We Have to Stop Expecting Every One to Be the Same … Instead We Have to Encourage

Thank you for understanding and sharing the knowledge (on following shared video) that there are many different personality types (Nurture by Nature based on MBTI personality types), learning and communication styles, and even love languages … all keys to better understanding, acceptance, and empowerment.

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER

Advocate Educator Writer Social Entrepreneur & Founder

Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

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March 13, 2019

 

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The Factory Mindset … Time to Update Our Way of Thinking About Education

We knew it was coming. They, the forerunners, have been telling us for years that one day farming and industry would no longer dominate and drive our “industry” but would be replaced by the Information Age. We have been told for years that our world would be changed beyond what many of us could dream or even comprehend.

For me, the cartoon, The Jetsons, comes to mind, especially since now we can now “talk” with each other through computer screens as they did in the cartoon fifty years ago.

But the change is more important, broader in-depth, and wider in scope, and even more difficult to achieve when people cling to the traditions that no longer serve us, including the traditional thinking of the industrial age … such as the Factory Education model, when for the most part, the western world lives and grows more enveloped by the Information Age.

The Factory Education model was developed to pour the majority of people through a boxed form of education through institutions in order to prepare a workforce for the changing times from farming to industry. Still going strong today, even with new knowledge, science continues to prove that not everyone learns best in “boxed environments” where everyone is expected to be the same, to learn the same way and to do the same job at the end of their studies.

Even with the multitude of field of study, the Factory Education model still works from the same generic teaching format even with the knowledge gained that very different personality types with complex blends of learning and communication styles, plus diverse social beliefs and experiences, plus the prejudices created by The Disrespect Philosophy that teaches us all no one is to be respected for who they are as unique individuals but for what we judge them as valuable “for” simply means one type of education model is not only inappropriate and not very effective, but very costly in terms of individual and our collective welfare, particularly the varying levels of neglect and abuse the Factory Education model forces upon people with its conformity mandate.

As you may have discovered yesterday by looking up the website I recommended for viewing, people do not quit learning when they abandon their formal institutional studies. I know I certainly did not. Interestingly enough I discovered, my studies, research, analysis and own writing became more prolific as I focused much better in the environments most conducive to my learning styles, mostly at home. And as the list of dropouts shows I am not alone. On the contrary many people become quite successful with their own course of study, well beyond the average person when they leave the Factory Education institutions and strike out on their own. Such people are also so successful because they are forced by their discomfort in the traditional to do the “untraditional” which requires them to think well outside of the box the Factory Model institutions create.

Does this mean the institutionalized education model is becoming irrelevant? No. What it means is we have to move past the traditional way of thinking and doing to foster thriving in everyone.

Maria Montessori developed her educational theory and practice to teach young children based on the university model that encouraged a child’s natural curiosity to foster his and her drive for learning, enabling them to work on their own and together with others at time, guided, of course, but even with the success generated by its students, Montessori Schools are, like universities, mostly accessible by people with the money.

But as the history of dropout successes reveal as does our general history, as much as some people want their children to be the next “great” whatever, we never know where the next “great” is going to come from … so it is vital and beneficial to all of us if we create different education models accessible to all people.

Familiarity with the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI) personality types reveals there are two primary types that are then split into sub-categories based on three other dominant factors. The consultants, Paul D. Tieger and Barbara Barron-Tieger, research revealed the majority of the population are Extroverts … those whose brains require external stimulation around them constantly to feel engaged and energized; therefore also revealing that the Introverts, whose brains, in contrast, receive excessive amounts of internal stimulation and as a result, thrive in quieter home, learning, working, and social environments and activities.

Yet the Factory Education model does not take this into consideration and our schools, particularly junior and senior high school, college and university, reveal the results in the typical stereotyping of students, plus the often tragic consequences created by both the education model and The Disrespect Philosophy.

I believe, with a higher Respect Level, we can honor all individuals by developing new education models to meet the education needs and learning styles more efficiently, effectively and compassionately.

First we must recognize the damage being done to people’s psyches by forcing them against their will to do and be what they are not and to learn in the one way someone has deemed “best.” Recognizing also, the financial burden we put upon our society for having to “correct” and “remedy” the effects created by the damage done by the Factory Education model, we will be more motivated to support not just alternative education, but to establish the two education models suited to the two major personality types and their learning styles.

