“The Emotional Intelligence Test Was So Accurate It Was Creepy”

Linked article by Rich Bellis for Fast Company on Pocket Worthy

https://getpocket.com/explore/item/this-emotional-intelligence-test-was-so-accurate-it-was-creepy?utm_source=pocket-newtab

In a world dominated by narcissism … in other words, the it’s-all-about-me mindset … and a sociopathic mindset … in other words, I-am-concerned-with-me-not-you-mindset … it is easy to understand why “Emotional Intelligence” is underdeveloped or impaired in many people in our world today.

I say many because if we look at the impact highlighted by the actual statistics based on crimes … child neglect, child sexual abuse, sexual assaults, domestic violence, human trafficking, racial, religion, and because-you-are-different attacks, plus blue and white collar crime (statistics revealing the ones that we know of, not the many we don’t), we find the proven evidence for low Emotional Intelligence that is an indicator of sociopathic narcissism and therefore of low “Respect Levels.”

As someone with an very unusual personality type who suffered greatly at the hands of people with low EI and in turn, sometimes gave back some of which I received, I personally know what having a low EI feels and looks like. Wanting to break negative patterns in me to generate different results, has meant, like it does with all change, looking at myself and then searching for the knowledge I needed to become aware of so I could see, not where I was bad or deficient, but where I was ignorant of what I needed to know to become, by my behaviour as well as my thoughts, the person I knew I initially was … very caring and concerned for others as well as for myself.

With a “Respect Level” finally above the 50% mark, I am grateful for the significant changes that has restored much of my true character before the world did a number on it. And I have to admit, I still have work to do to ramp up my EI to a level I will be satisfied with, which for me as an Intuitspecifically means reigning in my “Impulse Control.” So, the personal works goes on as does the professional work of helping others on their journeys by sharing what others and I have learned from our journeys.

Best wishes,

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER
Specialist, Writer, Speaker, Social Entrepreneur, Founder and President
http://www.connectingthedotswiththerespectprinciple.com
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September 16, 2020

“The Dangerous Downside of Perfection”

The linked article is filled with all the data you need to reconsider how you live or are influencing others to live. There are personal stories too, including mine shared below the link. Happy reading!

Linked article by Amanda Ruggeri for BBC Future on PocketWorthy

https://getpocket.com/explore/item/the-dangerous-downsides-of-perfectionism?utm_source=pocket-newtab

My Personal Experience with Perfectionism

Because of my unusual personality type, I did not “fit in” unless I was doing everything “perfect” or above average, but the cost was high, especially in the long run. When I finally raised my “Respect Level” high enough, valuing myself equally to others, I quit obsessing with perfect and started focusing on discovering who I was under the perfect image that was killing me with its unreasonable, unrealistic, and painful consequences.

Though my physical and mental health has since improved, a cost was also paid for with the loss of many relationships, but then again, the relationships I had were more based on my meeting other people’s needs and wants, so it really is no surprise that many relationships ended. Now, starting over at the bottom of the life and success scale, with hardly any material possessions or worldly success, the relationships I now develop are based on who I am as a person, rather than what I have accomplished or how perfectly I perform or meet someone’s wants and needs, because I have witnessed first hand what relationships based on performance result in … emptiness, sadness, and an unhealthy striving to be something that I am not … perfect.

Freed from the need to be perfect, I can now just be a unique human … me … exploring my and our world, changing my mind, trying new things, and encouraging myself when I make a mistake or fail ,so I don’t give up on what’s important to me because I don’t get it right the first, second, or twentieth time. It’s a welcome, long-awaited state of being I highly recommend for the bliss imperfection provides.

