“How LEADERS Can Open Up to Their Teams Without Oversharing”

By Liz Fosslien and Mollie West Duffy for Harvard Business Review, February 8, 2019

https://hbr.org/2019/02/how-leaders-can-open-up-to-their-teams-without-oversharing#comment-section

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KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER

Advocate Educator Writer Social Entrepreneur & Founder

Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

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February 13, 2019

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Do you Know About “TALL POPPY SYNDROME?” Are You a Tall Poppy or …?

Discovered, the “Tall Poppy Syndrome” is the major reason my social business venture with its original intellectual capital and global initiative is no longer searching for support within Canadian borders, but is going international.

On another note, I also understand, for those who don’t feel good about themselves and their life, putting others down may briefly feel good, but it is a short fix that will have to be repeated over and over again … unless a person redirects one’s time and energy to rise up and take one’s place with the other tall poppies 😉

Shared article by Gideon Hayden …

https://techcrunch.com/2016/04/29/tall-poppy-syndrome-and-the-canadian-opportunity/

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Thankfully we all are different and have our unique lives to lead, so let us not cut someone down or criticize. It isn’t necessary, helpful, or productive. The best thing we can do instead is to be brave, bold, and strong and become the best version of ourselves … because that is how we live our best life, which enables us to also help make the lives of others better too.

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KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER

Philosopher Innovator Founder Social Entrepreneur Producer Publisher Writer Artist Speaker

Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

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January 28, 2019

 

“40 Leadership Quotes And Lessons From “When The Game Stands Tall””

https://briandoddonleadership.com/2014/08/21/40-leadership-quotes-and-lessons-from-when-the-game-stands-tall/

The new film When The Game Stands Tall is just a fantastic movie and a must-see event for every family.  This movie chronicles the De La Salle Spartans high school football team and their head coach Bob Ladouceur, played by Jim Caviezel, following their first loss after a 151 game winning streak over 12 years.

 

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CONNECTING THE DOTS WITH THE RESPECT PRINCIPLE

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LEADERS LEAD US Down A Path

Many people will say anything to get what they want. Sometimes they will even do anything to get what they want.

But as history shows, it is time that reveals the truth about what is driving someone’s words and actions.

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER

Human/Animal Rights Activist Social Scientist Founder Entrepreneur Author Artist

ORIGINALLY Connecting the Dots … with The Respect Principle ©All Rights Reserved since 2014

NOW Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle ©All Rights Reserved 2018

July 19, 2018

 

 

 

 

Dumbing Down … Promoting Fragmentation and Industrial-Age Mentality … How Does it Make You Feel?

Wouldn’t you rather be encouraged, supported, and nurtured rather than being told to “be less” so you will be accepted and approved of and will not threaten other people because you were taught to show yourselves as less … like a wild animal has to do with the leaders of the packs in order not to be cast out?

What do we teach people, of all ages, when we counsel them to not show and tell what all of their talents and skills are? Why do people believe it is better that people get to know us personally by experience before we let our unique personality and character shine through on paper?

As an employer, wouldn’t we want to know someone’s range of natural talents and abilities when viewing their Resumes? From a business planning perspective, even if the job someone is applying for does not require all their talents, skills and experience, would business owners be wiser hiring people who will not only grow with the business, but also help grow the business? Yes, some people will leave if your business does not keep them challenged and growing, yet isn’t their leaving an indicator to you that your business may not be growing and adapting to the times.

How will we know who and what we are hiring if people are being counseled to hide abilities we may want even more than the ones we are searching for now?

The business world is changing. Hiring people to do the same thing over and over again with little change is increasingly a thing of the past in our information-age driven world. Adaptability and flexibility are the key needs of business now, not stagnancy and smallness … both of which do not foster a thriving workforce nor the innovation to continuously adapt and grow, all of which continuously develops people’s talents and skills.

Telling people to live small creates small mindsets that become dependent on staying small and instead of fostering independence conditions people to become reliant on those who told them to stay small … even when such businesses lay off or close, resulting in higher employment and social services payouts.

Ultimately dumbing down people costs even more … the mindset creates more frustrated people who turn to addictions to deal with their frustrations … more unhealthy people who, as a result of such addictions, increase health and correctional care costs … more secrets and lies that imprison people in the shadows of who they can be and that foster acts of revenge …from the small ones of gossip, acts of minor theft and destruction to the big acts of white-collar crime and mass violence from people who have had enough of feeling small and insignificant.

