror crashed into people’s lives instilling fear so we can take back what is ours … our right to live as valued lives … each and every one of us.
Outrage is good, “Liking and Sharing” is fine, giving money to help is great, but opening our minds and hearts to think and do different … is outstanding!
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September 11, 2014
Kaitlin Ann Trepanier
The RESPECT SPECIALIST
Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE author and altruistic entrepreneur … because every child … every person … should know, by their own experience, they are valued … RESPECTED. ©