Like any change, it is not so much learning the new way of thinking and doing things that impedes us … but often it is our refusal to accept that once was working, or was perceived to be working, is no longer working for the purpose the way intended. New knowledge is being discovered and developed every day. Embracing what we know now to make life better for all people will elevate the quality of life … the standard of living of all people, while at the same time, will empower us to use our resources more effectively … to feed, clothe, shelter, educate … so we ensure those who have “great” talents, gifts and ideas that will help lift us all up higher and higher are provided the support to do so … but we cannot do so if we refuse to adapt … to move beyond “tradition” for the sake of staying traditional.

Personally, I enjoy the sand, sea and grass under my feet, so I have no desire to live way above ground like the Jetsons, yet I strongly desire humanity to be inclusive and respectful of our differences … and therefore more adaptive and accommodating to everyone … because I believe every child … every person … should know, by their own experience, they are valued … RESPECTED … and when they are, the world, our shared world, will be a far better place than anything we have yet seen or imagined for all of us.

June 27, 2014

KAT (Kaitlin A. Trepanier)

All rights reserved by KAT (Kaitlin Ann Trepanier) and DARK HORSES PRODUCTIONS launching September 2014 … Entrepreneur, Creative Writer, Visual Artist, The RESPECT Specialist and Architect of the global initiative Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE … because every child … every person … should know, by their own experience, they are valued … RESPECTED.

Seeing past personality types, learning styles, body types and beliefs … to see and swim a new way.

We are complex creatures and not one of us is the same as another. Even identical twins have differences although not necessarily obvious to the eye.

Knowing this fact, accepting this reality, can be the compelling reason for us to consider, and put into practice, the fresh perspective that will serve us all well to see past personality types, learning styles, body types and our unique blend of beliefs is to operate on one universal principle.

Of course, the ideal is love … unconditional love, but as evidenced by our past and present, just the idea of valuing … respecting each unique person is a tall order in our global culture of Disrespect. The taller order is actually learning how to respect … to value all life in our words and actions … every day … in all our relationships, connections and interactions.

A simple example of how we struggle with this idea and simply resort to our conditioned response of prejudice is what I have experienced with a personal goal: the process of changing my swimming style.

Water has pulled me into its depths all my life. As a child, I spent hours on the river’s edge and within no time at all, following my Dad’s example, my child’s body was slicing through the green water to cross to the other side of the river. Though I have been told I did not take well to the public swimming pool and provided lessons, my swimming skills demonstrate I nonetheless did learn different swim strokes as well as the basics of diving, but it was only recently I discovered my swimming style was called the Tarzan stroke.

For known and unknown reasons, my swimming style meant I kept my head lifted out and above the water. One of the known reasons, though not entirely understood why, was to stop water from going up my nose. Yet diving is one of my favorite aspects of swimming.

In fact, one year, after a tumultuous period of my life, I even taught myself how to swan dive. Till then, I had never learned successfully how to use a spring diving board, so learning how to swan dive meant observing all users of spring boards and of course, especially the children, with their lack of fear and their bold fun who taught me to just let go and get comfortable with falling in the water in all kinds of ways; which also meant letting to of what people thought of a grown woman flopping into a pool as I grew accustomed to being out of control, so I could gain more trust in the process to achieve my goal.

In one winter season, my unconventional learning style did result in my ability to spring my body high into the air with arms spread wide and legs pulled together in proper form before my arms returned to their entry position as my body curved and sliced the pool’s surface. Sometimes on my entries my body was more rolled than straight and into an underwater somersault my body would roll. Sometimes my body was so straight and pointed, down to the bottom my arrowed body would rush. And sometimes, my body would have just enough of a curve to take me down so far but then gracefully sweep me back up to the surface. Even without a camera, I knew I was successful in completing my goal because of the response from observers, including the lifeguards.

A few years ago when I moved back to the home of my late teens and twenties where one of the greatest bodies of water, Lake Huron, once challenged and strengthened my swimming abilities, I soon realized how much I had let my swimming strength diminish. Upon my return, I also discovered one of the newer challenges I wanted to experience, surfing, is becoming a growing popular sport at the town’s main beach because of the dynamics of the breakwall, piers and currents.