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KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER

Specialist, Writer, Speaker, Social Entrepreneur, Founder and President

Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

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July 20, 2020

 

“The Nine Types of People You’ll Meet in Retirement”

Linked article by Sean McDonnell and Jacob Schroeder for Kiplinger

https://getpocket.com/explore/item/the-9-types-of-people-you-ll-meet-in-retirement?utm_source=pocket-newtab

Personally, as someone who has moved around Ontario a lot the past twenty plus years I am looking forward to putting down roots, even owning my home again. Settling in to a home lifestyle that includes horses, swimming, and creating visual art to offset the founder, president, creative director, and writer responsibilities for the social business venture, Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle, places me in a few of the “types” which is greatly fulfilling for me. Hopefully, sharing this stage of life with someone special, along with my future business partners/team, will fulfill long-held dreams and goals too and will fulfill his and their dreams and goals too.

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Specialist, Writer, Speaker, Social Entrepreneur, Founder and President

Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

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July 9, 2020

 

 

“If You’re So Smart, Why Aren’t You Rich?”

Linked article by Flay Flam for Bloomberg

https://getpocket.com/explore/item/if-you-re-so-smart-why-aren-t-you-rich?utm_source=pocket-newtab

Insightful, but there is one dot not connected … the “Respect Level” they are raised in and with.

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER

Specialist, Writer, Speaker, Social Entrepreneur, Founder and President

Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

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June 22, 2020

 

“Shuteye and Sleep Hygiene: The Truth About Why You Keep Waling Up At 3 am”

Linked article by Elle Hunt for The Guardian on Pocket

https://getpocket.com/explore/item/shuteye-and-sleep-hygiene-the-truth-about-why-you-keep-waking-up-at-3am?utm_source=pocket-newtab

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Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

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May 13, 2020

 

“During a pandemic, Isaac Newton had to work from home, too. He used the time wisely.”

Linked article from The Washington Post by Gillian Brockell

https://www.washingtonpost.com/history/2020/03/12/during-pandemic-isaac-newton-had-work-home-too-he-used-time-wisely/?utm_source=pocket-newtab

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of Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

Smashwords interview @  www.smashwords.com

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March 18, 2020

 

 

 

“Six things almost every parent does that set kids up for financial misery”

Linked article by Jill Cornfield for CNBC

https://www.cnbc.com/2019/11/27/redline-these-money-moves-if-you-want-to-raise-financially-smart-kids.html?__source=sharebar|facebook&par=sharebar&fbclid=IwAR18mm1XrSG3GGJ-zNKroShvruAW83Fl_4XoWXK9MEtbtsh8y5qdDxzzw6A

I would also like to add that teaching kids to also budget to give a percentage of their money away to those in need also fosters gratitude for what they have as well as compassion for those in need.

 KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER

Writer, Founder and President of Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

Smashwords interview @  www.smashwords.com

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December 2, 2019

“Suffering from Bad Knees, Some Look for Alternatives to Surgery”

Linked article by Sally Squires for The Washington Post

https://www.washingtonpost.com/health/suffering-from-bad-knees-some-look-for-alternatives-to-surgery/2019/11/15/d286d862-dfd7-11e9-be96-6adb81821e90_story.html?utm_source=pocket-newtab

 
Respecting ourselves more, we seek different opinions and do what we can to make our health care more proactive and preventative rather than reactionary.
 
 

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER

Writer, Founder and President of Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

Smashwords interview @  www.smashwords.com

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November 29. 2019

“You’re a Completely Different Person At 14 and 77, the Longest-Running Study Ever Has Found”

Linked article by Olivia Goldhill for Quartz on Pocket

https://getpocket.com/explore/item/you-re-a-completely-different-person-at-14-and-77-the-longest-running-personality-study-ever-has?utm_source=pocket-newtab

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Writer, Founder and President of Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

Smashwords interview @  www.smashwords.com

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November 8, 2019

“Steve Job Said 1 Thing Separates Successful People From Everyone Else”

Linked article by

Jeff Haden for Inc.

https://getpocket.com/explore/item/steve-jobs-said-1-thing-separates-successful-people-from-everyone-else-and-will-make-all-the?utm_source=pocket-newtab

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Writer, Founder and President of Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

Smashwords interview @  www.smashwords.com

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November 2, 2019