Keep, press down on people long enough and the few with still enough resolve will launch a revolt … a revolution that does not have to be violent if we simply embrace a fresh perspective that recognizes all life is valuable and that how we all win is by nurturing, supporting and building up our natural resources … people … instead of destroying them the way we have ignorantly destroyed much of our wildlife and natural resources.

Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE is the fresh perspective to help us open take the caps off people’s potential … to embrace all those people … our pack … because we need everyone’s “best” to create the “best” world. And doing anything less, such as casting people out because we want each and every person to fit neatly into our boxed mindsets, will ultimately cost us, those who cast out, more than those who were cast out. Continue reading

Oppression by physical violence … deadly, but spirit oppression by those who do not know they are oppressed …

We know oppression by physical violence is deadly, but often we are not aware of the more life-threatening oppression of people’s spirits by those who are not even aware they are oppressed and, as a result, cast their oppression onto those they are supposed to be “helping.”

Nowhere is this more prevalent than in those who are supposed to lead others into the future … whether the leader is a parent, teacher, principal, counsellor, minister, politician, or mentor of any kind … anyone in a position of authority.

How we can determine if we are being led by an “oppressed” leader is by their words and actions that seek to keep us small and limited based on their oppression … their own experience of being oppressed … being told by words and actions their dreams and goals were not possible and so took the path their own leaders told them to take … and they too became like their leaders … oppressed, bitter and jaded … passing on the legacy of oppression without even knowing it.

Over my lifespan, what was applauded in my life was my conformity to other people’s expectations, regardless of what I wanted. Just because I could do well what other oppressed people valued, did not mean I valued what I could do … and over time, the denial of what I knew I could do, with time, study and experimentation turned me into an oppressed, bitter and jaded person till I became so sick in the spirit I had no desire to live.

Interestingly enough, as my Respect Level has grown, I repeatedly have to stand up against, not the physical oppression, but the constant onslaught of the oppression of the unconscious … a “traditional” mentor who attempted to slay with sarcasm and dismissal that writing a book was not “real work,” which I gather he has never done because he would know how much work it is … an employment “counsellor” who also attempted to dismiss “creativity” as something wives of Bruce Power husbands do because they can afford to create at their leisure and at their husband’s expense.

As I wrote yesterday in, “If I knew then what I know now …” my few previous attempts to reclaim my own identity, gifts, talents and abilities have been met with an unexpected backlash of negativity and what I now recognize as the spirit oppression by those who too were spirit oppressed but still do not know it.

All of which fuels my passion even more to raise both individual and our global Respect Level because we know what to do with the oppressors who use violence physically … we return the same on them, but as of yet, on a mass level, we have not even recognized how we are passing on the oppression by the denial of its existence and its impact on our lives and the lives of those we lead by example.

To “oppress” means to weigh heavily on the mind, spirit or senses; to keep down by the cruel or unjust use of power; tyrannize over.

Being “oppressive” is distressing, not only physically but also mentally.

When any person takes on any role of leadership, guiding and mentoring others, what would serve everyone is simply the recognition of one’s own oppression, overcoming it and helping others to do the same … so they can rise to their potential … not be limited by oppression’s weight that attempts to keep people small, limited and powerless … because keeping people small, limited and powerless is also what drives our economy … keeping our wealth capped by the those who seek their false security by their control by oppression over other people … so they feel more valued … respected.

The problem is oppressors will never ever find the peace and wealth they crave … because peace and wealth are only born of the freedom to be who we really are as unique individuals discovering, developing and delivering to the world what only we have to offer.

Ironically, in the end, the oppressors are the ones who ultimately suffer the most by the legacy of oppression they pass on … for they will never be happy, satisfied, fulfilled … and wealthy in the way that counts most … in their spirit.

June 24, 2014

KAT (Kaitlin A. Trepanier)

All rights reserved by KAT (Kaitlin Ann Trepanier) and DARK HORSES PRODUCTIONS launching September 2014 … Entrepreneur, Creative Writer, Visual Artist, The RESPECT Specialist and Architect of the global initiative Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE … because every child … every person … should know, by their own experience, they are valued … RESPECTED.