A significant water level drop since I owned property south of the town’s border and even south of the area known as Boiler Beach has resulted in significant lake changes, including rip currents that develop in between sandbars and beside piers; rip currents that can thrust even an accomplished swimmer across the surface of the water in seconds, leaving them disoriented and if not wise in the ways of these sometimes volatile waters, stranded in deep water, exhausted from fighting the water’s stronger force. Safe swimming, as well as surfing and any other water activity, is now best-managed by learning how rip currents work, how to get out of their often frightening grasp, more safety strategies and tools, plus stronger swimming skills for this great lake.

For me, stronger swimming skills translates into face-in-the water comfort by learning to swim the crawl as opposed to wasting energy trying to keep myself alive by keeping my head above water at all times by swimming the energy-zapping Tarzan stroke. Changing a fifty-year style of swimming has not been easy or as quick as some would hope … especially people with different personality types, learning styles, body types and beliefs.

As a result of a lot of personal work, I know me very well these days and that includes the recognition none of the above … personality types, learning style, body types and even beliefs are the same as the majority. First, many people like constant attention while learning. In contrast, I excel when I gather new information and then go off on my own to practice and experiment because someone constantly talking at me is a distraction to me, but welcomed by other personality types. When I need more information, I come back for more, taking all the pieces and working on them individually before I start integrating them. For example, two of the biggest challenges I faced was getting used to putting my face horizontal in the water and learning how to breathe as I lifted my face partially out of the water, first to the right and eventually also to the left. Changing my kick from a thrust to a constant flutter meant developing the muscles in my hips and legs in new ways. Then there were the goggles, the bathing cap, getting the arm strokes coordinated with the breathing and the face in the water plus the new style of kick, etc.

Knowing what I know about my personality type, learning style and even body type, I should have known better than to take lessons in a big class with so many swimmers who, as it turns out, already swim the way I was there to learn how to do.

So, after two classes, I took the information provided, did some research of my own and started swimming on my own, breaking down old habits and instilling new ones, which, of course is taking time, though in truth it has only been a few months. Still, I find several people are quick to share their opinions about what I am doing wrong even though they know nothing about me other than what they see in their mind snapshots of my swimming endeavors.

Yet I know, if observers do not have the same personality type as I they will not understand how I work well on my own, breaking down big pictures into the details in order to construct a new big picture. They will not know that my body type is first a sprinter, excelling in activities that require quick and short bursts of great speed and that in order for me to become an endurance performer, I first have to train my body and mind with how it works best … using my natural speed with an element at a time until I can bring all the elements together quickly … in a flash, so I can experience what the new way of swimming I am striving for feels like … so I can build that feeling into my endurance training and goals.

“You swim too fast, your head is not deep enough in the water, you need a camera with video to watch your form,” are just some of the comments and suggestions I have heard, albeit, no doubt with good intentions, but yet at the same time this experience greatly demonstrates how we like, prefer even, everyone to be like us … to do as we do, to act as we act, to think as we think, to learn as we learn … and yet, no matter how much we may try, we are not like anyone else … and never will be without losing our own identity. We, each of us, are unique combinations of a number of factors, none of which is duplicated in anyone else.

Learning to appreciate we are not like everyone else and to understand that our differences from others does not make us or anyone else wrong, but just different is a very important step in making our world a safer and more peaceful place to live.

Valuing … respecting our differences, as well as our similarity in being unique creatures, is a huge step in making our world the safer and the most peaceful place we all want to live.

Hmmm, on that note, it is off to the pool I go in a few hours to recapture the new feeling I experienced during my last swim session when everything finally came together … speed, stroke, right and left breathing. Now I can begin to refine my form and build up my endurance so I will be ready this summer to be the swimmer and surfer I envision myself to be.

March 17, 2014

Kaitlin A. Trepanier
http://www.kaitlinatrepanier.com

All Rights Reserved by DARK HORSES PRODUCTIONS/KAITLIN A. TREPANIER … CREATIVE WRITER, ADVOCATE, and PROJECT SPECIALIST responsible for the creation of the global initiative Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE … because every child … every person … should know, by their own experience, they are valued … RESPECTED.